It's official. I have no friends.

[Midkiff]

THIS IS THE 'THAT'S LIFE' FORUM - just pre-empting my usual band of hecklers -

I have never had a lot of friends, mostly because in school I was a smart guy, and not into sports (I wanted to be, parents wouldn't let me), and because I only liked hanging out with other smart people. Even among my friends, I didn't have any really good friends, or anybody I would have considered a best friend. Then, when I joined the Air Force out of sheer desperation (no money, needed degree), about a year in I finally made a really good friend. We were in tech school together, and stationed together for the remaining 5 years of my military stint. While in the Air Force, I got married, so there was some transition time where I didn't get to see much of him, but that soon changed and we got to hang out more. However, in the meantime, he had gotten used to me not being around, and started dating this new bitch who started replacing all of his friends.

Anyway, my friend had been trying to become an agent with a particular government agency for years. Finally, he broke up with his bitch because she was demanding marriage, which he wouldn't do until he got his assignment and settled down wherever he would be sent. Now that she is finally gone, and we were starting to hang out again, he got the call yesterday for his appointment. He has ONE WEEK to report for training a thousand miles away. He is my best friend, my only friend, and now he's leaving. God damn, life sucks. It's like I'm a worker drone, with no fucking friends who give a shit, with no future. I love Ron and Fez, of course, but that's not the same.

It's crazy. Believe it or not, I am an extremely friendly guy, and for a good friend I will do just about anything. Out of six billion freaking people in the world, how can there not be one who likes me enough to be a good friend? Not just a casual friend you talk to when you see them, but someone who actually seeks you out to spend time with you. It just makes you feel insigificant.

[Tenbatsuzen]

If you don't like your job, and you don't like your life, what's stopping you from moving and starting things over? I'm not saying move to the same town your friend is, but it's a lot easier to hang when you're 100 miles away than it is 1000.

[Midkiff]

If you don't like your job, and you don't like your life, what's stopping you from moving and starting things over? I'm not saying move to the same town your friend is, but it's a lot easier to hang when you're 100 miles away than it is 1000.

Wife. Kids. School. I am pretty much stuck here for the next couple of years, whether I like it or not.

[Don Stugots]

I didnt have any close friends till recently. i am lucky enough to have GVAC, Phishy and Reilly, besides regina. Hang in there, it gets better.

[sailor]

i've never had more than a few good friends, either. i might have one or two now. maybe not. hang in there.

[Death Metal Moe]

I have never had a lot of friends, mostly because in school I was a smart guy, and not into sports (I wanted to be, parents wouldn't let me), and because I only liked hanging out with other smart people.


I'm trying to keep in within the rules of "No flaming" for this forum, but I find that an extremely stuck up statement. The fact that you put limits on the kind of people you will befriend is part of your problem.

[Tenbatsuzen]

I'm trying to keep in within the rules of "No flaming" for this forum, but I find that an extremely stuck up statement. The fact that you put limits on the kind of people you will befriend is part of your problem.

Wanna meet me at the malt shop later on?

[Furtherman]

[QUOTE=Death Metal Moe;1285477]I'm trying to keep in within the rules of "No flaming" for this forum, but I find that an extremely stuck up statement. The fact that you put limits on the kind of people you will befriend is part of your problem.


As soon as I read that I thought the same thing Moe.


If you want people to "like" you, drop the "I'm a smart guy and don't know how to hang out with regular people because I only hung out with smart people in school" attitude.

If you feel that way, it will come across that way, and no one wants to be friends with a dork.

[reeshy]

I'm eating ice cream and I don't care!!!!!

[Midkiff]

I'm trying to keep in within the rules of "No flaming" for this forum, but I find that an extremely stuck up statement. The fact that you put limits on the kind of people you will befriend is part of your problem.

No, you're absolutely right, but that was a reference to high school days. I should probably have added that I am not that way now. I have no prerequisites for friends NOW.

[Justice4all]

If it helps I know how you feel. It takes a while to find someone you can connect with and who understands you. Maybe you should go and find couples you could be friends with your wife and yourself.

Besides, isn't SHE supposed to be your best friend?

[weekapaugjz]

ive been through a lot of these same feelings as well. after i graduated from school, i moved back home near buffalo cause i couldn't find a job. all my friends moved to nyc, philly, or dc after graduation. then i moved to buffalo for grad school not knowing anyone in the city except for my brother and his girlfriend. i finally made a couple of really good friends through the program i was in. thing was they all moved away after the first year and i was stuck again without any close friends in the area.

finding someone to be a good friend like you is a tough thing to do later on in a person's life. did you say you are in school now? if you are, ask someone in your class to go out for a drink after class or something like that. does your wife have any friends that are married that you could become friends with the husband? just a few ideas. not having a close friend around that you can count on that isn't close can be a very tough thing, i hope something comes up for you.

[Death Metal Moe]

As soon as I read that I thought the same thing Moe.


If you want people to "like" you, drop the "I'm a smart guy and don't know how to hang out with regular people because I only hung out with smart people in school" attitude.

If you feel that way, it will come across that way, and no one wants to be friends with a dork.

Thanks man, at least I'm not alone in my thoughts on this.

I mean don't get me wrong, I don't want to hang out with complete idiots and losers who can't have a discussion. I need people who have a basic grasp of world events, have opinions about things and can defend why they have those opinions. But I don't ask for someone's education background before I'll hang with them.

[Death Metal Moe]

No, you're absolutely right, but that was a reference to high school days. I should probably have added that I am not that way now. I have no prerequisites for friends NOW.

Well then that's good.

I wish I could help you more man. I've always found it extremely easy to make friends and I don't know why. It just comes naturally and quickly. But don't get me wrong, they're not "Bury a body" friends. Not all of them. Those kinds of close relationships always take time, so if you had this connection with your buddy I feel extremely sorry for your loss.

But can't you just find some friends who aren't SUPER close but are at least friendly and want to chill? At every job I've ever worked at I've made friends of varying closeness. Some of them I just interact with at work and possibly go to a local pub on Firdays with. Some I go chill at their house every now and then. My SUPER close friends I see every week.

Maybe you need a couple "NOT Super close" friends to off set losing a close friend. You can still keep in touch with your buddy and hang with some local people.

It's not the same, but just a thought I had.

[ChimneyFish]

You're not the only one, fella.

Want to know when my friends call me????

a) when they have no one to hang out with, and they're bored out of their skulls.

b) when they need something

In the past few years, I've come to get used to/really start to appreciate my time alone.
I know, with wife and kids, your situation is entirely different, but I think you need to take a step back and see the situation for what it is. Your best friend is finally getting to do what he always wanted to do. And get payed for it!!!!







Oh, and I also realize why no one wants to hang out with me........
I'm a depressing douche.

[Bulldogcakes]

Well then that's good.

I wish I could help you more man. I've always found it extremely easy to make friends and I don't know why. It just comes naturally and quickly.

I think thats because despite the dour board persona Moe sometimes puts on, one on one he's a real good guy, and a very nice likable person. I dont know what it is about metalheads but some of the guys who I grew up with who listened to the darkest, nastiest music were some of the biggest teddy bears I knew.

People who just read his posts and get into board fights with him don't realize this. But coincidentally I've heard some of the same things about some of them, being one way on the board (at times) and much different in person. Go figure . . . . . .

[EffMeBoobs]

I didnt have any close friends till recently. i am lucky enough to have GVAC, Phishy and Reilly, besides regina. Hang in there, it gets better.
I see how it is. :(

[Don Stugots]

I see how it is. :(

you know how i feel about you, i have hand picked you to be wife #4. that alone should speak for itself.

Effmeboobs is my fifth bestest friend


not to derail the thread:
just try being yourself. try going to a bar, any bar, maybe an older man's bar and while reading the newspaper start chatting up whatever you are reading.

[Bob Impact]

you know how i feel about you, i have hand picked you to be wife #4. that alone should speak for itself.

Effmeboobs is my fifth bestest friend


not to derail the thread:
just try being yourself. try going to a bar, any bar, maybe an older man's bar and while reading the newspaper start chatting up whatever you are reading.

Nobody tell Lou, he won't be able to figure out these fancy new spoiler dealies.

[EffMeBoobs]

you know how i feel about you, i have hand picked you to be wife #4. that alone should speak for itself.

Effmeboobs is my fifth bestest friend


not to derail the thread:
just try being yourself. try going to a bar, any bar, maybe an older man's bar and while reading the newspaper start chatting up whatever you are reading.

Don Stugots is my 4th best friend. I win.

[Don Stugots]

effme, show the math on that one, please.



(use this as an example of how to make friends, honest, it is this easy. i am not trying to screw up the thread, just showing you.)

[EffMeBoobs]

effme, show the math on that one, please.



(use this as an example of how to make friends, honest, it is this easy. i am not trying to screw up the thread, just showing you.)

Poot, Gwen, Sheepy, You

[patsopinion]

thats better than hating/not trusting everyone youve surrounded yourself with

one of my room mates text me that he was going to kill the other one

and i thought "good" and went back to watching tv, not even concerned with why or how.

i dont think he killed him though...

[reillyluck]

Poot, Gwen, Sheepy, You

oh i see how it is. :glurps:

[reillyluck]

i agree with a lot of people here. just be yourself. its hard to find friends at an adult age. people that you can actually trust. i have a lot of friends, but theres only a few people that i let into my trust circle.


just know that you are not alone and you do have friends here. :smile:

[Don Stugots]

Poot, Gwen, Sheepy, You

oh i see how it is. :glurps:

HA! btw, effme, just moved on the list.

[EffMeBoobs]

oh i see how it is. :glurps:

LIES!!!!!!

You and Stugots are tied for 4th. I'm fair!

[Don Stugots]

LIES!!!!!!

You and Stugots are tied for 4th. I'm fair!

sorry, you didnt list her. Reilly, she is lying to you. you were her fifth, she sent me a Text message telling me that.

[Leticia]

I know what you're saying man.

In school I never had any friends and was always made fun of but now I'm finally comfortable with making friends and not being super self conscious about it.

I have good friends now but they've let me down quite a bit... so I can't say they are really good friends.

I am truly sorry about your friend but feel happy for him. Your paths will cross again. I'm sure he will not want to lose contact with you either.

[EffMeBoobs]

sorry, you didnt list her. Reilly, she is lying to you. you were her fifth, she sent me a Text message telling me that.
LIESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!! Stugots is now my 5th, Reilly you move up!

[reillyluck]

LIESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!! Stugots is now my 5th, Reilly you move up!

phace!!!

[Gvac]

I'm not sure if you're just venting or looking for advice, jd, but I've always found that if you're a content and genuine person with a certain level of humility people will be attracted to you.

"Shine without dazzling."

[Midkiff]

Thanks to everybody for your kind words. It would be nice if I lived anywhere near NYC, then I could actually go to R&F events and meet you all in person. It's hard enough to have a social life even here at home, with wife and kids and work and night classes.

It's cool. I'll deal. Thanks for the support.

Viva R&F! Viva rf.net!

[Friday]

I'm eating ice cream and I don't care!!!!!

I just adore ice cream!

[Marc with a c]

LIESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!! Stugots is now my 5th, Reilly you move up!

this is bullshit.

fucking elitist

[Don Stugots]

this is bullshit.

fucking elitist

i lied to her about where she is my list, she is after you and Gwen. shhhhh

[AgnosticJihad]

My only friends are my good buddy Weiser, Jack Daniels and his partner Jimmy Beam, Johnny Walker and his two brothers Blacky and Red, and of course my dear old Granddad.

Sorry George.

Oh yeah, how could I forget Mary Jane. She's my main thang.

[Fat_Sunny]

Oh yeah, how could I forget Mary Jane. She's my main thang.

Fat Heard She Wants To Give You Kicks, And Be Your Steady Chick
And Give You Pick Of Memories

Or Maybe Rather Gather Tales From Your Fails And Tribulations
No One Ever Sees

When You Met You Were Sure Out To Lunch
Now Your Empty Cup Tastes As Sweet As The Punch!


And If You Think Mary Jane Is Hot, You Should Meet Her Adorable Friend Poppy!

[ChimneyFish]

I just adore ice cream!



Mashed potatoes bring me joy..
http://i28.photobucket.com/albums/c217/luxa1/IMG_8726.jpg

[Drunky McBetidont]

It would be nice if I lived anywhere near NYC, then I could actually go to R&F events and meet you all in person.

it would be nice to hit an event and meet ron, fez, esd and earl and of course the good people of this message board. i think summer offers freedom and an opportunity will present itself for a trip to NYC. I found flights from orlando FL to NYC round trip for $139 tax inxluded today. I bet texas isn't much more. priceline.com can help.

friends are like flowers, if you don't water them they die.

[AgnosticJihad]

Fat Heard She Wants To Give You Kicks, And Be Your Steady Chick
And Give You Pick Of Memories

Or Maybe Rather Gather Tales From Your Fails And Tribulations
No One Ever Sees

When You Met You Were Sure Out To Lunch
Now Your Empty Cup Tastes As Sweet As The Punch!


And If You Think Mary Jane Is Hot, You Should Meet Her Adorable Friend Poppy!

Already have, Fat. Already have.