Two-timing a-hole

[ShabbyDoll]

Well, here's a helluva first post. I get a comfy feeling from you guys (and share a love of Our Buddays), and today's kinda difficult for me. Be kind.

I met my boyfriend's other girlfriend last night. We didn't know about each other, so we were equally surprised. As was he, btw. I'd been with him for almost 8 months; she'd had the last 2 months. He'd been playing us both for his own ends and thought he could get away with it. She and I had a nice long talk while he was losing his mind, trying to find some way to be the true victim, as is his wont.

I'm disappointed, confused, angry beyond belief, and scared. I know I did nothing wrong to cause this but I could not possibly be more freaked out. I loved him.

Advice or condolences?
My plan of action for today is to drink (noon's happy hour somewhere) and continue to be pissed, but not so much as to make me do anything crazy or make myself more anxiety-ridden as I already am, hopfully. (running out of ativans) It's been so long since I've felt this much for a guy, and now he betrays me (and another nice girl). Help me stay strong and optimistic, folks. I don't have a lot of support around me IRL.

[weekapaugjz]

damn, sorry to hear about that shabby. my advice is to drink your face off today and hang out with some friends, im sure you can find a bbq going on today. if none of that makes you feel any better, grab a knife and go slash his tires.

edit: and welcome to the board buddaygirl!

[Tenbatsuzen]

West Virginia. Nice.

OK. 8 months is a long time to be in a relationship, but it's obvious that if he was cheating on you, and it wasn't just a fling, it's time to get the hell out of the relationship. Be strong for yourself and don't fall into traps to go back to him.

Have some time to yourself to heal and find yourself. Don't jump immediately into a new relationship.

[Tenbatsuzen]

damn, sorry to hear about that shabby. my advice is to drink your face off today and hang out with some friends, im sure you can find a bbq going on today. if none of that makes you feel any better, grab a knife and go slash his tires.

I fear for the impressionable youth of upstate New York.

[weekapaugjz]

I fear for the impressionable youth of upstate New York.

not to worry, drinking your face off and slashing tires does not come up in the ancient civilization curriculum.

[sailor]

dump him and you two gals go out.

[Don Stugots]

Welcome. What a shitty thing to have to deal with.

Please keep in mind that this is the THAT'S LIFE FORUM. no jokes please.

[sailor]

Welcome. What a shitty thing to have to deal with.

Please keep in mind that this is the THAT'S LIFE FORUM. no jokes please.

mine was light-hearted, but really not a joke. it would be great revenge.

[ShabbyDoll]

Loud and clear, people. Thanks.
I've dumped him, she's dumped him, and The Sept. 3rd Beering is well under way.

As for slashing the tires of his H3, that's kind of been done before. His ex-gf before me did that a few times at first. I now understand why, and resent her less now.
And the 'new chick' seems pretty cool. In a different world we could be friends. We certainly have a lot in common.

And Mr. Stugots, bless your heart but anything funny would be really welcome right now. I know the rule is "no snark in here" but crap, I'll take what I can get. Just not being alone in my crazy head is a huge relief to me. Thanks to you all.

That jerk doesn't deserve me. I'm Quality.

[Dash77]

damn, sorry to hear about that shabby. my advice is to drink your face off today and hang out with some friends, im sure you can find a bbq going on today. if none of that makes you feel any better, grab a knife and go slash his tires.

edit: and welcome to the board buddaygirl!

I agree go out with some firends and get wasted for the day ...and instead of the knife get some eggs....

[Dash77]

oooooo Mr. Stugots sounding very fancy...

[TheGameHHH]

Loud and clear, people. Thanks.
I've dumped him, she's dumped him, and The Sept. 3rd Beering is well under way.

As for slashing the tires of his H3, that's kind of been done before. His ex-gf before me did that a few times at first. I now understand why, and resent her less now.
And the 'new chick' seems pretty cool. In a different world we could be friends. We certainly have a lot in common.

And Mr. Stugots, bless your heart but anything funny would be really welcome right now. I know the rule is "no snark in here" but crap, I'll take what I can get. Just not being alone in my crazy head is a huge relief to me. Thanks to you all.

That jerk doesn't deserve me. I'm Quality.

exactly, your last two sentences say it all..........go out and find another man, theres plenty out there

[ShabbyDoll]

exactly, your last two sentences say it all..........go out and find another man, theres plenty out there

Meh, not where I am. Try finding someone else who worships Elvis Costello and Federico Fellini (and R&F) in WV, who gives a shit about computers, and knows exactly why I'm not really comfortable in this backwater place.

He railed on me last night for going to the DC Virus show because I'd stayed with a childhood friend who happens to be male. Sleeping on that friend's couch for 3 days is worse than sleeping for two months with some mother-of-three-divorcee from the sticks?

As my Fark pals would say, I hope he DIAF.


"Mr. Stugots" is a sign of respect!

[DarkHippie]

a girl's night out, a pint of ben and jerry's, and an Lifetime movie marathon is a start.

Seriously, take some girly time for yourself, and don't be tempted to go back to him, no matter how much he begs. Not all cheaters stay cheaters, but most do.

Men are pigs.

[donnie_darko]

As for slashing the tires of his H3, that's kind of been done before. His ex-gf before me did that a few times at first. I now understand why, and resent her less now.
And the 'new chick' seems pretty cool. In a different world we could be friends. We certainly have a lot in common.


yeah, i guess this wasn't a sign or anything..

i'm shocked how so many chicks are fooled by guys..

i'm an asshole with tons of issues, and i make them known as soon as i know the relationship is serious.

[lleeder]

I'm shocked that you've been a member for 13 months and just decided to start posting.

[Fezticle98]

We need a R&F Best Of Relationship/Breakup Show. One of the breaks in a recent best-of covered this and it was pretty good. Between Dave's breakups, Earl's pathetic flailings, and that dude from Vegas, there should be plenty of material.

[Friday]

Shabby it seems like you have a good attitude about this and life... which is encouraging considering the situation.
This guy was a prick. And i am glad you two chicks made him squirm and then proceeded to dump him flat.

I am all for dating ... even a couple of people at once... but not if you are in a mutually established monogamous relationship with someone.
There are plenty of other stupid men in the world to waste time with.... NEXT!

[hunnerbun]

Meh...been there done that shabbydoll. I found out my then 37 yr old husband of 4 yrs had a 21 yr old g/f. She and I also spent an entire day together swapping stories...he told her we were separated, even tho he was still living home with me...in the same bed no less but he had her convinced he was sleeping in the spare room! We both gave the heave ho to the arsepick but I know for a fact that they got back together not long after I booted him out (he is still with her... ) They deserve each other...she is just about the same mental age as him anyway.
It will be hard, but it will get easier everyday, and you will be stronger for it too!
And if you feel a little revenge may be in order, its nothing a tampon or two in the gas tank won't fix! :thumbup::tongue:

[citymedic27]

Meh, not where I am. Try finding someone else who worships Elvis Costello and Federico Fellini (and R&F) in WV, who gives a shit about computers, and knows exactly why I'm not really comfortable in this backwater place.

He railed on me last night for going to the DC Virus show because I'd stayed with a childhood friend who happens to be male. Sleeping on that friend's couch for 3 days is worse than sleeping for two months with some mother-of-three-divorcee from the sticks?

As my Fark pals would say, I hope he DIAF.


"Mr. Stugots" is a sign of respect!

I wouldnt worry about this guy too much. Your prob better off without him as it sounds. Im not much with relationship advice, so Im gonna leave that to others in here. But, drink a bit, forget alot, and lesson learned. Enjoy!!

DIAF??

[sailor]

I wouldnt worry about this guy too much. Your prob better off without him as it sounds. Im not much with relationship advice, so Im gonna leave that to others in here. But, drink a bit, forget alot, and lesson learned. Enjoy!!

DIAF??

DIAF? some weird diplomacy variant? (no, i don't expect anyone to get that)

[mikeyboy]

DIAF??

My guess? Die in a fire.

[PapaBear]

DIAF??

My guess? Die in a fire.
I'll ask my daughter. She's a West Virginian who likes computers.:wink:
Stay strong Shabby. You did the right thing. It's also good to see you don't have any ill will toward the other girl.

[Heather 8]

My guess? Die in a fire.

Yep. Bless ye, Fark.

[sailor]

My guess? Die in a fire.

"As my Fark pals would say, I hope he (Die in a fire)."

i would expect better grammar from an admin.

[mikeyboy]

"As my Fark pals would say, I hope he (Die in a fire)."

i would expect better grammar from an admin.

:banning:

[sr71blackbird]

I am sorry you were deceived by him. Not all guys are like that. Chalk it up as one of lifes lessons and experiences and move on, and never ever let him back into your trust circle, no matter what he says or begs.

Good luck!

[Fezticle98]

Marc with a c is two-timing a hole... a glory hole, that is.

http://img59.imageshack.us/img59/755/joaniegloryholecr3.jpg

[Crispy123]

Marc with a c is two-timing a hole... a glory hole, that is.


The title of this thread is misleading.



My advice would be move out of WV and find another.

[mdr55]

So how did you meet his other chic??? Do you live in a small small town???

As for drinking, just don't make it too much of a habit where you drown your sorrows over the relationship you lost. Go out with friends and have a good time bar hopping or what ever you all do down there in the WV.

[PapaBear]

My advice would be move out of WV and find another.
Hey. WV isn't that bad. It's not great either, but if you live in the right part, it's not that far from cool stuff. Of course, I'm basing my opinion on the Eastern Panhandle. I know very little about the main part of WV.

[ShabbyDoll]

Wow, thanks for all the replies, and sweet jesus my head hurts.

As for how I met the other girl, she showed up at his apartment while I was there. He'd asked both of us to move in with him (separately, of course), but neither one of us had made that step. Yeah, the town's small so I'll have to see his sorry ass around every once in a while. That's what makes it worse . And the fact that his sister is one of my best friends is not good either.

Added bonus trivia: I'm 40, he's 25. That should be enough right there.

You guys have given me some strength today and I appreciate it. Maybe I won't lurk for another year or two and join in. I'm not always this morose, I swear!

[TheGameHHH]

stick around and post more, it'll take ur mind off things

[ChrisTheCop]

Added bonus trivia: I'm 40, he's 25. That should be enough right there.



Was there a camera crew with him? You mightve been on The Age of Love.

[Leticia]

Wow, thanks for all the replies, and sweet jesus my head hurts.

As for how I met the other girl, she showed up at his apartment while I was there. He'd asked both of us to move in with him (separately, of course), but neither one of us had made that step. Yeah, the town's small so I'll have to see his sorry ass around every once in a while. That's what makes it worse . And the fact that his sister is one of my best friends is not good either.

Added bonus trivia: I'm 40, he's 25. That should be enough right there.

You guys have given me some strength today and I appreciate it. Maybe I won't lurk for another year or two and join in. I'm not always this morose, I swear!

He was gonna move into 2 different places??!!!! Whaaaaaat. Holy Shit. This guy was asking to be caught and dumped. What an idiot for deceiving you and thinking he could get away with it.

I'm sorry this happened, but I'm glad that you handled it well and didn't get mad at the other girl.

You make sense, congrats on that.

[buzzard]

Wow, thanks for all the replies, and sweet jesus my head hurts.

As for how I met the other girl, she showed up at his apartment while I was there. He'd asked both of us to move in with him (separately, of course), but neither one of us had made that step. Yeah, the town's small so I'll have to see his sorry ass around every once in a while. That's what makes it worse . And the fact that his sister is one of my best friends is not good either.

Added bonus trivia: I'm 40, he's 25. That should be enough right there.

You guys have given me some strength today and I appreciate it. Maybe I won't lurk for another year or two and join in. I'm not always this morose, I swear!

we like morose,it just means you feel and you deal...shit,I lurked for a year and didn't post cuz I wasn't sure I wanted to,now I write novels.most 25 year old guys are (add yer own adjective) let's say...young..the only thing that's gonna help you is the clock..in time you'll gain perspective everything else is horse-shit...be really selfish and spoil yerself rotten,splurge and reward yerself and let him find his rightful place in the crapper of your heart. Just don't do any of that revenge garbage,stay friends with his sis & as someone way more clever than me(most) stated;"The best revenge is living well"..so live!:thumbup:

[Kris10]

It will hurt for a bit but he's young and stupid and bound to get screwed hard by a female down the road. She'll get even for you. In the meantime, move on and leave him in the past cause thats all he is... the past.

[ShabbyDoll]

Got through today alright. Saw him on the street in the dune buggy (oh god, don't ask) but didn't acknowledge him. His Hummer wasn't at his apartment this afternoon so perhaps he sweet talked the other girl back and was at her place. She seemed adamant to end it the other night, but he's very persuasive and a damn good liar. I'm sure he tried to downplay his relationship with me. Prick. We talked marriage, ferchrissakes.

Yeccchh! Ewww! Enough of this whining and gushing and shit! This is not a blog! I've probably given a really bad first impression coming in here like this. I'm gonna try to be a worthy participant on this board because you all were supportive and encouraging to a total stranger like me. You folks were cool (as I knew you were from my many months of lurking) and damnit, even more than 25-yr old dick, I love me some Ron and Fez, and that's the truth.

Ok, buddays.... Thank you. I'll be around. Peace.

[Crispy123]

Hey. WV isn't that bad. It's not great either, but if you live in the right part, it's not that far from cool stuff. Of course, I'm basing my opinion on the Eastern Panhandle. I know very little about the main part of WV.

Look, I opened this thread because I thought it was some guy bragging about stringing along 2 chicks. I then read ShabbyDolls dilema and wanted to say something so I dont seem like an insensative prick. I tried to make it so it wouldn't offend but obviously I failed. Thank you Mr "Im perfect and kind and better than you" for pointing out what an asshole I am.

[Friday]

yesterday, i was dumped via text message.
lol

not that it compares in the least.

but it definitely puts me back in the 'don't waste your time on a dead end street' mentality.

hang in there and party with your girlfriends! mr right will eventually show his stupid self!

[Kris10]

yesterday, i was dumped via text message.
lol

not that it compares in the least.

but it definitely puts me back in the 'don't waste your time on a dead end street' mentality.

hang in there and party with your girlfriends! mr right will eventually show his stupid self!

How classy! What a loser!

[ShabbyDoll]

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[ShabbyDoll]

yesterday, i was dumped via text message.

Oh my god. So sorry, girl. The bar tab would be on me if we were in the same area code. Why are they so stupid?!

Like you told me: "Next!

[dragon]

Shabby, condolences... But now you know him for what he is..
Maybe you got a new friend out of this ? (the other g/f)..
He's obviously a p.o.s. Good luck !




:sad:

[dragon]

Ps... don't beat yourself up too much..


Been there... Well, still there..lol:

:wink:

[ShabbyDoll]

Way to eff up the quote, Self. Preview, dammit.

dragon, thanks for the good thoughts, man. Meh, I doubt this chick and I will be ever be friends. I just want to forget it all ever happened. I've never been cheated on before.

[drjoek]

:tongue:dump him and you two gals go out.

HOT!! :tongue:

[dragon]

Originally Posted by Friday :
yesterday, i was dumped via text message.


Sorry to hear that Friday. I have also by some gutless wonder.
Makes you really try to imagine what kind of people are out there, especially the ones you think you know !

Good luck.

[Justice4all]

yesterday, i was dumped via text message.
lol



http://members.aol.com/rebuketheworld/Richard-Jeni.jpg

That's gotta hurt Bob!!!!


He railed on me last night for going to the DC Virus show because I'd stayed with a childhood friend who happens to be male.

Let me get this straight, he was two timing you but he also was raling on you for staying a a male friends house....did this happen BEFORE or AFTER he got busted being a two timer?
If it was before he is a dick...if it was after he is a dick of MAJOR proportions!

[spoon]

I am sorry you were deceived by him. Not all guys are like that. Chalk it up as one of lifes lessons and experiences and move on, and never ever let him back into your trust circle, no matter what he says or begs.

Good luck!

Trust circle!? Thanks Falker! How's ur vagina?

[dragon]

We can and do call people dicks, and dicks of major proportions, among other things, but I try to think of a dick as having a purpose, unlike a piece of shit, which I feel has no purpose other than to smell nasty & soil peoples shoes.
Just my humble opinion.

[ShabbyDoll]

Let me get this straight, he was two timing you but he also was raling on you for staying a a male friends house....did this happen BEFORE or AFTER he got busted being a two timer?
If it was before he is a dick...if it was after he is a dick of MAJOR proportions!

During. It was all he could come up with to yell at me as he ran for his apartment door (to escape out the front entrance and call his buddy to come pick him up). It was heard by the Other Girl as well, thereby negating any denial that I was making shit up.

(Me: "Hi, I'm ___'s girlfriend." Her: "Me too.")

He's a coward and pussy and a liar and an immature spoiled brat. I can only hope she's followed through with getting rid of him. He needs to be as alone and rejected as I am. That's the true punishment.

[spoon]

....Added bonus trivia: I'm 40, he's 25. That should be enough right there.


He IS a douche! What the fuck was he thinking? But hey, that's life. :wub:

[Bulldogcakes]

We can and do call people dicks, and dicks of major proportions, among other things, but I try to think of a dick as having a purpose, unlike a piece of shit, which I feel has no purpose other than to smell nasty & soil peoples shoes.
Just my humble opinion.

I like the way you think my friend.

Truce. We stop calling guys we don't like "pussies" and they stop calling us "dicks".

Meet you at Camp David.

[Justice4all]

During. It was all he could come up with to yell at me as he ran for his apartment door (to escape out the front entrance and call his buddy to come pick him up). It was heard by the Other Girl as well, thereby negating any denial that I was making shit up.

(Me: "Hi, I'm ___'s girlfriend." Her: "Me too.")

He's a coward and pussy and a liar and an immature spoiled brat. I can only hope she's followed through with getting rid of him. He needs to be as alone and rejected as I am. That's the true punishment.

Wow that is even WORSE then what I thought of! He was trying to deflect the situation from him to you. What a true coward! This kid was 25? I apologize but what where YOU thinking? I can understand maybe 35 but 25? He is good for one thing...and it does not seem like he was good at that either!

I am sorry you had to deal with this...but being that was his age I am not surprised he turned out to be a major piece of shit (dragon is that better??? :smile: ).

The worst thing you could do it spread a rumor about what happened and that way he will be very un-dateable.
Either that or tell the women he has a small winkie....either one works!:laugh: