Today I blew up a car...

[outlawfrank]

Today I was in a car accident. and a part of me is angry and another part is relieved. My sister and I were travelling 50 mph down a four lane road when a lady who had to be in her eighties pulled out 30 feet in front of us. I just slammed into her, everything in slow motion I saw the side of her car explode. I was driving a Yukon and she was driving some Buick. Waiting to turn on the road was another vehicle and the Buick I hit slammed into her car. God dammit I was angry inside but hid it from everyone. The police determined right there I was not at fault, but I keep saying to myself I could have avoided her. Four lanes headed south and there was only three cars including mine within a quarter mile, and I somehow managed to involve all three. When my truck was pulled away from her car her door was actually removed and now attached to my grill. Never seen anything like it. I am so damn mad at myself.

I am relieved that no one was hurt. Four people were involved and all of us walked away without serious bodily injury. My sister can't believe how calm I was. I had no idea what she was talking about. She said that there was no panic, as soon as I recognized the situation I said in a monotone voice. "Oh dear Lord, brace yourself." This quickly drew her attention and allowed her to immediatley prepare for the collision. I am so thankful she wasn't hurt that is something I would have forgiven myself for. I am filled with relief for the safety of all those involved, but I am pissed because i think I could have dodged it.

[Gvac]

I'm glad to hear that everyone involved was able to walk away with no injuries; that's truly amazing. The fact that you were able to warn your sister and brace yourself shows that you knew in an instant that you had no option but to hit the Buick.

To beat yourself up thinking you could have avoided it is senseless. If you could have, you would have.

Even if there was something else you could have done, there's no way to change the past. Count your blessings that everyone is safe and sound and try to put it behind you.

[PapaBear]

I can't say it any better than Gvac. Thank God you're all OK.

[outlawfrank]

I'm glad to hear that everyone involved was able to walk away with no injuries; that's truly amazing. The fact that you were able to warn your sister and brace yourself shows that you knew in an instant that you had no option but to hit the Buick.

To beat yourself up thinking you could have avoided it is senseless. If you could have, you would have.

Even if there was something else you could have done, there's no way to change the past. Count your blessings that everyone is safe and sound and try to put it behind you.

Thanks Gvac I know your right and I'm sure tomarrow I will be feeling much better. The accident happened only a few hours ago, still fresh in my mind.

Something else is bothering me about it and another reason I feel horrible. The old lady I hit, when I asked if their was anyone, any family I could call for her she just said "I have no one". That broke my heart. My sister and I were together, the other lady, her parents showed up for her but no one for this old lady. She was helpless and there was nothing I could do for her.

But were all alive, and no one injured. I am thankful for that.

[FUNKMAN]

Not much to say beyond what Gvac has already said. Be thankful and don't blame or beat yourself up. Sometimes an attempt to avoid an accident can lead to a worse ending like the policeman recently who swerved to avoid a deer and hit the trees and died.

[Fat_Sunny]

Something else is bothering me about it and another reason I feel horrible. The old lady I hit, when I asked if their was anyone, any family I could call for her she just said "I have no one". That broke my heart. My sister and I were together, the other lady, her parents showed up for her but no one for this old lady. She was helpless and there was nothing I could do for her.

Those Five Sentences Speak Volumes About Your Character. You Are A Really Great Guy.

[Friday]

Seriously... be so thankful for everyone that walked away from this.
It could have been so much worse!

If you have those feelings about the old lady being all alone.. They may be for a reason.
Look her up or get her address from the police report. Go pay a visit.
It couldn't hurt, right?
You do seem to be genuinely concerned... and being alone is a sad place to be. Even if you are ok with it.
I am positive.... if you were to just go by to see how she is... that her life will be touched.

Take a risk...

[Don Stugots]

I am glad you and everyone else is ok.

[Fat_Sunny]

If you have those feelings about the old lady being all alone.. They may be for a reason.
Look her up or get her address from the police report. Go pay a visit.
It couldn't hurt, right?
You do seem to be genuinely concerned... and being alone is a sad place to be. Even if you are ok with it.
I am positive.... if you were to just go by to see how she is... that her life will be touched.

Take a risk...

Outstanding Thought!

[Nothing Sound]

The old cunt should have died.
Now she'll just be back on the road risking other peoples lives.

[Justice4all]

I am glad everyone is ok and no one was seriously hurt.
You just have to feel bad for the old woman, if she had no one to call.
Then again, maybe all of her kids lived out of state and could not just show up to the accident site.

But no injuries? Thank god for small miracles.

[lleeder]

Good to hear everyone was ok. Its weird how right before impact everything slows down and you know your gonna hit something. I was spun into traffic a few years ago and I was just waiting to be hit a few more times. There was that pause when you can think, "Ok I can't do anything and have to just wait for this to stop". Its like a helpless yet strangely comforting feeling.

[weezcase]

glad you are ok buddy, but don't beat yourself up too bad, if you had made a last minute swerve to avoid the old lady, goin 50 you probably would have flipped your truck and might have hurt your sister or yourself even more, sometimes the best course of action is to just slam on the brake so if you do hit the obstacle you will be going slower and may stop in time, you did the right thing bro good job

[sr71blackbird]

Man, that sucks, but at least everyones ok (physically). I think what Friday suggested is a nice idea, just to see if she is ok. It may help getting rid of any lingering guilt you might feel. I was in an accident 20 years ago, and like you, kept seeing it in slow moion over and over again, especially at night. I also felt that I might have been able to avoid it "if only" I had done this or that. But I found that the "if only" way of thinking is a torture to yourself. I now understand that it wont change anything and to focus my attention on the here and now, and youll be better. Good luck!

[DonInNC]

I think feeling guilty is normal. I've been involved in two accidents were I was 100% absolutely not at fault, didn't even see it coming. Still, for days I had this nagging feeling that if I had taken a different route like I usually did, or if I had left earlier like I had wanted to, then the whole thing wouldn't have happened. Hang in there, glad to hear everyone is okay.

[ScottFromGA]

Today I was in a car accident. and a part of me is angry and another part is relieved. My sister and I were travelling 50 mph down a four lane road when a lady who had to be in her eighties pulled out 30 feet in front of us. I just slammed into her, everything in slow motion I saw the side of her car explode. I was driving a Yukon and she was driving some Buick. Waiting to turn on the road was another vehicle and the Buick I hit slammed into her car. God dammit I was angry inside but hid it from everyone. The police determined right there I was not at fault, but I keep saying to myself I could have avoided her. Four lanes headed south and there was only three cars including mine within a quarter mile, and I somehow managed to involve all three. When my truck was pulled away from her car her door was actually removed and now attached to my grill. Never seen anything like it. I am so damn mad at myself.

I am relieved that no one was hurt. Four people were involved and all of us walked away without serious bodily injury. My sister can't believe how calm I was. I had no idea what she was talking about. She said that there was no panic, as soon as I recognized the situation I said in a monotone voice. "Oh dear Lord, brace yourself." This quickly drew her attention and allowed her to immediatley prepare for the collision. I am so thankful she wasn't hurt that is something I would have forgiven myself for. I am filled with relief for the safety of all those involved, but I am pissed because i think I could have dodged it.


its the oddest thing, My brother, a friend and I were coming back from Orlando about 3 years ago from a Monsters of the Midday concert. We were about an hour from the house and it had been raining all day on the trip back. This gray Ford Mustang kept riding beside us......I commented on how he should back off cause of the conditions of the road. We rode beside one another for 2 hours it seemed when out of the blue, he hydroplaned and slammed into our right rear, sending us head on into a concrete barrier at about 85+mph. It hurt....really bad. Threw my fatass all over the backseat, my brother and our friend went into the dash with blown airbags.....All four corners of the car were sandwiched in.

the wierd part of it was, right when the car was coming at us....someone said "Hold on, here he comes." It was in the most calm, monotone voice that I've ever heard. I asked who said it? They both claimed that they said nothing....and I dont remember saying it.

it creeps me out just to think about it.

[Leticia]

Craziness.

I'm glad you guys are ok.

[Tenbatsuzen]

She said that there was no panic, as soon as I recognized the situation I said in a monotone voice. "Oh dear Lord, brace yourself." This quickly drew her attention and allowed her to immediatley prepare for the collision. I am so thankful she wasn't hurt that is something I would have forgiven myself for. I am filled with relief for the safety of all those involved, but I am pissed because i think I could have dodged it.

I was the same way when I flipped my truck. I just remember saying "Oh, this can't be good." when the truck rolled. I had some flashbacks of the accident, but I was laughing about it when I was talking to the insurance agent because I couldn't believe I was OK.

Glad to hear everyone is OK.

[Keotok]

I did the calm-voice-thing in my accident too. I grabbed my boyfriends arm, and just said "We're gonna crash." A full size van decided not to wait for me to pass to turn into his driveway. I tried to avoid him by going onto the shoulder. Impact was so hard that it took off the entire front end of my car, and his engine just fell where he stood. Later, the insurance agent told me that I would have likely walked away from the crash if I had not avoided him, and just plowed into the side of the van. I always thought she was nuts, but I've seen many car wrecks now to know that she was probably right. In any case, I am very glad that you all made it out OK, with nothing more than 3 badly damaged vehicles, and 4 people with badly shaken nerves...

[PapaBear]

I just remembered one of those "no panic" moments. I was sitting with two other guys in the back seat of a Ford Festiva (really crowded). We came up on a 90 degree turn, and some 1970's Camaro or something like that was in our lane. Our driver swerved to the left lane. I watched in slow motion, as the Camaro headed right for the right rear, where I was sitting. I just stared at it. I kept my eyes on it all the way to where it hit about even with my torso. My head knocked the little flip out window out, and I was able to keep my eyes on the top of the Camaro hood, as my head slammed down on it.