dead friends

[patsopinion]

I just found out that one of my good friends from a few years ago died of a drug overdose.

the way he lived his life you could see it comming

this is the second time ive distanced myself from a friend because of their life choices and they ended up dieing.

I knew both times, that the last time i hung out with them would be the last time i saw them.

the memories of those two last kickits are forever burned into my memory in a way that few other things are.

Im wondering if anyone else does this, where they see someones future/path and simply cant hangout with that person, and you know that nothing you say will ever change that path.

[jetdog]

Yes, I've had to do it with two friends also. One, I have no idea what happened too, last time I saw him he had just sold his beautiful new drumset for some smack (he was an amazing drummer) and telling me he was going to Europe. The other, well I know right where he is, he's at his parents house, locked in his room for the past two years, getting more and more gone. I tried all through high school and college to do my best for him, but I just can't help anymore.

[burrben]

first, sorry to hear about your friend.

second, i have a friend that does pretty much every drug you've ever heard of. it's really unbelievably that he's lived this long.


and on a weird note, the jim carroll band's "people who died" was playing when i opened this thread

[patsopinion]

first, sorry to hear about your friend.

second, i have a friend that does pretty much every drug you've ever heard of. it's really unbelievably that he's lived this long.


and on a weird note, the jim carroll band's "people who died" was playing when i opened this thread

my roomate does that
i keep him close to slap him when he steps out of line.
but im not taking him with me when i leave south lake tahoe in september
(its just not worth it)

[Uncle Inky]

By nature I'm prone to try to help people, even when way beyond my reach. However I've learned years ago that there comes a pointwhen there simply is no helping the person and the only two scenarios are rock bottom and hopefully they start to pick up from there... or death.
It's really hard to walk away and watch someone self destruct, but fact is once at that point you can't help and only harm can come to you as well, so sadly walking away IS the only thing youcan do. Doesn't make it any easier, but thats all you can do

[Thomas Merton]

There aren't too many consumables I have a problem with if done in moderation. I have the same disdain, however, for the morbidly obese as I do for the most strung out junkie. Both have similiar motivations/reasons for why they take their particular addition to the life threatening extreme.

Dude, its been my experience that someone doing so many drugs as to threaten their existence is simply someone who doesnt have the guts/angst/whatever to stick a .45 in their mouth and end it that way.

Sorry if that sounds harsh and I'm sorry about your friends. Its a helpless feeling when you cant reach someone you care about. Unfortunetely, they dont care about themselves enough to want or admit they need the help.

[NJHARDHAT]

Im wondering if anyone else does this, where they see someones future/path and simply cant hangout with that person, and you know that nothing you say will ever change that path.

I know what you mean, I introduced a friend of mine to a girlfriend of my wife and they dated and eventually married. We hadn't spoken in years and because of some silly fight between my wife and his girl, we were never even invited to his wedding.

A year ago he found out he had cancer and died 6 weeks later. My wife and I went to his funeral, and it was really sad that we lost our friendship, but somehow it was nice knowing that I helped him meet the love of his life.

Recently I saw someone who looked like him walking towards me, and for a split second I thought , "Hey, what's up Jim"? then I remembered, Jim's not here anymore.

I wanted to ask the guy if he wouldn't mind if I gave him a hug - no homo.

[reeshy]

I had a few friends over the years OD.......but the ones that hurt me the most were the ones lost on 9/11!!!!!

[Don Stugots]

I had a few friends over the years OD.......but the ones that hurt me the most were the ones lost on 9/11!!!!!

you almost had one more that day, but you didnt know me then.

[Uncle Inky]

I had a few friends over the years OD.......but the ones that hurt me the most were the ones lost on 9/11!!!!!

I hear you on that one, lost my girl and a few others. My life as I knew it ended that day, did a year and a half of self destruction, and came out of it as a pornographer.... go figure!~LOL

[FUNKMAN]

bunch of friends from the neighborhood wound up getting hooked on heroin and eventually died of aids. alot of healthy athlethic kids we played sports with and against that just took the wrong path 'for lack of a better phrase'

last year i was with the family and we went to the old neighborhood for my grammar school festival and I ran into a bunch of old friend's. one of them in front of my daughters asked me if i had any money to spare. he's a decent guy but the bottle has gotten the best of him. I gave him a 20 but it just felt a little awkward for some reason...

a few weeks back I'm heading into Hoboken for dinner and as I'm slowly driving down the turnpike ramp that heads toward the Holland an old friend is soliciting the cars for money. my parents were actually in his parent's wedding. i was on the move so i couldn't stop to give him anything...

my best friend to whom i was best man died in 98'. he was overweight, smoked a bunch. when he was a teenager he would hack like I couldn't believe. anyway he's working midnights at Mogan Stanley and his coworkers thought he was sleeping, but he was actually laying there on the desktop dead. I never got a straight answer from his wife, she mentioned cholesterol and I didn't press her for answers. Once they're dead does it really matter?

[Thomas Merton]

I hear you on that one, lost my girl and a few others. My life as I knew it ended that day, did a year and a half of self destruction, and came out of it as a pornographer.... go figure!~LOL


Inky, you cant just tease us like that....details of the self-destruction and pornography please! Especially the porn.

But seriously, 9-11 changed many lives.

[Uncle Inky]

Inky, you cant just tease us like that....details of the self-destruction and pornography please! Especially the porn.

But seriously, 9-11 changed many lives.

Long story, I'll tell it tomorrow