friend was recently arrested...for REAL

[raulfd4]

<p>just recently i got a phone call from a friend who was in my hometown for a weekend.&nbsp; he read the local newspaper and told me what he found out.</p><p><strong>one of my very good friends from high school and throughout college was arrested in our hometown with a pound of weed and fifteen thousand dollars in his car.</strong></p><p>in high school he had always nickeled and dimed, but he gave it up becuase it was too much work and stress.&nbsp; he moved on to serious weight becuase it was easier, less shady and while profits may have been lower they were fatser. &nbsp;</p><p>i think it's important to say this couldn't have happened to a better person.&nbsp; he was a very soft-spoken and level-headed person.&nbsp; he was kind to everyone and lived a very simple life.&nbsp; he saved all of his money and i think used most of it to pay for college, living expenses, etc.&nbsp; he drove a shitty old ford and wore jeans and t shirts.&nbsp; he didn't do many drugs and was smart about the business he did.&nbsp; he wasn't your typical drug selling punk.&nbsp; i guess you could say he had class.&nbsp; he wasn't someone who needed to be taught a lesson. </p><p>apparently he was pulled over for a minor traffic offense and the cop could smell the weed.&nbsp;</p><p>what i am asking the board is, <strong>what can/should i do?</strong>&nbsp; i have spoken to a few of his closer friends and they weren't much help.&nbsp; i know he is out on bail, but i don't know what to say to him if i call him.&nbsp; <strong>he is facing four years in prison.&nbsp; i don't know how to identify with that.</strong>&nbsp; i am thinking about seeing him in person, but i know a phone call like &quot;heard what happened man, sorry about that...&quot; isn't going to help much.</p><p>i know a fellow poster has a brother in jail right now.&nbsp; i feel kind of helpless.&nbsp; <strong>anyone else have friends who have been put away for drug charges?</strong>&nbsp; i know that his life is pretty much over and it is a shame.&nbsp; he had a lot of potential.&nbsp; <strong>any advice is helpful</strong>.</p>

[JPMNICK]

<p>he deserves to be in jail, he had a brick of weed in his car!</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>obviously you are not that close with him or else he would have told you about this. I would not call or make any extra effort to get in touch with him. the last thing you want is for him to be depending on you for advice, then he will be asking for money, and you will be into it. just let it go, and do not let him drag you down with him</p>

[Justice4all]

<p>Well as a human being it says alot that, considering what you are saying about your friend (he IS a drug dealer) you still want to stick by him. Says you are a loyal friend.</p><p>But logically....I would not go anywhere NEAR this. He will have to deal with this on his own. If he gets busted as a major dealer, and you are sticking around him, the cops will be suspicious of you as well. No matter if you have a record or not.</p><p>It is good you want to stick by your friend. But I'm sorry, I would really avoid anything to do with this.</p><p>And if this guy really was hard working and had class he would not be selling drugs for a living.</p><p>Sorry that is just my opinion.</p><p>I do wish you luck with your friend though. Sounds like you are a good guy.</p>

[angrymissy]

a friend of mine back in the late 90's got pulled over w/ over 100 pills of ecstasy... he got off w/ probation and rehab somehow... but his girlfriends father was RICH and sprung for a fancy lawyer

[raulfd4]

<strong>JPMNICK</strong> wrote:<br /><p>he deserves to be in jail, he had a brick of weed in his car!</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><span style="background-color: #ffff99">obviously you are not that close with him or else he would have told you about this</span>. I would not call or make any extra effort to get in touch with him. the last thing you want is for him to be depending on you for advice, then he will be asking for money, and you will be into it. just let it go, and do not let him drag you down with him</p><p>&nbsp;yeah, not saying he doesn't deserve to go to jail.&nbsp; never said it was unfair.</p><p>&nbsp;we are close, i think its more that he is </p><p>a - embarassed</p><p>b - without a cell phone for investigative reasons</p><p>c - concerned with his own ass instead of mine</p><p>&nbsp;i thought i might become connected becuase we would call each other and hang out, although i haven't bought weed from him in ages (can't afford a pound!).&nbsp; i guess it never crossed my mind that he would want money, he has always been pretty financially secure.&nbsp; more concerned with how to act as&nbsp; friend.&nbsp; it is sad though, because i can see your logic. </p><p>&nbsp;</p>

[MrPink]

My condolences go to you and your friend. I feel bad for anyone that gets in trouble for some victimless crime. He's a small fish, the cops are going to try to get him to rat out his supplier. He can probably get by this without doing a single day in prison.

[JPMNICK]

<strong>raulfd4</strong> wrote:<br /><strong>JPMNICK</strong> wrote:<br /><p>he deserves to be in jail, he had a brick of weed in his car!</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p><span style="background-color: #ffff99">obviously you are not that close with him or else he would have told you about this</span>. I would not call or make any extra effort to get in touch with him. the last thing you want is for him to be depending on you for advice, then he will be asking for money, and you will be into it. just let it go, and do not let him drag you down with him</p><p>&nbsp;yeah, not saying he doesn't deserve to go to jail.&nbsp; never said it was unfair.</p><p>&nbsp;we are close, i think its more that he is </p><p>a - embarassed</p><p>b - without a cell phone for investigative reasons</p><p>c - concerned with his own ass instead of mine</p><p>&nbsp;i thought i might become connected becuase we would call each other and hang out, although i haven't bought weed from him in ages (can't afford a pound!).&nbsp; i guess it never crossed my mind that he would want money, he has always been pretty financially secure.&nbsp; more concerned with how to act as&nbsp; friend.&nbsp; it is sad though, because i can see your logic. </p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>he just lost 15k and a pound of weed, which he obviously did not sell so he owes someone money for that, or he laid it out and is down that money. I am sure he will need lawyer cash at some point</p><p>&nbsp;</p>

[raulfd4]

<p><strong>UPDATE</strong></p><p>decided to break down and call.&nbsp; he seemed fine, although distracted.&nbsp; was more concerned about his missing cat than about his charges.</p><p>talked to another friend of his who is a little closer.&nbsp; said he thinks that he has some sort of pardon becuase of his father.&nbsp; (his dad is also a known dealer of weed amongst the elite adult members of society in hometown).&nbsp; not too sure of father's occupation, but if i had to guess: stock broker, doctor, or lawyer.&nbsp; all bad professions to sell weed in, but who knows.</p><p>feel better now that i talked to him, he seems pretty confident he won't do time, but we'll see.&nbsp; i don't think he's taking it seriously enough.&nbsp; if he does get off i hope he's smart enough to apply himself in other areas.</p><p>WHATEVER!&nbsp; thanks for your advice though.&nbsp; see ya!&nbsp;</p>

[Servo]

Unless he's got a bad rap sheet, he won't do much time, if any.&nbsp;

[foodcourtdruide]

<strong>angrymissy</strong> wrote:<br />a friend of mine back in the late 90's got pulled over w/ over 100 pills of ecstasy... he got off w/ probation and rehab somehow... but his girlfriends father was RICH and sprung for a fancy lawyer <p>Wait.. so this guy gets arrested and busted with drugs in his car, the girlfriend has a wealthy father, and instead of discouraging his daughter from dating a drug dealer/addict, he gives him money to get out of trouble?!</p>

[suggums]

this is like the scariest thing ever to me, i would never deal, but getting caught for something as harmless as smoking pot carries farrrrr too serious a penalty.&nbsp; i pray for your friend to make out well, i wont cast judgement on his way of making a living; people in high power have done far worse over the years.

[Chigworthy]

If you feel like helping your buddy out, just keep money on his books and visit him now and then.&nbsp; You can usually have sealed products mailed directly from manufacturers delivered to inmates.&nbsp; Check with the jail that he is in, but you can probably have anything that comes directly from Amazon sent to him with no problems.&nbsp; Books and music would be the way to go.&nbsp; And lots of lube.

[OldGravyLeg]

<p>&nbsp;</p><p><strong>Maybe Hallmark has a card for getting busted.</strong></p>

[Team_Ramrod]

Well, you're a good friend for sticking by a dealer. Just the risk of being associated with that situation would have me staying away. In this case though, he's been busted, he's gonna go down and nothing you can do will prevent that. Offer your support if you wish but know that you hanging around him now, more than ever, might create some unwanted heat on you.