First time having sex

[landarch]

since the baby's born. They told us to wait six weeks and today is her six week birthday. Doctor says all systems go. SO now what?

I've read about how common lack of desire can be on her part. That doesn't seem to be a problem. I'm sure an extra dose of lube and a slow hand can't hurt.

However, since our daughter is the first born, this is a bridge we haven't crossed before, and I am sure that some of you guys have. Any tips on what I can expect? Any advice from the ladies' point of view?

I'd love to surprise her with a lack of ignorance when the time is right..........

[Jujubees2]

The only thing I can say is to be patience. Things might not happen as fast as they used to. Her body went through a lot six weeks ago and it takes time to get back to "normal".

[Hottub]

After our 6 week wait was up, we went at it like goddam bunnies. Pick a time when you know the baby will be sleeping for a period of time. Shower, shave, light some candles, have the body lotion ready. She loves to be pampered at this point. She does not want to feel "ugly".

[Team_Ramrod]

It's not going to be something you'll be able to power house back into, you're going to need patience and an understanding that she might be too sore for you to let go of your 6 week batch.

Don't rush it, use alot of lubrication and let her tell you how much to move and how to move. You might have to try 4 or 5 different positions before you find the one that is comfortable enough for her to have prolonged sex.

Also, just a minor thing.... the post birth vagina feels very different than the confines you used to roam.

It's actually a really nice situation to go through because of all the emotions you've been experiencing as a couple recently.

[Piuki]

Having just recently been the new mommy in this scenario (my daughter was born in July), I'd say the most important thing is to tell her she's beautiful. Pregnancy and childbirth do some nasty things to our bodies and even somewhat innocuous comments can sting.

My fella did tell me afterward that things were a bit "roomier" down there, at first. I suspect it was a bit weird for him, so it's best to be prepared for that. But it's been a few months and I've been assured all is back to normal!

I would like to commend you, however, on at least taking the time to consider how this may impact her. That, in and of itself, shows that you'll have what it takes to make this a pleasurable experience for both of you. So, on that note...ahem...enjoy! :clap:

[keithy_19]

DO NOT put your mouth down there and say "ECHO".

[Kris10]

I'm so happy I had a c-section! Just re-assure her she is beautiful like the Piuki mentioned, a woman can't hear that enough. I'm sure everything will be fine, just take your time.

[ScottFromGA]

ahhhh....just ram it home....thats what I did to my wife, really caught her by surprise, too.


after your done, offer her some graham crackers and coco.....really seems to smooth things over.

[drjoek]

This thread is useless without....

Oh you know the rest.

[earthbrown]

we are at 5 weeks and the wife is attacking me...still getting over the weird, "thats where the baby came from" mentality....and wearing a rubber sucks too, dont need kids 10mo apart...


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[KC2OSO]

Yeah that's odd territory to reenter. You'll discover that the landscape has changed and things are not where they used to be. If you love your wife, none of that will matter. Women are amazing creatures.
We tried so hard for this second baby with IVF and this and that and in the end we gave up and quit trying. I just fucking ran out of money.
One day after all the test tubes and doctors had gone away, the the moment was right and natural and if you look slightly to the left, there's little Molly. Born 9/11 @ 8:40. Go figure.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that if you tread lightly and with care, you'll do what's right.

All the best with your new baby. Pitch in as much as you can.

P/S, why don't most women get that a simple hand-release is good enough in many cases? Is it really that much to ask?

[keithy_19]

No matter what shape theya re in, women love to hear that they are beautiful. You obviously love he very much considering you care so much about how to go about this. I think you won't have any problem with this.

Or you could just put it in the dumper and say how you thought this is how it went after childbirth. You always need a backup.

[nate1000]

the post birth vagina feels very different than the confines you used to roam.

My fella did tell me afterward that things were a bit "roomier" down there, at first. I suspect it was a bit weird for him, so it's best to be prepared for that. But it's been a few months and I've been assured all is back to normal!

I'm so happy I had a c-section!

Yeah that's odd territory to reenter. You'll discover that the landscape has changed and things are not where they used to be.

There seems to be a common theme here. :lol:

[Team_Ramrod]

There seems to be a common theme here. :lol:

Let me put it this way....

Last month my wife and I were talking to a buddy of mine, my chick asks him "when are you two going to have a baby"? My buddy replies "I'm not too sure, I'm still practicing", without missing a beat I said to him "Bro, you can still practice.... There's just more room between the boards".

Kinda sums it up.

[ozzie]

Glad to hear you're already thinking about birth control. My boys are 10.5 months apart. I learned the hard way that she is very much back in working condition after 6 weeks, and you're both very fertile at that point.

When she first told me she was pregnant again, I didn't believe her, and called the doctor myself to verify. After seeing what she went through and all that came out, I thought it would be a loooong time before she was ripe again. I swear, NO ONE fucking told me about this! I got the all clear after six weeks and was nailing her daily with reckless abandon.

But, now that they're growing up together, I am glad it happened. I've got ONE ball practice and game to get them to, ONE school to drop them off at, and they each have their best friend for life. They couldn't be closer as brothers or get along better. My oldest is the bestest big brother in the world.