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Reephdweller

02-20-2007, 07:37 PM

Do you have an enemy at work? How do you deal with that person? Someone who I had previously considered a good dear friend revealed her true colors today at work. Things that demonstrate that she's not my friend at all, but more of a phony than anything else.I feel driven now to just out do her in everything about the job. Something I know I can do though I've always held back for her. I don't have a malicious feeling towards her, but more hurt than anything and I feel like outshining her in everyway which will ultimately bring more scruitiney to her. I feel like shes' my enemy now, though I won't tell her that, Just that I will do things that make me look better ultimately.

Reephdweller

02-21-2007, 04:36 AM

I found this on a website that talks about this subject...  <hr width="100%" size="2" />What can you learn from your enemy? Most enemies have more insight about us than we’d care to admit. Sometimes you’ve even given them great ammo to be your personal Darth Vader. So rather than tuning them out, see if you can learn from them about your mistakes, blind spots and hot buttons. <hr width="100%" size="2" /> At the heart of it all I know that she is unaware of me knowing that I know what she really thinks of me. Long story short, We've been friends for years now and we've talked almost every day through email or face to face at work. It was always very nice though still something was always a little off with her that always had me wondering about her. She had done a number of good hearted things for me over the years so I took it in stride, and I had always done the same by her. Oddly enough a lot of people who she used to work closely with would give me cautionary warnings about her telling me she's a fake and a user of people. I never saw it directed at myself so I ran by the idea that maybe she was that way with them, but with me she was different. That was until my boss mixed things up in the office, places where people sit etc that I started seeing things differently. For example, one of her other friends now works directly next to me. I'm a fairly active person at work so I'm constantly getting up. I had sent her some emails about work related things just to her. She turned around and sent them off to the guy right next to me cutting me up and saying some offensive things about me. It really wasn't like I was peeking to see, but rather it was right there and I'd see it at a glance and I recognized the emails. So now this along with some other things had shown me how she really is. The positive thing for me is that she doesn't know I know. I feel inclined to continue to be friendly towards her and act like nothing is wrong, do my job, work a lot harder and still share things here or there to keep her from suspecting things, but ultimately I will know what she really is. To me she feels like my enemy.My friends know me well enough to know that I'm a very dedicated person, that there's very little that I won't do for them and my loyalty is very strong. I considered her among that class of people so I always looked out for her and did things from the heart, like she was my sister. Now because I feel betrayed I feel this way. It's hurtful, but I don't know of another way to deal with the emotion of this.

Bob Impact

02-21-2007, 04:52 AM

I've always been bad a "politics" at work so I stopped paying attention to them quite some time ago.  The way I've always felt about work does not lend itself towards playing political games with people so I naturally ignore them, and that's what I would recommend to you, go in, do what you need to do better than anybody else, and leave.  I don't think of my job at the end of the day because i've done it well and there's no reason to, you shouldn't get your emotions tied up with anybody or anything at your job, it's not healthy.

Reephdweller

02-21-2007, 05:10 AM

Bob Impact wrote: I've always been bad a "politics" at work so I stopped paying attention to them quite some time ago. The way I've always felt about work does not lend itself towards playing political games with people so I naturally ignore them, and that's what I would recommend to you, go in, do what you need to do better than anybody else, and leave. I don't think of my job at the end of the day because i've done it well and there's no reason to, you shouldn't get your emotions tied up with anybody or anything at your job, it's not healthy. Thank's Bob. I think I'm slowly coming to that point. One of the hard things with this job is that it becomes a part of life whether you want it to or not. I'm a supervisor in customer service and because we're down a supervisor I'm constantly being forced to be flexible with my schedule and cover the others work to the point that it really feels like it's inhabiting my life. Not to mention it really doesn't feel like there's enough hours in the day to get the job done. I agree I feel that do my job well, it may never be enough for my boss and his boss but I need to clear my mind of everything and not let stress or emotion get the better of me.

ShelleBink

02-21-2007, 07:20 AM

Heh I can tell you lotsa uncomfortable stories involving people I disliked that I worked with at previous jobs.  I'm also very vindictive towards people who wrong me.  PM me for suggestions budday :o)

MONICA5579

02-21-2007, 11:23 AM

I had an enemy at work, my manager.  She would bitch about everything.  If you didn't agree with everything she said she would tell you that you were stupid and just tear you apart in front of your coworkers.  I got back at her.  I complained to the owner on a business trip.  I then slept with the owner of the company and he repremanded her and told her to act professionally or she would be fired. Sex is the best weapon!!!

badorties

02-21-2007, 11:44 AM

i work in a very small office, and there's always moments of sheer nonsense to deal withpeople i've invited to my wedding just a few months ago can't even be bothered to make eye contact with me now ... there was no fight or words ... they take the slightest things personally and hold grudges endlesslyit used to bother me -- but after five years, i don't really care anymore ... i just sit in my office with my radio on and do my job ... i don't need to have friends at the office

Alice S. Fuzzybutt

02-21-2007, 11:56 AM

I had an enemy at my last job even before my first day. I was hired as a Senior Production Editor and another Senior Production Editor got her panties in a bunch because when she was hired at the company she had to start as a Production Editor, not a Senior. I never understood this because we had the same number of years experience. I worked at a few publishing companies, whereas she stayed at the same company.

CofyCrakCocaine

02-21-2007, 12:02 PM

MONICA5579 wrote: I had an enemy at work, my manager. She would bitch about everything. If you didn't agree with everything she said she would tell you that you were stupid and just tear you apart in front of your coworkers. I got back at her. I complained to the owner on a business trip. I then slept with the owner of the company and he repremanded her and told her to act professionally or she would be fired. Sex is the best weapon!!! My girlfriend would probably hate you for that quote. But I love you. Back to the serious: I can relate to Reef's problem. You think you treat some people nice, and then you realize how fake they are and how they fuck you over behind your back. In my case, I was fucked out of a good grade in a class I busted my ass for, as well as getting insulted behind my back, all by someone I thought I got along with. He wasn't a friend, but he was a friendly acquaintence.The long and short of it: I was in a college course that performs an outdoor play at the end of the semester. The play and rehearsals count for about 90% of the grade. We'll call this guy Mr.FuckFace, FF for short. I got cast with this annoying role that had about 4 straight pages of uninterrupted  monologue lines. I basically got to describe how a woman gets into a horny rage, assaults her 24 year old son, rips his head off and puts it on a stick. (Classics...) It's a pretty important role and needs alot of practice, so I was needed at every rehearsal, and I attended. As it turns out, FF was elected to be one of five student directors. I like FF, he's a funny guy, makes me laugh, and I talk to him more than some other people. Never had a problem with him. I was late one time for rehearsal writing up finals papers, but I showed up a full hour before they even got to my role, so it wasn't a big deal. No one threw a fit that night. Basically I worked 15 hours a week on this play via rehearsals (not counting all my other work on top of having to read numerous other books for the class itself), and the performance went off great. Everyone loved it, complimented the cast and me, so on. I learn over the summer that I got a C- in the class. I investigate the next semester, and it turns out the professor, who never attended the rehearsals, was under the impression that I had been skipping them all. She finally tells me that FF had been pretty much lambasting me the whole time during rehearsals and gave her a steady flow of reports falsely claiming I wasn't there half the time, was uncooperative with directors, and so on. When I bumped into a drunk chick at a party who was a member of the cast, and said "Aren't you the guy who never showed up for rehearsals" I realized that FF was prolific in his verbal tirades against me, and didn't keep them to just the prof. The Professor admitted as much that he goes on tangents bashing me behind my back. Turns out he's best friends with a former piece of shit roommate of mine, and was out for my blood the whole time. I mean, deep-seeded hatred of me. I'm guessing the roommate has a loud mouth too. And so instead of an A+ for busting my ass in class, I got a C- because of a disingenuous bag of shit who went around basically lying to the professor about my efforts during rehearsals. Because the performance went as well as it did, she couldn't fail me, and gave me a C- instead of the F I was going to get based on the falsified report. I know it's not as bad as having a workplace enemy, and this is just school shit, but having something you bust your ass over get completely sabotaged behind your back by someone you thought you could depend upon sucks gangrenous asshole anyway. You don't expect this kiddy bullshit to take place once you're old enough to get a beer. So now I know never to underestimate how cowardly, shitty, and childi

MONICA5579

02-21-2007, 12:14 PM

Thanks for the love man!!  <img src="/messageboard/tiny_mce/plugins/emotions/images/bye.gif" border="0" width="26" height="18" />

Bob Impact

02-21-2007, 04:44 PM

Reefdweller wrote: Thank's Bob. I think I'm slowly coming to that point. One of the hard things with this job is that it becomes a part of life whether you want it to or not. I'm a supervisor in customer service and because we're down a supervisor I'm constantly being forced to be flexible with my schedule and cover the others work to the point that it really feels like it's inhabiting my life. Not to mention it really doesn't feel like there's enough hours in the day to get the job done. I agree I feel that do my job well, it may never be enough for my boss and his boss but I need to clear my mind of everything and not let stress or emotion get the better of me. I understand pal, I'm the manager of a retail department that carries the fun of being the highest risk for loss, the highest insurance premiums, the most difficult to manage and the lowest profit in my store.  We also specialize in both high end equipment and customer experience.  I can say "Ask Sarah" when we talk about inhibiting lifestyles, she hate how much I work, but its the kind of thing where my boss did not like me at first and has now turned around on me.  If you're the best at what you do it's easy to get along with others at work, those who don't respect you will fear getting in your way.  It's the only way I know and the only symptoms i've ever noticed.  You go do your reeftacular thing and don't let 'em get you down!

satan-2

02-24-2007, 02:10 PM

J.Clints

02-24-2007, 02:12 PM

I get so sick of my boss. She will harp all day unlesss it is time for lunch with her lesbo friends. She is a bible thumping bitch......

Captain Rooster

02-24-2007, 04:38 PM

I treat them with benign neglect--as if they do not exist.

Andomray

02-24-2007, 04:57 PM

I'm entirely too goofy at work to have enemies.