Get over it assholes!!

[MONICA5579]

When you've broken up with someone, or they have broken up with you, are you obligated to give them answers to questions that they have about your now dead relationship? When does it become time for the past to be behind you and for the other person to leave you alone and get over it?

[reillyluck]

it depends on how long the relationship has been dead. sometimes questions go unanswered. I had broke up with my ex about almost 6 years ago. i didnt see him again until September when one of my best friends got married and we were both at the wedding. while i was outside, he managed to follow me and he asked me, what could he have done to fix the situation. I told him "you could have asked me this question 6 years ago".

so for these years that we werent together, this was still on his mind? uggh. His mother was still calling me asking me to work things out, even after she found out i was engaged to alex. I had to change all my numbers, to make it go away. sometimes you can give the best answer as to why things dont work out, but the other person may never get it.

if your ex is still asking and you've given every possible reason for the end of the relationship, then he may just never get it.

[guttersnipe]

All I know is that for myself, it takes longer than 25 days.

[Bulldogcakes]

Tell them to get a life.


Geez, men can be such pussies when it comes to women.

[patsopinion]

it depends on how long the relationship has been dead. sometimes questions go unanswered. I had broke up with my ex about almost 6 years ago. i didnt see him again until September when one of my best friends got married and we were both at the wedding. while i was outside, he managed to follow me and he asked me, what could he have done to fix the situation. I told him "you could have asked me this question 6 years ago".

so for these years that we werent together, this was still on his mind? uggh. His mother was still calling me asking me to work things out, even after she found out i was engaged to alex. I had to change all my numbers, to make it go away. sometimes you can give the best answer as to why things dont work out, but the other person may never get it.

if your ex is still asking and you've given every possible reason for the end of the relationship, then he may just never get it.

ur engaged

6 dreams dead...
only 2 to go people keep it up

[reeshy]

When I left my first wife......I was banging 2 weeks later!!!!!!!YEEEHAAAA!!!!!!

[Snacks]

I think it depends on the respect you have for your ex. If the questions are about your relationship with the ex and not your current relationship, then I think you should answer the questions truthfully. I think the only way to get rid of your ex when they keep asking questions is to give them asnwers, this way they can have closure too. If you dont answer and keep brushing them off, sometimes that makes them go carzy (not literly crazy you know what i mean) wondering and sometimes that makes them continue to ask and call etc. If you have had any love and or respect for your ex I think they deserve the respect of answers. Thats just me.

[RogerPodacter]

I think it depends on the respect you have for your ex. If the questions are about your relationship with the ex and not your current relationship, then I think you should answer the questions truthfully. I think the only way to get rid of your ex when they keep asking questions is to give them asnwers, this way they can have closure too. If you dont answer and keep brushing them off, sometimes that makes them go carzy (not literly crazy you know what i mean) wondering and sometimes that makes them continue to ask and call etc. If you have had any love and or respect for your ex I think they deserve the respect of answers. Thats just me.


Totally agree. A switch can go off in men (and women's) head where they can go crazy and obsessive thinking about things.

Its also a respect thing.

[mdr55]

I think K.C. is going to ask you out.


He was talking about you in another thread.


He's really digging you. Give him a chance.

[Dirtybird12]

insert shameless self-plug here...



www.myspace.com/perrynoidmusic

[ralphbxny]

Ex's stink...they only make things more difficult when they refuse to go away or ask questions they should have when the relationship was fuctioning!!!

[Justice4all]

Totally agree. A switch can go off in men (and women's) head where they can go crazy and obsessive thinking about things.

Its also a respect thing.

I also agree with Snacks. When I broke up with my ex almost 2 years ago she refused to let me know why she went from being so cool with me to being so angry. She never gave any indication as to why. It drove me crazy. I wished her well but wanted to know what I could have done to improve things.

Nothing wrong with trying to find out why things went wrong. Sometimes it is not so obvious.

[AngelAmy]

i still have questions for my ex about our relationship but if i saw him i wouldnt ask him...i am finally over it. but i think if you need closure and you get an opportunity ask away, doesnt mean the other person will want to answer but its worth a shot

[led37zep]

ur engaged

6 dreams dead...
only 2 to go people keep it up

She's just trying to tease you. Get really drunk and send her PMs like "I'd Reilly like to be in you". 60% of the time it works EVERYTIME!!!

[AngelAmy]

She's just trying to tease you. Get really drunk and send her PMs like "I'd Reilly like to be in you". 60% of the time it works EVERYTIME!!!

must you give away all my secrets!

[led37zep]

must you give away all my secrets!

Just trying to level the playing field for those that Pee standing up.

[moochcassidy]

i knew this marriage wouldnt last.

[MONICA5579]

i knew this marriage wouldnt last.

Moochie, Perry and I are perfectly fine!! This is the happiest I've ever been!!!



The question was more in regards to MY ex.

[Thomas Merton]

Your ex is wallowing in self-pity, not looking for closure. You'll never give him the answer he wants to hear, which is for you to accept all the blame somehow...It takes much time and probably a few relationships before he'll be in a space where he can reasonably hear the truth, whatever that might be.

[bigredd]

Are you obligated? No. I'd say if you care about the personal growth of the individual you aren't seeing any more go ahead and answer questions. Otherwise F'em in the A.

[moochcassidy]

Moochie, Perry and I are perfectly fine!! This is the happiest I've ever been!!!



The question was more in regards to MY ex.

shite...i thought i'd won that bet.

:tongue:

[Yerdaddy]

I'm guessing you replaced him before he replaced you. It's easy to just wish he'd have the decency to no longer exist in that situation, but he's a person. It's also easy to let his pain boost your ego. Not to bust your balls about it - that's just the way it works. Breakups are usually a zero-sum power situation - the happier one person is the more miserable it makes the other. Just remember if he'd replaced you first you'd be the one needing closure, validation, whatever. Try to muster up some empathy and help him through it just a tiny little bit. Don't treat him like shit just to make yourself or his replacement feel better about yourselves.

[Chip196]

This thread makes me think of High Fidelity when he's meeting with all of his Ex's ... and the scene in Seinfeld when George was so honest with his girl while breaking up that she ended up in the Nut Hut. I would love to hear my Ex's brutally honest take on me ... but I could never ask them, and I couldn't reciprocate.

[JackoTouchedMe]

I love being brutally honest with girlfriends when you're breaking up. That's the only way no questions are to be ever left unanswered. Plus, by the end of the break up you either hate each other's guts, or you're even more in love then when you first got together. I broke up with my girl a week and a half ago, and we haven't acknowledged each others existence since. So guess which way things ended up.