Longest Post I've Ever Written A.K.A. Should I Quit My Job?

[grlNIN]

I'll give some background on this before getting into it completely.

This past September i started a job as a Administrative Assistant/ Data Entry Analyst(i basically sit around on the computer all day). The pay is decent, union work with paid vacation, sick and personal days BUT only on a part time scale. I work 3 days a week and was hired under the circumstance that my supervisor knew my days would be flexible seeing as i have a prior job(now have 3 jobs) and go to school. She understood, i was hired, flash forward to now.

My boss is only in the office twice a week and 3 times a week at the very most. She has underlying superiority issues because she can see that the people who work for her(including myself) can operate functionally without her. So every now and then she finds a reason to flex her scrawny muscle.

Two nurses have been talked to, one under strict supervision to actually call a higher up when starting and ending her daily work schedule. The other to mainly just "put her in her place" for lack of a fancier term.

I happened to call out yesterday due to serious allergies, i was zonked for the entire day and just slept through it from the medicine. My boss leaves me an email and voicemail alerting me of how "dismayed" she was at my not showing up and outright threatened my job in saying that "The next time it happens she will be forced to look for other employment". She can do this, yeah but it seems completely unjust. She also requested that i call her at the time i got into the office because i am apparently a feeble-minded child.

I usually don't give a shit but when you threaten my job overaccrual time i am given off there is a BIG problem. A friend at this job told me to approach her about it and see if a commonground can be met(explaining the conditions under which i was hired, what is expected, etc.) I feel way beyond reasoning at this point and it might be brash but the working conditions have steadily degressed in the last month, month in a half.

Our office was moved from a mid-level floor to the lowest floor, which, is not a technical office so much as it's a basement that was set up for us with cubicles and desks. In the last day i recieved and email from my boss telling me to be careful of what is left around because now we have ants down here, an exterminator will be in and such. The lower floor already floods when we have heavy rainful which inturn causes the elevator for all floors to be destroyed until fixed again.

As soon as i got in this morning i started filling out applications online for positions in numerous banks in my local area and so far the idea alone of not working here is euphoric(i forgot to mention this job is an hour commute both ways-HIGH FIVE!)

I feel like i am in HELL. I don't like my retail job i still have at all but holy shit, i would work 70 hours there a week to get out of here, happily.

Is it worth it to quit, adivice, help help help.

[Don Stugots]

Fuck 'em, walk. no one speaks to you like that.

[cupcakelove]

For your problem with your boss, you should talk to her, let her know how you feel about her actions, and see what you can do to make her feel better. Whatever happens, remember to keep your cool, and make sure that you can walk away knowing that you handled it like an adult. As for all the other stuff you mentioned, it is way more than I would need to leave. Good luck.

[Iamnotatool]

I would suggest not using company computers to look for other employment.

Also, how is calling your supervisor any different than some people signing in or punching a clock?

[Dougie Brootal]

tell her, "stugots a fungue!" then do that "scrape-the-bottom-of-your-chin-fuck-you" thing and walk out!

[Tall_James]

I know that this is extreme but my gut reaction is the following...

Burn that bridge, piss on the ashes.

Stugots is right - no one should have to put up with being talked to like that. If you feel uncomfortable there that should be enough to start to formulate an escape plan. It sounds like they need you more than you need them.

[Dougie Brootal]

wow. im retarded.

[King Hippos Bandaid]

Quit, dont give them the Satisfaction of a Blow Up or a Scene where you are fired or quit. Give your 2 weeks notice, if they allow 2 weeks, look for a job during that time

:king:

[grlNIN]

I would suggest not using company computers to look for other employment.

Also, how is calling your supervisor any different than some people signing in or punching a clock?

It's a company computer, i know for sure nothing is tracked or can be "investigated" because my boss is outqwardly computer ignorant.(I've had to put attatchments into emails for her)

The personal call had nothing to do with me punching in or filling out a timecard, she just wanted me to call her when i got into the office. Like she suspected as if i would not come in or something.

[Midkiff]

Fuck that bitch. Tell her to fuck herself, call her a stupid bitch, and quit.

[grlNIN]

Wherever i work i try to brun bridges as infrequently as possible because everyone knows someone eventually.

As much as i'd enjoy to make a scene and go, it's not classy and i have more respect for myself than that. I won't leave here until i find a better job or if it becomes worse i will give my two weeks and allow that to be it.

I had to take Nyquil last night to fall asleep because of the stress, i've got enough of it elsewhere in my life and for 22 this situation isn't looking too appealing to carry on.

[reillyluck]

i'd say find another job. you dont need to be babied around. and you dont want to work for someone that cant even have the courtousy of discussing this issue with you personally. That is totally uncalled for.

definitely dont burn your bridges, you never know when you might need her as a reference or even cross paths some day.

[Don Stugots]

tell her, "stugots a fungue!" then do that "scrape-the-bottom-of-your-chin-fuck-you" thing and walk out!

wow. im retarded.

you think? i kinda like it.

[Death Metal Moe]

If you really need the income from that job, don't leave until you have something concrete lined up. WHen you do, give your 2 weeks and just leave.

If you don't, give your 2 weeks and get the fuck out. Life it too short to get up hating every moment you have to be at a place.

[cupcakelove]

Wherever i work i try to brun bridges as infrequently as possible because everyone knows someone eventually.

As much as i'd enjoy to make a scene and go, it's not classy and i have more respect for myself than that. I won't leave here until i find a better job or if it becomes worse i will give my two weeks and allow that to be it.

I had to take Nyquil last night to fall asleep because of the stress, i've got enough of it elsewhere in my life and for 22 this situation isn't looking too appealing to carry on.

Yeah, you really need to get out of there. Like Moe said, if you don't need the money, give your notice next time you talk to your boss.

[Death Metal Moe]

I know it sounds cliche but life is really too short to waste at a job you hate. Even if you make a lot less doing something you enjoy, it is really worth it.

I was making $29 an hour as a union carpenter but I was scared everyday on the job because I'm afraid of heights and it seemed to me that job slowly kills the guys who work it.

I'm making a little over half that an hour nowm but I really enjoy working with the people in the office and garage, the work isn't dangerous and most of the customers are very friendly and grateful for your help. I won't act like it's perfect, I have my shit days too, but over all this is a much better job. Just get paid much less.

But it's so worth it. Do not stay at a job you hate a second longer than it takes to find a replacement job.

[Jujubees2]

Did you say it was a union job? Can you file a grievance with the union?

But even if you can, it's probably time to move on.

[grlNIN]

Yep. I pay union dues twice a month from my checks.

[furie]

you'll always have to deal with asshole supervisors, so don't base a decision on that bitch.
if you like the job and are comfortable with it, i say tough it out.

[jax]

What's up with a boss saying she's "dismayed" at an employee taking a sick day. You have x amount of sick, personal, and vacation days. The thing about a sick day is you don't plan them they just happen. She sounds retarded. Find another gig first and give notice show her how grown ups behave in the workplace.

[Bellyfullasnot]

If you need the job for HEALTH benefits stay until you find something that will cover that. If not...move on.

[Death Metal Moe]

you'll always have to deal with asshole supervisors, so don't base a decision on that bitch.
if you like the job and are comfortable with it, i say tough it out.

That is true and the flipside of this discussion. If the work and people are nice but it's just one person making the job unbearable, you may want to go the Union Rep. avenue or ask to speak to one her supervisors if talking to her does little or nothing.

[nate1000]

Our office was moved from a mid-level floor to the lowest floor, which, is not a technical office so much as it's a basement that was set up for us with cubicles and desks. In the last day i recieved and email from my boss telling me to be careful of what is left around because now we have ants down here, an exterminator will be in and such. The lower floor already floods when we have heavy rainful which inturn causes the elevator for all floors to be destroyed until fixed again.



GrlNIN, we're gonna need to go ahead and move you downstairs into storage B. We have some new people coming in, and we need all the space we can get. So if you could go ahead and pack up your stuff and move it down there, that would be terrific, mmmKay?

Excuse me, I believe you have my stapler...

Threaten to set fire to the building. That should do it.

[SinA]

You should read Penelope Trunk's blog (http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/)

Here's a tidbit of the king of things she says:
Advice for getting happier: Instead of focusing on what’s wrong with people, try focusing on what’s right with people -what makes people happy, successful and more productive. This is what the positive psychologists do.

1. Increase our positive thinking.
The key to thinking positively is being optimistic. The way you determine if you are optimistic or pessimistic is how you explain things. When the copy machine doesn’t work, is the world out to get you? Do all copy machines never work ever? Or is this something that sometimes happens and you can deal with it by calling a repair person?

2. Increase your positive emotions.
When you are feeling good, you can come up with more solutions to your problems. So the world looks more like something you can affect to get what you want. The less positive you are feeling, the fewer possibilities you see for creating success.

3. Increase your authenticity and your strength.
It’s very hard to figure out what you’re really good at. And by the time most of us figure out what we are good at we think it’s too late to change what we’re doing. So we just sort of pretend that we are doing what we are really good at.

4. Increase your positive choices and decisions
First of all, having more choices does not make us happier. In fact it makes the decision making process less positive because we spend too much time obsessing over what we should do. An example of this is that you don’t need 15 Chinese restaurants to choose from in order to have a nice night out eating Chinese food.

5. Increase positive habits.
If you do one positive thing in your life, there is spillover into other aspects of your life. In the big picture, this can explain why if you are living in poverty and you enter into a loving relationship you are likely to get out of poverty.

[Fat_Sunny]

Wherever i work i try to brun bridges as infrequently as possible because everyone knows someone eventually.

As much as i'd enjoy to make a scene and go, it's not classy and i have more respect for myself than that. I won't leave here until i find a better job or if it becomes worse i will give my two weeks and allow that to be it.

Grl, You Just Gave Yourself The Most Mature And Sensible Advice You Will Ever Get. A++ For Having Unbelievably Good Sense.

F_S Thinks There Are 10,000 Companies That Would LOVE To Have Someone Like You As An Employee.

[grlNIN]

Thanks Fat, I sincerely hope that's the case!

[J.Clints]

I to am thinking about quiting my job and becoming a stay at home dad or getting a part time job. My wife makes 3X what I do and the only Reason I work is for the insurance. I hate to leave I have been there 7 years but I think it may be time to move on. They are holding me back.

[Fat_Sunny]

I to am thinking about quiting my job and becoming a stay at home dad or getting a part time job. My wife makes 3X what I do and the only Reason I work is for the insurance. I hate to leave I have been there 7 years but I think it may be time to move on. They are holding me back.

Being A "Stay At Home Dad" Would Probably Not Be Considered "Moving On" By Most Men.

If You Don't Mind F_S Asking, Who Takes Care Of The Kids Now?

[J.Clints]

Being A "Stay At Home Dad" Would Probably Not Be Considered "Moving On" By Most Men.

If You Don't Mind F_S Asking, Who Takes Care Of The Kids Now?

During the day they stay with my mom. But my oldest son is home schooled so I would help more with that. I know Staying at home is not moving on but My job has hit a point of no return and I am ready for a new adventure.

[Fat_Sunny]

F_S Understands. Just Be Aware Before You Do It, That Your Wife May Treat You Differently Should You Choose To Stay Home. She Will Deny It Now, But If You Stay Home, Even With Her Agreement, She Will Treat You With Less Respect, And She Will Come To Resent That She Is The Sole Breadwinner, And That The Typical Roles Have Been Reversed. At Least That's What Dr. Laura Says, And Fat Thinks She's Probably Right.

[J.Clints]

F_S Understands. Just Be Aware Before You Do It, That Your Wife May Treat You Differently Should You Choose To Stay Home. She Will Deny It Now, But If You Stay Home, Even With Her Agreement, She Will Treat You With Less Respect, And She Will Come To Resent That She Is The Sole Breadwinner, And That The Typical Roles Have Been Reversed. At Least That's What Dr. Laura Says, And Fat Thinks She's Probably Right.

Even if I quit my job I have now I will still work. I want a job were I use my mind and not my muscle. I am tired of working my ass off and getting no respect. So I will be looking for a job were I think more than Lift, tug and pull. But rest assured I will still be working. But thank you very much for your Opinion and I will be taking that into concentration.

[sailor]

I know it sounds cliche but life is really too short to waste at a job you hate. Even if you make a lot less doing something you enjoy, it is really worth it.

I was making $29 an hour as a union carpenter but I was scared everyday on the job because I'm afraid of heights and it seemed to me that job slowly kills the guys who work it.

I'm making a little over half that an hour nowm but I really enjoy working with the people in the office and garage, the work isn't dangerous and most of the customers are very friendly and grateful for your help. I won't act like it's perfect, I have my shit days too, but over all this is a much better job. Just get paid much less.

But it's so worth it. Do not stay at a job you hate a second longer than it takes to find a replacement job.

but now you don't even have enough time to get decent sushi for lunch!

[Bulldogcakes]

I happened to call out yesterday due to serious allergies, i was zonked for the entire day and just slept through it from the medicine.

You too? I generally dont have allergies and my sinuses just exploded yesterday. I thought it was from pet dander, but I guess not. My car has had a layer of pollen dust on it for the past 2 or three days. I cleaned it off, and got another layer yesterday.

BTW-A far as the job goes, I'd say leave. Life's too short. But you'll always have someone you dont like wherever you work, so if you can find a way to deal with her, you might be better off and happier in the long run right where you are.

[lleeder]

. At Least That's What Dr. Laura Says, And Fat Thinks She's Probably Right.

Fat listens to Dr.Laura :lol:

[Fat_Sunny]

Fat listens to Dr.Laura :lol:

Yes He Does (Sometimes)! And Ron And Fez (Always). And Michael Savage. And Drudge On Sunday Night. And Opie And Anthony (When They Are Not Suspended).

All That Input Helps To Make Fat The Interesting Person That He Is!

[lleeder]

Yes He Does (Sometimes)! And Ron And Fez (Always). And Michael Savage. And Drudge On Sunday Night. And Opie And Anthony (When They Are Not Suspended).

All That Input Helps To Make Fat The Interesting Person That He Is!

Fat thinks he's interesting :lol:

[J.Clints]

Yes He Does (Sometimes)! And Ron And Fez (Always). And Michael Savage. And Drudge On Sunday Night. And Opie And Anthony (When They Are Not Suspended).

All That Input Helps To Make Fat The Interesting Person That He Is!

Fat is very Interesting

[Fat_Sunny]

Fat is very Interesting

Almost A "Case Study", In Fact!

[grlNIN]

So about a week ago i had an interview with a bank and got the job.

The good part is it will allow me to have a large chunk of the weekends off(finally) the bad part is im not leaving the job this thread originally bitched about instead the retail one i've had for a couple of years.

I would go into the backstory of that job but im afraid id bore you all to death.

Hopefully this job works out and we'll see where i can progress from here.

[undressa]

good luck!