old friends...

[LaBoob]

I recently reunited with my best friends from high school...the three of us girls were thick as theives, just getting high and being weird together. Throughout my life so far I've struggled to fit in wherever I went. I'm much, MUCH more confident now, and now that I love myself I have an easier time feeling like I'm "fitting in". They were just such a blessing to me in high school because it was probably the first time I felt like I belonged. They also laugh at every single joke I tell, and whole-heartedly, which anybody who likes to think they're funny knows is the best thing ever...

Reuniting has been fun. They're like strangers that know EVERYthing about me. As soon as we sat down the first time a couple of weeks ago we just clicked instantly. One of the weird things is that I looked at one of the girls' myspace profile and saw inside jokes that I came up with, 10 years ago, were still being referenced, like without me. It hurt me a little bit, but now I think I'm seeing it as flattering, like I was being remembered in a good way.

The weird thing is... they're both lesbians now. Like hardcore. And now that I'm back in the group hanging out, I find I'm hanging out with all lesbians. I don't mind, I like lesbians. It's just a little weird. It's interesting... one of them has a sister who's a lesbian too, and a brother who's studying to be a priest. They must have a lot to talk about at family gatherings...

Seriously, it's never a dull moment with these two and I'm glad we reconnected. I hope somebody sees this and reaches out to someone from their own past that they used to be close with.

[Kris10]

I like lesbians. Mod Quote!!!

It's great you reconnected with old friends. I barely speak with anyone I went to high school with but the one chick I was/am friends with is sooo different than I am. As long as I've known her she's been a born again christian and she married a pastor so they are big into the church, everytime I speak to her she's says "I'll pray for you" and I can't help but crack up because it makes me think I'm really fucked up to her. LOL. I could careless what she thinks but its funny to me.

I'm happy you met back up with them, sounds like your having a good time talking about the past!

[LaBoob]

Mod Quote!!!

It's great you reconnected with old friends. I barely speak with anyone I went to high school with but the one chick I was/am friends with is sooo different than I am. As long as I've known her she's been a born again christian and she married a pastor so they are big into the church, everytime I speak to her she's says "I'll pray for you" and I can't help but crack up because it makes me think I'm really fucked up to her. LOL. I could careless what she thinks but its funny to me.

I'm happy you met back up with them, sounds like your having a good time talking about the past!

That is an awesome mod quote... I sincerely mean no offense to any born again Christians out there but that is really the kiss of death for me. "Born Again Christian" is code for "we have absolutely nothing in common". And I'm good with that.

I also normally hate these conversations about reminiscing and talking about things that happened a long time ago. I have a friend who is constantly starting sentences with "remember that time...". One of the reasons I hate it so much is because I just don't remember a lot of things from long ago. It's also usually something really embarassing that I'd successfully blocked from my memory. With these girls though it's just plain fun. They don't really bring up anything too embarassing.

[Gvac]

Nothing better than hanging with old buddies. They're people who truly understand you and will be completely honest with you. There's no bullshit involved when you kick back with people you know inside and out and vice versa.

I'm still best of friends with most of my high school buddies, and even though there are a few I don't see or speak to regularly, we can sit and shoot the shit all night long like we never missed a beat.

[Death Metal Moe]

I ran into an old friend I'd known since I was like 5 a few years ago in a store I was working in. We exchanged phone numbers and had a nice chat.

When I called him, things just didn't click at all. I was surprised because I expected something similar to LaBoob's experience. I knew this kid for a long time, hung out with him at his parent's and grandparent's house, went to the mall with him like teens do. He was one of the friends I kept even when my parents put me in Catholic school and seperated me from my local friends.

But it just didn't work. Eh, I can't say I wasn't a little disappointed but it quickly forgot about it. Maybe it was me, my life had just gone in a different direction. I guess there wasn't anything wrong on either end, just 2 people that were almost strangers at that point not clicking.

[Marc with a c]

i can't wait to see gvac tonight

[Death Metal Moe]

That is an awesome mod quote... I sincerely mean no offense to any born again Christians out there but that is really the kiss of death for me. "Born Again Christian" is code for "we have absolutely nothing in common". And I'm good with that.


It's not your fault, it's theirs. They have chosen to limit their lives to a very small band of belivers of the same faith and they judge others. Their faith is so frail they can't take other people's ideas and opinions so they try to silence freedom of speech with boycotts and letter writing campaigns.

I know not all born again christians are fanatics but I agree with LaBoob. When I hear the tag, I am turned off. I think to myself "Here's someone who is a drag, will try to indoctrinate me and is extremely close minded to other schools of thought."

[SinA]

i'm happy for your newly rediscovered happiness. i still keep in touch with my closest friends from high school, but it's rare that we can all get together at the same time. when we do, it's like we never missed a beat.

in case anything "unexpected" happens when you're with them, please keep us in mind. in other words, get some pictures.

[LaBoob]

in case anything "unexpected" happens when you're with them, please keep us in mind. in other words, get some pictures.

Oh most definitely. I'm not into them that way, but now that I'm in with the gays... who knows...???
:devil2:

[Gvac]

i can't wait to see gvac tonight

Make sure you introduce yourself!

[Marc with a c]

Make sure you introduce yourself!

i'll introduce my fist to your eye

[hunnerbun]

So funny you started this thread. This year is my 25 yr high school reunion and I recently got in touch with an old friend from then that I haven't seen since graduation. He is gay, which was a surprise to me, cause he didn't remotely seem effeminate when we were hanging out. I called him and we talked on the phone for an hour and a half and it was like we just talked a week before, not 25 yrs. I can't wait to go home in July to see people, it will be so fun.

[Kris10]

My 10 yr reunion is in Nov, I don't think I'm going. My best friend from high school was killed 2 weeks before graduation and outside of school I hung OUT with kids from another high school. I had friends inside my high school but no one that I care to see now.

[LaBoob]

So funny you started this thread. This year is my 25 yr high school reunion and I recently got in touch with an old friend from then that I haven't seen since graduation. He is gay, which was a surprise to me, cause he didn't remotely seem effeminate when we were hanging out. I called him and we talked on the phone for an hour and a half and it was like we just talked a week before, not 25 yrs. I can't wait to go home in July to see people, it will be so fun.

Awesome... have fun at your reunion! I'm not really looking forward to my 10 year reunion. Most of the people I went to high school with I just couldn't care less about. I thought it might be fun to tailgate it though... just sit in the parking lot with a cooler full of beer and watch people coming and going and speculating as to what they're doing now....much more fun than actually going in and finding out what they're doing now. Obviously I'd have to have some friends join me... sitting there by myself drinking beer would just be creepy...funny image though.

[Gvac]

i'll introduce my fist to your eye

i'll introduce my fist to your mom's eye


oh wait...I don't have to do this anymore.

nevermind.

So funny you started this thread. This year is my 25 yr high school reunion and I recently got in touch with an old friend from then that I haven't seen since graduation. He is gay, which was a surprise to me, cause he didn't remotely seem effeminate when we were hanging out. I called him and we talked on the phone for an hour and a half and it was like we just talked a week before, not 25 yrs. I can't wait to go home in July to see people, it will be so fun.

:ohmy:

[Kris10]

Awesome... have fun at your reunion! I'm not really looking forward to my 10 year reunion. Most of the people I went to high school with I just couldn't care less about. I thought it might be fun to tailgate it though... just sit in the parking lot with a cooler full of beer and watch people coming and going and speculating as to what they're doing now....much more fun than actually going in and finding out what they're doing now. Obviously I'd have to have some friends join me... sitting there by myself drinking beer would just be creepy...funny image though.

I'D SOOOOOOO DO THIS WITH YOU!!!!!!! YOU HAVE TO COME TO MINE THOUGH AND HANG WITH ME!!!! LOL

[LaBoob]

I'D SOOOOOOO DO THIS WITH YOU!!!!!!! YOU HAVE TO COME TO MINE THOUGH AND HANG WITH ME!!!! LOL

It's on! :drunk:

[Ritalin]

I'm digging the sapphic connection forming between Rouski and LaBoob.

You know, it starts out as an innocent invitation to a softball game....

[Kris10]

I'm digging the sapphic connection forming between Rouski and LaBoob.

You know, it starts out as an innocent invitation to a softball game....

Uhhh, no.

[Enabler]

I thought it might be fun to tailgate it though... just sit in the parking lot with a cooler full of beer and watch people coming and going and speculating as to what they're doing now


:lol::lol:....I am totally going to suggest this to my friends for my 10 year this summer!

[Kris10]

:lol::lol:....I am totally going to suggest this to my friends for my 10 year this summer!

Come join us! I think as long as we take pictures Ritalin will be happy. Wait, your a guy though. Hmmm....

[topless_mike]

Oh most definitely. I'm not into them that way, but now that I'm in with the gays... who knows...???
:devil2:

steer clear of the vodka or tequila...

[grlNIN]

I tried reuniting and staying n touch with my best friends from high school but man, totally different places in life whenever it happens. They either have no ambition and are aimless or go to school but drink every night, which isn't for me anymore.

It upset me at first because we had such amazing times and connections through junior high and high school but eventually with time things and people change and inevitably grow apart.

[LaBoob]

I tried reuniting and staying n touch with my best friends from high school but man, totally different places in life whenever it happens. They either have no ambition and are aimless or go to school but drink every night, which isn't for me anymore.

It upset me at first because we had such amazing times and connections through junior high and high school but eventually with time things and people change and inevitably grow apart.

Kind of the opposite for me... my friends were always kind of on the verge of some big drama like over-dosing, bulemia, drug addiction, abusive boyfriends, whatever. Now they all have their heads on straight. They're all still wild, but we all are. We all have this crazy side that's just fucking out of control. But, like me, they've learned to control it a little bit..(we all have our moments :wacko:) It's still fun to get a little crazy though.

[Mullenax]

I tried reuniting and staying n touch with my best friends from high school but man, totally different places in life whenever it happens. They either have no ambition and are aimless or go to school but drink every night, which isn't for me anymore.
I relate. I'm from a really small town, I went away to college, and when I came back all my friends turned into junkies. Some went to jail, some had kids. MySpace has made ghosts from high school reappear. I call them, but it's hollow- I think they resent me for leaving.

[Thebazile78]

Meh.

I'm still in touch with a total of 3 of my friends from high school, two of whom have been my friends since grammar school. And, yes, when we get together it's like the intervening years never even happened. Which is great, actually, because we're all lucky to be in similar places in our lives with room enough for the others to share.

People I just kind of casually hung out with or did activities with have faded away. Which is fine by me to tell the truth. If I wasn't close to them then, I have no reason to expect I'd be close to them now.

When I looked at the RSVP list for my own 10-year reunion (two years ago) I didn't see many people I wanted to see again...plus, I would have had to drive an hour and stay sober for it because I wasn't going to stay overnight at the hotel where it took place and Matt wasn't going to come with me. (Besides, we were mired in wedding planning and one of our big deposits for something was due that week!)

So .... I didn't go. But I did try to help the reunion co-chairs locate people they hadn't been able to locate so that they could get the eVite out to everyone, so I felt like I'd contributed something.

[RoseBlood]

bump.. cause i didn't feel like starting a new thread..

When I was 19 I became friends with a co-worker. We weren't good friends or even long time friends; hung out a couple times, talked a bit.. that sorta thing. I remember him being a bit arrogant and pompous but that was nearly 6 years ago and people change. He also bad mouthed my then boyfriend behind his back as they really didn't like each other. Eventually our "friendship" ended on sorta bad terms as it involved affairs of the heart and we stopped talking. This was nearly six years ago.

A little over a year ago I find a little note under the windshield wiper of my car. It was from the above mentioned friend I use to work with. All it said was "hey Kris, remember me Tim?". He left a number to contact him and a smiley face. I really had no interest in reconnecting with him on any level, so I tossed the note. It did strike me odd that he knew my car etc.. but other wise I didn't think to much of it.

Tonight, he called the house and left a number to call him back. Is it weird he has my parents number from 5/6 years ago? I have no idea if I'm going to call him back. Am I being rude by ignoring him?

[JerseyRich]

bump.. cause i didn't feel like starting a new thread..

When I was 19 I became friends with a co-worker. We weren't good friends or even long time friends; hung out a couple times, talked a bit.. that sorta thing. I remember him being a bit arrogant and pompous but that was nearly 6 years ago and people change. He also bad mouthed my then boyfriend behind his back as they really didn't like each other. Eventually our "friendship" ended on sorta bad terms as it involved affairs of the heart and we stopped talking. This was nearly six years ago.

A little over a year ago I find a little note under the windshield wiper of my car. It was from the above mentioned friend I use to work with. All it said was "hey Kris, remember me Tim?". He left a number to contact him and a smiley face. I really had no interest in reconnecting with him on any level, so I tossed the note. It did strike me odd that he knew my car etc.. but other wise I didn't think to much of it.

Tonight, he called the house and left a number to call him back. Is it weird he has my parents number from 5/6 years ago? I have no idea if I'm going to call him back. Am I being rude by ignoring him?

If you have no interest, it's best not to lead him on. So don't bother. The only reason he wants to reconnect is to get in your pants. I know it sounds harsh, but that is most likely the reality of it.

[boosterp]

. Am I being rude by ignoring him?

No, he sounds like a creep; remembering your car, your parents number, and talking crap about then bf. Some people grow up and change, others do not. Just from this short story and creepy factor, he is likely not the kind to of grown up.

I had this happen too; a woman who was friends with a then gf. I did not really like this lady, but tolerated her because of the gf. After said gf and I broke up, this creep started leaving notes on my car, showed up at my place, and eventually I had to threaten to call the cops on her.

[RoseBlood]

The only reason he wants to reconnect is to get in your pants.
Probably not, he's in Ohio now. But he's probably still a jerk.

[lleeder]

Maybe he just misses the friendship. There are people I was friends with that I sometimes want to reconnect with. I think about contacting them but then I think fuck those assholes they never tried to call me. Then I do nothing and hold anger twards them and if I see them in the store I'll turn down a different aisle and hide behind a display til they leave. I'm mature that way.

[RoseBlood]

lleeder, you sound like jack handey.

[LaBoob]

Guy "old friends" are nothin' but trouble. Or just an easy lay. Either way it's lotsa fun.

[lleeder]

lleeder, you sound like jack handey.

That might be the nicest thing anyone ever said to me. I don't ever leave a pumpkin with a knife in it with a note tha reads "YOU".

[Sinestro]

Guy "old friends" are nothin' but trouble. Or just an easy lay. Either way it's lotsa fun.

OMG Laboob! It's been a long time like kindergarten, remember? We should get together and meet up. PM me.:wink:

[topless_mike]

Guy "old friends" are nothin' but trouble. Or just an easy lay. Either way it's lotsa fun.

:wub:

[skyscraper]

ok, here's one.
I dated my sister's best friend way back in college (1988-89), then I broke up with her because she was too depressing to be around. she took it very hard (she wanted to get married after graduation) and in fact stopped being friends with my sister so she wouldn't have to deal with me.
now, it's almost 20 years later, and my sister told me just the other day that she misses that friend, the best friend she ever had. she has always blamed me for the way their friendship ended, although I have always maintained that it was the friend that was to blame. but whatever.
I know where this girl lives (she was in my wife's class in high school, and the school issues a directory of alumni, including maiden names of married women, so I looked her up.) would it be weird of me to try to get in touch with her so she could reconnect with my sister?

[Sinestro]

ok, here's one.
I dated my sister's best friend way back in college (1988-89), then I broke up with her because she was too depressing to be around. she took it very hard (she wanted to get married after graduation) and in fact stopped being friends with my sister so she wouldn't have to deal with me.
now, it's almost 20 years later, and my sister told me just the other day that she misses that friend, the best friend she ever had. she has always blamed me for the way their friendship ended, although I have always maintained that it was the friend that was to blame. but whatever.
I know where this girl lives (she was in my wife's class in high school, and the school issues a directory of alumni, including maiden names of married women, so I looked her up.) would it be weird of me to try to get in touch with her so she could reconnect with my sister?


Yea. Let your sister do the work if she's interested.

[skyscraper]

Yea. Let your sister do the work if she's interested.

I thought of that, but I think she would be more "forgiving" if I sort of surprised her with it, and I wouldn't need to hear it from her anymore; basically, she thinks I broke it, so I should fix it.

[Sinestro]

20 years is a long time. Might not be the same friendship as before since well you know, because of you.

You got to tell your sister to get over it. Tell her you fucked up. Let it go.

If you want, contact that friend of yours and hers and see what happens. Maybe you'll be all friends again. or maybe not. but you tried.


But what if that friend doesn't want anything to do with you or your sister. Are you going to tell your sister you tried getting in contact with her to try and get you sister to forgive you after all this years?

[west milly Tom]

I recently reunited with my best friends from high school...the three of us girls were thick as theives, just getting high and being weird together. Throughout my life so far I've struggled to fit in wherever I went. I'm much, MUCH more confident now, and now that I love myself I have an easier time feeling like I'm "fitting in". They were just such a blessing to me in high school because it was probably the first time I felt like I belonged. They also laugh at every single joke I tell, and whole-heartedly, which anybody who likes to think they're funny knows is the best thing ever...

Reuniting has been fun. They're like strangers that know EVERYthing about me. As soon as we sat down the first time a couple of weeks ago we just clicked instantly. One of the weird things is that I looked at one of the girls' myspace profile and saw inside jokes that I came up with, 10 years ago, were still being referenced, like without me. It hurt me a little bit, but now I think I'm seeing it as flattering, like I was being remembered in a good way.

The weird thing is... they're both lesbians now. Like hardcore. And now that I'm back in the group hanging out, I find I'm hanging out with all lesbians. I don't mind, I like lesbians. It's just a little weird. It's interesting... one of them has a sister who's a lesbian too, and a brother who's studying to be a priest. They must have a lot to talk about at family gatherings...

Seriously, it's never a dull moment with these two and I'm glad we reconnected. I hope somebody sees this and reaches out to someone from their own past that they used to be close with.



Lesbians fasinate me.
I have a unique situation, however, I still hang out with all my best friends from grade school. And for the most part they're just like me. It rocks.

[skyscraper]

20 years is a long time. Might not be the same friendship as before since well you know, because of you.

You got to tell your sister to get over it. Tell her you fucked up. Let it go.

If you want, contact that friend of yours and hers and see what happens. Maybe you'll be all friends again. or maybe not. but you tried.


But what if that friend doesn't want anything to do with you or your sister. Are you going to tell your sister you tried getting in contact with her to try and get you sister to forgive you after all this years?

If she doesn't want anything to do with me or my sister, then the hell with her. but I figure, I have nothing to lose by trying. if that winds up being the case, I might just tell my sister that I tried, but that she is still bitter and resentful lo these many years later, and if she is that petty than she needs to move on with her life.
I have told my sister repeatedly to get over it. my ex decided not to be friends with her, it really is not my fault. what was I supposed to do, marry her just so they could stay friends? no way.
I suppose my biggest apprehension is how my wife would see it; as I said, my wife and she were in the same class in high school and knew each other (although I don't think they were especially good friends or anything.) I don't want her to get jealous, nor do I want my ex's husband to get the wrong idea. so the more I think about this, the worse an idea it seems like. the payoff would be great if everyone understood my intentions, but I don't think they would.

[west milly Tom]

bump.. cause i didn't feel like starting a new thread..

When I was 19 I became friends with a co-worker. We weren't good friends or even long time friends; hung out a couple times, talked a bit.. that sorta thing. I remember him being a bit arrogant and pompous but that was nearly 6 years ago and people change. He also bad mouthed my then boyfriend behind his back as they really didn't like each other. Eventually our "friendship" ended on sorta bad terms as it involved affairs of the heart and we stopped talking. This was nearly six years ago.

A little over a year ago I find a little note under the windshield wiper of my car. It was from the above mentioned friend I use to work with. All it said was "hey Kris, remember me Tim?". He left a number to contact him and a smiley face. I really had no interest in reconnecting with him on any level, so I tossed the note. It did strike me odd that he knew my car etc.. but other wise I didn't think to much of it.

Tonight, he called the house and left a number to call him back. Is it weird he has my parents number from 5/6 years ago? I have no idea if I'm going to call him back. Am I being rude by ignoring him?



No, a non-stalker would have gotten the point after you didn't respond to his note.

[Sinestro]

If she doesn't want anything to do with me or my sister, then the hell with her. but I figure, I have nothing to lose by trying. if that winds up being the case, I might just tell my sister that I tried, but that she is still bitter and resentful lo these many years later, and if she is that petty than she needs to move on with her life.
I have told my sister repeatedly to get over it. my ex decided not to be friends with her, it really is not my fault. what was I supposed to do, marry her just so they could stay friends? no way.
I suppose my biggest apprehension is how my wife would see it; as I said, my wife and she were in the same class in high school and knew each other (although I don't think they were especially good friends or anything.) I don't want her to get jealous, nor do I want my ex's husband to get the wrong idea. so the more I think about this, the worse an idea it seems like. the payoff would be great if everyone understood my intentions, but I don't think they would.

So you already know stuff about her. She's already married?? Why not wait for a type of school re-union or something (facebook, myspace?).

[skyscraper]

So you already know stuff about her. She's already married?? Why not wait for a type of school re-union or something (facebook, myspace?).

tried it; she's not on facebook or myspace, and their next class reunion isn't for 3 more years. she wasn't at the last one.

[LaBoob]

tried it; she's not on facebook or myspace, and their next class reunion isn't for 3 more years. she wasn't at the last one.

A friend of mine once gave me good advice... it's never too late or after too long to send an email just to tell someone that they were a good friend and that you're thinking of them and that you miss the friendship you had with them. I think YOU should stay out of it and that your sister should drop her friend a line and say she's been thinking of her. Let them reconnect without you. You might taint any possibility of a newfound friendship between them. Also, if the girl winds up NOT being the friend your sister remembers then you're in the clear. If you have the girl's contact information, give it to your sister and encourage her to pursue it.

[LaBoob]

OMG Laboob! It's been a long time like kindergarten, remember? We should get together and meet up. PM me.:wink:

Yeah!!! Weren't you the guy that threw up all over my homework and it smelled like Cheerios and orange juice?

:wub:
I like you cuz you're easy to please.

Lesbians fasinate me.

MY lesbians are a liiiiiiiiittle on the boring side. Plus, I kinda lost touch with them a little bit again, they're all in relationships and don't have time for their only straight friend anymore. :down:
But now that we've reconnected they're never more than a phone call away.

[Sinestro]

Yeah!!! Weren't you the guy that threw up all over my homework and it smelled like Cheerios and orange juice?


YES!!!!:clap: I knew you would remember. So how's it going?

[LaBoob]

YES!!!!:clap: I knew you would remember. So how's it going?

Well I've never been able to stomach the smell of Cheerios OR orange juice since then, but otherwise, great! :thumbup:

[skyscraper]

A friend of mine once gave me good advice... it's never too late or after too long to send an email just to tell someone that they were a good friend and that you're thinking of them and that you miss the friendship you had with them. I think YOU should stay out of it and that your sister should drop her friend a line and say she's been thinking of her. Let them reconnect without you. You might taint any possibility of a newfound friendship between them. Also, if the girl winds up NOT being the friend your sister remembers then you're in the clear. If you have the girl's contact information, give it to your sister and encourage her to pursue it.

I think that is probably the best course of action. I suppose it is inevitable that she is not the same person she was 20 years ago (who is?) but it is worth a shot.
as I said in my earlier post, my sister blames me for the loss of her best friend, and even though I don't think I am to blame, this is the best way to fix it without being directly involved.
thanks! I'll let you know how (if) it goes.