Single.....again.

[Skellington]

Two years is a good long run, including living together. Lesson learned: don't date your best friend unless you are willing to sacrifice your friendship if things don't work out down the road. I'm sad that it came to this, but ultimately, i ended it because 'it' wasn't there. Communication wasn't there. And apparently, with that lack of communication, I never knew how much my diabetes bothered him until i played 20 questions trying to get any sort of feeling out of him. When i ended it, he just said 'ok'. He didn't try to presuade me the other way, and i had to again play 20 questions to get any sort of feedback. You know in your heart when things are just not going to go anywhere. *sigh* It was a hard decision on my part to make, a few months of thinking, making excuses. So guess it's understandable why he is being....grumpy AND non-communicative with me. But holybatgoats, i'm single.... again. I don't think i was meant to be alone, but eventually this shit has to go right somewhere. A married friend told me that relationships aren't supposed to be as hard as the ones i go through. I don't think because i have medical issues that i'm not 'date'able', or that it makes me complicated. I've been independant and managing on my own for 27 years. 95% of the time i'm self sufficient. I just don't get why guys view it as a burden, or something 'they' can't handle. Maybe because i am so independant..a guy feels like they can't care for me. I think my situation is a good thing, i have my own money, stuff, a great job, the grounds to buy a house when i feel like it, i'm happy...i just want someone that is compatible with me to kinda share with, to enjoy things with, to make spandex jokes with....and sex.

*sniff* i'm going to go back to listening to depeche mode now. All in all, i really hope that he understands that things just weren't right in our relationship. I didn't end it because I found another guy, i didn't end it because he was a bad mate, just something wasn't right and I'm not the type of person to fake feelings. I tried discussing it many a time with him. ugh. c'est la vie bitches.

[sr71blackbird]

Dont worry! The tide comes in, the tide goes out. You'll find someone soon. You have a great job and future. Look at it as an opportunity! Good luck!

[TheGameHHH]

don't worry girl, everybody has been through it. take a couple days to yourself and do what you have to do, then pick your head up/dust yourself off/all that other cliche bullshit and go out and find another man.

[mdr55]

You seem like a great person. It's that dude's lost. What is it about your diabetes that bothered him if you don't mind me asking.

[Bulldogcakes]

6 months from now you will probably be dating someone else, and look back on this relationship and say "Why the fuck didn't I end that sooner?" or "What on earth did I ever see in that clown?". I know I usually do.

BTW-Your married friend gave you some good advice. Relationships really shouldn't be so hard. People who talk about "working at it" are usually trying to change people from who they are to who they want them to be. Which never works. You might want to think about what attracted you to him in the first place, and rethink dating those types of guys.

[Skellington]

You seem like a great person. It's that dude's lost. What is it about your diabetes that bothered him if you don't mind me asking.

When my bloodsugar gets low, i space out, or take awhile to respond. It takes me a little bit to figure out, oh duh, got to eat. The thing that bothered him the most is my sleeping issue. I lay down, i'm out, then to get me back up, i am grump-master-2000. Once i get up and moving and drink something, i'm fine, it's just getting me up so that i don't sleep until the alarm the next morning. Also, diabetics have crap immunity systems, so instead of a cold just being a cold, it was full blow boogie monster for me. *shrug* Instead of learning about me and putting two and two together (grumpy girlfriend = get a cookie and shove in her mouth, GF get happy), he would drill me 'what's wrong etc etc'. Instead of bringing up to me that me sleeping and me getting ill bothered him, he sat in irritated silence. If he would have mentioned it, i could have told him 'hey, low bloodsugar happens, just put juice and something nibblie in front of me and i'll be great and responsive!". I dont' need someone to take care of me, but if something bothers someone, either they work with you, or they live in oblivion.

I'm also mostly deaf in my left ear, so i constantly made him sit on my right side...so i could hear him. It irritated him that he had to repeat himself constantly if he was talking to me from another room or over dryer/washed/running water.

I take care of myself, i eat a very well balanced diet. I stay away from cookies, cakes, bread. I exercise regularly and see my doctor and podiatrist and endocrine as often as required. I just want someone that understands. I'm not a problem, i'm intricate.

[The Silencer]

awww...keep ur head up budday...plenty of fish in the sea :smile:

[A.J.]

I only "know you" through your posts and pics but you are very attractive, smart, and funny. I'm confident that you'll bounce back in no time.

[Skellington]

6 months from now you will probably be dating someone else, and look back on this relationship and say "Why the fuck didn't I end that sooner?" or "What on earth did I ever see in that clown?". I know I usually do.

BTW-Your married friend gave you some good advice. Relationships really shouldn't be so hard. People who talk about "working at it" are usually trying to change people from who they are to who they want them to be. Which never works. You might want to think about what attracted you to him in the first place, and rethink dating those types of guys.

He was my best friend, we did everything together, so after awhile, we said, 'why not date and add the sex?" You can't build a relationship from a friendship if that chemistry isn't there...... or you can, but being friends and hanging out is far far far FAR different from living with someone. He is a good guy, but not the right person for me. And you are right, hon. Working at 'it' equated to both of us changing who we were. I realized it. I didnt' want him to change, and I sure as hell wasnt going to detach my self-grown-woman-balls. I'm an aggressive smart ass sarcastic goal achiever, he was a extremely passive person....with an equally fucked up sense of humor. Friends, we were wonderful. Mates.....downhill. It hurts that it came to this, but i knew that we had to split. I sucks i lost my best friend and he hates me, but better it be this way than in a relationship that was down to damage-control.

I'm good alone, i got my dog and a cranky ferret. Eventually i'll meet someone.

[Dougie Brootal]

I just want someone that understands. I'm not a problem, i'm intricate.

i live in md, and im diabetic too. just so you know. :wub:

[Furtherman]

I'm also mostly deaf in my left ear, so i constantly made him sit on my right side...so i could hear him. It irritated him that he had to repeat himself constantly if he was talking to me from another room or over dryer/washed/running water..

Doesn't that suck? Same with me. I constantly have to ask people to move to my right side in a crowded room or I just don't hear them and sometimes I they think I'm a jerk but it's just that I didn't hear them.

I guess if we ever tried to have a conversation in a bar we'd be circling each other in some weird doesy-doe dance.

But, as with the ear, you're not alone in your situation. Shit happens, you move on, and in a little time you'll find yourself alright - it seems got yourself together well.

[razorboy]

Matters of the heart never make any fucking sense. Good luck to you.

[IamPixie]

yea, love stinks

[dragon]

Understanding , fun & compassionate...
Doesn't sound like too much to deal with..

[Death Metal Moe]

I smell a Ron and Fez "Dial a Date" segment.

[AJDELAWARE]

Yeah, just perved your myspace site - I dont think you will have any trouble meeting someone new.

[keithy_19]

yea, love stinks

Yeah yeah.

[Death Metal Moe]

*sniff* i'm going to go back to listening to depeche mode now.



These guys always seem to understand too.

http://www.zid.hr/Type_O_Negative_pic.JPG

[Skellington]

These guys always seem to understand too.

http://www.zid.hr/Type_O_Negative_pic.JPG

Oh Peter Steel...

[AJDELAWARE]

The tighter the pants, the more in tune with female emotions you become. Its a fact. Leather pants in some cases have even caused the formation of ovaries in the manliest of men.

[Skellington]

Doesn't that suck? Same with me. I constantly have to ask people to move to my right side in a crowded room or I just don't hear them and sometimes I they think I'm a jerk but it's just that I didn't hear them.

I guess if we ever tried to have a conversation in a bar we'd be circling each other in some weird doesy-doe dance.

But, as with the ear, you're not alone in your situation. Shit happens, you move on, and in a little time you'll find yourself alright - it seems got yourself together well.

I learned how to lip read...but lip reading doesn't help when people mumble. :sad:

[Skellington]

The tighter the pants, the more in tune with female emotions you become. Its a fact. Leather pants in some cases have even caused the formation of ovaries in the manliest of men.

euch, ovaried men need to pick up a copy of Maddox's 'Alphabet of Manliness' asap.

[Death Metal Moe]

You could always start trying to get a date here.

"Single" and "Messageboard Poster" seem to go hand in hand. Unfortunately, so does "More than 50 pounds overweight."

[topless_mike]

You could always start trying to get a date here.

"Single" and "Messageboard Poster" seem to go hand in hand. Unfortunately, so does "More than 50 pounds overweight."

:lol::lol::lol:

[JustJon]

I had the supreme pleasure to meet skelly when she visited NY (and yes, I admit everything sucked and I promise to make it up to you on your next trip up here), and she is an awesome chica. Any guy would be lucky to even go on a date with her.

People don't change. That's just human nature, but they should adjust. When you go from being single and taking care of just your own needs to dating a diabetic (just to pick one thing), you just have to learn to handle the person's related needs. Doing things like making her breakfast to help get her going are just the little changes you make to help the other person.

And I for one like independent women. I like being with someone with her own life and goals and doesn't need the man there, but is with someone because they want to be.

[AJDELAWARE]

euch, ovaried men need to pick up a copy of Maddox's 'Alphabet of Manliness' asap.

Or anything off of victory records prior to 1998.

[Dougie Brootal]

You could always start trying to get a date here.

COUGH! COUGH! AHEM! COUGH! COUGH! :unsure:

i live in md, and im diabetic too. just so you know. :wub:

[mdr55]

I had the supreme pleasure to meet skelly when she visited NY (and yes, I admit everything sucked and I promise to make it up to you on your next trip up here), and she is an awesome chica. Any guy would be lucky to even go on a date with her.

People don't change. That's just human nature, but they should adjust. When you go from being single and taking care of just your own needs to dating a diabetic (just to pick one thing), you just have to learn to handle the person's related needs. Doing things like making her breakfast to help get her going are just the little changes you make to help the other person.

And I for one like independent women. I like being with someone with her own life and goals and doesn't need the man there, but is with someone because they want to be.

I think JustJon just asked you out. :wink:

[spoon]

Come on Skelly, Jon has nachos. :wink:

[Stankfoot]

Is Wonderboy still single?
:happy:

[TheMojoPin]

euch, ovaried men need to pick up a copy of Maddox's 'Alphabet of Manliness' asap.

Euch.

Maddox has released his new book (Titled "The Alphabet of Manliness") in an effort to cover the cost of the huge quantities of Nair needed to remove his disgusting back hair. The book skyrocketed on the NY Times Bestseller list, an embarrassment to all parties involved. Covering a variety of subjects, ranging from how stupid women are, to how great men are, to specific instructions for cooking meth, "The Alphabet Of Manliness" is a prime forerunner of everything that was never funny, even through shock value. The book also mentions Chuck Norris, making him as unfunny and edgy as the average shirt in Hot Topic.

Maddox goes on tour promoting the fact he would sign women's breasts. FUN IDEA: Bring your grandmother and have her request it.

Since he began writing it, he's stopped updating his site. After it came out, his site only serves to promote his book, leaving his retarded fans with a thirst for more. (http://encyclopediadramatica.com/Maddox)

[Skellington]

Is Wonderboy still single?
:happy:

wow, there's a party on your face and my fists were invited.

[Freakshow]

I'm sorry to hear that. If it makes you feel better, i've become quite deaf in both ears--making any conversation in loud places quite impossible. But it's my own fault, those 300 or 400 hard rock concerts are clearly the cause.

[PapaBear]

Is Wonderboy still single?
:happy:

wow, there's a party on your face and my fists were invited.
That reminds me. Can't some nice mod or admin remove the "wb" from her screenname? She's Skellington! She's her own woman!:thumbup:

[Skellington]

COUGH! COUGH! AHEM! COUGH! COUGH! :unsure:

be patient my pet.... i'm current going through the violent stage of single, whereas any blunt object in close proximity gets wung at whatever is moving and still breathing. :blink:

[Freakshow]

Are we certain he's not into that kind of thing? :wallbash:

Just sayin'

[A.J.]

That reminds me. Can't some nice mod or admin remove the "wb" from her screenname? She's Skellington! She's her own woman!:thumbup:

All she has to do is axe. Hell, I'll even remove the "2" for free!

[Dougie Brootal]

be patient my pet.... i'm current going through the violent stage of single, whereas any blunt object in close proximity gets wung at whatever is moving and still breathing. :blink:

yes mistress! you will is my command!

[JustJon]

Come on Skelly, Jon has nachos. :wink:

All out of nachos. But we have chex mix.

[Jujubees2]

Chin up Skelly,

As others have said, a good relationship shouldn't be work. I've been married 14 years now and it's never seemed like work (dealing with the in-laws is another question).

[Justice4all]

Sorry to hear Skell...you seem like a great chick with a funny sense of humor and good head on your shoulders.
Never met you but your pics were hot.
I bet you will have another guy at your side in no time.
Breakups suck but they lead to better things.

This too shal pass.

[FUNKMAN]

i'm single, have nachos AND chex mix...

[spoon]

Sorry to hear Skell...you seem like a great chick with a funny sense of humor and good head on your shoulders.
Never met you but your pics were hot.
I bet you will have another guy at your side in no time.
Breakups suck but they lead to better things.

This too shal pass.

Uh oh, i see dirty vultures circling.

[JustJon]

i'm single, have nachos AND chex mix...

AND gimmick infringement.

[Death Metal Moe]

All out of nachos. But we have chex mix.

Does that mean I can finally get rid of this?

http://i6.photobucket.com/albums/y245/njdmmoe/EvilNachosSmall.gif

[Dougie Brootal]

relationships never break cleanly for me. they're like a vase that gets smashed apart and glued back together over and over again until the pieces just don't fit anymore.

[Furtherman]

relationships never break cleanly for me. they're like a vase that gets smashed apart and glued back together over and over again until the pieces just don't fit anymore.

Mom said don't play ball in the house!

[buzzard]

Uh oh, i see dirty vultures circling.

I deeply resent that! good luck in the deep-end of the pool Skelly!:wink:

[Fat_Sunny]

relationships never break cleanly for me. they're like a vase that gets smashed apart and glued back together over and over again until the pieces just don't fit anymore.

Wow, That Was Very Nicely Stated! Excellent Analogy, DG/DB !

[Dougie Brootal]

Wow, That Was Very Nicely Stated! Excellent Analogy, DG/DB !
i cant take all the credit. i was paraphrasing one of the great minds of my generation... Mr. Marilyn Manson. but its always proven true for me too. :(

[Don Stugots]

be patient my pet.... i'm current going through the violent stage of single, whereas any blunt object in close proximity gets wung at whatever is moving and still breathing. :blink:

ok, its the dirty talk like this that makes me want to wisk you off your feet.

[spoon]

Now we only need a post from BDC and all the dirty old men are here.

[scorpion]

Ok.
If what you said was the worst part of being in a relationship with you then he must just not get it.

Grumpy girlfriend = put cookie in mouth ?
Seriously I would kill to have someone that uncomplicated and independent. You seem like a very great person and would be fun to be around. Yes there are things that someone would need to be aware of because of your diabetes but we all have to something that the other person needs to be aware of.

If he really cared then it would not have mattered.

You seem like a well together person. After the violent single phase you'll meet some one.

Take Care

[FUNKMAN]

i'm single, have nachos AND chex mix...

AND gimmick infringement.

some women are worth bending the gimmick laws for...

[Dougie Brootal]

some women are worth bending the gimmick laws for...
THE HELL WITH GIMMICK LAWS!!!! I'D BEND MY COCK IN HALF FOR THIS CHICK!!!!!!

[Death Metal Moe]

THE HELL WITH GIMMICK LAWS!!!! I'D BEND MY COCK IN HALF FOR THIS CHICK!!!!!!

They like the desperate angle, keep it up!

[Don Stugots]

They like the desperate angle, keep it up!

hahahah. your best post ever maybe.

[Dougie Brootal]

They like the desperate angle, keep it up!
WHY YA GOTTA BLOW UP MY SPOT MOE?????

[Death Metal Moe]

WHY YA GOTTA BLOW UP MY SPOT MOE?????

http://www.collegegear.com/sf/stores/product_images/181482.jpg

[TheMojoPin]

WHY YA GOTTA BLOW UP MY SPOT MOE?????

Moe's not even needed. This is like the Maginot Line of flirting.

[Dougie Brootal]

http://www.collegegear.com/sf/stores/product_images/181482.jpg

damn you death metal moe! DAMN YOU TO HELL!!!!!

[Don Stugots]

damn you death metal moe! DAMN YOU TO HELL!!!!!

haha.

[Dougie Brootal]

i seriously hate all you guys. lets get this thread back on track. skellington is sad. aaaaaaaaand... GO!!

[Don Stugots]

i seriously hate all you guys. lets get this thread back on track. skellington is hot. aaaaaaaaand... GO!!

fixed that for you.

[TheMojoPin]

i seriously hate all you guys. lets get this thread back on track. skellington is sad. aaaaaaaaand... I'M TOUCHING MYSELF!!

Fixed fixed.

[Hottub]

Excuse me, kiddies.
This was posted in "That's Life", by the author's own choice.
Let's remember that, please.

[Dougie Brootal]

Excuse me, kiddies.
This was posted in "That's Life", by the author's own choice.
Let's remember that, please.

youre right tub. i apologize

[Death Metal Moe]

Excuse me, kiddies.
This was posted in "That's Life", by the author's own choice.
Let's remember that, please.

http://www.nolifetilmetal.com/images/killjoylogo.gif

[Hottub]

http://www.nolifetilmetal.com/images/killjoylogo.gif

You know my soft spot, Moe. But seriously, no more.

Got it?

[Death Metal Moe]

Oh I got it. But I didn't think anyone was making light of her situation or feelings at all. Skellington is old skool Ron and Fez, we all like her and there's been equal parts fun loving jokes and honest comments on dating and relationships.

[Dougie Brootal]

Oh I got it. But I didn't think anyone was making light of her situation or feelings at all. Skellington is old skool Ron and Fez, we all like her and there's been equal parts fun loving jokes and honest comments on dating and relationships.

watch out moe. you know hottub has itchy trigger finger!


I SAID TRIGGER!!

[Marc with a c]

bring back dougiebrootal

[Justice4all]

Uh oh, i see dirty vultures circling.



Uh oh...did you suddenly become single????:tongue:

[Skellington]

fixed that for you.

awe shucks. just remember: t-shirt pics.

I'm not really sad, just down because i'm at the point where i really do want my rock (not the one on the finger..although i do look forward to marriage one day). I enjoy life and what i do, i just want someone to share that with and not have all the friggen complications. sex would be nice too. In due time. Right now, painting my new room red and writing REDRUM on the wall before painting has kept me in a gigglie mood. You guys are all awesome as always. :wub:

[A.J.]

sex would be nice too.

If THAT wasn't throwing chum in the water...

http://www.movieactors.com/photos/jaws51.jpeg

[Bulldogcakes]

Skell dial a date-DC style? Maybe a upcoming segment on the show? Set it up with her and some of the board regulars calling in?



Personally, I'm pulling for AJ.





wait a minute . . . . . let me rephrase that.

[Skellington]

Skell dial a date-DC style? Maybe a upcoming segment on the show? Set it up with her and some of the board regulars calling in?



Personally, I'm pulling for AJ.





wait a minute . . . . . let me rephrase that.

Not sure about dial a date, but i'm all about going out dressed like a pirate and getting tanked. For the local folk, that means pirate weekend at Rennitard Fest. 6 tankards of mead and i was riding a pachyderm.

[spoon]

:dry:Skell dial a date-DC style? Maybe a upcoming segment on the show? Set it up with her and some of the board regulars calling in?



Personally, I'm pulling for AJ.





wait a minute . . . . . let me rephrase that.



With that the thread is complete! Now pick away skelly.

[narc]

Hey Spoon!

I'll date Skellington. But I don't have BDC's dog love, Justice's sexy cop shtick or Douggrasso's um...submissiveness?

[IamPixie]

Hey Spoon!

I'll date Skellington. But I don't have BDC's dog love, Justice's sexy cop shtick or Douggrasso's um...submissiveness?

you sure about that mr. slave?

[razorboy]

you sure about that mr. slave?

Ha!

[Skellington]

:dry:



With that the thread is complete! Now pick away skelly.

Bring out the gimp!

[FUNKMAN]

boy do i love giving foot rubs...

[Dougie Brootal]

boy do i love giving foot jobs...

EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!

[FUNKMAN]

boy do i love giving blowjobs...

now it's accurate...

[Dougie Brootal]

now it's accurate...

:flush:

[Skellington]

now it's accurate...

...i'm removing the gay from this thread:

http://photos.imageevent.com/kriegweasel/fotos/small/eep.jpg

[Dougie Brootal]

...i'm removing the gay from this thread:

http://photos.imageevent.com/kriegweasel/fotos/small/eep.jpg

thank god!

[JPMNICK]

...i'm removing the gay from this thread:

http://photos.imageevent.com/kriegweasel/fotos/small/eep.jpg

amazingness

[Fallon]

...i'm removing the gay from this thread:

http://photos.imageevent.com/kriegweasel/fotos/small/eep.jpg

You might remove it from the thread.

But you'll never remove it.... from the board!!!

http://mobcode.com/files/braveheart.jpg

[Dougie Brootal]

:clap::lol::clap::lol::clap::lol::clap::lol:

[scorpion]

...i'm removing the gay from this thread:

http://photos.imageevent.com/kriegweasel/fotos/small/eep.jpg

Worked for me :smoke:

[spoon]

...i'm removing the gay from this thread:

http://photos.imageevent.com/kriegweasel/fotos/small/eep.jpg

thank god!

You know Doug is commenting on how nicely Skell accessorized and nothing else.

[Gmann]

.
http://photos.imageevent.com/kriegweasel/fotos/small/eep.jpg



Umm....you have a loose thread there in your shirt.

Lemme help get that for you :innocent:

[narc]

You might remove it from the thread.

But you'll never remove it.... from the board!!!

http://mobcode.com/files/braveheart.jpg

Fallon is correct as always.

[ralphbxny]

...i'm removing the gay from this thread:

http://photos.imageevent.com/kriegweasel/fotos/small/eep.jpg

:wub:

[FUNKMAN]

man am i good at making 'wine-soaked' goat cheese...

[Dougie Brootal]

man am i good at making 'wine-soaked' gay love...

EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!!!!

[FUNKMAN]

man am i good at making goats cum...


here we go again! :smile:

[Don Stugots]

I love that pic. skelly is the best.

[Bulldogcakes]

I love that pic. skelly is the best.

She really is. We just need to find a guy who will give her a good spanking when she gets moody and we will have the makings of a healthy, happy relationship.

[Dougie Brootal]

here we go again! :smile:

:furious:this shant go unpunished!:furious:

[Justice4all]

...i'm removing the gay from this thread:

http://photos.imageevent.com/kriegweasel/fotos/small/eep.jpg


Just when I thought the spank bank could not get fuller...along comes Skell.:clap::clap:

Thanks!!!

[King Hippos Bandaid]

She really is. We just need to find a guy who will give her a good spanking when she gets moody and we will have the makings of a healthy, happy relationship.

too bad you are dating Dorothy Crosley, you would have been Perfect

:king:

[JerseyRich]

Hey,

What's all the commotion in here.

Oh. Hey now!

How YOU doin'?