View Full Version : Asking a girl out
keithy_19
09-15-2007, 11:45 PM
So, I've gotten over my ex as much as I can for the time being and have found myself an incredible girl who is stunning to look at and even more stunning on the inside.
We've been friends for awhile, though we stopped talking for a good amount of time. We recently met up again and have hit it off in everyway. We're seeing each other and we do everything a couple does (minus anything really sexual, since we both want to make sure that's what we want befoe we dive in, something pretty mature coming from two nineteen year olds) and I'm just falling for her more every time I see her.
We talked about becoming "official", but she is scared of relationships. Not even the relationship, just how the past few relationships she's been in have really fucked up her idea of relationships. I would not be anything like her previous boyfriends and I know that I would do everything in my power to make her happy.
Last night we were stuck in Penn Station together for the night and I was happy we got stuck cause it meant more time for us to be together. And, I can tell she feels the same way. Least I think she feels the same way.
So, my question is, how do I get her tot ake that leap of faith and make her "mine"? I know time is always the best bet, but is there any other way to make this go from "i'm seeing a girl" to "i'm seeing my girl?
sailor
09-16-2007, 01:41 AM
i was going to go with time, but you've already got that one. if you're already getting along great, and she knows how you feel, you can only continue to show her how great you are. and i assume this is the harlem party girl?
(i also had a crass joke based on your first paragraph, but am biting my tongue and respecting the forum.)
keithy_19
09-16-2007, 02:06 AM
i was going to go with time, but you've already got that one. if you're already getting along great, and she knows how you feel, you can only continue to show her how great you are. and i assume this is the harlem party girl?
(i also had a crass joke based on your first paragraph, but am biting my tongue and respecting the forum.)
This is the harlem party girl. I think that's one of the things I love about her. It's just so fun being around her and I'm doing things I never thought I'd be doing and I'm having so much fun.
And crass jokes are ok by me. I have a sense of humor so it doesn't bother me much.
drjoek
09-16-2007, 05:43 AM
keithy
Not trying to break your balls
You should start a blog here
Bulldogcakes
09-16-2007, 05:44 AM
So, my question is, how do I get her to take that leap of faith and make her "mine"? I know time is always the best bet, but is there any other way to make this go from "i'm seeing a girl" to "i'm seeing my girl?
If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they're yours, if they don't they never were. -Richard Bach
You have to man up and make it clear you need more than the current arrangement. Take charge my friend, she may actually be waiting for you to do so. Make your feelings clear to her, and tell her that what you two have now just isn't enough for you. If she's afraid of getting into a relationship, see how she feels about losing you. Sounds harsh, but you'll know for sure if she feels the same way about you or if you're in the permanent "friend zone" in her eyes.
thejives
09-16-2007, 08:52 AM
Usually there's a bracelet or something that you put on her wrist to indicate that you're going steady.
I think they sell them down at the soda fountain for a ha'penny.
j/k
You just have to say, "I'm not dating anyone else, and I'd like to be exclusive. Are you cool with that?" If she is go make out. You'll be married in a year.
lleeder
09-16-2007, 08:59 AM
For it to be "official" you need to make a move on her. Once the relationship gets sexual it will be real anything less than that is just two close friends. Verbal discussions will lead nowhere unless there is something more behind it.
The Silencer
09-16-2007, 10:02 AM
i agree...tell her how you feel and make a move on her!
FUNKMAN
09-16-2007, 10:14 AM
just kiss her softly on the mouth... and give her your attention and let her know she is the one that you want to be with
Doctor Z
09-16-2007, 10:22 AM
Women are not as cool to be around as you make them out to be.
Just remember: Don't put the pussy on a pedestal.
keithy_19
09-16-2007, 12:17 PM
I have made a move. We've made out several times. We walked around the city holding hands. She makes innuendo. For instance, we were standing outside of Penn Station smoking and she said how more than anything she wanted just a big comfy bed to lay down in. I said soemthing along the lines of I could really go for that box on the road (something really dumb cause she enjoys my stupidness). She replied with, that makes me sad cause I really wanted you to be in that big comfy bed with me.
I know it's just a term, but "boy friend & girlfriend" hold a whole lot of weight. She's into me, she's jsut afraid of letting herself open up to get hurt. She's opened up a lot with me, but I just don't want to push her away by insisiting we should be official, even though that's what I want.
And I should start a blog here. It could be called, "Relationship blunders and social miscues featuring Keithy_19".
keithy_19
09-16-2007, 08:46 PM
Many of you have said to just make a move. What kind of move should I make and how should I go about making this move?
JPMNICK
09-16-2007, 08:51 PM
Many of you have said to just make a move. What kind of move should I make and how should I go about making this move?
take her out to dinner, and while you are there say how much you like her and her company, and you think there is a future with you 2. then say how you would like to be exclusive with her, because she makes you so happy, and no one else can do that for you.
keithy_19
09-16-2007, 10:11 PM
take her out to dinner, and while you are there say how much you like her and her company, and you think there is a future with you 2. then say how you would like to be exclusive with her, because she makes you so happy, and no one else can do that for you.
Ok. I thought people meant a sexual move, which is what I was confused about.
I fully intend on doing what you said. I want to ensure her too that I'm not like the guys she's dated before. And I do really enjoy her company. It's amazing how much fun I have with her.
AJDELAWARE
09-17-2007, 04:47 AM
People still do this? I thought that ended in highschool. If there are mutual feelings between the both of you, then its jsut a natural occurrence. If she feels the same way about you, then she will just stop seeing other people.
donnie_darko
09-17-2007, 05:29 AM
if you've already "made out" it seems to me that you're just waiting for a verbal agreement from her of some sort?
It seems she is a bit more hung up than you are, and it sounds like she does just need more time.
I think if anything she's taking her time to be sure that you aren't going to end up like her previous relationships, I say give it time, what is there to lose? Hopefully she won't try to sabotage what you have if she starts to get uncomfortable with where it's going.
good luck
Justice4all
09-17-2007, 11:07 AM
I have made a move. We've made out several times. We walked around the city holding hands. She makes innuendo. For instance, we were standing outside of Penn Station smoking and she said how more than anything she wanted just a big comfy bed to lay down in. I said soemthing along the lines of I could really go for that box on the road (something really dumb cause she enjoys my stupidness). She replied with, that makes me sad cause I really wanted you to be in that big comfy bed with me.
I know it's just a term, but "boy friend & girlfriend" hold a whole lot of weight. She's into me, she's jsut afraid of letting herself open up to get hurt. She's opened up a lot with me, but I just don't want to push her away by insisiting we should be official, even though that's what I want.
And I should start a blog here. It could be called, "Relationship blunders and social miscues featuring Keithy_19".
Keith,
Sounds to me like this girl already is into you. So why have the need for the label.
I know all too well how nice it is to be able to say "I'm going to see my girl" and all the good feelings that comes with it. Hell most ALL guys here do.
instead of pressuring her into making her say she is in a relationship, do not mention it again. Wait a few more weeks. Keep doing what you both are doing. Hold hands. Go out on dates. Spend time together. Then, look at her (eye contact is REALLY important) and just mention something like "You know, I feel really great when I spend time with you. I always look forward to the next time. You really make me feel awsome and I wanted to say thanks for making me a lucky guy" or something to that effect. Just say something from the heart. I bet she will then start to talk about how SHE feels.
That will be a good segway (sp?) into having the relationship talk.
Just tell her, she may not want to label it as bf/gf but the time you gave meant you also give no pressure. she might like that also.
If she seems less hesitant but still has some reservations about being in a relationship, tell her something like "Well I don't know about you, but I like telling people about the time we spend. And like you, I have been burned before. But this sure feels like a relationship to me. Or at least, this feels like how a relationship SHOULD be. What do YOU think?"
Again, something like that.
It should tell her two things.
#1. You are not really asking to change much. Just that you would be proud to be her boyfriend.
#2. you also are interesting in what she THINKS. A girl can really like that too.
Most of all just be yourself and speak from your heart.
I am sure she might change her mind if she sees how really into her you are.
Good luck buddy and keep us updated!
drjoek
09-17-2007, 11:33 AM
I read it quickly I thought this thread was about eating a girl out!!:smoke:
keithy_19
09-17-2007, 11:51 AM
I read it quickly I thought this thread was about eating a girl out!!:smoke:
It was. I mistyped the title and then edited the body to match the title.
But anyway, yeah, it does seem like she's really into me. And it just amazes me how I wasso fucking down about my ex. And there were other girls I could have done stuff with but it felt so forced and I just got dissapointed in myself even more. But when me and her started talking it was entirely different. I wasn't thinking about my ex anymore. When I kiss her it's not like I'm kissing my ex. It just feels so right. I hope she feels the same way.
And, I'm not pressuring her. We had a conversation about it and she said that more than anything she wants a relationship, but she's just afraid of getting hurt again. I can't pressure her into something like that. I guess I could, but that wouldn't be a wise thing to do. I just, absolutely adore her. With every sense of the words. I got stuck with her at penns tation and I loved every minute of it. I don't think I would have enjoyed it nearly as much if I got trapped with my ex there (while we were still dating).
She told me, that it feels nice to wake up and not feel all alone anymore. It's amazing how I feel exactly the same. There's this connection there, and if I had made it to Bar Nine with her on friday you would have all been patting me on the back wondering how the hell did I pull it off.
Furtherman
09-17-2007, 11:58 AM
And it just amazes me how I wasso fucking down about my ex.
Now go back and read what many of us told you... there will be others. Told you so!
BUT... and listen here Keith, you just got out of one relationship into another. And yea, you're holding hands and had a little adventure but you gotta be careful. Don't let this girl consume your thoughts and feelings because that's what they tend to do with you. I know know can't help it and you've yet to develop a hard heart, but I think, for your own sake, you need to take this S...L...O...W.
Follow Justice4all's advice, it's sound.
drjoek
09-17-2007, 12:02 PM
Having read alot of your posts it seems you are a age appropriately reckless so I will remind you STRONGLY
http://www.information-condom-source.com/Images/Trojan-Condoms.gif
nuff sed
JerseyRich
09-17-2007, 12:06 PM
A lot of good advice in here so far.
I know it's difficult for a 19 year old to think in terms like this( I remember being just that way) but just take your time with her. Remember that you are both young and you don't owe anything to each other. It sounds like things are already going in the right direction. Spending the night in Penn Station was a good thing.
Relationships are basically tests to see who you can tolerate for long periods of time.
If you could tolerate her into the early hours of Sunday morning, then you're in good shape kid.
Also, make sure you wrap it up when it comes time.
keithy_19
09-17-2007, 12:10 PM
I have only had sex without a rubber once. And, it was just in and out and then I bagged it. I always take special notice about those things. No way I could spend amssive amounts of time on here and tak care of a kid. Ask Mikeyboy, he knows.
keithy_19
09-17-2007, 12:12 PM
Now go back and read what many of us told you... there will be others. Told you so!
BUT... and listen here Keith, you just got out of one relationship into another. And yea, you're holding hands and had a little adventure but you gotta be careful. Don't let this girl consume your thoughts and feelings because that's what they tend to do with you. I know know can't help it and you've yet to develop a hard heart, but I think, for your own sake, you need to take this S...L...O...W.
Follow Justice4all's advice, it's sound.
I want to take it slow too. It's just, we do everything a couple does and act like a couple without being a couple. Which is actually a dream come true for a lot of people. But, I'm happy so just let it be.
thejives
09-17-2007, 12:15 PM
I have only had sex without a rubber once. And, it was just in and out and then I bagged it. I always take special notice about those things. No way I could spend amssive amounts of time on here and tak care of a kid. Ask Mikeyboy, he knows.
Yeah, I think most people are really good about it nowadays. But I never called it a rubber. I thought that stopped in the 80s. To me they were always "condoms" or "protection."
keithy_19
09-17-2007, 12:21 PM
Yeah, I think most people are really good about it nowadays. But I never called it a rubber. I thought that stopped in the 80s. To me they were always "condoms" or "protection."
Eh. I call women dames, broads, and toots. I'm straight out of the 40's-50's. It's a wonderful thing. Such a simple time.
JerseyRich
09-17-2007, 12:23 PM
Yeah, I think most people are really good about it nowadays. But I never called it a rubber. I thought that stopped in the 80s. To me they were always "condoms" or "protection."
Oh boy. I feel another thread coming on.
thejives
09-17-2007, 12:26 PM
I've started a couple threads that fell flat, so I'm not starting anymore until I've got something really good. Like if I meet Fezzie's fiance in Otario.
drjoek
09-17-2007, 02:23 PM
Doesn't Fez pay 125/hour for a life coach?
What are we going to charge keithy for all this life coaching we give him?
:innocent:
keithy_19
09-17-2007, 02:41 PM
Doesn't Fez pay 125/hour for a life coach?
What are we going to charge keithy for all this life coaching we give him?
:innocent:
Perhaps I'll throw a ronfez.net party somewhere and that's how I'll repay everyone.
buzzard
09-17-2007, 03:02 PM
"I've paid for many women worse than you" has always been one of my favorite get-to-know-you-sedgeways...
keithy_19
09-18-2007, 01:14 PM
I may see her tonight. If anything of importance happens, I'll be sure to post it. Woo.
JerseyRich
09-18-2007, 01:17 PM
I may see her tonight. If anything of importance happens, I'll be sure to post it. Woo.
Just make sure you obey the speed limit.
thejives
09-18-2007, 01:18 PM
Score, Kiethy.
Score, and when you climax scream DOT NET!!!
and if she asks about it, pretend not to hear.
Furtherman
09-18-2007, 01:38 PM
I may see her tonight. If anything of importance happens, I'll be sure to post it. Woo.
Leave your poems home.
mikeyboy
09-18-2007, 01:49 PM
If you guys know so much about women, how come you're here at like Gas 'n Sip on a Saturday night, completely alone, drinking beers, no women anywhere?
Furtherman
09-18-2007, 01:51 PM
It's a choice, man!
keithy_19
09-18-2007, 02:01 PM
Leave your poems home.
She loves poetry and thinks I'm very talented. She writes as well and wanted to be a writer for awhile and still does too. But it's her second passion in life. Acting blows it out of the water.
So if anything, poetry is good for her.
FUNKMAN
09-18-2007, 02:02 PM
you guys would say anything...
Furtherman
09-18-2007, 02:19 PM
She loves poetry and thinks I'm very talented. She writes as well and wanted to be a writer for awhile and still does too. But it's her second passion in life. Acting blows it out of the water.
So if anything, poetry is good for her.
Fair enough, you would know better than me. Go for it and have fun.
keithy_19
09-18-2007, 03:31 PM
Fair enough, you would know better than me. Go for it and have fun.
Well, I'll try to leave the poetry about other girls at home.
thejives
09-18-2007, 03:40 PM
If you guys know so much about women, how come you're here at like Gas 'n Sip on a Saturday night, completely alone, drinking beers, no women anywhere?
I'm in less of a place to give woman advice than the .netters with kids.
I'm only married. They have tangible proof that they've scored.
keithy_19
09-18-2007, 09:17 PM
I didn't see her tonight. It sucks cause she goes to school, takes the train home, gets home at like 12-12:30 and then is so exhausted.
Oh well. In time.
FUNKMAN
09-18-2007, 09:25 PM
I didn't see her tonight. It sucks cause she goes to school, takes the train home, gets home at like 12-12:30 and then is so exhausted.
Oh well. In time.
sure she was in school??????? or so the germans woiuld have us believe
CruelCircus
09-19-2007, 12:30 AM
You know, your very first line made me think she may be wary of where your feelings are:
"So, I've gotten over my ex as much as I can for the time being and have found myself an incredible girl who is stunning to look at and even more stunning on the inside."
"For the time being..."?
Are you sure you're as over your ex as you think you are? Are you sure she isn't wondering the same thing?
scumbros1
09-19-2007, 05:59 AM
send her flowers. works every time. send em to her work. her awful chick friends will eat that shit up. she'll get the message
keithy_19
09-19-2007, 09:14 AM
You know, your very first line made me think she may be wary of where your feelings are:
"So, I've gotten over my ex as much as I can for the time being and have found myself an incredible girl who is stunning to look at and even more stunning on the inside."
"For the time being..."?
Are you sure you're as over your ex as you think you are? Are you sure she isn't wondering the same thing?
I said time being because I will get over her more with every passing day.
And, you make good points. I do miss my ex. But, that's over. That chapter of my life is done. After the lies and deception I don't know if I could go back if I wanted to, which I don't.
Maybe I should talk to her about that though...
Justice4all
09-19-2007, 01:08 PM
Now go back and read what many of us told you... there will be others. Told you so!
BUT... and listen here Keith, you just got out of one relationship into another. And yea, you're holding hands and had a little adventure but you gotta be careful. Don't let this girl consume your thoughts and feelings because that's what they tend to do with you. I know know can't help it and you've yet to develop a hard heart, but I think, for your own sake, you need to take this S...L...O...W.
Follow Justice4all's advice, it's sound.
I'm sorry....is this still RonFez.net??? I got thrown off by someone agreeing with me!:tongue:
Keith, did you just say maybe you should go back to your ex and talk to her about how fucked up the relationship was?
If you do that would be not only a MAJOR step backwards but it would also jepordize the current relationship you are in now.
If your current flame finds out you had any contact at all with your ex, especially after how she treated you and how crushed you were, she will think that girl has a hold on you and will most likely get spooked and want to walk away.
Trust me, the past relationship is best left in the past. Concentrate on the one you have in front of you. She seems like a good chick.
keithy_19
09-19-2007, 06:29 PM
I'm sorry....is this still RonFez.net??? I got thrown off by someone agreeing with me!:tongue:
Keith, did you just say maybe you should go back to your ex and talk to her about how fucked up the relationship was?
If you do that would be not only a MAJOR step backwards but it would also jepordize the current relationship you are in now.
If your current flame finds out you had any contact at all with your ex, especially after how she treated you and how crushed you were, she will think that girl has a hold on you and will most likely get spooked and want to walk away.
Trust me, the past relationship is best left in the past. Concentrate on the one you have in front of you. She seems like a good chick.
I know. She's a wonderful chcik.
I wrote my ex a letter, but I don't plan on ever sending it to her. It was therapeutic. The start of fall remidns me of her. I don't know why really.
But I need to focus on this new girl. She's wodnerful. Better than anything I thought I could ever achieve.
JPMNICK
09-19-2007, 07:48 PM
I know. She's a wonderful chcik.
I wrote my ex a letter, but I don't plan on ever sending it to her. It was therapeutic. The start of fall remidns me of her. I don't know why really.
But I need to focus on this new girl. She's wodnerful. Better than anything I thought I could ever achieve.
i think you fall so hard in a breakup because you build these girls up so much in your head. they are just girls. and young ones at that. don't put them on a pedastal
PapaBear
09-19-2007, 07:57 PM
i think you fall so hard in a breakup because you build these girls up so much in your head. they are just girls. and young ones at that. don't put them on a pedastal
qft
keithy_19
09-20-2007, 04:12 PM
I saw her last night/this morning if you get technical. We had a great time just sitting on her front steps. I wrote her a letter with my feelings and all that. I didn't put myself totally out there, but I just let her know how I felt and unfortunately lately speaking words like that has been difficult. She said she was writing me a response to it, so I'll find out stuff tonight.
She thinks I smell great though, so I got that going for me.
thejives
09-20-2007, 08:47 PM
She thinks I smell great though, so I got that going for me.
Nice.
Work it.
keithy_19
09-21-2007, 03:02 PM
So, I recevied a four page not today, front abd back, about what my relationship with her is and all this other stuff.
Basically, we're just gonna date. It's like we're exclusive but without the title because she's afraid of the titles for whatever reason. She said that she wants me in her life, and that she's never wanted someone to be a part of her life more than she wants me to be part of hers.
So, we'll be two people who like each other and go out and have a good time. With time it will progress into more.
And her point is valid, what does bf/gf mean? It means nothing really. It doesn't stop someone from seeing someone else. It doesn't do anything but add false insurance to a situation. So whatever.
JPMNICK
09-21-2007, 05:12 PM
So, I recevied a four page not today, front abd back, about what my relationship with her is and all this other stuff.
Basically, we're just gonna date. It's like we're exclusive but without the title because she's afraid of the titles for whatever reason. She said that she wants me in her life, and that she's never wanted someone to be a part of her life more than she wants me to be part of hers.
So, we'll be two people who like each other and go out and have a good time. With time it will progress into more.
And her point is valid, what does bf/gf mean? It means nothing really. It doesn't stop someone from seeing someone else. It doesn't do anything but add false insurance to a situation. So whatever.
what are the biggest pussy on this board. for fucking 3 weeks we all had to hear about how you wanted to title and how it meant a lot to you because she was so special and how you were going to go about asking her out.
then she feeds you lines of bullshit about how the title is to much for her to handle and all the sudden your stance is "what is in the name"
fuck that, she thinks you are a whiny pussy and she needs someone with a backbone. you are basically the girl of the relationship and she is the dude. she will keep you around for her enjoyment until she finds someone else, and then she will fucking leave you in pieces.
pull your shit together and say to her, it has to be official or I am walking. never let pussy control you.
mikeyboy
09-21-2007, 05:30 PM
what are the biggest pussy on this board. for fucking 3 weeks we all had to hear about how you wanted to title and how it meant a lot to you because she was so special and how you were going to go about asking her out.
then she feeds you lines of bullshit about how the title is to much for her to handle and all the sudden your stance is "what is in the name"
fuck that, she thinks you are a whiny pussy and she needs someone with a backbone. you are basically the girl of the relationship and she is the dude. she will keep you around for her enjoyment until she finds someone else, and then she will fucking leave you in pieces.
pull your shit together and say to her, it has to be official or I am walking. never let pussy control you.
I see your point, Nick, but isn't taking a stance that it has to be official just as dumb as her saying that she doesn't want the title. It seems to me that it's the same relationship no matter what. It's a "pick your battles" type of approach that might be warranted here. If the title is that important to you, Keithy, push the issue. If it's not, don't bother, because at the end of the day, the relationship is the same. The only thing you have control over is whether or not there's a little extra drama.
Can I add that this reminds me why I don't miss my teenage relationships at all.
Ritalin
09-21-2007, 05:38 PM
Hey, it's Ritalin here.
I just want to jump in here to point out that when you start wondering what your "title" is in a relationship....actually, just exactly when you first use the word "title"...it's time to get the fuck out.
Dig?
keithy_19
09-22-2007, 12:39 AM
Hey, it's Ritalin here.
I just want to jump in here to point out that when you start wondering what your "title" is in a relationship....actually, just exactly when you first use the word "title"...it's time to get the fuck out.
Dig?
To be honest, no.
And Nick, yeah I want to be her boyfriend. But, I guess, if it's not what she wants I'm not going to throw something potentially really good away. All I can do is work at it. And, if it turns out I get no where than ok. She's just not a person who will say something she doesn't mean. I'm not blinded by feelings either. She wouldn't be wasting her time with me if she didn't really have these feelings. So, she enjoys me and we have a relationship, it's just not defined. She's not seeing anyone else, nor am I. It could be I just needed the way she put it for it to be ok with me.
cupcakelove
09-22-2007, 12:42 AM
Just make sure you enjoy yourself. Don't try to conform to some preconceived notion of what a relationship is supposed to be. Make sure your happiness is number one, if its not then you might want to reevaluate what your doing with this girl. If you're not happy with her, then don't waste your time.
keithy_19
09-22-2007, 01:06 AM
Just make sure you enjoy yourself. Don't try to conform to some preconceived notion of what a relationship is supposed to be. Make sure your happiness is number one, if its not then you might want to reevaluate what your doing with this girl. If you're not happy with her, then don't waste your time.
That's just the thing. When I'm with her I'm so happy. Status doesn't mean a God damn thing. Then I get home and I think to much about it all. Then status starts to matter. But when I'm with her it's a blast.
cupcakelove
09-22-2007, 01:12 AM
Well brother, if you really are happy with her, than you should tell her. If she's not interested, then move on with your life, if she is, then go for it. Do not worry about what she'll think, just go be yourself. You don't have to marry every girl you're with, just make sure you are having a good time, no matter what you're doing.
Justice4all
09-22-2007, 08:26 PM
Well it sounds like she wants you around, but you have to deal with the fact she does not want you to be known as the BF.
just be careful, she MIGHT (maybe, but maybe not) have someone else she is seeing so if they ask if she has a BF she could say "No" and tell the truth.
But if you dig being with her, keep an open mind and an open heart.
If things go sour then you can't blame yourself.
Try your best.
And good luck man, at least she says she wants to spend time with you. And as long as her actions are backing up her words then you have no problem.
Sorry Nick but I do think your idea of "Say I am your BF or I am walking" is a little TOO harsh.
Let's cut the kids some slack. It IS a new relationship.
But, Keith....if it is 4-5 months down the line and she is still leery about having a BF in her life...then I would start to be a little leery.
keithy_19
09-23-2007, 09:38 AM
Well it sounds like she wants you around, but you have to deal with the fact she does not want you to be known as the BF.
just be careful, she MIGHT (maybe, but maybe not) have someone else she is seeing so if they ask if she has a BF she could say "No" and tell the truth.
But if you dig being with her, keep an open mind and an open heart.
If things go sour then you can't blame yourself.
Try your best.
And good luck man, at least she says she wants to spend time with you. And as long as her actions are backing up her words then you have no problem.
Sorry Nick but I do think your idea of "Say I am your BF or I am walking" is a little TOO harsh.
Let's cut the kids some slack. It IS a new relationship.
But, Keith....if it is 4-5 months down the line and she is still leery about having a BF in her life...then I would start to be a little leery.
We hung out last night. I got home at 5:45 this morning and I had such a good time with her.
I asked her basically what to say when people asked what me and her were. She said I should just tell them that we're dating. So, whatever.
I'm just starting to realize that it shouldn't matter what you're called as long as your happy. I don't want to be with her to show off. I want to be with her cause I love her company.
And yeah, if 4-5 months down the line we're still just this floating relationship thing, than I may start to question it all. And she told me there's no one else in her life and that she's not looking. I believe her. Though my biggest fault may be that I trust to much.
Leticia
09-23-2007, 12:50 PM
We hung out last night. I got home at 5:45 this morning and I had such a good time with her.
I asked her basically what to say when people asked what me and her were. She said I should just tell them that we're dating. So, whatever.
I'm just starting to realize that it shouldn't matter what you're called as long as your happy. I don't want to be with her to show off. I want to be with her cause I love her company.
And yeah, if 4-5 months down the line we're still just this floating relationship thing, than I may start to question it all. And she told me there's no one else in her life and that she's not looking. I believe her. Though my biggest fault may be that I trust to much.
Well I'm glad you've decided to let be. You would def. have a reason to ask in a few months, but enjoy it while it's happening.
It sounds like you are..
Good luck. :wub:
keithy_19
09-23-2007, 01:04 PM
Well I'm glad you've decided to let be. You would def. have a reason to ask in a few months, but enjoy it while it's happening.
It sounds like you are..
Good luck. :wub:
Thank you for the kind words. It's much appreciated. :innocent:
vBulletin® v3.7.0, Copyright ©2000-2025, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.