Parents HATE me

[CYYYFYYY]

I do not know what it is about me but when I meet a girls parents, they HATE me. Well, not so much the mothers but the fathers. I still talk to one of my ex's. We are great friends. She is very serious about this one guy. I have no ill will. Not jealous. Yes of course I get jealous once in a blue moon but nothing I can;t handle. However the way her father loves this guy gets me sick. I was nothing nice to this man and he basically ignored me all the time. I just figured he just did not like her BF's but all I hear about from my ex is how her dad loves him and this and that. I don't want her thinking that I am jealous and what not but I can;t take her father talk. It really gets me sick to my stomach. I am a nice guy. I just wish I could talk to someone about this now but there is no one at this moment. No one really understands anyway. he is not the first father to hate me however the way he loves this guy... UGHHH

[MadBiker]

I do not know what it is about me but when I meet a girls parents, they HATE me. Well, not so much the mothers but the fathers. I still talk to one of my ex's. We are great friends. She is very serious about this one guy. I have no ill will. Not jealous. Yes of course I get jealous once in a blue moon but nothing I can;t handle. However the way her father loves this guy gets me sick. I was nothing nice to this man and he basically ignored me all the time. I just figured he just did not like her BF's but all I hear about from my ex is how her dad loves him and this and that. I don't want her thinking that I am jealous and what not but I can;t take her father talk. It really gets me sick to my stomach. I am a nice guy. I just wish I could talk to someone about this now but there is no one at this moment. No one really understands anyway. he is not the first father to hate me however the way he loves this guy... UGHHH

Parents, and fathers especially, are quick to judge what is better for their kids when it comes to potential mates. My dad was never outright rude to my boyfriends, but he was never particularly welcoming either. He would find the littlest things to point out why this guy was no good for me. He was just being protective of his little girl. He really likes my current boyfriend, just about the only guy he ever has liked. I think Dad must have a sixth sense, he finally likes one and it turns out to be the guy I'm going to marry.

Do you smoke? Have a job? Drive too fast or ride a motorcycle? Have tatoos all over or lots of facial piercings, an extreme haircut or wear makeup like a goth? How about college? Parents look beyond what makes their daughters happy with a date-mate in the here-and-now, and try to see the long-term potential of a boyfriend as a husband...weird, but true. Perhaps you have not yet measured up to any parents' expectations of what is best for their daughter. How old are you? If you are still in HS you have a world of changes to experience in appearance, demeanor, and the kinds of girls you date and the way their parents percieve you.

[CYYYFYYY]

Do you smoke? NOPE

Have a job? Yes

Drive too fast or ride a motorcycle? Don't drive. Live in the City

Have tatoos all over or lots of facial piercings, an extreme haircut or wear makeup like a goth? No Tats, No piercings, simple haircut, no makeup, no goth

How about college? Yes

I am not HS stupid. We are both age that marriage is normal

[StupidGirlllll]

Did you ever ask her why he didn't like you? Or maybe ask him. Some people think that they are a good judge of charecter. Maybe her dad did not like your charecter..All people are not meant to get along.

[Kris10]

My father didn't like anyone I ever dated but that didn't stop me. Why is it so important to you?? I married my husband regardless of what anyone thought.

[CYYYFYYY]

I once lost a relationship because the father did not like me

Not this one.... However when the father does not like you it does not help things. I can;t ask him now. To late for that. Besides he would just say he ahd no problem,. It would look to my ex that I wanted ehr back which I don't. Just tired of it all

[bigredd]

Maybe you're just a dick. Kidding. I always felt like the dads didn't like me either but now that I know some of them later in life I feel like they do. Dads are weird; the first thing they pick up on that they don't like they'll hold against you until you somehoe prove them wrong. I'm not saying you have to stand outside her place with a boom box over your head blaring Pete Gabriel but its sometimes the lil things that get the dad on your side. Keep trying; I've always heard chicks are looking to marry someone whoe AT LEAST remind them of their dads.

[Reynolds]

Why don't you like the present guy she's with? I think a big part of what a father wants to see his daughter with, is someone that can protect her. Maybe you trying to be a nice guy makes you come across as a pansy? Not saying you are, sometimes kindness is taken as weakness.

[zathrus]

Don't worry about parents not liking you. My father still doesn't really like Furie and we've been together for 11 years (married for 4). My mother & step-father like him (as long as he's good to me & lil furie)

[midwestjeff]

I think the Fresh Prince said it best.....

You know, parents are the same, no matter time nor place
They don't understand that us kids are gonna make some mistakes
So tell you other kids all across the land
There's no need to argue, parents just don't understand

[CYYYFYYY]

Heck my father does not like me
You may be right about the panzy thing
A different father did not like me because I told him I was not much of a drinker. I always thought that was a good thing.
This guy I have no idea. I actually helped him several times. I would go into it but that is his business. he had no problems having my GF ask me to do favors for him. However he never chose to talk to me.
Why don;t I like this guy. Because he is a big fake. I believe he will treat her well so I am not against the relationship. He is just boring and as I said a fake when it comes towards other people. He wines alot. When he gets hungry he moans and groans. When he is sick which is quite often he moans. However he treats her well so no big issue with him

[buzzard]

My Mom never cared for me and I still think about it...she's been dead for 15 years:surrender:

[Tenbatsuzen]

This thread sounds strangely familiar.

As Zathrus already said, you're dating the girl, not the father. Don't obsess over it. If the parents don't like you and will interfere in the relationship enough to break you guys apart, then it really isn't worth it.

My wife's brother doesn't like me. It bothered me for a bit; not so much anymore.

[ralphbxny]

This thread sounds strangely familiar.

As Zathrus already said, you're dating the girl, not the father. Don't obsess over it. If the parents don't like you and will interfere in the relationship enough to break you guys apart, then it really isn't worth it.

My wife's brother doesn't like me. It bothered me for a bit; not so much anymore.

Agreed. No dad who loves his daughter is going to like any guy under 25 cause he remembers what it was to be 25 and horny!