The guy after "the guy"....

[Chainsaw]

FUCK...FUCK FUCK FUCK!

I meet this amazing girl...we go out have a good time, some things happen...and then tonight it's the "it's only been a month since I broke up with my bf of 3 years and I don't know how I'm feeling" talk....

She asked me if it would be okay if she still called me, but I just said that I'd rather not be in the situation of having every fucking thing I do compared to him....I'm not going to be her batting practice for when she gets back in the game....

FUCK!!!!!!!

[midwestjeff]

You got head first right? Please tell me you got head first.

[PapaBear]

How do you know it will be bad if she compares you to him? She could do that, then realise you're way better than he was. Are you only going to date women who have never had a boyfriend, or haven't had one in a long time?

[keithy_19]

I won't be that guy either. Though, I won't be the guy to convince the girl to break up with her bf unless he really is an asshole. Or my exes bf. Cause, he deserves the asshole thing back.

[keithy_19]

More of the second guy. I'll date a girl after awhile after her relationship.

[keithy_19]

My sentences are terribly fragmented.

[Friday]

why not just relax and get to know eachother... see where it leads?

in my humble opinion, you made a mistake. there is no guarantee she will compare you to anyone. we don't keep a tally of who has the biggest dick or who opens the car door more. You could have had a good time and perhaps developed into a more serious connection.

Wimp.

:tongue:

[Fezticle98]

why not just relax and get to know eachother... see where it leads?

in my humble opinion, you made a mistake. there is no guarantee she will compare you to anyone. we don't keep a tally of who has the biggest dick or who opens the car door more. You could have had a good time and perhaps developed into a more serious connection.

Wimp.

:tongue:

I agree. You should have at least had sex.

Besides, if she is as amazing as you say, you shouldn't be surprised that she is just getting out of a relationship. You can't wait for a great girl with the stipulation that she hasn't been in a serious relationship for a year.

[weekapaugjz]

why not just relax and get to know eachother... see where it leads?

in my humble opinion, you made a mistake. there is no guarantee she will compare you to anyone. we don't keep a tally of who has the biggest dick or who opens the car door more. You could have had a good time and perhaps developed into a more serious connection.

Wimp.

:tongue:

yeah, but seeing where it leads can blow up in your face too. i did it for the last three months with a chick and then got the infamous "i just want to be friends" bullshit.

[PapaBear]

yeah, but seeing where it leads can blow up in your face too. i did it for the last three months with a chick and then got the infamous "i just want to be friends" bullshit.
You're still alive aren't you? I say it's always worth it to give it a shot.

[Fezticle98]

yeah, but seeing where it leads can blow up in your face too. i did it for the last three months with a chick and then got the infamous "i just want to be friends" bullshit.

That's life, maaaaaaaan. What's the alternative? You never put yourself out there and end up as the 5th Member of the Asexual Monkees.

[grlNIN]

...we don't keep a tally of who has the biggest dick or who opens the car door more....


Speak for yourself.

















I always notice when they open the car door.

[Friday]

yeah, but seeing where it leads can blow up in your face too. i did it for the last three months with a chick and then got the infamous "i just want to be friends" bullshit.

Noone ever got anywhere in life by sittin' on the porch.

Men these days are just so apprehensive. Take a goddamn risk once in awhile!
If you get stepped on... then so be it. Live and Learn.

Y' all are like Pitzy Disciples.

[weekapaugjz]

You're still alive aren't you? I say it's always worth it to give it a shot.

yeah, but building up those feelings over three months could have been negated if i wouldn't have pursued it.

[weekapaugjz]

That's life, maaaaaaaan. What's the alternative? You never put yourself out there and end up as the 5th Member of the Asexual Monkees.

i completely understand that, but its a shitty fucking situation when you find someone you want to be with and pour time and energy into something that ends up meaning nothing.

plus, from what i could tell from conversations after i told her how i felt, this chick never had any intentions starting a relationship and strung me along for months.

[Fezticle98]

Noone ever got anywhere in life by sittin' on the porch.

Men these days are just so apprehensive. Take a goddamn risk once in awhile!
If you get stepped on... then so be it. Live and Learn.

Y' all are like Pitzy Disciples.

If you get stepped on, turn around and step on some members of the opposite sex. It will help you get over it, quick. Everyone takes a turn over the barrel.

It's like Joe Public said and Friday just reiterrated, "You've got to live and learn. Before your bridges burn."

[PapaBear]

yeah, but building up those feelings over three months could have been negated if i wouldn't have pursued it.
I know what you're saying. It's happened to me before. It's still better than never trying at all. You wouldn't want end up like Earl, would you?

[Kevin]

i completely understand that, but its a shitty fucking situation when you find someone you want to be with and pour time and energy into something that ends up meaning nothing.

plus, from what i could tell from conversations after i told her how i felt, this chick never had any intentions starting a relationship and strung me along for months.

Just to get this straight.. Your not actualy talking about Drury and Briere.. right??

[weekapaugjz]

If you get stepped on, turn around and step on some members of the opposite sex.

i wish i could, i just don't have it in me.

[Friday]

I know what you're saying. It's happened to me before. It's still better than never trying at all. You wouldn't want end up like Earl, would you?

A Life Unexamined is Not worth Living!! ~ Socrates

Carpe Scrotum!! ~ my good pal Jimmy

[weekapaugjz]

Just to get this straight.. Your not actualy talking about Drury and Briere.. right??

SONOFABITCH!!!!

[Fezticle98]

i completely understand that, but its a shitty fucking situation when you find someone you want to be with and pour time and energy into something that ends up meaning nothing.

plus, from what i could tell from conversations after i told her how i felt, this chick never had any intentions starting a relationship and strung me along for months.

Fair enough. Do you wish you never met her?

Sure, it's a loss. But if you let that experience prevent you from going for the next real thing, then you allow it to become a crippling loss. I'm not saying don't feel bad about it, but learning how to get past it is big.

[midwestjeff]

I know what you're saying. It's happened to me before. It's still better than never trying at all. You wouldn't want end up like Earl, would you?

Put into Earl's shoes, Weeka would probably be a better producer.

Ron: Fucking starvin', hey weeka we got any rebound pussy back there?

Weeka: Yes, yes we do!

[weekapaugjz]

Fair enough. Do you wish you never met her?

im really conflicted on this. i created a great friendship with her, but told myself i was going to cut myself off from her, and did it for the last three weeks until the last few days in which we've talked on the phone on a few occasion.. i have a feeling as soon as i see her, all the feelings are going to come right back, and i don't really need that.

[Kevin]

im really conflicted on this. i created a great friendship with her, but told myself i was going to cut myself off from her, and did it for the last three weeks until the last few days in which we've talked on the phone on a few occasion.. i have a feeling as soon as i see her, all the feelings are going to come right back, and i don't really need that.

Yea, You honestly need to not see or talk to her anymore.. Your just killing yourself..

[Fezticle98]

Better to be the guy one month after "the guy" than the guy 5 mins after "the guy."

[FUNKMAN]

be confident and don't judge... if something happens that you don't care for let her know in a nice way

let her know that she's the special person in your life and you want to make it work

and make sure if the opportunity arises you fuck her like no other

[Fezticle98]

If you get stepped on, turn around and step on some members of the opposite sex. It will help you get over it, quick. Everyone takes a turn over the barrel.


i wish i could, i just don't have it in me.

Yeah, I used to say the same thing.

[Chainsaw]

It's not that I have to be the first or whatever for a girl...I'm as guilty of this as anyone, but at least over the years I've stopped. I just hate being that guy right after the big "love of my life" guy...

This is the issue I have with this...If you are going to date someone, give them an honest chance, and evaluate that person for who they are...don't date someone b/c they are "like" your ex...And certainly don't keep bringing him up unless I ask...I don't talk about my exes unless explicitly asked...and I won't date someone b/c they remind me of someone who I used to go out with, to me that just seems a little sick.

I'm okay if I get turned down b/c I'm not what she's looking for, but when I get this, "I thought I was ready to move past Steve, but I don't think I am. But I still want to spend time with you, and I might be ready soon"...I see no reason to hang around. If she was really amazing, she wouldn't have said any of that...

Don't any of this make sense or should I bring it up with my therapist?

[topless_mike]

stop being such a pussy.
if you like her, pursue it.

if its works out, great.
if not, oh well, you move on.

[Bulldogcakes]

why not just relax and get to know each other... see where it leads?

in my humble opinion, you made a mistake. there is no guarantee she will compare you to anyone. we don't keep a tally of who has the biggest dick or who opens the car door more. You could have had a good time and perhaps developed into a more serious connection.

Wimp.

:tongue:

My feelings exactly. Sounds like you're taking all of this way too seriously. If she's "not looking for a relationship" than either she means "not with you" or "slow down". Girls who just got out of relationships sometimes just want to fool around for a while, that could be a good thing. No strings sex, baby.

Just go out and have some fun. Girls just wanna have fu-hun. Oh, girls just wanna ha-have fuuuuunnnn.