You Can't Handle The Truth!

[Gvac]

Do you think it's better to lie to someone to protect their feelings or is honesty always the best policy?

If you discovered someone very close to you has been less than truthful with you in an attempt to shield you from something they think you would find painful would you be resentful? Could you ever trust that person again?

I think that as uncomfortable as the truth may be, it's always best to be completely forthright and honest with those who mean a great deal to you.

What say you?

[Bossanova]

Do you think it's better to lie to someone to protect their feelings or is honesty always the best policy?

If you discovered someone very close to you has been less than truthful with you in an attempt to shield you from something they think you would find painful would you be resentful? Could you ever trust that person again?

I think that as uncomfortable as the truth may be, it's always best to be completely forthright and honest with those who mean a great deal to you.

What say you?

I think its safe to say that I agree with.:wink:

[Snoogans]

Truth, ALWAYS. If the person can't handle it, it's there own problem, but most people should realize you are tryin to help. Why tell someone they do this good or sing well if they suck? Then they are gonna think they are good and get embarrassed.

HONEST

[sailor]

i can see being hurt, but it really depends on the actual instance. also, i'd be more likely honest in outside life than here on the board. not that i'm dishonest here, it's just sometimes it's easier to not say anything here than to put yourself out there and be truthy.

[Snoogans]

i can see being hurt, but it really depends on the actual instance. also, i'd be more likely honest in outside life than here on the board. not that i'm dishonest here, it's just sometimes it's easier to not say anything here than to put yourself out there and be truthy.

Pussy

[sailor]

Pussy

and that's why.

[jauble]

I would love to tell you but I dont want to hurt you.

[Jujubees2]

Being honest is always your best bet. If you lie and then get caught, not only will they be pissed at you for what you did, they will also be pissed that you lied about it.

[ralphbxny]

I say dont lie, just ignore the situation till your really screwed!

[Ritalin]

Listen, sometimes a lie makes everything easier.

Not "I think you should quit your job because you're such a great singer" lie, more a "no, those pants don't make you look fat" kind of lie.

No harm, no foul.

[FUNKMAN]

i think it's too vast an area to pinpoint lies and truth. i was watching high fidelty and it showed a situation where people just have two different perceptions of the truth. plus i believe people have a tendency to 'avoid' conflict by 'ignoring' or just keeping silent(could be anything). you make a judgement on what is worth keeping silent about or what is worth discussing... and wouldn't keeping silent be some form of a lie?

[Snoogans]

Listen, sometimes a lie makes everything easier.

Not "I think you should quit your job because you're such a great singer" lie, more a "no, those pants don't make you look fat" kind of lie.

No harm, no foul.

BUT THATS GONNA MAKE SOMEONE WALK AROUND LOOKIN FAT

thats the point. Id rather say, yea, they kinda do, then make a person think they look good and then they possibly get laughed at

[Ritalin]

BUT THATS GONNA MAKE SOMEONE WALK AROUND LOOKIN FAT

thats the point. Id rather say, yea, they kinda do, then make a person think they look good and then they possibly get laughed at

I hear what you're saying - and I can tell the missus flat out when something doesn't look good on her, so I kind of agree with you.

But I still think that there are times where it's better to have people feeling good about themselves rather than walking out the door feeling bad.

[Snoogans]

fuck 'em

[A.J.]

I think I'm entitled to the truth.

[Fallon]

Is this about Rich's CD?

[FUNKMAN]

I think I'm entitled to the tooth.

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[scottinnj]

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There you go again. Keep your contributions to the Hot Chick Thread. God she's so bangable!

[sr71blackbird]

I have found that some people in my family have intentionally kept some info from me regarding my parents health, because they did not want to worry about them or they were worried what I would say or do. It really pissed me off and then I had to not only contend with being left in the dark, but I had to then find out the real deal with my parents.
Be upfront if you want respect!

[FUNKMAN]

fuck 'em

from behind

[WhistlePig]

I think if you do something stupid that you regret--i.e.: a one-night stand--you should NOT tell your spouse. All that does is relieve your burden when you should be the one to feel guilty about it forever. Why make your mate feel like shit for your mistake?

[Friday]

a lie may make things easier in the short term ... but in the long term it will hurt the person it was meant to protect more than you could ever fathom.

WAY WAY motherfucking more.

and fuck the person who tells these lies because that makes them a spineless, weak, and pathetic individual who deserves the pain they cause ten-fold.

can you tell i'm a betrayed, sad motherfuck? lol fun times!

don't fucking lie! PERIOD.

[topless_mike]

lying gets you no where. trust me. done it, got caught.
meh.

it just makes life easier on you.

[JerseyRich]

I've been in a situation like this from both ends...

One situation ended my marriage.

The other put good friendships in serious jeopardy.

I think there are certain lies that can protect people, but bigger lies can just cause hurt and pain, even if the truth never comes out.

Ugh, this hits too close to home.

[CountryBob]

Once my best buddies girlfriend attacked me during a big new years party while he was passed out drunk. I was hammered as well and after hours of trying not to hook up - I did. Regretfully so, I weighed it over in my mind and told him a few days later. He was so pissed and we never spoke again. I thought that I was doing the right thing by letting him know what she was capable of but I instead exposed what i was capable of. They still dated for a few years and i have never spoke with him since. That was 20 years ago. Honesty was definately not the best policy in this example. I was so drunk that night and couldnt control myself after literally hours of her begging. I should have never spoke of banging his girlfriend and maybe we would still be friends today.

[IamPixie]

you gotta stop partying with family.

[grlNIN]

I love how people could possibly think that if or when you lie about something that the person will never ever find out.

Especially if it's a female, we almost always know when something is off kilter and to have to be the one to expose a lie that was created to "protect" you is one of the worst pains in the world.

[topless_mike]

quite funny, actually.
my boy had his bach party in a hotel room in a/c.
strippers, and things went further than they should have.
so, we all said it was merely poker and cigars that nite- the 2 things he loved.
until my boy had a guilty conscience and spilled the beans. a whole bunch of us went down in flames with our respective wives. it was very bitter at first, and at his wedding 3 weeks later had a weird feeling.
but it eventually blew over.

[JerseyRich]

I love how people could possibly think that if or when you lie about something that the person will never ever find out.

Especially if it's a female, we almost always know when something is off kilter and to have to be the one to expose a lie that was created to "protect" you is one of the worst pains in the world.

The worst part about finding something out before they tell you is sitting there watching movies about people cheating on each other.

Isn't it amazing how everything in pop-culture seems to mirror your life when it sucks?



Another question is: How do you not walk around with a suspicious feeling of everyone that you have a relationship from that point on?

That is my life goal. Eliminate jealousy.

:help:

[Furtherman]

I think that as uncomfortable as the truth may be, it's always best to be completely forthright and honest with those who mean a great deal to you.

My thoughts exactly. I'd hate to walk around in a blissful ignorance when everyone else sees you as the rube. I'd rather be hurt and angry at first, only to have it harden your heart to a nice, crisp rock.