So Lonely...

[Chainsaw]

Hey guys,

So, I was wondering if anyone on this board has a tough time dealing with loneliness. I've noticed that over the years, I seem to be getting worse at it...

I don't validate my life by the fact of whether I have a girlfriend or not...but being single is the one void I have. I try to keep things in perspective, that I should focus on all the things I have instead of the one thing I don't have, however, I find myself just incredibly lonely and its starting to become a real concern b/c I'm not eating, I'm grinding the shit out my teeth, I'm not sleeping....and I find myself wishing I had some meds just so I could relax and go to sleep...

Is this 'natural'? Anyone else go through this?

Sorry to be Debbie Downer...just struggling a bit lately...

[Stankfoot]

Hey guys,

So, I was wondering if anyone on this board has a tough time dealing with loneliness. I've noticed that over the years, I seem to be getting worse at it...

I don't validate my life by the fact of whether I have a girlfriend or not...but being single is the one void I have. I try to keep things in perspective, that I should focus on all the things I have instead of the one thing I don't have, however, I find myself just incredibly lonely and its starting to become a real concern b/c I'm not eating, I'm grinding the shit out my teeth, I'm not sleeping....and I find myself wishing I had some meds just so I could relax and go to sleep...

Is this 'natural'? Anyone else go through this?

Sorry to be Debbie Downer...just struggling a bit lately...

I think if its bothering you that much that you are not eating or sleeping and you are grinding your teeth it may be more than loneliness. It may be depression. You should ask a doctor. Meds might actually help; you can get plenty of advice here about what to take. Half the people on this board are on anti-depressants! Good luck.

[donnie_darko]

i know how it feels, my only recommendation is to surround yourself with friends, and to try to keep yourself busy.

it may sound obvious, but it really does help.

at one point i tried to just settle for someone, maybe cause they were cute, or just seemed like good people, and it seemed it was better then being alone. But it just didn't seem fair for them... and the older you get, the more you need someone that shares your interests or someone that you can learn from.

so yeah, goodluck

[ryno1974]

The best solution for you would to be oder up one of those mail order brides. Then you would have a partner, and someone to clean up after you.

I bet you could get one for like $200 - cheaper than one night with a hooker!

[Tall_James]

The best solution for you would to be oder up one of those mail order brides. Then you would have a partner, and someone to clean up after you.

I bet you could get one for like $200 - cheaper than one night with a hooker!

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[ShabbyDoll]

Dude, are you living my life? : )

As an only child I usually value my alone time and my space, but in the recent absence of a certain significant other, I'm miserable, so I feel what you're going through, and it's not the first time. This feeling is not uncommon and you're not the only one. You're probably a smart, personable, interesting person, and when there's not someone to validate that in your mind, you reel. Loneliness is what we all deal with at some point. It's how you come out of it that matters.

There will be a special girl or a new friend of either sex who can fill the void in your emotional world. It may take a week or a year or a few years, whatever. You are responsible for yourself - be self-aware, confident in your own standout and positive traits, and just be smart, not desperate. Love and appreciate yourself. Others will see it and reciprocate. Do what you like. Others of like mind will gravitate toward you. You'll find her.

In the meantime, see someone about the physical things. There's an almost definite depression issue there. I'm not a psychologist, but I studied to be one at Marshall U. many years ago. And I'm on some Prozac and Ativan myself. Wheee. Buck up, soldier.

[Dougie Brootal]

i would go see a shrink. i definatley have had that problem before. and i swear the only reason i have the chick i got is cuz the shrink put me on meds to help me deal with it. just try it out. it could be the answer youve been looking for.

edit: and good luck man. i really hope you feel better. cuz lonilness sucks

[sr71blackbird]

It is okay to be bothered by loneliness, just dont let it consume you. I like to feel independent and self sufficient, and I find when I am with someone, more often than not I am pissed off that they are keeping me from doing what I want.

[ShabbyDoll]

It is okay to be bothered by loneliness, just dont let it consume you. I like to feel independent and self sufficient, and I find when I am with someone, more often than not I am pissed off that they are keeping me from doing what I want.

I totally understand what you said, but I've noticed that my wall of individuality (or stubbornness) has kept me from worthy, healthy relationships. I hope this doesn't happen to Chainsaw, is what I'm saying. We all need each other, but have to define the dosage aforehand. Know yourself. Know what you need.