I finally tore into a girl

[Chainsaw]

Sadly, throughout my somewhat fruitless years of dating, relationships, etc...I've always kind of kept things in perspective and tried to not let any one of those relationships get me down...

I've never yelled at a girl, despite how bad they've made me feel...always have been understanding and considerate to a fault...

Well, the other day I finally let a recent ex have it...and I feel guilty for saying it felt good. I said a lot of hurtful things that were pretty grounded in the truth...

Anyhow...since this is new territory for me, was wondering if I should be feeling more remorse (or any) for verbally hurting someone like that (she is a loud cryer too...). I don't want it to become a habit, but I don't know if it felt good b/c I was finally striking back for all the relationships of my past or b/c I was honest and protected myself....I seriously hope it wasn't b/c beneath it all that I'm a mean spirited bastard and this is a manifestation of this personality trait...

Just needed to vent...thanks..

[cupcakelove]

We're all human buddy, don't be so hard on yourself.

[Dougie Brootal]

dont feel bad. she probably deserved it.

[Death Metal Moe]

I love 'em, but women have this uncanny nack for just slowly and quietly beating you down. They never really take a huge bite at one time, just slowly and methodically wearing you down. So if you were to take issue with one of the little things she did you'd look like a fool, but a lot of the time it just ends up like your situation did.

I don't like to speak to people like that and it sounds like you don't either. But there is a breaking point we all reach. You reached yours, don't feel bad.

[Furtherman]

We don't know the circumstances, but if she deserved it, good for you. That good feeling will get better once you realize you're not thinking about her as often as you did.

[MadMatt]

I think your feelings of guilt and remorse say it all. This was an isolated incident - you were finally pushed too far.

Be mindful of it, but don't worry about it too much. There are times you just need to be honest even if it hurts.

[Leticia]

i think it's good to really let someone have it when they deserve it.

of course the only thing that could be bad is if you felt yourself maybe taking everything you held in from other relationships and letting all out with her. In this case although she would have deserved being called out, she probably didn't deserve taking all the slack for your past relationshps.

[ShabbyDoll]

You needed to say what you said to her. It had to come out. There's closure in there for you. No secrets, no ambiguities, no false niceties... It's done - you said it and you felt relieved, right? You can go on now.

[DarkHippie]

it makes me do a double take when a guy that calls himself 'chainsaw' says that he 'tore into a girl'

[donnie_darko]

seriously.
you feel bad for telling someone the truth.

i'm sorry it took so long for you to find your balls.

[Chainsaw]

I love 'em, but women have this uncanny nack for just slowly and quietly beating you down. They never really take a huge bite at one time, just slowly and methodically wearing you down. So if you were to take issue with one of the little things she did you'd look like a fool, but a lot of the time it just ends up like your situation did.

I don't like to speak to people like that and it sounds like you don't either. But there is a breaking point we all reach. You reached yours, don't feel bad.

You stepped up to the plate and knocked it out of the park with those words...I could never verbalize it, but that's exactly what happened...

I don't feel so bad about it anymore, I'd feel worse if I never said anything and just let the things she did get to me...

[Chainsaw]

it makes me do a double take when a guy that calls himself 'chainsaw' says that he 'tore into a girl'

but where should I hide her body and what do I do with these bloody sheets????

[Death Metal Moe]

You stepped up to the plate and knocked it out of the park with those words...I could never verbalize it, but that's exactly what happened...

I don't feel so bad about it anymore, I'd feel worse if I never said anything and just let the things she did get to me...

Now you know too. In the future, when a woman is doing that passive/aggressive nagging/emasculating shit, speak up. Make a big deal of it at the time so it doesn't manifet itself into a screaming match with her crying.

Just learn from this bro, no one is perfect. But never beat yourself up for how you feel, right or wrong. Just learn from it.

[DarkHippie]

but where should I hide her body and what do I do with these bloody sheets????

The Pine Barrens?

[Section 8]

but where should I hide her body and what do I do with these bloody sheets????

I'm sure we can get a wood chipper and find a bit of swampland in the Pine Barrens...

Not that I've done this before or HEY LOOK AN ELEPHANT!

/runs off into the woods

[Kris10]

Oh no!!!! I don't recommend the pine barrens because he's been talking to me about it and I'm in the barrens and its just too close to home! :innocent: