Gauging a situation

[K.C.]

Ok, a buddy of mine just broke up with his chick...the breakup was pretty bad, especially for her.

Shortly after it, she got in touch with me and wanted to know if we could still be friends. I said yes...we had made plans to go to something this summer and she wanted to make sure that our thing wasn't affected by this.

So, she starts leaving me a lot of online messages over the span of the week after all this...and I respond and talk back with her. I don't know her incredibly well, but from this, and past experiences with her, I've come to the conclusion I'm attracted to her.

The problem comes when I learn from a mutual friend that she's kind of gone a little crazy since the breakup and is just kind of throwing herself around...new people, old boyfriends...looking for something to kind of get over my buddy. Like I said...it was a bad breakup.

Here's my issue. Like I said, I'm really attracted to her, but is it even worth it trying to get involved with someone who's going through a pretty rough time like this, as a direct result of my friend? I mean, honestly...is there ANY way this could go well?...and that's even assuming she'd be interested and not completely weirded out...if she did get weirded out, I'm pretty sure that would end our friendship.

Yet if I don't act now, I think I may lose any chance I may have had by trying to 'wait it out.'

And for those of you who may think I may be doing my buddy a disservice by even thinking about this...I've already gone over it with him...he's more than cool with it, although he thinks I'm crazy trying to inject myself into this situation.

For some reason, I just can't help myself, though.

I'm usually very good at gauging situations like this, but for some odd reason, I'm at a complete loss when it comes to this particular one.

[patsopinion]

just pull a bennington

plant your seed and run




oh and on the way home call ur buddy that broke up with her and have a good laugh

[PapaBear]

I think you already know the answer, but you want someone to tell you to go for it.

[weekapaugjz]

if your friend is cool with it, why not?

[RogerPodacter]

He's cool with it. but how long were they together? how old is she? what could possibly go wrong?

[K.C.]

if your friend is cool with it, why not?

Because it's not really about him...other than kind of setting the wheels in motion for everyone to get to this point, he has no involvement.

It's more about whether it could ever work trying to pick up someone who's is in actuality, probably pretty fragile right now.

It just seems like a really bad starting point for going out with someone, with someone so all over the place emotionally right now. Yet at the same time, I can't deny I'm attracted.

And the problem is that if I wait...from everything I've heard, it sounds like she'll latch on to someone fairly quickly. And at that point, I don't particularly want to hang around and listen about everyone else she may go out with...it would bother me, thinking what I think.

It just seems like I'm screwed either way.

[mdr55]

Can you get your money back for the trip and is she "intelligent"?

[K.C.]

I think you already know the answer, but you want someone to tell you to go for it.

That could be VERY true...but at this point, I haven't admitted it to myself yet.

[K.C.]

Can you get your money back for the trip and is she "intelligent"?

I haven't spent it yet...and...the answer to question two is....eh...


my buddy never painted her as being a real intellectual type, but I don't think he quite understands how to really connect and get into a person's head, so I'm not sure I trust that judgment.

[mdr55]

Is she "intelligent"? is my new phrase for Is she "Hot"?

[mdr55]

So

Es mujer muy intelligente?

[weekapaugjz]

Because it's not really about him...other than kind of setting the wheels in motion for everyone to get to this point, he has no involvement.

It's more about whether it could ever work trying to pick up someone who's is in actuality, probably pretty fragile right now.

It just seems like a really bad starting point for going out with someone, with someone so all over the place emotionally right now. Yet at the same time, I can't deny I'm attracted.

And the problem is that if I wait...from everything I've heard, it sounds like she'll latch on to someone fairly quickly. And at that point, I don't particularly want to hang around and listen about everyone else she may go out with...it would bother me, thinking what I think.

It just seems like I'm screwed either way.

go for it, im in a kinda similar situation in that i want a chick who is an ex of my best friend, and i don't think he would be cool with it. i don't even want to bring it up to him. i say give it a shot, if it works out it does, and if it doesn't you won't be wondering what if later on.

[K.C.]

So

Es mujer muy intelligente?

muy, muy intelligente.

In fact, that's basically what this is...100% lust motivated.

My buddy, when we discussed this, basically compared it to the Siren's Song from the Odyssey.