Two income families

[nate1000]

I swear I am going to punch the next person who asks my wife to regularly watch their kid(s) while they are at work, citing "well, you're home anyways."

We sacrifice, you egotistical C.
A LOT.

We cut corners every day to get by on one income so my wife can be home with the kids.
Every.
F-ing.
Day.

She drives the kids around in a 10 year old minivan and I hobble my way to work in a mid 90's honda with rust around the edges so my kids have someone at home with them.

For these people to roll up in their brand new cars, wearing their new outfit from Abercrombie or wherever, and presume to push their immaculately-Gap-dressed kids at my wife dismissing what she does with the above statement I find to be beyond offensive.

I don't mind helping people out, but when we become part of your day care game plan, you are going to get punched.

"Well, you're home anyways":furious::wallbash::furious::wallbash::furious:



Sorry- just needed to rant.

[topless_mike]

its all good.
my wife is a stay at home mom as well.

i know the struggle....

[ravn816]

All the kudos in the world to your wife dude.

I'm a working mom, I just couldn't do the stay-at-home thing. Well that and we couldn't afford rent in a two-bedroom apartment in a safer neighborhood if I didn't. I have all the respect for those that do stay-at-home. It's SO not an easy thing.

[Kris10]

All the kudos in the world to your wife dude.

I'm a working mom, I just couldn't do the stay-at-home thing.

Me either! I love my daughter but I need time to myself and I enjoy my job. Plus I need the income to support us.

Being a stay at home mom is a really tough job and when your watching someone elses children its even that more difficult because you can't treat/punish them like they're your own.

Start putting your foot down, Nate. Your wife has it hard enough as it is, she's not responsible to watch anyone elses kids.

[nate1000]

All the kudos in the world to your wife dude.

I'm a working mom, I just couldn't do the stay-at-home thing. Well that and we couldn't afford rent in a two-bedroom apartment in a safer neighborhood if I didn't. I have all the respect for those that do stay-at-home. It's SO not an easy thing.

Just to be clear- I am in no way trying to disparage two income families. We all gotta do what we all gotta do. I'm just saying that I know a lot of people who feel a compelling need to keep up with the Jonses and toss their kids in day care just to maintain a lifestyle they clearly cannot afford. And a couple of these people have callously overstepped their place.

Start putting your foot down, Nate. Your wife has it hard enough as it is, she's not responsible to watch anyone elses kids.


Oh, don't worry- it's been taken care of. Like I said, I don't mind helping out, but there is a line. I'm just venting some frustration, guilt, anger and maybe a little jealousy (I'd love to have their lifestyle, just not at the expense of my kids.)

[topless_mike]

Just to be clear- I am in no way trying to disparage two income families. We all gotta do what we all gotta do. I'm just saying that I know a lot of people who feel a compelling need to keep up with the Jonses and toss their kids in day care just to maintain a lifestyle they clearly cannot afford. And a couple of these people have callously overstepped their place.


HA HA HA HA HA
we are on one income, and we just about break even every month. thats all that i ask for.
i know what people you are talking about. always complaining about debt, this and that.
well, if you didnt have an Escalade and a CTS in the driveway, stopped shopping at Brooks Brothers, then maybe you wouldnt have to work so much.

[Freitag]

I swear I am going to punch the next person who asks my wife to regularly watch their kid(s) while they are at work, citing "well, you're home anyways."

We sacrifice, you egotistical C.
A LOT.

We cut corners every day to get by on one income so my wife can be home with the kids.
Every.
F-ing.
Day.

She drives the kids around in a 10 year old minivan and I hobble my way to work in a mid 90's honda with rust around the edges so my kids have someone at home with them.

For these people to roll up in their brand new cars, wearing their new outfit from Abercrombie or wherever, and presume to push their immaculately-Gap-dressed kids at my wife dismissing what she does with the above statement I find to be beyond offensive.

I don't mind helping people out, but when we become part of your day care game plan, you are going to get punched.

"Well, you're home anyways":furious::wallbash::furious::wallbash::furious:



Sorry- just needed to rant.

Solution to the problem... ask for $20/hour. Cash only.

[zathrus]

I'm a working mom. if we could afford it, i'd try staying at home, but not sure if i could do it. too dependent on adult conversation. I give credit to stay at home moms. If you guys start charging people for your wife to watch them, I bet it would stop or at least ease up.

[milliehatchett]

Those people are REALLLLY thoughtless. "Stay at home" mom should be changed to: "Work at home Mom". I have a friend who is raising 3 kids on 1 income. She and her husband DO sacrifice a lot monetarily BUT, when his work day is over, it's over. Her work day is NEVER over. The kids don't stop needing stuff just cause it's past 5:00 pm.

When my friend's sisters would ask if they could drop their kids off at her house on Wednesday - she would say, "Sure, but that means that I'm dropping MY kids off at your house on Saturday." It was amazing how quickly her sisters were able to make other arrangements.

I hate to hear that someone tried to take advantage of the fact that your wife is "home" during the day. She is NOT sitting around looking for something to keep her occupied.

[Kris10]

Oh, don't worry- it's been taken care of. Like I said, I don't mind helping out, but there is a line. I'm just venting some frustration, guilt, anger and maybe a little jealousy (I'd love to have their lifestyle, just not at the expense of my kids.)

Good! I'm glad to hear it! Feel free to vent! I've had those days. Actually, I think you've been the victim of my venting not so long ago....

[angrymissy]

Just to be clear- I am in no way trying to disparage two income families. We all gotta do what we all gotta do. I'm just saying that I know a lot of people who feel a compelling need to keep up with the Jonses and toss their kids in day care just to maintain a lifestyle they clearly cannot afford. And a couple of these people have callously overstepped their place.




Oh, don't worry- it's been taken care of. Like I said, I don't mind helping out, but there is a line. I'm just venting some frustration, guilt, anger and maybe a little jealousy (I'd love to have their lifestyle, just not at the expense of my kids.)

Just say "Oh, ok, that will be $50 please. If you pick her up after 6, there's a $25 late charge".

[Bulldogcakes]

I swear I am going to punch the next person who asks my wife to regularly watch their kid(s) while they are at work, citing "well, you're home anyways."

We sacrifice, you egotistical C.
A LOT.

We cut corners every day to get by on one income so my wife can be home with the kids.
Every.
F-ing.
Day.

She drives the kids around in a 10 year old minivan and I hobble my way to work in a mid 90's honda with rust around the edges so my kids have someone at home with them.

For these people to roll up in their brand new cars, wearing their new outfit from Abercrombie or wherever, and presume to push their immaculately-Gap-dressed kids at my wife dismissing what she does with the above statement I find to be beyond offensive.

I don't mind helping people out, but when we become part of your day care game plan, you are going to get punched.

"Well, you're home anyways":furious::wallbash::furious::wallbash::furious:



Sorry- just needed to rant.

What do babysitters charge? Seems like you could use the extra cash and these folks have it to spare.


Don't get mad. Get paid. :wink:

[nate1000]

Solution to the problem... ask for $20/hour. Cash only.

Just say "Oh, ok, that will be $50 please. If you pick her up after 6, there's a $25 late charge".

What do babysitters charge? Seems like you could use the extra cash and these folks have it to spare.


Don't get mad. Get paid. :wink:

I hear what you're saying, but it really isn't about the money- we do fine, shitty cars and all. My aggrivation stems from the casual dismissal of what my wife does each and every day and the sacrifices we make and the not so casual insinuation that their job is of greater importance than that.

The solution to the problem was "Fuck off, this isn't a day care. Learn to plan better."

Besides, the boat goes in the water in three weeks. After that, we practically move down to the marina for the summer and there is no way we are taking responsibility for anyone else's child in that environment- my kids were raised on a sailboat and understand the boat rules perfectly. Other people's kids- forget about it.

So, thanks for listening and all the advice.

[nate1000]

aggravation.

take that, Missy.