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sr71blackbird

03-03-2007, 06:46 PM

I was paid a compliment by a woman tonite who said I was handsome.  I replied back "Thank you!  So are you!" She took incredible offence to it and made a bit of a scene and I was very embarressed.  I did not mean it in any negative way at all.  It is an old fashioned way of talking.  Maybe it is not used so much these days, but do you think her reaction was wrong?  In 20/20 hindsight, maybe I could have sais "Thank you!  You are beautiful!". On the flip side, can a man be considered "beautiful"?  If it was the other way around and Brad Pitt tells a woman she is beautiful and she replies "So are you!", should he be offended?  (I am not comparing myself to Brad Pitt!  - Just saying..)

IamFogHat

03-03-2007, 06:49 PM

My chick calls me pretty all the time, and so have ex girlfriends, and I never have a problem with it.  I think a woman hearing a guy say she's handsome would only take offense because she thought you were being sarcastic because handsome is generally used with men.  I don't know, people are wierd, they never listen to context or tone of voice anymore I notice.

Midkiff

03-03-2007, 06:52 PM

she was a frigging retard

johnniewalker

03-03-2007, 06:57 PM

Yes, i don't want to be mean sr, but handsome is 100% a male compliment.  I don't think ive ever heard it in a female context.

Fat_Sunny

03-03-2007, 07:46 PM

Yeah "Handsome Woman" Is A Legit Term.  It Applies To A Good-Looking Woman Who Is On The Masculine Side, As Opposed To Really Feminine.  Someone Like Kathleen Turner Could Be Referred To As A "Handsome Woman".Women Always Take It As An Insult, Though.

Don Stugots

03-03-2007, 07:57 PM

blackbird, you are a handsome man.  too bad for the chick.

KC2OSO

03-03-2007, 08:11 PM

<div class="luna-Ent">hand·some –adjective <div class="tail"><table border="0" class="luna-Ent"><tbody><tr><td class="dn" valign="top">1.</td><td valign="top">having an attractive, well-proportioned, and imposing appearance suggestive of health and strength; good-looking: a handsome man; a handsome woman. </td></tr></tbody></table> <table border="0" class="luna-Ent"><tbody><tr><td class="dn" valign="top">2.</td><td valign="top">having pleasing proportions, relationships, or arrangements, as of shapes, forms, or colors; attractive: a handsome house; a handsome interior. </td></tr></tbody></table> <table border="0" class="luna-Ent"><tbody><tr><td class="dn" valign="top">3.</td><td valign="top">exhibiting skill, taste, and refinement; well-made: a handsome story; handsome furniture. </td></tr></tbody></table> <table border="0" class="luna-Ent"><tbody><tr><td class="dn" valign="top">4.</td><td valign="top">yadda yadda </td></tr></tbody></table> <hr width="100%" size="2" /></div></div>It sounds like your compliment was correct.  She was just too stupid to understand it.

ralphbxny

03-03-2007, 08:13 PM

KC2OSO wrote: * class="luna-Ent"> hand·some –adjective * class="tail"> <table border="0" class="luna-Ent"><tbody><tr><td class="dn" valign="top">1.</td><td valign="top">having an attractive, well-proportioned, and imposing appearance suggestive of health and strength; good-looking: a handsome man; a handsome woman. </td></tr></tbody></table><table border="0" class="luna-Ent"><tbody><tr><td class="dn" valign="top">2.</td><td valign="top">having pleasing proportions, relationships, or arrangements, as of shapes, forms, or colors; attractive: a handsome house; a handsome interior. </td></tr></tbody></table><table border="0" class="luna-Ent"><tbody><tr><td class="dn" valign="top">3.</td><td valign="top">exhibiting skill, taste, and refinement; well-made: a handsome story; handsome furniture. </td></tr></tbody></table><table border="0" class="luna-Ent"><tbody><tr><td class="dn" valign="top">4.</td><td valign="top">yadda yadda </td></tr></tbody></table> <hr width="100%" size="2" />It sounds like your compliment was correct.  She was just too stupid to understand it.  Beat me to it but yes you were correct and F the uptite biatch!!

Recyclerz

03-03-2007, 08:23 PM

I'm going  to side closer to Fat Sunny on this debate.  In modern usage, the term "handsome woman" usually connotes a female who is middle-aged or older, has "strong" features and is rich.  If she isn't rich, she gets demoted to "horse-faced".

Reephdweller

03-03-2007, 09:38 PM

<hr width="100%" size="2" />Douchebag Points: - 50 <hr width="100%" size="2" /> i think you just added another 1000 to that total

Reephdweller

03-03-2007, 09:42 PM

whats the big deal though? its the equivalent of a "You too" or "take luck" it wasnt intentionnally meant on your part to be insulting, tell that cunt to lighten the fuck up.

Bulldogcakes

03-04-2007, 04:39 AM

Recyclerz wrote: I'm going to side closer to Fat Sunny on this debate. In modern usage, the term "handsome woman" usually connotes a female who is middle-aged or older, has "strong" features and is rich. If she isn't rich, she gets demoted to "horse-faced".  I'm with Recyc. If I were you, I'd just remove the foot from my mouth and wouldn't try to defend myself. You fucked up. If for no other reason, just for the way she reacted to what you said.

sr71blackbird

03-04-2007, 04:48 AM

The more I tried to defend myself and legitimize that what what I said was not an offensive thing, the more enraged she became.  There was no going back.  I guess if I got on my knees and begged for forgiveness and said I was an asshole, she would have accepted it, but I know in my heart it was not a offensive thing, so why should I beg for forgiveness?  Some women will take what you say and assign deep meaning to it and you have to walk on egg shells with them.  Others are cool and will understand and not take offence and realise that you meant well and let it go. 

Team_Ramrod

03-04-2007, 08:37 AM

jdmidkiff wrote: she was a frigging retard That's not positive at all....Maybe she was a tranny and any mention of a male reference hurt her feelings.

sailor

03-04-2007, 08:43 AM

did she perhaps say you were a handsome man and you missed the end part?

Jughead

03-04-2007, 08:44 AM

Did she have on a suit???

JPMNICK

03-04-2007, 09:11 AM

Reephdweller wrote: whats the big deal though? its the equivalent of a "You too" or "take luck" it wasnt intentionnally meant on your part to be insulting, tell that cunt to lighten the fuck up. as always, reeph is correct

Fat_Sunny

03-04-2007, 09:14 AM

Now Here's A Really Handsome Woman!<img src="http://www.anncoulter.com/photos/silver-dress.jpg" border="0" width="317" height="446" />

Justice4all

03-04-2007, 09:45 AM

Fat_Sunny wrote: Now Here's A Really Handsome Woman!<img src="http://www.anncoulter.com/photos/silver-dress.jpg" border="0" width="317" height="446" />Ewwww yeuk. The only thing missing on THAT body is a shaved head and some numbers tattooed on her arm. That is disgusting.

This message was edited by Justice4all on 3-4-07 @ 1:46 PM

sailor

03-04-2007, 09:50 AM

Justice4all wrote: Fat_Sunny wrote: Now Here's A Really Handsome Woman!<img src="http://www.anncoulter.com/photos/silver-dress.jpg" border="0" width="317" height="446" />Ewwww yeuk. The only thing missing on THAT body is a shaved head and some numbers tattooed on her arm. That is disgusting. This message was edited by Justice4all on 3-4-07 @ 1:46 PM making light of the holocaust?  risky.btw, the size of her hands is freaking me out!

Kevin

03-04-2007, 09:51 AM

sailor wrote: Justice4all wrote: Fat_Sunny wrote: Now Here's A Really Handsome Woman!<img src="http://www.anncoulter.com/photos/silver-dress.jpg" border="0" width="317" height="446" />Ewwww yeuk. The only thing missing on THAT body is a shaved head and some numbers tattooed on her arm. That is disgusting. This message was edited by Justice4all on 3-4-07 @ 1:46 PM making light of the holocaust? risky.btw, the size of her hands is freaking me out!  Good lord i just noticed the hands.

epo

03-04-2007, 10:02 AM

There is an <a href="http://imdb.com/title/tt0539920/plotsummary">episode of Cheers</a> when Sam falls asleep in the bar while watching an Elvis movie(Blue Hawaii).  Sam then has a dream that Elvis tells him that Rebecca would be a great mother to his children and states that she is a "handsome woman".  It's no different than a guy being called "beautiful" when you really think about it.

Justice4all

03-04-2007, 11:09 AM

sailor wrote: Justice4all wrote: Fat_Sunny wrote: Now Here's A Really Handsome Woman!<img src="http://www.anncoulter.com/photos/silver-dress.jpg" border="0" width="317" height="446" />Ewwww yeuk. The only thing missing on THAT body is a shaved head and some numbers tattooed on her arm. That is disgusting.This message was edited by Justice4all on 3-4-07 @ 1:46 PM  making light of the holocaust?  risky.btw, the size of her hands is freaking me out! How was I making light of the holocaust? Just by saying her body looks like she is a victim of it? Nah. Now if I said it looks like she is on a diet straight from a concentration camp THAT would have been making light of the holocaust. Or at least I think so. I am just pointing out how disgustingly thin she is.

MrPink

03-04-2007, 11:20 AM

Reephdweller

03-04-2007, 11:33 AM

sr71blackbird wrote: I guess if I got on my knees and begged for forgiveness and said I was an asshole, she would have accepted it  Probably not. You probably would have made it even worse somehow. I don't say that as a reflection on you, but rather that the person you're dealing with if she was so turned off by your attempts to correct yourself already than really nothing you can do would have fixed it. Than in itself speaks to her own view on herself and her subconcious that maybe she feels awkward about something about herself and your innocent mistake just brought it all out. Was it a mistake on your part, sure. Over reaction on her part? Absolutely. Don't beat yourself up over it.

Gvac

03-04-2007, 11:39 AM

I use the term "handsome" to describe a woman who's a bit older but still attractive with very striking features.  She was probably "hot" or "gorgeous" when she was in her twenties and thirties, but when she's pushing 50 but is still good looking, I'll call her "handsome."

Kevin

03-04-2007, 11:44 AM

Gvac wrote: I use the term "handsome" to describe a woman who's a bit older but still attractive with very striking features. She was probably "hot" or "gorgeous" when she was in her twenties and thirties, but when she's pushing 50 but is still good looking, I'll call her "handsome." Example.... <img src="http://msnbcmedia1.msn.com/j/ap/38c7930f-d797-414c-8021-818d804c1090.widec.jpg" border="0" width="298" height="404" />

Hottub

03-04-2007, 11:47 AM

Kevin wrote: Gvac wrote: I use the term "handsome" to describe a woman who's a bit older but still attractive with very striking features. She was probably "hot" or "gorgeous" when she was in her twenties and thirties, but when she's pushing 50 but is still good looking, I'll call her "handsome."  Example.... <img src="http://msnbcmedia1.msn.com/j/ap/38c7930f-d797-414c-8021-818d804c1090.widec.jpg" border="0" width="298" height="404" /> Ewww!

TheGameHHH

03-04-2007, 11:47 AM

whenever i use the phrase handsom woman its totally in jest, i never mean it as a compliment.

Kevin

03-04-2007, 11:49 AM

Hottub wrote: Kevin wrote: Gvac wrote: I use the term "handsome" to describe a woman who's a bit older but still attractive with very striking features. She was probably "hot" or "gorgeous" when she was in her twenties and thirties, but when she's pushing 50 but is still good looking, I'll call her "handsome." Example.... <img src="http://msnbcmedia1.msn.com/j/ap/38c7930f-d797-414c-8021-818d804c1090.widec.jpg" border="0" width="298" height="404" /> Ewww! Come on Tub... Your telling me she is not hot for an older women? She fucking admited she was not wearing underwear at the Oscars... WAKE UP MAN!!

Ritalin

03-04-2007, 04:04 PM

Wait, there's got to be a younger woman who would be considered handsome...shit...it IS kinda offputting. I mean, you might as well say mannish, right?Letterman is always calling women handsome.

sr71blackbird

03-04-2007, 04:08 PM

It may have been partly like Reeph said, in a "you too" kind of way, but I believe she took it to be like I was saying she was "manly", but I did not mean it like that at all.  I just hate having to always be on egg shells, and think before I talk.  It makes me not want to talk with her anymore.

reillyluck

03-04-2007, 04:12 PM

sr71blackbird wrote: I was paid a compliment by a woman tonite who said I was handsome.  I replied back "Thank you!  So are you!" She took incredible offence to it and made a bit of a scene and I was very embarressed.  I did not mean it in any negative way at all.  It is an old fashioned way of talking.  Maybe it is not used so much these days, but do you think her reaction was wrong?  In 20/20 hindsight, maybe I could have sais "Thank you!  You are beautiful!". On the flip side, can a man be considered "beautiful"?  If it was the other way around and Brad Pitt tells a woman she is beautiful and she replies "So are you!", should he be offended?  (I am not comparing myself to Brad Pitt!  - Just saying..)the lady is a moron.  end of story.  you should have punched her in the cunt.

OGC

03-04-2007, 04:21 PM

Justice4all wrote: sailor wrote: Justice4all wrote: Fat_Sunny wrote: Now Here's A Really Handsome Woman!<img src="http://www.anncoulter.com/photos/silver-dress.jpg" border="0" width="317" height="446" />Ewwww yeuk. The only thing missing on THAT body is a shaved head and some numbers tattooed on her arm. That is disgusting.This message was edited by Justice4all on 3-4-07 @ 1:46 PM  making light of the holocaust?  risky.btw, the size of her hands is freaking me out! How was I making light of the holocaust? Just by saying her body looks like she is a victim of it? Nah. Now if I said it looks like she is on a diet straight from a concentration camp THAT would have been making light of the holocaust. Or at least I think so. I am just pointing out how disgustingly thin she is.I'd still give her a poke or two. I've always liked the though of splitting a woman wide open

high fly

03-05-2007, 03:28 PM

"Hansome" may be used to describe a woman. I have heard it used many times and not always to describe atractive, but somewhat masculine women.The point here isn't the word "hansome" at all.You were simply returning a compliment and she should have realized that.Don't sweat it.

drusilla

03-05-2007, 04:20 PM

TheGameHHH wrote: whenever i use the phrase handsom woman its totally in jest, i never mean it as a compliment. same. i would only use it to refer to a woman who looks kind of mannish. perfect example is kate walsh of grey's anatomy. <img src="http://www.eamgmt.com/eam_images_medium/makeup/Miriam%20Vukich/mv1_kate%20walsh_th.jpg" border="0" width="200" height="240" /> my boyfriend is always talking about how much she looks like a dude. we almost lost it when an old episode of csi was on spike one night & she was playing a tranny. they didn't even have to alter her appearance much. 

This message was edited by drusilla on 3-5-07 @ 8:21 PM