I hate hate HATE my neighbor

[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

I've lived in my building for 17 years. I've never had a problem with anybody. Always paid my rent on time, and since I've bought the place, I've always paid my maintenance on time. I don't have wild parties and I'm pretty quiet.

My upstairs neighbor moved in about 5 or 6 years ago and he's appointed himself the Czar (even though we have a condo association and a board). He's had it in for me ever since I locked myself out of my apartment 4 years ago and had to call a locksmith at 3am. I apologized to my neighbors for the noise but he wouldn't let it go. Whatever.

Two years ago I went into the hospital. I didn't do anything over-the-top crazy. It was a very quiet nervous breakdown; I did my very best to not inconvenience my neighbors. Since then, he's appointed himself as my monitor. The hospital had a social worker come visit me a few times after I got out. He confronted her about me and demanded to know my history. She politely told him to fuck off. When I have friends come over I have to tell them not to engage the asshole with gray hair if confronted.

The funny thing is that when it comes to confronting me, he's really super passive aggressive. He won't say boo to me if he runs into me and pretends I'm not there. A couple of times he's had guests and twice one of his guests has stood in front of my door and meowed. WHAT THE FUCK IS THAT?!?!?! On Thursday night, I heard him come up the stairs and as he passed my apartment I heard him say my name in a low, guttural voice. It kind of freaked me out.

What should I do? Should I mention something to the condo president? The incidents are so few and far between that it's silly to call it harassment. My other neighbors are nice. I just wish this prick would go away.

[Kevin]

I've lived in my building for 17 years. I've never had a problem with anybody. Always paid my rent on time, and since I've bought the place, I've always paid my maintenance on time. I don't have wild parties and I'm pretty quiet.

My upstairs neighbor moved in about 5 or 6 years ago and he's appointed himself the Czar (even though we have a condo association and a board). He's had it in for me ever since I locked myself out of my apartment 4 years ago and had to call a locksmith at 3am. I apologized to my neighbors for the noise but he wouldn't let it go. Whatever.

Two years ago I went into the hospital. I didn't do anything over-the-top crazy. It was a very quiet nervous breakdown; I did my very best to not inconvenience my neighbors. Since then, he's appointed himself as my monitor. The hospital had a social worker come visit me a few times after I got out. He confronted her about me and demanded to know my history. She politely told him to fuck off. When I have friends come over I have to tell them not to engage the asshole with gray hair if confronted.

The funny thing is that when it comes to confronting me, he's really super passive aggressive. He won't say boo to me if he runs into me and pretends I'm not there. A couple of times he's had guests and twice one of his guests has stood in front of my door and meowed. WHAT THE FUCK IS THAT?!?!?! On Thursday night, I heard him come up the stairs and as he passed my apartment I heard him say my name in a low, guttural voice. It kind of freaked me out.

What should I do? Should I mention something to the condo president? The incidents are so few and far between that it's silly to call it harassment. My other neighbors are nice. I just wish this prick would go away.

He seems like a douche.. You should never allow yourself to be uncomfortable within the confines of your home.. You should bring it up to the board.. Although i do not know what they can do.. It does not seem that he has broken any concrete rules that you can prove.

[sailor]

i don't think it could hurt to talk to the board or president.

[JPMNICK]

i don't think it could hurt to talk to the board or president.

i agree. does he rent or own?

[A.J.]

I've lived in my building for 17 years. I've never had a problem with anybody. Always paid my rent on time, and since I've bought the place, I've always paid my maintenance on time. I don't have wild parties and I'm pretty quiet.

My upstairs neighbor moved in about 5 or 6 years ago and he's appointed himself the Czar (even though we have a condo association and a board). He's had it in for me ever since I locked myself out of my apartment 4 years ago and had to call a locksmith at 3am. I apologized to my neighbors for the noise but he wouldn't let it go. Whatever.

Two years ago I went into the hospital. I didn't do anything over-the-top crazy. It was a very quiet nervous breakdown; I did my very best to not inconvenience my neighbors. Since then, he's appointed himself as my monitor. The hospital had a social worker come visit me a few times after I got out. He confronted her about me and demanded to know my history. She politely told him to fuck off. When I have friends come over I have to tell them not to engage the asshole with gray hair if confronted.
The funny thing is that when it comes to confronting me, he's really super passive aggressive. He won't say boo to me if he runs into me and pretends I'm not there. A couple of times he's had guests and twice one of his guests has stood in front of my door and meowed. WHAT THE FUCK IS THAT?!?!?! On Thursday night, I heard him come up the stairs and as he passed my apartment I heard him say my name in a low, guttural voice. It kind of freaked me out.

What should I do? Should I mention something to the condo president? The incidents are so few and far between that it's silly to call it harassment. My other neighbors are nice. I just wish this prick would go away.


I'd ask him directly "what the fuck is your problem with me? Say it to my face like a man or I will go to the board and have your ass thrown out for needlessly harassing me."

EDIT-- Invite me over sometime. I'll engage him.

[Kevin]

I'd ask him directly "what the fuck is your problem with me? Say it to my face like a man or I will go to the board and have your ass thrown out for needlessly harassing me."

EDIT-- Invite me over sometime. I'll engage him.

You didnt have to go all through this to get Fuzzy to invite you over.. You should have just asked her.. I am sure she would have said yes..:wink:

[furie]

your mistake here was getting to know any of your neighbors in the first place, In akk the apartments i've lived in and now the house i own, I have never known any of my neighbors. not their names or stories.
trust me, it leads to a much quieter life.

[led37zep]

your mistake here was getting to know any of your neighbors in the first place, In akk the apartments i've lived in and now the house i own, I have never known any of my neighbors. not their names or stories.
trust me, it leads to a much quieter life.

What an awful fucking way to live.

[hedges]

:D:I'd ask him directly "what the fuck is your problem with me? Say it to my face like a man or I will go to the board and have your ass thrown out for needlessly harassing me."

EDIT-- Invite me over sometime. I'll engage him.

[Tenbatsuzen]

Now, see, getting into people's heads without breaking any rules is what I specialize in.

Next time you see him, just stare at him. And smile. And trust me, it'll freak him the fuck out. Whatever you do, don't break eye contact, and don't stop smiling.

"What did [Alice] do that was wrong?"

"SHE WAS SMILING AT ME!!!!!!!!!"

[WhistlePig]

http://www.trojanwire.com/football/images/raising-arizona-goodman.jpg

[Tenbatsuzen]

No greeting, no nothing just this:

http://www.opushotel.com/blog/uploaded_images/Corina_smiling2.jpg

[Nothing Sound]

your mistake here was getting to know any of your neighbors in the first place, In akk the apartments i've lived in and now the house i own, I have never known any of my neighbors. not their names or stories.
trust me, it leads to a much quieter life.

Same here
I speak to none of my neighbors.
I don't even know any of their names and don't care to.

[Furtherman]

A couple of times he's had guests and twice one of his guests has stood in front of my door and meowed.

Umm.. actually, that was me. Sorry. It's weird, I know.


Sorry to hear this Alice... I've had my share of douchebag neighbors as well, but I think a mention to the condo board could be in order, but maybe ask a friendly neighbor what to do? Some advice and maybe someone on your side could help.

[walking joint]

What an awful fucking way to live.

works pretty well for me. i have enough friends/family in my life. I don't care to hear about my neighbors stories. my wife is just the opposite. and it drives me nuts when she comes in from talking to them and i have to hear their stories through her.

[sr71blackbird]

I usually will avoid getting to know the neighbors on a personal level. I keep it short; hello, nice day, yada yada. I don't try to know them on any personal level for just this reason.
My friend gets to know her neighbors very intimately and she cant leave the house without getting into a conversation with the neighbors and it is very annoying when you want to get somewhere. She doesn't mind though. But I feel like if that was me, I would really be annoyed by it.
When it snows deep here, my neighbors will all come out and help with the shoveling on their own. We all keep conversation to a minimum too.
Thats all the contact I desire.

[Bellyfullasnot]

You should go into passive agressive prick/bitch mode. Find a couple of realty or taxi co. signs and put his phone # on them. He won't know it's you, and you'll get a good laugh.
Don't blame calling a locksmith, he sounds like a douche.
The other option is kill him with uncomfortable kindness.

[Thebazile78]

The dude just sounds like a douche.

Too bad the old "ignore it and it will go away" passivity won't work in this situation.

Forget having to have proof that the guy is fucking with you. Go to the board or whatever and see if you can do anything. Even something as minor as registering a complaint with him could help, especially if you're not the only person who has problems with him.

Who knows? If he's that much of a douche, he's GOT to be bugging someone else too!

[furie]

What an awful fucking way to live.

why?

[ralphbxny]

If he rents it could be an easy solution if he owns its rougher.
i hate the busy body prick people!

[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

My fucking neighbor is at it AGAIN! I don't want to get into it because this time what he did was down right humiliating (and I'm willing to admit I may need to wear an adult diaper so you KNOW it was bad!!).

This really is stressing me out. This morning I woke up with heart palpitations.

I REALLY don't need this right now. I swear, if i had the cohones I'd tell him to go pound salt.

[A.J.]

I say smear your adult diaper on his door.

[Zorro]

My fucking neighbor is at it AGAIN! I don't want to get into it because this time what he did was down right humiliating (and I'm willing to admit I may need to wear an adult diaper so you KNOW it was bad!!).

This really is stressing me out. This morning I woke up with heart palpitations.

I REALLY don't need this right now. I swear, if i had the cohones I'd tell him to go pound salt.

I would say confront him...there is nothing worse than living in anticipation of something bad happening. It doesn't need to be angry or anything...just ask if there's something he'd like to say to you. If you can't do it then ask someone to talk to him. ...it may be that he's just an asshole and he does shit to everyone not just you.

[angrymissy]

After having been way too nice to asshole neighbors, I'm stopping. If you read my previous thread, my neighbor had threatened to poison my dog. He was also responsible for all the outside feral cats disappearing (I found out from another neighbor that he dumped them somewhere... or at least thats what he told her).

Guess what? I was always overly too nice. My cat got out 2 weeks ago. I finally saw her under my car and she wouldn't come to me, but would get closer and closer if I threw food.

Assholio came out and saw me throwing food and goes "Can I ask you a question, why do you feed all these cats" (he hates outside cats because he suspects they crap by his deck).

I replied:
This is MY cat. MY cat from INSIDE who escaped two weeks ago. I swear to god - do not do ANYTHING to this cat. The outside cats I catch and get fixed. If I didn't YOU would have 50 cats on YOUR deck.

Gee all of a sudden Mr. Asshole after being confronted is all nice and suggesting I try a cage, did I try tuna?

I'm going to just be a bitch now. Most people puss out once you confront them. I wish I had addressed the dog situation. I just might next time I see him outside.

[MobCounty]

Couple ways to go about it.

1. If your scared of the guys, i.e. he is a gang member, suck it up, smile, and try to solve your problems by being friendly. There is nothing a few beers can't fix.

2. Ignore em', some people just feed on attention. Most idiots run out of gas and will focus on something else if they know they cant feed their internal attention whore...

3. If all else fails, be the first to document and rectify the situation. If the guy is a jaggoff busy body rule monger, with way too much time on his hands, point out to him that you are scared he has it out for you. that you suspect he may be trying to threaten your lifestyle through his veiled harassment and stalking.

Rule followers absolutely hate to be stalkers.

Tell him you are not sure what constitutes illegal in these matters, but you started documenting the situation just in case.

Start documenting the insults and your fear. I know this sounds corny, but this will mean a lot when anyone looks at your situation.

[joethebartender]

I say smear your adult diaper on his door.

I concur.
:tongue:

[ladyface]

http://www.cpsc.gov/cpscpub/prerel/prhtml05/05225.jpg

[ahhdurr]

No greeting, no nothing just this:

http://www.opushotel.com/blog/uploaded_images/Corina_smiling2.jpg


I'd be like - yo what up Secret Service?

I hate my fuckin neighbors too - they rent a house that couldn't be sold next door. Early 20's cunts with buzzing exhaust - I've mentioned that Fast and Furious sucked and that it's not 10 years ago.

I think the only thing that shut them down a bit was when I called the real estate agent that handles the property and told him that they were destroying it.

One of them owns a pitbull and keeps it out back on a chain - broke the chain a couple days ago. When I have to keep my wife in the car and bark at him to get his shitbag dog in the house again - see now I'm angry... Fuck. :furious:

I'm sorry for your pain too Alice - this certainly constitutes harrasment by most standards - find any type of harrasment code you have from the association and highlight the sections of it that you recognize in your own life. Then transfer it to a word doc with bullet points - it will become clear you should take quiet and decisive action. How much worse is your interaction going to get? Work daily on reprogramming yourself from thinking your snitching or whatever else is running through your head and keeping you from doing something. He relys on you thinking that way.

[led37zep]

I think the best thing is to build a case against him and maybe even go so far as to send these reports to the board president. Just write everything he does to you down with a date, time, and picture (if its physical)

You might be able to build up enough of a history against him where they can do something about it (legal or otherwise)

[Dude!]

if you are friends with any big ugly cops have them come over dressed in uniform and knock on his door to talk about complaints about his behavior and to tell him it must stop or else

if you cant find a big manly cop to do this maybe chris the cop would suffice if he doesn't lisp while talking to the guy

[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

The heart palpitations got so bad that I spent 11 hours in the ER yesterday.

Was it a panic attack? They aren't sure. It could have been caused by so many different things, like a drug reaction (I started Provera 3 days ago), an infection, STRESS.

This has NEVER happened to me before I just find it very odd that it happened after my neighbor decided to be a douchebag AGAIN.

The ONE bad thing about contacting the board is that his WIFE is the Vice President.

[Sinestro]

The ONE bad thing about contacting the board is that his WIFE is the Vice President.



That sucks! No wonder that person is getting away with shit.

[Chigworthy]

Alice, I mean this in a nice, respectful way. You need to stop giving this fuckface power over you. Don't blame him for your panic attack. Even if it did occur because of something he did, it is not healthy to think of it like that. I understand that things he does do directly effect you negatively, but you have to remove as much of that as possible. Don't think in terms of retaliation, just do your best to remove yourself from his idiotic little games, even if you can't do so 100%. You're too cool for the likes of this shithead.

[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

You're too cool for the likes of this shithead.

Well, I DO agree with you on that. Thanks sweetheart!

I'm just at my wits end and I vent on this board.

I am having a guy friend move in sometime this fall so I'm sure the "incidents" will cease.

[ahhdurr]

Well, I DO agree with you on that. Thanks sweetheart!

I'm just at my wits end and I vent on this board.

I am having a guy friend move in sometime this fall so I'm sure the "incidents" will cease.

That's it - keep venting ... it'll help. You find there's little you can do with an asshole living near you unless he's decided not to be such a pussy and actually try to overtly do something to you.

That stinks that his wife's on the board. Maybe there's an indirect way of finding out if she's disliked by someone else - those people are all likely trying to outdo one another.

Hey - so you find out you have a bit of an overresponse to these things too right? So that's just Alice's problem - you have to work that one out on your own. One of my favorite old "confucious say" types of things is that "it's easier to create comfortable shoes than to carpet the earth for oneself".

Keep your chin up. Wink wink :bye:

[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

Hey - so you find out you have a bit of an overresponse to these things too right? So that's just Alice's problem - you have to work that one out on your own.

Thanks for the response and the well wishes.

I don't really think I'm over responding. I've been putting up with this passive-aggressive behavior for over 3 years. At one point it was overtly aggressive. I have friends to back this up.

My neighbor is a pathological bully. I've ignored the passive-aggressive behavior until now; he put things on my door which is my PROPERTY since I OWN my apartment. I could go on FOR YEARS ignoring the behavior. But why should I?

Would you? If so, good for you. You are more patient than I am. I've been putting up with this for over THREE YEARS. I went to the ER on Thursday because of an ailment that, among other things, could be caused by STRESS. Can I immediately substantiate that he caused me heart palpitations? NO.

But there is NO REASON ANYONE SHOULD PUT UP WITH A BULLY.

What I chose to do to deal with it is to be foreseen.

[jauble]

Ms. Fuzzy I have lots of suggestions, but most of them are juvenile at best. That said if you neighbors that are younger and want to earn a dollar the hard (hilarious) way I have a few suggestions. Not all are fully legal but there is nothing that would get you out of where you are.

[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

Ms. Fuzzy I have lots of suggestions, but most of them are juvenile at best. That said if you neighbors that are younger and want to earn a dollar the hard (hilarious) way I have a few suggestions. Not all are fully legal but there is nothing that would get you out of where you are.

I know what you are getting at. I'm 99% sure I could get away with it... but I just can't. I can NEVER get away with shit like that.

Hell, his wife does freelance work and I ALWAYS bring the package to their door. NO MORE.

Yeah, I carried mailed one extra flight up for them. I am a complete and total DOUCHE!!!!!!!

[jauble]

I know what you are getting at. I'm 99% sure I could get away with it... but I just can't. I can NEVER get away with shit like that.

Hell, his wife does freelance work and I ALWAYS bring the package to their door. NO MORE.

Yeah, I carried mailed one extra flight up for them. I am a complete and total DOUCHE!!!!!!!

Put a do not disturb sign on their door...see what happens.

[ahhdurr]

[QUOTE=Alice S. Fuzzybutt;1811290]Thanks for the response and the well wishes.

I don't really think I'm over responding. I've been putting up with this passive-aggressive behavior for over 3 years. [QUOTE]

Here's what I mean by that - he has bad behavior and you wind up in the ER. That's your ultimate response. It sounds like you're tired of that response and you're working on a livable solution but anything that sends someone to the hospital for anxiety is an inability to mitigate the body's stress response.

So - you maybe take a look at what you do to positively help yourself in times of stress and either bolster those or try a few new things. I've been using biofeedback for awhile now and I swear by it... it's awesome how when you're seeing your body's response you're able to control it.

It's a couple bucks but well worth it... (word of warning - this, if you're not serious about using it... WILL wind up in your pile of shit that you shouldn't have wasted money on)
www.wilddivine.com

[BinaryBimbo]

I know what you are getting at. I'm 99% sure I could get away with it... but I just can't. I can NEVER get away with shit like that.

Hell, his wife does freelance work and I ALWAYS bring the package to their door. NO MORE.

Yeah, I carried mailed one extra flight up for them. I am a complete and total DOUCHE!!!!!!!

Maybe; just maybe; you're carrying the packages up unannouced made them think you were trying to get her man, or some such.

SOMETHING triggered this.

[LordJezo]

The ONE bad thing about contacting the board is that his WIFE is the Vice President.

Oof.

That is the nail in the coffin for you. With that sort of hold on power that he has I don't see how it will be possible to do anything. Is it even possible to do anything with the board at this point if the person he is living with has rule over everyone else?

Maybe this is what is empowering him, he knows he is protected by those in charge and he has nothing to worry about. Sort of like that dude in Road House who's uncle was the gangster in control of the town, no one could do anything until Swazie took them all out.

[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

[QUOTE=Alice S. Fuzzybutt;1811290]Thanks for the response and the well wishes.

I don't really think I'm over responding. I've been putting up with this passive-aggressive behavior for over 3 years. [QUOTE]

Here's what I mean by that - he has bad behavior and you wind up in the ER. That's your ultimate response. It sounds like you're tired of that response and you're working on a livable solution but anything that sends someone to the hospital for anxiety is an inability to mitigate the body's stress response.

So - you maybe take a look at what you do to positively help yourself in times of stress and either bolster those or try a few new things. I've been using biofeedback for awhile now and I swear by it... it's awesome how when you're seeing your body's response you're able to control it.

It's a couple bucks but well worth it... (word of warning - this, if you're not serious about using it... WILL wind up in your pile of shit that you shouldn't have wasted money on)
www.wilddivine.com

Ok, now I understand what you mean. Thanks for the suggestion. I did SO many new age things in the 90s... yoga, meditation, reiki. Psychotropic drugs are so much faster. I could have waited two years for kundalini yoga to make a real change; but Zoloft was RIGHT THERE!

Of course, this was 13 years ago...

I talked to a friend who is a social worker. She told me to lay low and gave me the number of a legal mental-health advocate. I know I make too much money for them to help me, but she said they could steer me in the right direction.

I really don't think I should just "suck it up." At this point I should be prepared since it's been going on for 3 years.

Better safe than sorry.

[jonyrotn]

Could you figure a way to pump carbon monoxide into their apartment?

[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

Could you figure a way to pump carbon monoxide into their apartment?

No. That would be awful. How could you say such a thing?!?!?













But he REALLY is a douchebag. He's in his 50s (I think, he looks old... maybe he's in his 40s???) but tries to be hip. And I have NO IDEA what he does for a living but he's home ALL DAY to keep tabs on me. I THINK he's a developer who's involved with all the Jersey City construction.

He's got me so freaked out that I have "deodorizing" items ALL OVER the apt-- stick ups, those gel things, the things you plug into the outlets.

It's giving me a friggin' headache! UGH!!!!!

[midwestjeff]

He's got me so freaked out that I have "deodorizing" items ALL OVER the apt-- stick ups, those gel things, the things you plug into the outlets.
It's giving me a friggin' headache! UGH!!!!!

Are you kidding?

[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

Are you kidding?

No.

THIS is what I have to live through until I get some real legal advice. I've been pretty much told to "suck it up" until now. What's a headache?

[midwestjeff]

No.

THIS is what I have to live through until I get some real legal advice. I've been pretty much told to "suck it up" until now. What's a headache?

I hope you get your legal advice soon. You shouldn't change the way you live for a dickface. That sucks. I wish you well.

[DarkHippie]

I've never been in this situation, because everybody loves me, but if it was me I would go to the police and have it documented. That way, if any thing happens, you have previous instances of harassment on record.

Or we can have a ronfez.net beat up the asshole party at your place.

[Jughead]

Alice Hope everything works out... I have been having neighbor trouble's for about 2 years now..It sucks!!!!!! He is the only person on the planet that I have trouble with.. I have to deal with it everyday..I wish I was a person who did not care about getting along with people... But I do..and can't help how I feel.......Wish you the best...JUG

[TeeBone]

He may hate you as well, so the hell with it.

[undressa]

can u speak to his wife, explain to her that as vp on the board, you don't want to put her in that kind of situation so you are talking to her privately. You could write her a letter if you don't feel up to talking to her in person, I'll help write it if you want.

Chin up

[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

can u speak to his wife, explain to her that as vp on the board, you don't want to put her in that kind of situation so you are talking to her privately. You could write her a letter if you don't feel up to talking to her in person, I'll help write it if you want.

Chin up

Thanks for the offer but a social worker friend of mine told me to lay low and NOT talk to ANYBODY on the board until I can get some legal advice. She gave me the name and number for a pro-bono agency but they are most likely overworked. I'm also sure I make too much money but they may be able to steer me in the right direction.

Another friend scared the HELL out of me when she told me about a case where an owner was actually EVICTED by the board. This was in NY, but still, that scares the shit out of me. :down:

[Duke]

Before I moved I had the neighbor from hell.


(As you know I am 16, not just some loser living with his mother)


Anyways, a few years ago this guy moves into the apartment below me, my mom has a cleaning business he asks if he can have the place cleaned before he moves in. My mom cleans the house and when she is finished the dude refuses to pay. So my mom took him to court and won the money. After that this guy did what ever he could to cause chaos.

He followed my mom numerous times on her way to work.
Took our door mat, shoved it into the crease of the door so the door was difficult to open.
Turned the propane on our grill
Blacked the peep hole on our door
He also had a giant pitbull hurricane katrina rescue dog that he chased my mom with as she was trying to walk our small boston terrier.
Glued the key hole on garage so we could not get into it
Flush the toilets every morning so the showers were always cold
Would blast the TV in one room then sleep in another room so my mom could not sleep at night
Almost attacked my mom during one argument
One time he kept looking at me, and I wasnt going to give into his shit so i kept looking back on him and he pretty much challenged me to a fight. Mind you im 16 and hes in his late 40s
I can go on and on...and we lived like this for a fucking year
We called the cops numerous times but there was nothing they could do

Finally my mom and I were able to buy a house and escape

good luck Alice, I know where your coming from.

The best thing to do is get real legal advice and fast.

[sr71blackbird]

I do not hate my neighbor per se, but they are very annoying and I attribute a lot of it to their ignorance. I started getting a water stain in my kitchen ceiling about a year ago, and then it started leaking. I told my brother in law/landlord and he did not ever seem to have time to come look (he is an asshole!). The leak was small but I had to keep a bucket under it. The ceiling started to eventually bulge down and the hole got bigger. I kept telling him and he still never came over until a few weeks ago when the water heater broke and flooded my apartment. Now he sees the hole and he has some guys cut the ceiling out and I see the woods all rotted and they tore the wood out and now I am looking at the bottom of the bathtub of the apartment above me. It turns out that the people above me must not take showers well and the grout eroded and the walls get soaked and that water is whats dripping into my apartment. Now I have to wait for him to put in a new bathroom for these people before he will come back and fix my ceiling. And, because the hole is so big in the ceiling, whenever they shower I get 4 leaks now and I have three huge water buckets in my kitchen now.
I wanna get out of here, but the rent is cheap and its a huge 2 bedroom apartment and I am paying less than a quarter of what its worth. Between the flood and this leak I am sure I am living in a mold paradise.

[SP1!]

Thanks for the response and the well wishes.

I don't really think I'm over responding. I've been putting up with this passive-aggressive behavior for over 3 years. At one point it was overtly aggressive. I have friends to back this up.

My neighbor is a pathological bully. I've ignored the passive-aggressive behavior until now; he put things on my door which is my PROPERTY since I OWN my apartment. I could go on FOR YEARS ignoring the behavior. But why should I?

Would you? If so, good for you. You are more patient than I am. I've been putting up with this for over THREE YEARS. I went to the ER on Thursday because of an ailment that, among other things, could be caused by STRESS. Can I immediately substantiate that he caused me heart palpitations? NO.

But there is NO REASON ANYONE SHOULD PUT UP WITH A BULLY.

What I chose to do to deal with it is to be foreseen.

Invite him over for a chat
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[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

DOUCHE BAG strikes again!!!

He taped my door shut. Granted, I don't know exactly when he did it, since it's a door I don't use often (I live in a former railway apt and there's a second "front door" that leads from the living room to the hallway). The other night I came home and saw something shiny from that end of the hall. Sure enough, the door was sealed all around with clear tape.

At this point I no longer choose to get upset. The president of the condo assoc and I had been e-mailing back and forth about the issue of the broken water pump for the sprinkler system and how the JCFD is on our case about it. Last night I included this little paragraph:

Speaking of fire regulations, I just wanted to point out that "someone" sealed
up my front door (the one that leads from the living room out into the hallway)
with thick clear tape. Well I didn't put it there. I'll leave it there if it
will make the person who did it happy; I don't use that door anyway. I just
can't imagine that the fire dept would look too kindly on that.

I also checked the bylaws carefully and I do indeed own the door. If and when the tape is removed and damage is sustained, I will REFUSE to pay for repairs since I didn't vandalize my door. Also, if a JCFD official sees it and I'm given a fine, I will not pay it. I haven't touched the tape and as far as I know, the only person who did is the culprit. HELLO FINGERPRINTS!!!!!

[Friday]

omg what a NUTCASE!!

i get annoyed because the neighbors upstairs don't lock the front door but at least they aren't freaking certifiable!!
you have my respect for not taking a poop on his doorstep and smooshing it into his apartment through the space between the door and the floor. :)

[DarkHippie]

What an odd thing to do

[albo60s]

If he was my neighbor, I would take up late night belt sanding as a hobby.
Honestly, after each incident I would crank up my stereo & then leave for the day.
Then when I return home to find him furious at my door, just smile sweetly & say oops, sorry.
Stuff like this is why I built a house on 3 acres of land with a land conservancy in the back & cemetaries on the other side. Its 300 feet to the nearest house.

[Mullenax]

You're really, really smart for not retaliating in kind because of his wife's position. It must be so hard to resist booby-trapping your doors like Home Alone.
Only a monster would harass someone because they've been sick, for fuck's sake.
I wish your building had cameras everywhere!

[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

You're really, really smart for not retaliating in kind because of his wife's position. It must be so hard to resist booby-trapping your doors like Home Alone.
Only a monster would harass someone because they've been sick, for fuck's sake.
I wish your building had cameras everywhere!

Thanks Mullenax!

I forgot to mention that his wife is no longer VP. They had a new election and the former treasurer (who I've been e-mailing reports of the incidents) is now the president. She is a very nice person.

I'm very careful not be irrational or confrontational. I'm just reporting what's going on so have a paper trail. Unfortunately I wasn't as diligent in the beginning.

I did consider tiny hidden cameras, but those are expensive. I do have the tape and any fingerprints (but knowing him he wore gloves). Maybe later tonight, I'll take down some of the tape for evidence.

[sr71blackbird]

I would leave the tape alone, and ask a fire inspector what they think. Maybe they will arrange to have the prints lifted though the police. If you take the tape off, your finger prints will be on it and it will be hard to prove.

[ahhdurr]

prints!! contact the authorities! (with authority)

[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

Well SR71, I was told to take off some of the tape for evidence. I took it off with gloves.

I JUST WANT TO LIVE IN MY BLDG AS A GOOD NEIGHBOR. I keep the noise down, I help my fellow neighbors with groceries and such. This is all I want.

At this point I'm going to look into a lawyer who specializes in disability cases. Of course my Social Security settlement has been completed and I was found to be disabled for a specific period of time. I do work and take care of myself, but the idiot in apt 4A makes it very difficult for me to lead my life.

It amazes me how in 4 years I've gotten better and moved on with my life, yet he remained a douche bag.

[weekapaugjz]

I've lived in my building for 17 years. I've never had a problem with anybody. Always paid my rent on time, and since I've bought the place, I've always paid my maintenance on time. I don't have wild parties and I'm pretty quiet.

My upstairs neighbor moved in about 5 or 6 years ago and he's appointed himself the Czar (even though we have a condo association and a board). He's had it in for me ever since I locked myself out of my apartment 4 years ago and had to call a locksmith at 3am. I apologized to my neighbors for the noise but he wouldn't let it go. Whatever.

Two years ago I went into the hospital. I didn't do anything over-the-top crazy. It was a very quiet nervous breakdown; I did my very best to not inconvenience my neighbors. Since then, he's appointed himself as my monitor. The hospital had a social worker come visit me a few times after I got out. He confronted her about me and demanded to know my history. She politely told him to fuck off. When I have friends come over I have to tell them not to engage the asshole with gray hair if confronted.

The funny thing is that when it comes to confronting me, he's really super passive aggressive. He won't say boo to me if he runs into me and pretends I'm not there. A couple of times he's had guests and twice one of his guests has stood in front of my door and meowed. WHAT THE FUCK IS THAT?!?!?! On Thursday night, I heard him come up the stairs and as he passed my apartment I heard him say my name in a low, guttural voice. It kind of freaked me out.

What should I do? Should I mention something to the condo president? The incidents are so few and far between that it's silly to call it harassment. My other neighbors are nice. I just wish this prick would go away.

fuzzybutt, next time you see him, if he says anything, or even looks at you weird, tell him not so politely to go fuck himself and keep on walking. who cares what any other douche in your appt. thinks about you.

edit: i only read the first post and from the posts on this page, fuck this dude. if he tapes your door, that is really f'ning weird. go to the building auth. or even the police. this guy sounds like a creep.

[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

As much as I want to, I HAVE to take the HIGH ROAD if this becomes a court case. It is imperative that I do so since my hospitalizations.

{{{weekapaugjiz}}} Thanks! I know your heart is in the right place. MUCH APPRECIATED!!!!!!!

[A.J.]

This guy is begging for a Code Red.

http://bp1.blogger.com/_IWzhTShZl6A/R0-ICGzoy4I/AAAAAAAAAT8/e57VDuM-8W0/s400/Full+Metal+Jacket+4.jpeg

[angrymissy]

DOUCHE BAG strikes again!!!

He taped my door shut. Granted, I don't know exactly when he did it, since it's a door I don't use often (I live in a former railway apt and there's a second "front door" that leads from the living room to the hallway). The other night I came home and saw something shiny from that end of the hall. Sure enough, the door was sealed all around with clear tape.

At this point I no longer choose to get upset. The president of the condo assoc and I had been e-mailing back and forth about the issue of the broken water pump for the sprinkler system and how the JCFD is on our case about it. Last night I included this little paragraph:

Speaking of fire regulations, I just wanted to point out that "someone" sealed
up my front door (the one that leads from the living room out into the hallway)
with thick clear tape. Well I didn't put it there. I'll leave it there if it
will make the person who did it happy; I don't use that door anyway. I just
can't imagine that the fire dept would look too kindly on that.

I also checked the bylaws carefully and I do indeed own the door. If and when the tape is removed and damage is sustained, I will REFUSE to pay for repairs since I didn't vandalize my door. Also, if a JCFD official sees it and I'm given a fine, I will not pay it. I haven't touched the tape and as far as I know, the only person who did is the culprit. HELLO FINGERPRINTS!!!!!

oh man, it's like both of our shitty neighbors always strike at the same time. The poisonyourdog neighbor confronted Jeff outside this week.

"There is a dead mouse on my doorstep"
"Ok... and?"
"I know you did it"
"I didn't, why would I put a dead mouse on your doorstep?"
"I JUST KNOW IT WAS YOU"

[Death Metal Moe]

If this guy is stupid enough to tape your door shut, he's gonna make a mistake you can nail him on soon.

He's an idiot and a coward. He's been picking on a woman living by herself for years now.

I'd say you're right. Don't confront him on anything, keep a record of everything he does and keep in constant contact with whoever can help you against him.

[Tenbatsuzen]

You could always circulate anonymous flyers about Megan's Law and apartment 4A.

[murfee]

nothing worse then bad naybooors . the bitches that live next to me move in then tell me i have to get rid of my pool .. then they call the cops on me one night , tv too loud they can have parties and smoke weed in the yard ,i do not call the cops they have thier trees and leaves grow on my side and tell me i can"t cut them wanna bet park slope sucks

[Death Metal Moe]

nothing worse then bad naybooors . the bitches that live next to me move in then tell me i have to get rid of my pool .. then they call the cops on me one night , tv too loud they can have parties and smoke weed in the yard ,i do not call the cops they have thier trees and leaves grow on my side and tell me i can"t cut them wanna bet park slope sucks

Punctuation please.

[sr71blackbird]

On eBay for $12.75 they have these fake video cameras:

http://files.triton.net/deg14/ce2dome1stik1sign.jpg

LINK (http://cgi.ebay.com/FAKE-DOME-VIDEO-SECURITY-CAMERA-ADTL-WARNING-SIGNS-LOT_W0QQitemZ140271363623QQcmdZViewItem?hash=item1 40271363623&_trkparms=72%3A1163%7C39%3A1%7C66%3A2%7C65%3A12%7C 240%3A1318&_trksid=p3286.c0.m14#ebayphotohosting)

If you put these up in the hallway, he will never really know for sure if they are real or not. If you saw one of them, would you approach it to tamper with it? It might be just enough to get him to leave you alone.

[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

THAT is a GREAT idea!!!!

It will also deter robbers. Thanks SR71!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


On eBay for $12.75 they have these fake video cameras:

http://files.triton.net/deg14/ce2dome1stik1sign.jpg

LINK (http://cgi.ebay.com/FAKE-DOME-VIDEO-SECURITY-CAMERA-ADTL-WARNING-SIGNS-LOT_W0QQitemZ140271363623QQcmdZViewItem?hash=item1 40271363623&_trkparms=72%3A1163%7C39%3A1%7C66%3A2%7C65%3A12%7C 240%3A1318&_trksid=p3286.c0.m14#ebayphotohosting)

If you put these up in the hallway, he will never really know for sure if they are real or not. If you saw one of them, would you approach it to tamper with it? It might be just enough to get him to leave you alone.

[torker]

http://www.tvguide.com/movies/dbpix/images/4756a.jpg
Invite him over for tea and cookies.

[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

http://www.tvguide.com/movies/dbpix/images/4756a.jpg
Invite him over for tea and cookies.


I LOVE that movie. I'm proud to say I own it on DVD!!!!

EDIT: I WILL NEVER invite my asshole neighbor into my apartment for ANY reason. EVER!!!!!