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JimBeam
07-07-2007, 01:09 PM
OK so just a little background on what my fiance and I are doing.

We're having an outdoor wedding so we didn't want to have tuxedos so we decide to do a blue blazer and khaki pants thing.

So we went to J Crew and got everything arranged so that my groomsmen that are out of town could get everything for the same price that I paid. ( Actually J Crew has a wedding division that helped with this but the guy who worked in the Danbury CT outlet has gone well above and beyond what we could've expected of him as he's been updating us on when if everybody had gotten their stuff ).

In total the blazer was $149 and the pants were $59.
That's $208 bucks for the get-up ( we're providing the ties ).
We didn't think that was too much to ask seeing as you'd probably pay almost that for a tuxedo rental but at least in this scenario you get to keep the stuff.

Well some of my groomsmen are a little heavier than others and J Crew only made the blazer in a size as big as 48L.

That wasn't a problem as they told me they could have them custom made ( originally for a higher price but then they arranged for me to get those @ $149 as well ).

So my last update I was tol about what friends haven't and have gotten their stuff take care of and I followed up with them.

I was under the impression that everything was taken care of but now I get a call and an email from my contact at the store that 2 of my friends havent paid for and/or ordedered their stuff.

The custom jacet takes 6 weeks and we're 7 weeks today from the wedding.

This is very frustrating and annoying as they had both told me they squared it all away.

I think they are both claiming money issues but that's not the problem.

Being they are close friends I don't want to get into an issue but I need them to get their act together.

It would be easy for me to say I'd pay for it and make them pay me back but I don't want to do that because I didn't do that for anybody else.

I'm pissed to the point where I want to just say OK you're not in the wedding party but again they are very good friends and I don't want any lomg term damage.

It's made worse by the fact that my fiance's mom is paying for EVERYTHING and all she asked of my fiance and I is to make sure everybody was in the right outfit.

Like I need this crap at this time !!

Tenbatsuzen
07-07-2007, 01:24 PM
In fairness, you're asking your groomsmen to pay out more than what a tux rental would cost, and some of the larger tux rental places have more casual options than the full three-piece get-up.

I understand you wanted some less formal and more unique for the wedding, but you also have to take into consideration the size and shapes of people who are in the wedding party.

7 weeks out, you still have the opportunity to investigate what's going on for rentals. You also can see If a local big and tall place can help out in getting the Jackets they need.

They may not be J-crew, but as long as the color is accurate, you won't have any problems.

sailor
07-07-2007, 01:27 PM
people suck. is there any chance that your friends are squared away and your contact just got his info wrong (easy since he's dealing with other stores out of town).

good luck with all of that and congratulations!

JimBeam
07-07-2007, 01:27 PM
Yeah we figured that if the sizes were too small we would do that but then we made arrangements to accomodate.

I'm pissed because I know both of them have no problem going out and spending that money elsewhere.

I have guys in it that are married and have kids and they were able to put away $209 bucks.

What makes it worse is that they both lead me to believe that it had been resolved.

topless_mike
07-09-2007, 12:52 PM
dood.
front the money, and order the stuff.
the next 7 weeks will be absolute hell, payments due, final approval on everything.
your wifey will be under lots of stress.
the last thing she needs to worry about is your boys and their act.

take control, front the money, get past the wedding, then settle up.


trust me... i've been through this before.

angrymissy
07-09-2007, 01:09 PM
dood.
front the money, and order the stuff.
the next 7 weeks will be absolute hell, payments due, final approval on everything.
your wifey will be under lots of stress.
the last thing she needs to worry about is your boys and their act.

take control, front the money, get past the wedding, then settle up.


trust me... i've been through this before.

Definitely. It sucks, but it will relieve so much stress if you just pay the amount due for those custom jackets and make them settle up.

thejives
07-09-2007, 03:19 PM
If you front that money ... you will never see it again. Still, you kinda have to, since you want to have the Love Boat theme wedding.

Ah weddings. They suck so very much. I paid for hotel rooms for my boys. Never saw it again. They figure their present covered it, I guess.

Just wait till they get married ...

Ritalin
07-09-2007, 03:34 PM
No, seriously, Topless is one hundred percent right. There's going to be enough stuff going on, and you want to seal up as many things as you can.

I'd kind of shame the deadbeats a little by making a call. "Hey, the J Crew guy called me asking where you've been. I could pick that thing up for you if you need me to."

They'll get the hint.

Don't forget to have fun