How did you know?

[keithy_19]

How did you know that person was the one?

I'm going to be 20 come May, so obviously I'm not thinking about getting married or finding my 'soulmate' right now.

I've just always wondered what made someone so sure that this particular person would be the one you'd want to be with, in theory, forever.

[PapaBear]

Usually, after she's gone.

[Gvac]

Usually, after she's gone.


Haha! Awesome answer Papa! It's funny 'cuz it's true!

And to be perfectly honest, there's no such thing as "THE one." I think "one of the ones" would be more correct. I believe each of us has dozens of potential soul mates out there. Finding one of them and then staying with them is the hard part, though.

[keithy_19]

I was kind of hoping this thread would be uplifting, yet it's anything but.

[FUNKMAN]

you'll know when you don't have to ask

[Snacks]

its different for all people. there is no time or place in life. it may just happen.

it seems like you have a lot of questions about women and relationships. my best advice for all of it is live and learn. you will find these answer to all your questions when you experience it. no one can help you on any of this. good luck and live to learn.

[keithy_19]

you'll know when you don't have to ask

What if you're just asking for giggles and adorable stories?

[Crippler]

Usually, after she's gone.
Haha! Awesome answer Papa! It's funny 'cuz it's true!

And to be perfectly honest, there's no such thing as "THE one." I think "one of the ones" would be more correct. I believe each of us has dozens of potential soul mates out there. Finding one of them and then staying with them is the hard part, though.

Remember, a wise man once said, "You're only allowed three great women in your lifetime. They come along like the great fighters, every ten years. Rocky Marciano. Sugar Ray Robinson. Joe Louis."

[KC2OSO]

Why do you want to get married?

[underdog]

She didn't leave.

But really, you just know.

[A.J.]

Usually, after she's gone.

...because she found someone else.

Dammit.

[Jujubees2]

Haha! Awesome answer Papa! It's funny 'cuz it's true!

And to be perfectly honest, there's no such thing as "THE one." I think "one of the ones" would be more correct. I believe each of us has dozens of potential soul mates out there. Finding one of them and then staying with them is the hard part, though.

GVAC, you are a wise man! I agree that there's no "The One" and depending where you are in life, "The One" changes. I also think if you have to ask if she may be "The One" then she's not. You should just know it.

[kdubya]

I agree as well, I think people are capable of falling in love many times. The statement about depending on where you are in you life is right on. I think love is as much about timing as anything.

I don't think this makes love any less amazing.

When it is right you just know, I never bought into the mantality that it takes work to make it work. In my experience when it is right it is easy. It may require sacrifice but when it is right you don't mind.

.GVAC, you are a wise man! I agree that there's no "The One" and depending where you are in life, "The One" changes. I also think if you have to ask if she may be "The One" then she's not. You should just know it.

[JimMorrisonsLeatherPants]

I knew it from the moment he squeezed into me.

[Furtherman]

You're way too emotional for a 20 year old. Wait 10 years to get married. Until then... HAVE FUN.

[JPMNICK]

you will know the one after you have had sex with enough people that you are embarrassed to tell "the one"

[Kris10]

When it is right you just know, I never bought into the mantality that it takes work to make it work. In my experience when it is right it is easy. It may require sacrifice but when it is right you don't mind.


:thumbup:

[keithy_19]

Why do you want to get married?

I don't want to get married right now. But, if I come to the conclusion that I love a person enough that I'll be able to honor the "values" of a marriage I'd want too.

[keithy_19]

You're way too emotional for a 20 year old. Wait 10 years to get married. Until then... HAVE FUN.

What if getting married is the only way for me to have fun?

I'm kidding and I am emotional. But I keep it in check. I swear.

And I don't want to get married right now. I'm far to young and I'm not ready to make a commitment like that. The question was hypothetical, though from my previous threads I suppose that it isn't unwarrented to say that it looks like my question was to get insight so I could make a decision in my life.

[Friday]

And to be perfectly honest, there's no such thing as "THE one." I think "one of the ones" would be more correct. I believe each of us has dozens of potential soul mates out there. Finding one of them and then staying with them is the hard part, though.

Quoted for god damn mother fucking truth.

For each stage of life I am certain there can be multiple different ideal partners. But we are drawn to certain people and often they become the potential life partners we have been seeking.

Finding them is the easy part. Loving them is the easy part.
But maintaining the relationship, and re-discovering your love from day to day, year to year.... that is how you figure out what true love really is.

I am looking forward to really having this experience someday...

[joethebartender]

I knew that I was to marry my wife when I saw her walking down the pier to the boat with live bait (killies), a case of beer, ice and sandwiches all bought within 20 minutes of our departure.

We were going on a party boat and friends were on board already. She told me to get on and save a spot. As a last ditch I said try this bar for packaged goods...oh and this place for bait...oh and this place for food... I said If you're gone for more than 15 minutes scrap everything and get on the boat. (They'll leave without you.)

Well I guess that it was that morning. That, and the fact that we can speak to each other without talking that has us together. (5 years in July)

[Furtherman]

I knew that I was to marry my wife when I saw her walking down the pier to the boat with live bait (killies), a case of beer, ice and sandwiches all bought within 20 minutes of our departure.

That is a rare, special woman you have there. Congratulations!!

[MadMatt]

Because we had a baby.




I know that isn't a normal answer, but you also don't know the back-story. :laugh:

[King Hippos Bandaid]

once she got past the sucking up "get to know me" period and could still tolerate me and my craziness

[Marc with a c]

because she didn't like me

[~Katja~]

I found "the one" a few times, just to later on find myself wondering "what the fuck were you thinking" .

Especially when you are younger your perception and ideals for life are much different. It is rare that relationships at a young age like highschool sweethearts stay together for the rest of their life.

I now actually believe that most humans are not made to live in a monogamous or single relationship for their lifetime. Everybody changes while growing older, if you have found a person that grows with you and experiences the same kind of changes, then maybe you have found THE ONE. But it's not something you can know right off the bat, it's something you need to live and experience for a while before you can have that feeling.

[IrishAlkey]

I hope to one day find that person.

[angrymissy]

Jeff said he knew I was the one, when on our like 3rd date, he took me to see some shitty jam band his friend was in or something. He then asked me while we were surrounded by hippies and shitty music "WHAT DO YOU THINK?" and I thought for a second and said "I fucking hate this kind of music".

I was going to go with a polite answer, but my hatred for jam bands and hippies overcame me.

And so we lived happily ever after, two hippie haters united as one.

[Heather 8]

I knew a few hours into our three-day-long first date. :wub:

[joethebartender]

I think our 4th or 5th date was a movie and a bag o' pizza. (in hackensack)