I Had To Do It!!!

[Dougie Brootal]

today i had to cut an old friend out of my life. we had previously been friends about 13 years. whaa happend?

well i sold a restaurant over the summer, and i asked the new owner to give my friend a job. he did. and my friend proceeded to be the worst employee in the history of food service. late all the time, no call/no shows, bad work ethic, lazy, you name it....

unfortunatley, my chick worked in the same restaurant. my "friend" was rude to her constantly, didnt help her, mouthed off to her all the time, and generally took advantage of and took liberties on our friendship.

one day he calls the restaurant and says his car wont start and he cant make it in, on a friday night. well since the owner is a friend of mine, and knows me and my chick outside of work he asks her tom pick my "friend" up. she goes to his house and discovers his car is fine and my "buddy" is hung over and thats why he called out. he decides to go in with my chick despite the hang over, and immediatley upon arrival walks into the office, calls his dad to pick him up and leaves with out notifying the boss. he comes back the next day, thinking he still has a job and they fire him. rightfully so. now my "friend" is going around saying my chick got him fired and trashing me and her to all of our other friends. i email ed him this morning saying wtf is wrong, and he still maitains its not his fault he was fired, but its my chicks for picking him up. this has been a constant theme throughout his life, where i help him, he fucks up, and has no personal accountability, i.e. its everyone elses fault but his, so i told him this:

"nice way to accept responsibility. you are a total failure and you are not worthy of my friendship. i will never help you again as long as i live. corey was right about you. enjoy your miserable life."


oh great oracle, riddle me this????


was it wrong to cut my former best friend out? should i have tried to help him again? am i a homosexual for seeing my friends dick? (different friend)

[RhinoinMN]

After reading through the synopsis of you and your bf's relationship I ask this.

What made him your best friend?

Sounds like he used and abused your loyalty. I say fuck em. You deserve a medal for putting up with it.

the other question. "Homosexual: no

Curious- maybe.

[Dude!]

you should have dumped the loser a long time ago

i can email you a pic of my dick if you want

[topless_mike]

nope.
life moves fast. dead weight only slows you down.

my wife has a certain friend who on a constant basis puts herself in very bad situations.
it finally got to the point where it was like "we can and no longer wish to help you. have fun"

you have to do what you have to do. seriously.
you are not a bad person, despite what kevin and hippo say.
you cannot help those that do not want to help themselves.

ps- you owned a restaurant?

i already married for love. now im ready to marry for money.

[Dougie Brootal]

After reading through the synopsis of you and your bf's relationship I ask this.

What made him your best friend?

Sounds like he used and abused your loyalty. I say fuck em. You deserve a medal for putting up with it.

the other question. "Homosexual: no

Curious- maybe.

i guess nothing really, just i knew him for a long time, i really have nothing in common with any of my old friends since i started being responsible and quit doing dope and fucking around.

[Dougie Brootal]

nope.
life moves fast. dead weight only slows you down.

my wife has a certain friend who on a constant basis puts herself in very bad situations.
it finally got to the point where it was like "we can and no longer wish to help you. have fun"

you have to do what you have to do. seriously.
you are not a bad person, despite what kevin and hippo say.
you cannot help those that do not want to help themselves.

ps- you owned a restaurant?

i already married for love. now im ready to marry for money.

i didnt own a restaurant, im in real estate.

[EliSnow]

Sounds like the right move to me.

[LaBoob]

People who are toxic to your life will only slow you down and spread their toxicity. Moving on from a friend can be just as difficult as a break up. Hopefully your friend will see the light and apologize. If he did, would you accept an apology?

[Dougie Brootal]

People who are toxic to your life will only slow you down and spread their toxicity. Moving on from a friend can be just as difficult as a break up. Hopefully your friend will see the light and apologize. If he did, would you accept an apology?

i would accept, but i would not continue to be his friend, im done with all these fucking vampires sucking the life out of me. its weird cuz i dont feel bad or have any inner turmoil about it at all, i just kinda felt like i should feel bad, which is why i posted.

[Marc with a c]

was his bigger than scot's?

[EliSnow]

The toughest thing about these turn of events, doug, has to be that you didn't get to have break-up sex with him.

[RhinoinMN]

i would accept, but i would not continue to be his friend, im done with all these fucking vampires sucking the life out of me. its weird cuz i dont feel bad or have any inner turmoil about it at all, i just kinda felt like i should feel bad, which is why i posted.

If you don't feel bad about it, thats all the more proof that you did the right thing.

I have a lot of people that claim to be my friends that fit the same mold, but I don't call them my friends. I'm just cordial and respectful, but I don't put myself out there for them to use me. Its interesting how they quickly go away when you start turning down favors.

[RhinoinMN]

The toughest thing about these turn of events, doug, has to be that you didn't get to have break-up sex with him.

qft. breakup sex is the best. sorry for your loss doug.

[King Hippos Bandaid]

cut him loose

he will mooch and leech on you like the bottom feeder that he is

its not that you are an Alpha to him, but you are his crutch,


let him go, he should be dead to you

[Dougie Brootal]

cut him loose

he will mooch and leech on you like the bottom feeder that he is

its not that you are an Alpha to him, but you are his crutch,


let him go, he should be dead to you

me? an "alpha male"? laughable.

[topless_mike]

me? an "alpha male"? laughable.

no, he made it clear you are not Alpha
them's is fightin wurds.

[Dougie Brootal]

no, he made it clear you are not Alpha
them's is fightin wurds.

shit stirrer.

[topless_mike]

shit stirrer.

...just sayin

[King Hippos Bandaid]

...just sayin


QFT for you're above statement

I was clearly stating that douggrasso is not an Alpha Male

he is more like an Epsilon

[Dougie Brootal]

QFT for you're above statement

I was clearly stating that douggrasso is not an Alpha Male

he is more like an Epsilon

i had to google that to understand it.

[StupidGirlllll]

Was your BF name Kevin? or was that the trany asian chick?

[sr71blackbird]

I am friends with someone and I think I have to do something very similar. I am reaaaly not looking forward to it, and I know it will destroy her and me as well, but I do not see how it can be avoided.

[Sinestro]

Fuck that loser. It's not your fault you grew up. The only one that could help your former alcoholic drug abusing friend is him. Good for you for dropping that leech. You put your name on the line and that's how he repays your kindness by fucking up. You're better off without him.

[jauble]

People who are toxic to your life will only slow you down and spread their toxicity. Moving on from a friend can be just as difficult as a break up. Hopefully your friend will see the light and apologize. If he did, would you accept an apology?

She was toxic and now look at her.

then
http://www.clipov.net/pic/britney_spears+%5Btoxic%5D+2004+3-30+nrj12+clear.jpg

now
http://www.purseblog.com/images/britney-spears-vma-2007.jpg

cut him

[ScottFromGA]

same fucking situation I had with an old friend.

I got him a job at the dealership I work at when i was doing parts detail for the body shop. It was a very simple job, get paid 8 bucks an hour to wash 2 or 3 cars a day and maybe take the trash out. It was basically a low man on the pole type of job, but it was better than what he had previously. He was a part time pizza delivery guy making 5 bucks and hour plus tips.

After weeks of hearing his dad beg me to get him a job, I get my boss to hire him. Not even two weeks into the job, we are headed to the bank to cash our checks and he screams out," Motherfucker....I can't keep working and getting paid like this....this job is bullshit!!" Here I am looking at him like, "Dude....this was better than what you had 2 weeks ago! I thought I was doing you a favor, but I guess not." Well, from the point on, he consistently mouthed off to management, dogged me to the other employees, never showed up and other bullshit things that I told the boss that he wouldn't do. He made me look like a complete fucking asshole.

He did about everything he could do to be fired except fight the boss. Finally, after all that shit, he was finally let go. I catch win from other people that he is dogging me that I got him fired.

Seen him in town, so I confront him about it and he turns tail and walks away from me. Basically admitting it, I tell him that he will never get anymore help from me. I've helped him so much since school to adult life and to have him completely shit on me like that, and to be honest, it wasn't the first time he's done it.......it was something I should've done a long time ago. To this day, I don't miss him and wouldn't care if he was hit by a fucking bus.

he's one of those guys that think the world owes him everything, but he does nothing for it. Last I heard about him, he was in jail for getting caught with coke on him and the intent to sale. I hope he rots.

[Tall_James]

Burn the bridge then piss on the ashes.

No one should have to accept that kind of drama into their lives. And if you continue to do it willingly, you deserve what you get. Sorry to say that but that's my opinion.

[Dougie Brootal]

same fucking situation I had with an old friend.

I got him a job at the dealership I work at when i was doing parts detail for the body shop. It was a very simple job, get paid 8 bucks an hour to wash 2 or 3 cars a day and maybe take the trash out. It was basically a low man on the pole type of job, but it was better than what he had previously. He was a part time pizza delivery guy making 5 bucks and hour plus tips.

After weeks of hearing his dad beg me to get him a job, I get my boss to hire him. Not even two weeks into the job, we are headed to the bank to cash our checks and he screams out," Motherfucker....I can't keep working and getting paid like this....this job is bullshit!!" Here I am looking at him like, "Dude....this was better than what you had 2 weeks ago! I thought I was doing you a favor, but I guess not." Well, from the point on, he consistently mouthed off to management, dogged me to the other employees, never showed up and other bullshit things that I told the boss that he wouldn't do. He made me look like a complete fucking asshole.

He did about everything he could do to be fired except fight the boss. Finally, after all that shit, he was finally let go. I catch win from other people that he is dogging me that I got him fired.

Seen him in town, so I confront him about it and he turns tail and walks away from me. Basically admitting it, I tell him that he will never get anymore help from me. I've helped him so much since school to adult life and to have him completely shit on me like that, and to be honest, it wasn't the first time he's done it.......it was something I should've done a long time ago. To this day, I don't miss him and wouldn't care if he was hit by a fucking bus.

he's one of those guys that think the world owes him everything, but he does nothing for it. Last I heard about him, he was in jail for getting caught with coke on him and the intent to sale. I hope he rots.

i can tell you that sounds like how this is gonna end.

[Thebazile78]

Burn the bridge then piss on the ashes.

No one should have to accept that kind of drama into their lives. And if you continue to do it willingly, you deserve what you get. Sorry to say that but that's my opinion.

You're not sorry to say it.

It sounds really mean when you read it out loud, sure, but I wholeheartedly agree with you.

I haven't spoken to someone in over 12 years because of similar selfishness...last I heard, she was living in a Florida trailer park.

[Dougie Brootal]

its not really the fact he fucked up the job that bothers me as much as it is the unwillingness to accept responsibility for losing it. how do you blame the guy who got you the job and his chick for you walking out on your responsibilty?!?! i cannot believe that this man really honestly believes that. it has to be a gimmick.

[King Hippos Bandaid]

its not really the fact he fucked up the job that bothers me as much as it is the unwillingness to accept responsibility for losing it. how do you blame the guy who got you the job and his chick for you walking out on your responsibilty?!?! i cannot believe that this man really honestly believes that. it has to be a gimmick.

dude he is a self loather who will blame others until he is sucking dick to live in a shelter to earn ends meat

why don't u be a gent and let him suck yours

[mikeyboy]

dude he is a self loather who will blame others until he is sucking dick to live in a shelter to earn ends meat

Freudian slip? You really are too focused on food.

[Dougie Brootal]

dude he is a self loather who will blame others until he is sucking dick to live in a shelter to earn ends meat

why don't u be a gent and let him suck yours

that is a capital idea!

[DolaMight]

Freudian slip? You really are too focused on food.

Scary. If Bacon could somehow make a movie they would cast Hippo as a supervillian or maybe the bacon antichrist.

[Dougie Brootal]

the bacon antichrist.
MOD QUOTE.

[Bulldogcakes]

Freudian slip? You really are too focused on food.

Actually he was referring to blowjobs. I think "meat" is correct.

"Ends meat" is when he flips him over.

[Bulldogcakes]

Douggie, we've all had friends like this. Dumping them is just part of growing up. I would tell you how some of the losers I knew turned out, but I don't give enough of a shit to know. In a few years you probably won't either.

[Team_Ramrod]

i had to google that to understand it.

I had to 'Windows Live toolbar' search that to understand what google meant.

[King Hippos Bandaid]

Scary. If Bacon could somehow make a movie they would cast Hippo as a supervillian or maybe the bacon antichrist.

:lol:


I am the Bacon Whisperer

[topless_mike]

dude he is a self loather who will blame others until he is sucking dick to live in a shelter to earn ends meat

why don't u be a gent and let him suck yours

i got deez cheezburgerz man............

[DiabloSammich]

Sorry, Doug, but you broke the cardinal rule of business. Never hire friends or family.

I had to learn the hard way, but it was a lesson well learned.

You'll get through this, and down the road you might get to be friends with the guy again, but you'll never hire or recommend a friend or family member for a job again.

If you do, you're an idiot. And I don't think you're an idiot. Sexually confused, maybe, but not an idiot. If you prove me wrong I will fuck you up.

[topless_mike]

Never hire friends or family.



then explain family businesses that are open 20, 30, 40, 50 years...

[CountryBob]

I consider it "firing friends". I've had to do this a few times. In the long run it is better than avoiding the jackass.

[RhinoinMN]

then explain family businesses that are open 20, 30, 40, 50 years...

Family mfg business going on 60 years.




It blows working with family. Everybody feels like they are entitled to all of the perks that don't exist.

Its extremely difficult to function properly. In a few years the business will slowly shift my direction and there will be major house cleaning.

Family business is possible, but not recommended.

[EliSnow]

then explain family businesses that are open 20, 30, 40, 50 years...

I can tell you that I've seen a lot of family businesses hit the skids when the parent dies, and the remaining siblings fight over how to proceed with the business.

[Dougie Brootal]

Sorry, Doug, but you broke the cardinal rule of business. Never hire friends or family.

I had to learn the hard way, but it was a lesson well learned.

You'll get through this, and down the road you might get to be friends with the guy again, but you'll never hire or recommend a friend or family member for a job again.

If you do, you're an idiot. And I don't think you're an idiot. Sexually confused, maybe, but not an idiot. If you prove me wrong I will fuck you up.

yeah i knew he would fuck it up, but i just hoped he would man up and take the blame for his own actions.

[Furtherman]

I can tell you that I've seen a lot of family businesses hit the skids when the parent dies, and the remaining siblings fight over how to proceed with the business.


I saw that happen with a shore house. Just terrible all around.

[topless_mike]

I can tell you that I've seen a lot of family businesses hit the skids when the parent dies, and the remaining siblings fight over how to proceed with the business.


true..... true

just ask Jimmy The Tulip Tudeski

[DiabloSammich]

I think it would be different if as a parent I raised my children in the business, and was smart enough to realize who the assholes are and remove them from the situation, but too often this doesn't happen.

But the main point I was making was not to hire or refer brothers, sisters, cousins, etc. If I need to fire somebody I can't have any external relationship clouding my business decision.

[RhinoinMN]

I think it would be different if as a parent I raised my children in the business, and was smart enough to realize who the assholes are and remove them from the situation, but too often this doesn't happen.



It works when you start it. When it gets into the 3rd and 4th generation it really becomes a chore. Way too many families with differing opinions and ulterior motives.

I really wouldn't wish my situation on anybody.

Well, maybe Wampus. My Grandma hasn't walked straight for a month b/c of that s.o.b.

[MobCounty]

I don't have time for people like that. In my opinion, the sooner you cut out the bad ones, the sooner you meet the cool ones. Also, I'm an avid believer that people who are 'poison' spread that 'poision' to the ones around them.

No thank you.

[MobCounty]

We now have a very tight circle of friends, any one of which would drop anything to drive you to the airport, bring by dinner if you were sick, or feed your animals while you are away. The circle is not big, but it's the best.

[Dougie Brootal]

We now have a very tight circle of friends, any one of which would drop anything to drive you to the airport, bring by dinner if you were sick, or feed your animals while you are away. The circle is not big, but it's the best.

thats what i gotta get, but my problem is that i cant care about other people in real life. id rather just deal with message board friends now cuz when i dont wanna be bothered i just log off and if i dont wanna hear about their problems i just dont open the thread!


no, but seriously, i just need to meet an entire new crowd, i always said i would never change and i would keep the same friends even after i became successful, but i just cant do it. right now i am just starting to get the smallest amount of success in my life and already i have nothing in common with these people anymore. and they all resent me now cuz i have a nice car, and a nice apartment, and a ps3 and all the new games and movies when they come out. i used to ask my buddies to come over on a friday or saturday night and they would refuse just to sit home and do nothing. i tried to take them out to nice restaurants and they didnt wanna go, i even offered to pay, and they act like im an asshole. its madness.

[Dougie Brootal]

well the fucker just called and threatened me. he wants me to drive to his house (since he has no more car ) to fight him! what a maroon.

[Sinestro]

well the fucker just called and threatened me. he wants me to drive to his house (since he has no more car ) to fight him! what a maroon.

Damn. That's like back in the day when "You better not cross this line or I'm going to kick your ass". WTF is that fucker like in 3rd grade?

[CountryBob]

Are you a fighter? I wish some of my old friends that I had to cut out of my life would offer up that challenge. If you do, make sure you have witnesses and verbably push him to hit you first - or you will definatley be called to the principle's office and probably get suspended.

This is what I told my nephew who is 12 but it kinda still works in adult life.

[Dougie Brootal]

Are you a fighter? I wish some of my old friends that I had to cut out of my life would offer up that challenge. If you do, make sure you have witnesses and verbably push him to hit you first - or you will definatley be called to the principle's office and probably get suspended.

This is what I told my nephew who is 12 but it kinda still works in adult life.

no, im not a fighter, but i will pay someone to kick his ass.

sound advice though, thanks john mayer!

[Dougie Brootal]

Damn. That's like back in the day when "You better not cross this line or I'm going to kick your ass". WTF is that fucker like in 3rd grade?

well his maturity level is about the same. the whole problem with this guy is he never matured past elementary school. he's like the eternal bart simpson. he's EXACTLY the same as he was when we were in 6th grade. to a tee.

[DiabloSammich]

Really Doug, the guy's a douche.

[Dougie Brootal]

Really Doug, the guy's a douche.

i know, im just tryin to get another "epic thread" so everyone pay attention to me dammit!