My girlfriend just broke up with me

[foodcourtdruide]

And I feel like an awful person...

I'm not looking for sympathy, but just a place to vent and hear some opinions and get some insight.

We had three major problems, and everytime I confronted her with any of them she took it as a personal attack and instead of reasoning with me her response would be "OK I WONT DO IT ANYMORE". Our three problems were:

1. She had anger issues. I'm a very laid back guy and I don't scream or yell at anyone. However, on more than one occassion she's totally flipped out on me. She also was constantly in a bad mood over things that had nothing to do with me.

2. We didn't have sex. It's well chronicled on this board that I had suspected her of cheating, and our sex life didn't exist. She was not romantic nor did she have any intentions of romance with me. To put it simply, we did not have sex. In the last ten months we had sex about 5 times.

3. This was the final thing that drove her to break up with me. She always acted babyish, literally like a baby. When we were first dating and for the first few months it was only every now and then, but recently it's most of the time. I would say 65% of the time she was in baby mode. I bought up to her that I thought this was becoming a problem because I was starting to feel like her father and not her boyfriend and she took it extremely personally. This is what drove her to break up with me. She feels that because of these 3 issues I have with her I hate the person she is. I told her it's not true, but she said she has no choice because I am unhappy.

I feel awful because I wish I could have just accepted the person she was and not had problems with her. She really is a good person and just needs some help sometimes.

Thank god I have Ron and Fez to distract me. I really hope they know how many lives they've saved over the years.

[Dougie Brootal]

"thoughts and prayers bro, thoughts and prayers."
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[dereckfishboy]

Sounds like you're better off, my friend.... I could say "I'm sorry to hear that" but that'd be dishonest, so instead I'll say "Congradulations"...... the next one will make you happier, bro!

I hope the heartache isn't too much for you in the meantime, God bless........

[Death Metal Moe]

It does indeed sound like you're better off but logic never made a heart feel better.

[Dougie Brootal]

It does indeed sound like you're better off but logic never made a heart feel better.

QFT!


deep, man.

[patsopinion]

2. We didn't have sex. It's well chronicled on this board that I had suspected her of cheating, and our sex life didn't exist. She was not romantic nor did she have any intentions of romance with me. To put it simply, we did not have sex. In the last ten months we had sex about 5 times.

Thank god I have Ron and Fez to distract me. I really hope they know how many lives they've saved over the years.

insert witty office space refrence here


ron and fez have kept me sane on a number of occasions.
That and the board

Well not SANE so much as still functioning

[foodcourtdruide]

insert witty office space refrence here


ron and fez have kept me sane on a number of occasions.
That and the board

Well not SANE so much as still functioning

Yes! This board has helped me as well. I'd like to thank JustJon and Saint Mikey Boy of the internet.

[MadMatt]

I know this is tough for you now, but I think you will be better in the long run. She may be a good person, but it doesn't sound like you were too compatible. And DMM is right; the words don't help you feel too much better right now.

However, don't think of it as "you couldn't accept her" because it sounds like you were trying very hard to work through things. It sounds more like she can't accept herself and has issues to work out - something that is completely beyond your control or input.

Hang in there Budday - you have people you can "talk to" here if you need to vent or are feeling blue.

[Don Stugots]

"thoughts and prayers bro, thoughts and prayers."
http://a144.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/01293/34/17/1293437143_l.jpg

what am i supposed to say now? you took my tag line and my face! might as well make it a sigpic for yourself saying "isnt he dreamy?"

Foodcourt, in time, you will look back at this day as the best day of your life. good riddance to bad trash.

MOE, deep, very deep.

STAY STRONG!

[Fezticle98]

Blessing in disguise, my friend. Blessing in disguise.

I can't believe with all those things you listed that you didn't break up with her, first. Not that I can really talk about that. I'm terrible with breakups.

I won't say that there are non-crazy women out there, but certainly less crazy ones.

[spoon]

No matter what, it's never easy to just end a relationship bc even the worst ones have had good times. Yet, in theory only one will be the one that lasts and in order to truly grow we not only need to find the right match, but ourselves in the process. You'll grow from this and move on in time. Until then lean on the board bc we've got your back. Except Stu, he's a shifty paison!

[Ritalin]

Look, in a short time, you'll be way past it.

It's just time.

[foodcourtdruide]

Thank you everyone! Your kind words and great insight are helping so much. Maybe I'll call the show tomorrow, so I can be the new "Rage"! I don't have a nickname though.. well other than foodcourtdruide :)

[AngelAmy]

"thoughts and prayers bro, thoughts and prayers."
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ok thanks a lot, now i seriously cant concentrate at work

and there is a puddle of drool all over my desk.


just comes to show i cant come to this board from work anymore

[IamPixie]

seems to happening alot today.

[spoon]

ok thanks a lot, now i seriously cant concentrate at work

and there is a puddle of drool all over my desk.


just comes to show i cant come to this board from work anymore

Are you saying that Stu is sedating? Damn ambien stu, stop making amy drool!

[Leticia]

Danm.. well you definitely are better off. There's nothing worse than someone you can't communicate with... and takes everything to heart to the point where nothing is ever resolved.

[King Hippos Bandaid]

Women, Cant live with Em

End Quote

:king:

[AngelAmy]

Women, Cant live with Em

End Quote

:king:

DHL Amy told me to tell you that she's through with you after that statement

[FUNKMAN]

if you suspect her of cheating(whether she's cheating or not) then that in itself is a horrible thing to live with. taking a break sounds like the best thing. time apart will give you guys a chance to realize what you had or didn't have...

[Bulldogcakes]

seems to happening alot today.

Line forms to the right, fellas.

[King Hippos Bandaid]

DHL Amy told me to tell you that she's through with you after that statement


Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

Not DHL Amy

Women (Besides DHL Amy) Cant Live with em, End Quote

:king:

[Chainsaw]

sorry to hear the news....

1. it sounds like both of you were making a relationship go that really shouldn't have been going (I've been there and it sucks)

2. it also sounds like you are the more mature and nicer one out of the two...the next person you date will be more appreciative of it and you'll be immensely happier

3. I'm guessing the only reason you feel bad is just that you're a nice guy. Don't let your feelings of 'guilt' drag you back into the relationship....RUN! you got off easy...let her break up with you and you look like the good guy...

all the best-

[Bulldogcakes]

I feel awful because I wish I could have just accepted the person she was and not had problems with her. She really is a good person and just needs some help sometimes.

Thank god I have Ron and Fez to distract me. I really hope they know how many lives they've saved over the years.

Dude, I'll agree with just about everyone else here and say it sounds like it was for the best. I don't know about you, but getting out of a difficult relationship for me would be depressing and/or hurt for a day or two, and then be totally liberating and I'd feel great after that. Like a huge burden is lifted off your shoulders. That feeling alone tells me it wasn't right all along.

BTW-Something tells me she doesn't want to be "helped" as you put it.

[Fat_Sunny]

ok thanks a lot, now i seriously cant concentrate at work

and there is a puddle of drool all over my desk.



Well, It Was To Be Expected. That Was A Very Fetching Photo!

[foodcourtdruide]

Again, thanks everyone. I probably made myself look like the good guy because people tend to do that. But there were parts of the relationship that were very difficult and that I will not miss. She has a very good heart though and I wish her all the best because she deserves it. I tend to agree with BullDog when he said that my notion that she needed was completely incorrect.

Thanks again everyone.

[high fly]

high fly slaps foodcourtdruide on the rump

Awright man! get back in the game and go out there and get you some pussy!

[foodcourtdruide]

high fly slaps foodcourtdruide on the rump

Awright man! get back in the game and go out there and get you some pussy!

I'm a little nervous about that..

"Is it true that if you don't use it.. you lose it?"

[IamPixie]

I wish I was dead

[Marc with a c]

I wish I was dead

huh?

[high fly]

There are women out there RIGHT NOW who are looking for someone like you.

Don't talk about this past affair.
Don't complain about things in general.
Relax and let things flow.
Do good things in your life - when you give you will receive - it is the way of nature.
It will also give you positive things to think and talk about with women you meet.
That cliche about it being better to have loved and lost is better than not to have lovd at all is true.
You will have other affairs that go down the tubes.
So what?
That's life.
Get off the bench and into the game.

Think about things.
No, really think about them. Think about how you would explain or teach about current events or pop culture in a letter to someone outside of this country who has no idea. This will help you organize your thoughts and not get into conversational dead ends.
Identify your strengths and build on them.
Identify your weaknesses and work on them privately, but around others find ways to avoid them coming up.

[foodcourtdruide]

There are women out there RIGHT NOW who are looking for someone like you.

Don't talk about this past affair.
Don't complain about things in general.
Relax and let things flow.
Do good things in your life - when you give you will receive - it is the way of nature.
It will also give you positive things to think and talk about with women you meet.
That cliche about it being better to have loved and lost is better than not to have lovd at all is true.
You will have other affairs that go down the tubes.
So what?
That's life.
Get off the bench and into the game.

Think about things.
No, really think about them. Think about how you would explain or teach about current events or pop culture in a letter to someone outside of this country who has no idea. This will help you organize your thoughts and not get into conversational dead ends.
Identify your strengths and build on them.
Identify your weaknesses and work on them privately, but around others find ways to avoid them coming up.

Those are cool words man, but I'm honestly not even looking for a chick or thinking about chicks. Bill Burr has this hilarious bit about breaking up with a girl and suddenly having a lot of free time. I think right now I'd be more interested in learning how to make a good lasagna then going on a date. lol.

[midwestjeff]

Step One. Fuck jelly and have a dog lick your balls.
Step Two. Talk about it openly on the greatest radio show ever while you shove baked goods up your ass.
Step Three. Marry a hot chic on said radio show.


So far, 100 percent success rate.

[high fly]

Those are cool words man, but I'm honestly not even looking for a chick or thinking about chicks. Bill Burr has this hilarious bit about breaking up with a girl and suddenly having a lot of free time. I think right now I'd be more interested in learning how to make a good lasagna then going on a date. lol.

You don't have to go on dates.
Just get out there around women.
Find one who cooks well and ask her to show you what she does. All you gotta do then is watch and learn.
No strain, no pain.
Learning to cook better is huge.
Take a cooking class.
Being into something like that, having a passion for it, is attractive to women.
It will boost your confidence, but get out of the house and circulate!
Moping around can turn into a habit that can last for years.
Take it from a grizzled vet - I've seen it happen.
And when it does, the regret brings on a motherfucker of a depression.

You keep doing the same thing, you'll get the same results.
And while you're feeling sorry for yourself and making excuses for not doing anything, the girl for you will get tired of waiting for someone like you to come along and start banging some neanderthal.

Look, it's like quitting cigarettes.
The longer you wait to do what you know you must do, the tougher it is.

Get control of your life and start doing things you will look back on and be glad you did.
10 years from now you think you'll be glad you found excuse after excuse to sit around watching tv programs you don't like all summer when you coulda been doing something productive, including getting laid?
If you need help, be honest with yourself and get it.

I have a close friend who will only go out with women who are great looking.
He's had a few, but hasn't been laid in 5 years.
He cuts his own throat that way.

[jennysmurf]

in my opinion, we should form relationships based on how happy they make us. this is not always how it works, but in a perfect world, we'd only be surrounded by people who make us happy. i hope you find someone who makes you happy. no relationship should take that much work, and make you feel so bad. good luck, my friend.

[MadBiker]

Those are cool words man, but I'm honestly not even looking for a chick or thinking about chicks. Bill Burr has this hilarious bit about breaking up with a girl and suddenly having a lot of free time. I think right now I'd be more interested in learning how to make a good lasagna then going on a date. lol.

and you should definitely give yourself that time. Do a ton of old things, new things, and different things. Don't worry about getting new pussy unless you want to. When you have tons of time, fill it with things you may never get a chance to try again, or never had time to try before. And before you know it, someone wonderful will pop into your life.

I truly believe this, since it happened to me.

best of luck and go out and try it all - pottery, cooking, jumping out of an airplane or learning to surf, or taking 3 months to travel through Latin America if you want!