IamFogHat
11-19-2007, 03:51 PM
...this weekend over what turned out to be a miscommunication...or something. We're not quite sure. Let me preface this by saying that pretty much once we graduate from college at the end of this year and get real jobs we will be getting married, so this is a big deal.
So anyways, we were having some adult beverages on Saturday night, and she brought up a discussion about crushes, wanting to know if I have one with anyone and to tell me that she has one, not because she thinks she will be unfaithful, but because she thought it would bother me. Now, this in itself doesn't bother me at all, and we had a nice talk about it and about how we're all human and we're going to be attracted to other people from time to time.
Ok, so fast forward a bit, and remember adult beverages are being had, we are outside having a cigarette and I somehow in my state thought she was getting upset and telling me she made a mistake and she fucked up. So of course I freak out and go back inside beside myself, with the plan that I would get my ipod out of my car and barricade myself away from her for the rest of the night and drive home when sober in the morning and we would be broken up. Well it turns out that she didn't say that, and after playing back in my head I do know for certain she didn't, and was just upset about thinking she would have upset me about just the having a crush issue.
So after me tearing around the room looking for my keys, it turns out she was sitting on them because she thought I was going to drive home drunk. Once I saw them I kind of did a flip flop from being mad and silent to being really sad and tried to ask her what she meant. Now, keep in mind, she didn't say anything to me about cheating, so in her also innebriated mind the poor girl was just completely confused through all of this, and was devastated because she thought I was leaving her for having a crush on someone. At this point we talked and got back onto the same page, and then both cried a lot, and then of course had glorious make up you know what.
So anyways, just wanted to throw this out there, get it off my chest, it was really scary and awful, and was wondering if you guys could relate to this. Anyone else have a situation like this?
So anyways, we were having some adult beverages on Saturday night, and she brought up a discussion about crushes, wanting to know if I have one with anyone and to tell me that she has one, not because she thinks she will be unfaithful, but because she thought it would bother me. Now, this in itself doesn't bother me at all, and we had a nice talk about it and about how we're all human and we're going to be attracted to other people from time to time.
Ok, so fast forward a bit, and remember adult beverages are being had, we are outside having a cigarette and I somehow in my state thought she was getting upset and telling me she made a mistake and she fucked up. So of course I freak out and go back inside beside myself, with the plan that I would get my ipod out of my car and barricade myself away from her for the rest of the night and drive home when sober in the morning and we would be broken up. Well it turns out that she didn't say that, and after playing back in my head I do know for certain she didn't, and was just upset about thinking she would have upset me about just the having a crush issue.
So after me tearing around the room looking for my keys, it turns out she was sitting on them because she thought I was going to drive home drunk. Once I saw them I kind of did a flip flop from being mad and silent to being really sad and tried to ask her what she meant. Now, keep in mind, she didn't say anything to me about cheating, so in her also innebriated mind the poor girl was just completely confused through all of this, and was devastated because she thought I was leaving her for having a crush on someone. At this point we talked and got back onto the same page, and then both cried a lot, and then of course had glorious make up you know what.
So anyways, just wanted to throw this out there, get it off my chest, it was really scary and awful, and was wondering if you guys could relate to this. Anyone else have a situation like this?