2 Women, 1 Decision

[AgnosticJihad]

<p>I had been dating the same woman for about three years now. I really love her, but we have some problems (mostly that I want to get married, but can't get her to commit to it; she says she wants to &quot;some day&quot;). It's not the only problem but the rest are pretty minor; I'm not sure I can continue on like this without some sort of commitment. The issue has further been complicated: right before Christmas I meet a great woman. We started talking, and I really connected with her on a level I have never connected with anyone ever, including my es. I decided to end things with my long-term girlfriend and date this new person. However, I remain close friends with my ex, and she now is willing to commit to marriage if it means I will get back together with her. But I really do love this new person too (which is quite amazing to me, since I've only known her a litle more than two months). I really I have no idea what I should do. any advice would be ecstatically welcomed.</p><p>&nbsp;</p>

[patsopinion]

<p>she wants a get back for the wrong reason...</p><p>go ahead and bang both of them and the first one to get preggnant is the one u drop </p>

[Furtherman]

<p>I've heard this story many times but it is usually a guy who won't commit, but then will once he sees someone else with his girl.</p><p>Stick with the new one, and drop the old one as a friend.&nbsp; </p>

[BLZBUBBA]

Try to get them both to commit to a lesbian relationship....Then build a bridge.

[J.Clints]

<strong>patsopinion</strong> wrote:<br /><p>she wants a get back for the wrong reason...</p><p>go ahead and bang both of them and the first one to get preggnant is the one u drop </p><p>Best advice I have ever heard</p><p>&nbsp;</p>

[scorpion]

<p>My question is why is your ex suddenly want to commit to marriage?&nbsp; What has changed? She may be missing you after the breakup but that is not a reason to get married.</p><p>You need to find out why she would not commit before and why now. &nbsp; If she is doing just to get you back then thats the wrong reason.&nbsp;</p>

[sr71blackbird]

<strong>AgnosticJihad</strong> wrote:<br /><p>I had been dating the same woman for about three years now. I really love her, but we have some problems (mostly that I want to get married, but can't get her to commit to it; she says she wants to &quot;some day&quot;). It's not the only problem but the rest are pretty minor; I'm not sure I can continue on like this without some sort of commitment. The issue has further been complicated: right before Christmas I meet a great woman. We started talking, and I really connected with her on a level I have never connected with anyone ever, including my es. I decided to end things with my long-term girlfriend and date this new person. However, I remain close friends with my ex, and she now is willing to commit to marriage if it means I will get back together with her. But I really do love this new person too (which is quite amazing to me, since I've only known her a litle more than two months). I really I have no idea what I should do. any advice would be ecstatically welcomed.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>Dont d it!&nbsp; Shes only commiting now because you are leaving!&nbsp; Leave her and get on with your life.&nbsp; Women only want what they &quot;cant have&quot;!&nbsp; Forbidden fruit is the first story in the Bible for a reason!&nbsp;</p>

[CaptClown]

<p>Have a 3-way!!!</p>

[K.C.]

<strong>AgnosticJihad</strong> wrote:<br /><p>I had been dating the same woman for about three years now. I really love her, but we have some problems (mostly that I want to get married, but can't get her to commit to it; she says she wants to &quot;some day&quot;). It's not the only problem but the rest are pretty minor; I'm not sure I can continue on like this without some sort of commitment. The issue has further been complicated: right before Christmas I meet a great woman. We started talking, and I really connected with her on a level I have never connected with anyone ever, including my es. I decided to end things with my long-term girlfriend and date this new person. However, I remain close friends with my ex, and she now is willing to commit to marriage if it means I will get back together with her. But I really do love this new person too (which is quite amazing to me, since I've only known her a litle more than two months). I really I have no idea what I should do. any advice would be ecstatically welcomed.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>First, I'd make sure you really do love the new person, and your not confusing your feelings on it. I'd also make sure I understand how she feels about you and make sure she doesn't just see you as&nbsp;fling, or someone she's just killing time with. </p><p>If all those things work out, then I'd ask myself, if both chicks asked you to marry them, which would you choose? Because if you wouldn't pick the old chick in that situation, that may be a bit of sign. In other words...I wouldn't marry the old chick just because she's willing to get married...you do it because you love her more than anyone else. If you love the new chick more, then maybe you&nbsp;stay friends with the old&nbsp;chick go and be with the new one for a while. </p>

[Bulldogcakes]

<strong>AgnosticJihad</strong> wrote:<br /><p>I had been dating the same woman for about three years now. I really love her, but we have some problems (mostly that I want to get married, but can't get her to commit to it; she says she wants to &quot;some day&quot;). It's not the only problem but the rest are pretty minor; I'm not sure I can continue on like this without some sort of commitment. The issue has further been complicated: right before Christmas I meet a great woman. We started talking, and I really connected with her on a level I have never connected with anyone ever, including my es. I decided to end things with my long-term girlfriend and date this new person. However, I remain close friends with my ex, and she now is willing to commit to marriage if it means I will get back together with her. But I really do love this new person too (which is quite amazing to me, since I've only known her a litle more than two months). I really I have no idea what I should do. any advice would be ecstatically welcomed.</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>&nbsp;</p><p>This one's easy. Your ex didn't want to commit when you two were together. That means she was either 'still looking' or at best, just not sure about the relationship. THere was a reason(s) why she wasn't sure, and that hasn't changed. She just wants you back because she lost you. Now she sees you happy with someone else, and that is the worst form of torture for the person who's been dumped.&nbsp; </p><p>Here's another thing though. Even relationships that start off great can go bad for all sorts of reasons. If you REALLY want to get married, you should check out how your new gf feels about the subject. If she isn't into it, consider getting back with your ex. I'd talk about it VERY generally, though. I wouldn't want to sound like I'm either proposing or planning to. Just a &quot;How do you feel about marriage&quot; at an appropriate moment, maybe during a movie about a married couple or something.&nbsp;</p><p>But all things being equal, go with the new gf. Really &quot;hitting it off&quot; with someone is rare. And the trust that comes from being able to communicate with someone like that makes a relationship much better.&nbsp; &nbsp; &nbsp;</p>

[ralphbxny]

I got lost after I saw a guy say she doesnt want to commit!!

[Jujubees2]

<p><font size="2">Do the Mad Max thing:&nbsp; Two women enter.&nbsp; One woman leaves.</font></p><p><img src="http://cinecover.free.fr/divx/mad_max3_front.jpg" border="0" width="350" height="350" /></p>

[angelinad128]

Stay with your new girlfriend.&nbsp; The ex realizes she lost something good.&nbsp; Do not go back to her!!g

[AgnosticJihad]

I thank everyone for thier advice. I must admit this is not really about me; the person in question is a good friend of mine and is in fact a girl, and the two &quot;women&quot; are in fact men. Sorry for any confusion this may have caused, but I didn't feel right airing someone else's business (even though that's exactly what I'm doing now). I will relay everyone's advice to her; hopefully it will help her make up her mind. Thanks again.

[TjM]

This is some kind of twisted crying game

[Dan 'Hampton]

I'm going to go cry in the shower.

[sandyjat]

<table border="0" cellspacing="0" cellpadding="0" width="100%" height="100%" id="HB_Mail_Container"><tbody><tr width="100%" height="100%"><td id="HB_Focus_Element" width="100%" height="250" valign="top">Since your new chick doesn't want to commit, maybe she is pretending that she is into you but she really is not. That happens way too often when girls date a guy only for convienence or she feels sorry for him.&nbsp; It sounds like your x really realizes she wants you now or she's just jealous because you have a new chick and wants to steal you back.&nbsp; That happens a lot too.&nbsp; Sorry man but us woman are very fickle minded....you know what I say ditch them both and start out with someone new, and I don't know if you have a lot of money but if you do don't wave it around because a lot of woman just date guys until they are broke.&nbsp; Just be carefull....it's all love and war when it comes to finding &quot;true&quot; love.&nbsp; I hope I have been some help.</td></tr><tr><td height="1" style="font-size: 1pt"></td></tr></tbody></table>

[cougarjake13]

<p>it sounds like the old flame is just jealous and wants back in for the wrong reasons</p><p>stay with the new one </p>