How do you cope?

[spankyfrank]

My mother for the past six months has been battling cancer going through chemo and what not. I found out tonight the truth about my mother's condition which I didn't know about. Basically she has an advanced case of lung cancer and that she really only has about a year or so to live. I know losing your parents is a part of life but Im 21 on dialysis looking for a kidney donor trying to find my way in the world. How do you cope under such conditions?

[SHANEFROMGA]

my mother past away in sep. of last year she had been battling lung cancer, it spread to her brain and a few months later she was gone. she had withheld a lot of the details of how bad things were from me, my brother and even my dad. she told more of how things were going to other people and told them not ot tell us... she was trying not to worry us.
i'm 29 years old and i'm a mommas boy, i say that with no regrets or misgivings.
its hard to cope with her loss. i tell myself that i'm glad that she is not suffering anymore, but i miss her so much it hurts. i feel for you man. all i can say is spend as much time you can with her before its to late. i regret not being there more now, but what can you do?
it's part of life true... but it sucks.

[cougarjake13]

you some might call me cold but i just try not to think about it

my mom was in the same situation, lung cancer, went through chemo, it went away for a lil,thought we were in the clear and eventually came back and spread everywhere

all told it was about a year and a few months from diagnosis to death

i miss her terribly but i try not to let it pervade my thoughts or else i'd be incapable of going thru life, i guess you can say i havent really dealt with it yet and it was 4 years ago

[PapaBear]

It's easy to suggest talking to a therapist, but considering the fact that you have your own health problems, I REALLY think you should talk to someone. There is nothing that's going to take away the pain of losing your mother, but you need to make sure the stress doesn't make your kidney situation worse. I'm sorry to hear about your mom, and I wish you the best of luck with your kidney.