Unhealthy Relationships: Yay or Nay

[LiddyRules]

We know a number of us here like crazy chicks but I want to pose this question about relationships with crazy chicks.

Are unhealthy relationships worth it? I'm talking about with two "off" parties. Two people who wouldn't fit into a "normal" relationship.

I am talking about a relationship between two people that is simultaneously good for them but also preys on/enables the other's weaknesses, insecurities and neuroses, not in a manipulative way but it is just how the two personalities connect, like a jigsaw puzzle.

And I do not mean a violent, abusive relationship when I mean unhealthy.

So are "unhealthy" relationships worth it or is it "better" to not be in a relationship at all?

[Sheeplovr]

does she call you gay alot and yell at you and call you stupid
i know how that is

[Fezticle98]

Unhealthy would imply that it is bad for you, a negative. Therefore, it would be better to be alone than in an unhealthy relationship. I don't understand people that always have to be in a relationship, whether it is a good one or not.

[MadBiker]

I am talking about a relationship between two people that is simultaneously good for them but also preys on/enables the other's weaknesses, insecurities and neuroses, not in a manipulative way but it is just how the two personalities connect, like a jigsaw puzzle.

So are "unhealthy" relationships worth it or is it "better" to not be in a relationship at all?

Preying on one another's neuroses and enabling weakness is one way to define manipulation, and that is never healthy.

Do you really mean "unhealthy" relationships or just relationships between quirky people? There is a huge difference between too goofballs who get together and enjoy giving each other wet-willies and swimming naked under waterfalls, and two people who mutually and deliberately engage in behavior that causes emotional distress for their own satisfaction.

[StupidGirlllll]

Crazy relationships usually consist of the best sex, thats why they put up with the craziness..

[King Hippos Bandaid]

Crazy relationships usually consist of the best sex, thats why they put up with the craziness..


agreed

Crazy Chick + Great Sex= Salvageable Relationship

Crazy Chick + Ok Sex = No Relationship

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[MadBiker]

agreed

Crazy Chick + Great Sex= Salvageable Relationship

Crazy Chick + Ok Sex = No Relationship

:king:

what if you're a normal girl who likes to have crazy sex?

[foodcourtdruide]

Everytime I've ever been in a relationship that is with a really good person that caters to me and loves me and appreciates me for who I am I run like hell.

For some reason I need that crazy chick that could throw all my stuff out a window on any random day.

[envirogator]

for long-term health I think that an occasional 'un-healthy' relationship is beneficial. Anytime you can look back and really remember how you felt with the crazy person, what they did to make them crazy can be good. I was married for 15 yrs, divorced and dated all sorts of crazies (young, hot, and all sorts of problems) for a few years and realized that was not what I wanted. Met my current chick (beautiful, smart and NORMAL) and have been married for four years. Great relationship because no matter how she acts or I act I know how bad or crazy it COULD be.

Just my nickels worth of free advice....

[suggums]

take your roommates into consideration if you're gonna do this. i had one roomie go back and forth with this one girl for over a year. half of us in the house hated her and half us got along with her, and she just played everyone off each other for months. constant loud fights in the place, thrown objects, occasional nonstop doorbell ringing and threats to key cars or call cops, so on and so forth until she basically got banned from the house. thank fucking god she just moved to california this past monday!

[grlNIN]

I have never had a crazy boyfriend. They are not attractive or alluring.

All bitches are crazy though.

[LiddyRules]

I didn't mean preying, I meant playing, like just how your personality and hers fits. It sort of enables those negative aspects but at the same time strengthens the person and their strengths as a whole.

And I wasn't asking for myself, just posing a question.

[MellySmelly]

My life has been one unhealthy relationship after the other, I need to go live in the woods alone.

[patsopinion]

My life has been one unhealthy relationship after the other, I need to go live in the woods alone.

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Is there anyother kind

of course yay! Its something fun to do as long as you keep a smile about everything and dont take it to seriously.
becomes unhealty when u care about crazy ppl
know you cant fix them and remember to enjoy it
and rail the shit out of said person
and dont take shit from them. Crazy will drag you down every chance they get; buffer yourself by keeping as many outsiders as possible around.

[DarkHippie]

what if you're a normal girl who likes to have crazy sex?

Percival never reaches the Holy Grail

[ChimneyFish]

I don't know what to vote, but right now I'm praying that unhealthy relationships can actually work once in awhile.

I am in hell, and I'm slowly losing my mind.
I'm back with a girl after not hearing from her in 3+ years.
We went from not seeing each other, to head over heels in love again.
We're both binge drinking alcoholics.(up until last week, I haven't been drinking during the week for awhile now)
She believes she's incapable of having a normal relationship.
I have such anxiety when I know she's coming over, that yesterday I just started to drink, because the uneasiness inside of me was so intense.
She's supposed to come over tonight. Neither of us are planing on drinking.
I really think if I go back on the medication I was on, I can get the anxiety under control.
I just really fucked this thing up the first time around, and since seeing her again, all these feelings have rushed back in and I feel like the only thing I want is to make her happy.
I'm thinking it sounds worse then it actually is.


So, I guess...."yay"?!?!:flush:

[high fly]

We know a number of us here like crazy chicks but I want to pose this question about relationships with crazy chicks.

Are unhealthy relationships worth it?

Depends on whether you get out in time.
The trick is to stay in long enough to get a few good stories, but not so long that you end up impaled by a floor lamp...

[Crispy123]

Im probably in one now. What the fuck can you do??? She is hot and we try to make things work. Its difficult but this is the only life we know so just enjoy it while you can.

[FUNKMAN]

depends on what the level of 'unhealthy' is. to disrespect and judge each other would be no good! if someone just has some kookie habits but doesn't hurt themselves or anyone else then why not?

we all need,, someone,,, we can lean dream feed and bleed on...

[keithy_19]

They're bad. An unhealthy relationship will nine times out of ten lead to unhealthy activities to deal with the unhealthy situation.

[buzzard]

I am wil king of the crazy relationships...I must've banged my way through that at some point cuz now I realize that it's always something;
cars,houses,sex,broads,sheep,cats,dogs,politics,dr ugs,sobriety..etc...what it comes down to for me anyway,is that you can't have anything,everything,nothing without experiance and maturity and the depth to know the difference via learning from your mistakes

[envirogator]

Well put Buzzard, well put...

[Cleophus James]

what ever makes you happy and feels right.

[Dougie Brootal]

im still debating.

[Terry-Two]

what if you're a normal girl who likes to have crazy sex?

Then I would ask you what you are doing tomorrow night?

[ralphbxny]

what if you're a normal girl who likes to have crazy sex?

Sup baby! How you doin!


I have not had this yet. Usually the normal girls I date the sex gets old quick and the crazy girls you do all sorts of crazy crap so its worth it just to see what happens next. I say its worth it just to learn about what you want and dont want out of a relationship.