My wife has become too fat for me

[Zorro]

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[A.J.]

By Bill Clinton.

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[topless_mike]

chelsea is doable.

[FezPaul]

Here's a silly ditty,
You can sing it right away
Now, here is what you say
So sing it while you may

Here's a silly jingle,
You can sing it night or noon
Here's the words, that's all you need
'Cause I just sang the tune:

Oh, I don't want her, you can have her
She's too fat for me
She's too fat for me
She's too fat for me
I don't want her, you can have her,
She's too fat for me
She's too fat
She's too fat
She's too fat for me

I get dizzy
I get numbo
When I'm dancing
With my Jum-Jum-Jumbo

I don't want her, you can have her
She's too fat for me
She's too fat for me
She's too fat for me
I don't want her, you can have her
She's too fat for me
She's too fat
She's too fat
She's too fat for me

Can she prance up a hill?
No, no, no, no, no
Can she dance a quadrille?
No, no, no, no, no
Does she fit in your coupe?
By herself she's a group
Could she possibly
Sit upon your knee?
No, no, no

We don't want her, you can have her
She's too fat for me
And she's too fat for me
But she's just right for me
We don't want her, you can have her
She's too fat for me
Yeah, she's too fat,
Much too fat
But she's just right for me

She's so charming
And she's so winning
But it's alarming
When she goes in swimming

We don't want her, you can have her
She's too fat for me
She's too fat for me
But she's just right for me
So I sure want her, you can't have her
She's just right for me
But she's too fat!
She's not too fat!
She's just right for me!

She's a twosome,
She's a foursome
If she'd lose some
I would like her more some

I don't want her, you can have her
She's too fat for me
She's too fat for me
She's too fat for me
I don't want her you can have her
She's too fat for me
She's too fat
Much too fat
She's too fat for me
Hey!

[Snacks]

If she wont drop the weight and is getting fatter then drop her fat ass and move out. there has always been a joke about "women want a man with a J O B". Guess what, men want a women in with a nice body and that look presentable. no man wants to introduce his friends and co workers to the titantic.

i love the part when she says "sometimes a wife get fat to avoid sex" then if fatty gains weight to avoid sex then hubby should be able to go out and bang whoever and whenever he wants. Fatty can stay home with the kids and eat 1 or 2 gallons of ice cream and watch oprah!

[EliSnow]

For years, my brother-in-law (my wife's brother) had problems with his wife's weight, and flat out made unbelievable comments to her about it. One minor one was when my wife said she was walking a lot to lose weight. My brother-in-law turned to his wife and said that's what you should be doing.

Every year for years, he would pay for a trainer, and she would never use the trainer (even before she got pregnant with their kids). The fact is that she's never really exercised. Heck, I don't think she has ever owned a pair of sneakers/work-out shoes in her life.

The problem with my brother-in-law was that he couldn't bring this up in a tactful or sensitive manner. On the other side I can understand his frustration. When my wife was 4-5 months pregnant with our second child, his wife looked more pregnant than my wife and her youngest was over a year old.

[jauble]

Two thoughts.

One: ashleymadison.com

Two: One of the first things that Gail Saltz says is put yourself in your wife's shoes you arent doing her any favors by being unattracted to her. Unless this guy is also a total slob (which is probably a 50 50) that should not be the first bit of info fed to him. The guy said that in all other aspects of marriage (i.e. she is a good mom, they communicate well on finances, home stuff, etc.) so if that works well maybe some side tail is in order.

[IamPixie]

cause husbands NEVER let themselves go. :thumbdown:

[keithy_19]

cause husbands NEVER let themselves go. :thumbdown:

Only so their children have a mountain to climb.

[IamPixie]

Only so their children have a mountain to climb.

Or so she can have a hairy sweaty mess lying on top of her. It's goes fucking both ways.

[TheGameHHH]

Or so she can have a hairy sweaty mess lying on top of her. It's goes fucking both ways.

nobody is saying it doesnt go both ways, a wife should absolutely have a right to be frustrated if her husband lets himself go and gains an obscene amount of weight. i think the point is both spouses have to bring up the weight issue in a tactful and sensitive manner. and if its done properly then the other spouse really needs to re-evaluate their health choices in order to strengthen the bond of marriage.

[IamPixie]

nobody is saying it doesnt go both ways, a wife should absolutely have a right to be frustrated if her husband lets himself go and gains an obscene amount of weight. i think the point is both spouses have to bring up the weight issue in a tactful and sensitive manner. and if its done properly then the other spouse really needs to re-evaluate their health choices in order to strengthen the bond of marriage.
Of course, but shit like this post....
If she wont drop the weight and is getting fatter then drop her fat ass and move out. there has always been a joke about "women want a man with a J O B". Guess what, men want a women in with a nice body and that look presentable. no man wants to introduce his friends and co workers to the titantic.


Makes me want to bash a face in.

[Dougie Brootal]

Of course, but shit like this post....


Makes me want to bash a face in.

you're sensitive today huh?

[IamPixie]

you're sensitive today huh?

No, it just an exceedingly obnoxious post that got under my skin. Along with the whole one sided theme of this thread.

And i'm bored at work.

[Dougie Brootal]

No, it just an exceedingly obnoxious post that got under my skin. Along with the whole one sided theme of this thread.

well, there just referring to the subject of an article. i think its kind of implied it goes both ways theres just an infinite number more men on this board than women. so yer probably gonna get that.

[IamPixie]

well, there just referring to the subject of an article. i think its kind of implied it goes both ways theres just an infinite number more men on this board than women. so yer probably gonna get that.

That's why I'm posting here.:bye:

[Knowledged_one]

Of course, but shit like this post....


Makes me want to bash a face in.

Based on that persons previous posts on the board are you really surprised at that post?

[Knowledged_one]

well, there just referring to the subject of an article. i think its kind of implied it goes both ways theres just an infinite number more men on this board than women. so yer probably gonna get that.

So doug we need an experts opinion how do you handle this topic in your civil union?

[Dougie Brootal]

So doug we need an experts opinion how do you handle this topic in your civil union?

well scot and i usually.....HEY! :nono:

[Snacks]

Or so she can have a hairy sweaty mess lying on top of her. It's goes fucking both ways.

thats nasty. i know nothing about that because i shave my entire body. dont hate because this is one of the only things we still have on women!

my brother told his wife if she ever weighed more then 130 he would divorce her. it was kind of a joke but after the 2nd kid was born she weighed 134. she immediately lost 30 pounds and weighs between 100 and 110 at all times. before you say she is too skinny she is 5 foot even.

[zathrus]

If any man ever told me that, he had better have a body better than Brad Pitts

[Furtherman]

So doug we need an experts opinion how do you handle this topic in your civil union?

He tells her to lay off the beer-pong.

[Dougie Brootal]

He tells her to lay off the beer-pong.

SHUT UP FERNANDO!

[Snacks]

Based on that persons previous posts on the board are you really surprised at that post?

no one should be. but i would bet if a women ever dated you she would write to Dear Abby about you and how disgusted she is having sex with a blob.

[Knowledged_one]

no one should be. but i would bet if a women ever dated you she would write to Dear Abby about you and how disgusted she is having sex with a blob.

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[IamPixie]

at least I brought some heat to this sorry thread. No offense, Zorro.

[jauble]

Another fighting thread? Cant we just go back to ridculing hippo like we used to. I thought it might turn into a doug is gay thread but even that didn't work.





























Perhaps maybe even an Earl bashing thread?

[Snacks]

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you are still are in big slob that will never change!

[Knowledged_one]

you are still are in big slob that will never change!

Is that even english?

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you killed linguo

[IamPixie]

Is that even english?

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you killed linguo

:lol:

[Dougie Brootal]

I thought it might turn into a doug is gay thread but even that didn't work.

yes! my super hetero man powers are working!

[Knowledged_one]

yes! my super hetero man powers are working!

see what happens when you dont drink, you turn not ghey

[jauble]

yes! my super hetero man powers are working!

I'm just glad Diablo wasn't around to see this.

[Bulldogcakes]

For years, my brother-in-law (my wife's brother) had problems with his wife's weight, and flat out made unbelievable comments to her about it. One minor one was when my wife said she was walking a lot to lose weight. My brother-in-law turned to his wife and said that's what you should be doing.

Every year for years, he would pay for a trainer, and she would never use the trainer (even before she got pregnant with their kids). The fact is that she's never really exercised. Heck, I don't think she has ever owned a pair of sneakers/work-out shoes in her life.

The problem with my brother-in-law was that he couldn't bring this up in a tactful or sensitive manner. On the other side I can understand his frustration. When my wife was 4-5 months pregnant with our second child, his wife looked more pregnant than my wife and her youngest was over a year old.


I think in cases like this its often a product of the relationship between the two of them. His insensitivity (which I doubt is only about her weight) makes her less receptive to his complaints. If he's selfish in other areas (like in bed) she might look to food as a source of some pleasure in her life that she doesn't get elsewhere as the article stated.

All of that being said overeating and gaining weight is an awful, self destructive way to deal with it. She could and should be opening up some lines of communication herself. I grew up in a house where my Mom got increasingly obese as I got older and my Dad got increasingly angry and frustrated over it, and its not a pleasant environment for anyone involved, including the kids.

[Zorro]

at least I brought some heat to this sorry thread. No offense, Zorro.

None taken

[Patty Thursdays]

I'm too fat for my wife. I've gained a ton of weight, and I look like Beetlejuice with the small head and huge body. My wife can't even do oral, she says she can't find it!

[keithy_19]

Or so she can have a hairy sweaty mess lying on top of her. It's goes fucking both ways.

I know.

And I thought having a belly meant you were happy? What ever happened to the good ol' days?

[EliSnow]

I think in cases like this its often a product of the relationship between the two of them. His insensitivity (which I doubt is only about her weight) makes her less receptive to his complaints.

This is pretty much it. The weight thing is not the only problem between them. For instance, according to my wife, the day after my brother-in-law got engaged to his wife, she quit her job, because my brother in law had a career on Wall Street.

The problem (amongst others) was that my brother in law had been laid off a couple months before and wasn't bringing money in at that time. But apparently for her, she was only working until she landed a man.

Apparently, my brother in law didn't like this one bit, and lost a lot of respect for his wife. And my wife thinks that the only reason they got married is because my wife's dad had terminal brain cancer.

Anyway, since then he's always been very critical of her. It lessened somewhat when she became a mother, because then she had a "job." But he's still very critical of her.

[A.J.]

cause husbands NEVER let themselves go. :thumbdown:

I WISH I could gain weight.

I'm cursed with this sexy, skeletal physique.

[Jujubees2]

cause husbands NEVER let themselves go. :thumbdown:

Some of us like to get buff so we can inpress our daughter's friends!

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[nate1000]

Did anyone read the article and "Dr. Gail's" response?

"You should have considered from the start whether this is the right spouse for you, keeping in mind that physical attraction does matter."

"You haven't really done your wife any favors. "

"Think how horrible it must feel to be married to someone who doesn’t find you physically attractive"

"I think you should figure out what the real problem in your marriage is "

"Be supportive of your wife rather than critical or distant."

"Don’t sabotage her efforts by stocking the pantry with junk food."

:thumbdown: Yeah, honey. His wife is a fat ass and its all his fault. Typical female response- deflect as much as possible to avoid even acknowledging the issue.

How bout put the f'ing ho-ho down and use a little self restraint?

And while we're at it how 'bout we take some ownership over the things in our life, like the fact that we look like Jabba the hut, and stop searching around for other people to blame.

Unbelievable.

[Dougie Brootal]

Did anyone read the article and "Dr. Gail's" response?

"You should have considered from the start whether this is the right spouse for you, keeping in mind that physical attraction does matter."

"You haven't really done your wife any favors. "

"Think how horrible it must feel to be married to someone who doesn’t find you physically attractive"

"I think you should figure out what the real problem in your marriage is "

"Be supportive of your wife rather than critical or distant."

"Don’t sabotage her efforts by stocking the pantry with junk food."

:thumbdown: Yeah, honey. His wife is a fat ass and its all his fault. Typical female response- deflect as much as possible to avoid even acknowledging the issue.

How bout put the f'ing ho-ho down and use a little self restraint?

And while we're at it how 'bout we take some ownership over the things in our life, like the fact that we look like Jabba the hut, and stop searching around for other people to blame.

Unbelievable.

OH NO! pixie's gonna be pissed at you!:tongue:

[angrymissy]

Wow, just brilliant. Yeah, he shouldn't be supportive of her, that wouldn't help one bit right? Don't you think maybe this guy being super critical of her appearance and an asshole could be worsening her weight issues? It's her fucking husband, he could help her out a bit.

She should do what I do when Jeff makes ANY type of weight comment. Ask him to lean over, just slightly to one side. Locate man boob fold (stomach fold can also be subbed for man boob fold), then simulate screwing it with finger. If man boob fold can be located and screwed, man should not be saying shit about weight.

Did anyone read the article and "Dr. Gail's" response?

"You should have considered from the start whether this is the right spouse for you, keeping in mind that physical attraction does matter."

"You haven't really done your wife any favors. "

"Think how horrible it must feel to be married to someone who doesn’t find you physically attractive"

"I think you should figure out what the real problem in your marriage is "

"Be supportive of your wife rather than critical or distant."

"Don’t sabotage her efforts by stocking the pantry with junk food."

:thumbdown: Yeah, honey. His wife is a fat ass and its all his fault. Typical female response- deflect as much as possible to avoid even acknowledging the issue.

How bout put the f'ing ho-ho down and use a little self restraint?

And while we're at it how 'bout we take some ownership over the things in our life, like the fact that we look like Jabba the hut, and stop searching around for

[A.J.]

She should do what I do when Jeff makes ANY type of weight comment. Ask him to lean over, just slightly to one side. Locate man boob fold (stomach fold can also be subbed for man boob fold), then simulate screwing it with finger. If man boob fold can be located and screwed, man should not be saying shit about weight.

That's all muscle Missy!

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[Jujubees2]

Did anyone read the article and "Dr. Gail's" response?

"You should have considered from the start whether this is the right spouse for you, keeping in mind that physical attraction does matter."

"You haven't really done your wife any favors. "

"Think how horrible it must feel to be married to someone who doesn’t find you physically attractive"

"I think you should figure out what the real problem in your marriage is "

"Be supportive of your wife rather than critical or distant."

"Don’t sabotage her efforts by stocking the pantry with junk food."

:thumbdown: Yeah, honey. His wife is a fat ass and its all his fault. Typical female response- deflect as much as possible to avoid even acknowledging the issue.

How bout put the f'ing ho-ho down and use a little self restraint?

And while we're at it how 'bout we take some ownership over the things in our life, like the fact that we look like Jabba the hut, and stop searching around for other people to blame.

Unbelievable.


Wow, the chicks must just flock to you!

[nate1000]

Don't you think maybe this guy being super critical of her appearance and an asshole could be worsening her weight issues?

What? This is what the man said:

"I’ve tried to hint to her — tactfully; I'm not insensitive — that it bothers me, but she only gets offended. It seems like it’s not my place to say so anymore."

If this = "being super critical of her appearance and an asshole" then I shoulda paid more attention in math.



If man boob fold can be located and screwed, man should not be saying shit about weight.

Agreed.
Don't know the dude- can't offer an opinion.

[Knowledged_one]

Wow, just brilliant. Yeah, he shouldn't be supportive of her, that wouldn't help one bit right? Don't you think maybe this guy being super critical of her appearance and an asshole could be worsening her weight issues? It's her fucking husband, he could help her out a bit.

She should do what I do when Jeff makes ANY type of weight comment. Ask him to lean over, just slightly to one side. Locate man boob fold (stomach fold can also be subbed for man boob fold), then simulate screwing it with finger. If man boob fold can be located and screwed, man should not be saying shit about weight.

Well you do steal the cupcakes :tongue:

[nate1000]

Wow, the chicks must just flock to you!

There is only one chick that I'm concerned about and we flock just fine, thank you.

Seriously, it doesn't make you shake your head a bit that in her response, the "doctor" places practically none of the responsibility on his wife for the state of her own body?

[Dougie Brootal]

That's all muscle Missy!

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:lol::lol::lol::lol::lol:

[angrymissy]

To be fair, Jeff did drop a significant amount of weight :)

[foodcourtdruide]

Did anyone read the article and "Dr. Gail's" response?

"You should have considered from the start whether this is the right spouse for you, keeping in mind that physical attraction does matter."

"You haven't really done your wife any favors. "

"Think how horrible it must feel to be married to someone who doesn’t find you physically attractive"

"I think you should figure out what the real problem in your marriage is "

"Be supportive of your wife rather than critical or distant."

"Don’t sabotage her efforts by stocking the pantry with junk food."

:thumbdown: Yeah, honey. His wife is a fat ass and its all his fault. Typical female response- deflect as much as possible to avoid even acknowledging the issue.

How bout put the f'ing ho-ho down and use a little self restraint?

And while we're at it how 'bout we take some ownership over the things in our life, like the fact that we look like Jabba the hut, and stop searching around for other people to blame.

Unbelievable.

I'm not trying to start a fight with you, but you don't see the comment I bolded as sexist and ignorant?

[Jujubees2]

There is only one chick that I'm concerned about and we flock just fine, thank you.

Seriously, it doesn't make you shake your head a bit that in her response, the "doctor" places practically none of the responsibility on his wife for the state of her own body?

All I'm saying is that there's alot more involved here than just her overeating. And unless those problems are addressed nothing will change.

[nate1000]

I'm not trying to start a fight with you, but you don't see the comment I bolded as sexist and ignorant?

No more so than passive-agressively blaming the husband for his wife's overweight.

Sexist? maybe. Ignorant? I honestly don't think so. I found her response to be typically femine- i.e. "let's examine the underlying issues for your behavior" in the same way that I think my response is typically masculine: "Put the F'ing chicken wing down."

BTW- calling the doctor "honey" was pretty sexist and ignorant, too. :devil2:

[nate1000]

All I'm saying is that there's alot more involved here than just her overeating. And unless those problems are addressed nothing will change.

Don't you think that that particular reasoning enables her behavior by absolving her of the responsibility for it?

Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar and a chicken wing is just a chicken wing. And if you just put the chicken wing down it won't find its way to your thighs.

[Dougie Brootal]

To be fair, Jeff did drop a significant amount of weight :)

but its still a hilarious picture!

[jonyrotn]

I really thought the other men who posted here where funny and for the most part kind hearted, but some of these posts sicken me..
How on earth could you ever REALLY love a woman if you can't even get past something as trivial as her body type? There are so many more imporant things a wife could fuck up than her wieght..
Who would you rather raise your kids, Britney Spears or a heavy Valerie Bertenelli? Who would you rather spend a12 hour plane ride next to, Paris Hilton or Oprah Winfrey?Who whould you rather have beside you in a bar fight Jessica Simpson or Queen Latifa? My personal observations have always lead me to believe that in general, overwieght women tend to treat others, especially their loved ones, exponentially better then the women who are consumed with their own personal presentation..
Although I haven't had a lasting relationship with a fat chick, I would choose them 100% of time over some of the gorgeous cunts I've dated..
I'm 36 now and at my age,the list of things that are more important then wieght is far longer then the list of things that aren't..
Some of you younger guys will grow out of being superficial/ shallow and some of you older guys haven't..But the real shame is...You may miss out on the relationship of a lifetime because you just can't get past her pants size..
Do youself a favor..Treat all women with the same respect and opened mindedness and you may be lucky enough to land a woman who genuinly loves you and puts your interests very high on her list of important shit, no matter what her dessert choices may be...What it costs in food bills will never compare to the devorce expenses.
Sorry for the rant, but any type of descimination really twists my ball bag..

[Jujubees2]

Word jonyrton!

[Jujubees2]

Don't you think that that particular reasoning enables her behavior by absolving her of the responsibility for it?

Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar and a chicken wing is just a chicken wing. And if you just put the chicken wing down it won't find its way to your thighs.

No, I'm saying find out why she can't put that chicken wing down. I mean if someone has a headache for a month, you can take all the aspirin you want but it won't get better. You have to find out what's causing the headache. Just telling her to stop eating so much will do nothing. You must find the root cause of her problems and then have her deal with them.

[nate1000]

No, I'm saying find out why she can't put that chicken wing down. I mean if someone has a headache for a month, you can take all the aspirin you want but it won't get better. You have to find out what's causing the headache. Just telling her to stop eating so much will do nothing. You must find the root cause of her problems and then have her deal with them.

Sorry, I disagree. Therapy will not take a pound off her- a treadmill will.

The Doctor tipped her hand with her closing line: "If you’re turned off by an overweight spouse, the fix is in confronting the emotional issues behind the weight issue." And oh, by the way, here's my card.

[TheMojoPin]

Given that almost all of the male posters on this board are either drastically over or underweight, nobody really is any place to be demanding anything of anyone else's body.

[Dougie Brootal]

Given that almost all of the male posters on this board are either drastically over or underweight, nobody really is any place to be demanding anything of anyone else's body.

not me and lord of iron!

[Team_Ramrod]

cause husbands NEVER let themselves go.

QFMFT!!!!

[Team_Ramrod]

Who would you rather spend a12 hour plane ride next to, Paris Hilton or Oprah Winfrey?


Depends


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[foodcourtdruide]

No more so than passive-agressively blaming the husband for his wife's overweight.

Sexist? maybe. Ignorant? I honestly don't think so. I found her response to be typically femine- i.e. "let's examine the underlying issues for your behavior" in the same way that I think my response is typically masculine: "Put the F'ing chicken wing down."

BTW- calling the doctor "honey" was pretty sexist and ignorant, too. :devil2:

So, in your opinion women think and men do.

[EliSnow]

not me and lord of iron!

I was looking pretty good before I lost 11 lbs. I think I'm looking great now.

And we'll see if the Wii Fit can help me in some ways.

[Mark It Zero]

Being an almost 40 yer old fella and coming up on our ten year wedding anniversary, the issue of keeping our mariage fun and exciting has deifinitely come up a few times for the Mrs and me.

We gained about 5 pounds for each year we were married, a slow indidious weight creep that came from being comfortable. Thank the Goddess that we have a good enough realtionship to come to the same place and say "alright, we need to lose some weight and start banging each other again."

I lost about 45 of the 50 lbs, and am in better shape than I was in college. My wife was doing great until she got knocked up, but now, a year later, she is heading back to weight watchers and is looking mighty fine.

ANY issue in ANY successful relationship can be handled by the way you communicate with each other. If your wife is too heavy for you, talk to her, find out why she is putting on weight, and work with her to take it off, if that is what she wants.

Hopefully she will want to get back into shape. If she doesn't , there might be a bigger problem there. Keep the discussions friendly, light, out of context and PRIVATE, and you will most likely get your way. I say "out of context" to mean bringing up the subject of her weight at a time when she isnt undressing in front of you or could be embrassed. ANY conversation about her weight is going to go badly, lol, but you can have a big impact on how badly.

[Jujubees2]

Sorry, I disagree. Therapy will not take a pound off her- a treadmill will.

The Doctor tipped her hand with her closing line: "If you’re turned off by an overweight spouse, the fix is in confronting the emotional issues behind the weight issue." And oh, by the way, here's my card.

So by your logic, if someone has a cancerous growth, you should just cut it off and move on. Don't worry about treating the underlying problem. Just tough it out.

Yes, a treadmill will take off the pounds but they will come right back.

[nate1000]

So, in your opinion women think and men do.

Something like that. Yes, in general, I think women tend to feel a more compelling need to discuss, examine and reason before acting than men do. Again, in general.

Specifically, in this case, this woman does not need to be encouraged to fully understand the reasons for her over-eating- to sit on yet another couch and whine about her feelings.

She needs to get up and do something about it. And who knows, after she knocks the first ten pounds off, maybe she catches a glimpse of herself in the mirror and notices it. I'd suggest that that'd do a hell of a lot more for her body image than vapidly wallowing around in her misery on some head-shrinker's couch.

[foodcourtdruide]

Something like that. Yes, in general, I think women tend to feel a more compelling need to discuss, examine and reason before acting than men do. Again, in general.

Specifically, in this case, this woman does not need to be encouraged to fully understand the reasons for her over-eating- to sit on yet another couch and whine about her feelings.

She needs to get up and do something about it. And who knows, after she knocks the first ten pounds off, maybe she catches a glimpse of herself in the mirror and notices it. I'd suggest that that'd do a hell of a lot more for her body image than vapidly wallowing around in her misery on some head-shrinker's couch.

Strange. I'm a man and I tend to lean towards what you defined as female traits. I think doing without thinking is idiotic and (since we're in the politics and current events forum) is the reason so many people got behind the Iraqi war. I think important decisions should be made based on analysis, not gut feeling.

I think that is different than the quality you're giving this woman. There's a difference between being analytical and shrugging off responsibility while wallowing in your own self-pity. Both men AND women do that equally.

[nate1000]

So by your logic, if someone has a cancerous growth, you should just cut it off and move on. Don't worry about treating the underlying problem. Just tough it out.

Yes, a treadmill will take off the pounds but they will come right back.

Now that's just stupid. Cancer does not = a ham sandwich.

Your argument presupposes that all overeating is merely symptomatic of other issues, which may or may not be the case. What if this chick just likes food and the problem is that she lacks the self discipline to stop stuffing it into her mouth.

Yeah, I agree, there are probably plenty of people who use food as a coping mechanism for deep seated mental and or emotional problems. But to presume that every overweight person is a nut job? ...well, who's discriminating now?

[nate1000]

Strange. I'm a man and I tend to lean towards what you defined as female traits. I think doing without thinking is idiotic and (since we're in the politics and current events forum) is the reason so many people got behind the Iraqi war. I think important decisions should be made based on analysis, not gut feeling.

I think that is different than the quality you're giving this woman. There's a difference between being analytical and shrugging off responsibility while wallowing in your own self-pity. Both men AND women do that equally.

Dude, getting on a treadmill is not an important decision- you can probably gut that one out. And as for pulling in the Iraq war into this discussion..... well, I just don't know what to do with that one.

[Snacks]

So by your logic, if someone has a cancerous growth, you should just cut it off and move on. Don't worry about treating the underlying problem. Just tough it out.

Yes, a treadmill will take off the pounds but they will come right back.

sometimes there is no underlining problem. sometimes she is simply fat and lazy. watch the biggest loser, most of the times its people being lazy.

[Jujubees2]

Now that's just stupid. Cancer does not = a ham sandwich.

Your argument presupposes that all overeating is merely symptomatic of other issues, which may or may not be the case. What if this chick just likes food and the problem is that she lacks the self discipline to stop stuffing it into her mouth.

Yeah, I agree, there are probably plenty of people who use food as a coping mechanism for deep seated mental and or emotional problems. But to presume that every overweight person is a nut job? ...well, who's discriminating now?


Cancer does not = a ham sandwich

No but cancer is an illness just as obesity can be.

First of all I never said all overweight people are nut jobs (your word). But it's time that mental illness is treated in this country as we do physical illness. Yes, some people eat just because they enjoy eating. But in this case it seems as if there are underlying issues that need to be addressed or she will never be able to lose and keep the weight off. Just telling her to stop stuffing her face and get on a treadmill will do nothing except make you feel superior.

[foodcourtdruide]

Dude, getting on a treadmill is not an important decision- you can probably gut that one out. And as for pulling in the Iraq war into this discussion..... well, I just don't know what to do with that one.

Iraq war was just an example of doing without thinking. You don't think that if the Country (Senate and media included) had analyzed the situation more instead of just jumping to our patriotic conclusions we'd be a bit better off now?

As someone who was morbidly obese, I can tell you changing your lifestyle is a HUGE decision. Getting on a treadmill doesn't make you lose weight. Eating healthier, being more active and making better decisions make you lose weight. You have to change your whole life, and it's an incredibly hard decision to make and a harder decision to execute.

[Snacks]

Cancer does not = a ham sandwich

No but cancer is an illness just as obesity can be.

First of all I never said all overweight people are nut jobs (your word). But it's time that mental illness is treated in this country as we do physical illness. Yes, some people eat just because they enjoy eating. But in this case it seems as if there are underlying issues that need to be addressed or she will never be able to lose and keep the weight off. Just telling her to stop stuffing her face and get on a treadmill will do nothing except make you feel superior.

but the "DR" also said that some women get fat so their husband wouldn't want to sleep with them. that to me is a women not wanting sex no more and she is fucking over her husband. to me that is unacceptable and the husband should be allowed to fuck anyone he wants, including her hot sister as payback!

[Jujubees2]

but the "DR" also said that some women get fat so their husband wouldn't want to sleep with them. that to me is a women not wanting sex no more and she is fucking over her husband. to me that is unacceptable and the husband should be allowed to fuck anyone he wants, including her hot sister as payback!

You are a true gentleman Snacks. The world could use more like you.

[dino_electropolis]

i'm a bit confused....i thought all women were supposed to, and do, get fat after marriage...

OVER - muledose
IT seems like only yesterday....
...u had those dreams in your head...
...of a life you were missin
...since you had not wed.

SO you take your girl
to the best place in town,
and tell her that,
you wanna settle down....

But before desert, she shifts her skirt, she wipes her brow,
and tells you that, she's happy that, she can get fat
You lose your mind......its over...

(Chorus)

Soon thereafter, obsessive phone calls begin
She calls you up, when your with your friends
She calls you up, with ridiculous demands...
Like, she'll call and she'll say

"HONEY....we gotta pick out the wedding invitations"

She'll call and she'll say

"HONEY....should we have a DJ or a Band?"

She'll call and she'll say

"HONEY....we gotta pick out the seatin arrangments"

Sucka.

Your life is over
your wife stands over
defeated shoulders,
demands you hold her,
her screams get bolder,
you dare not scold her,

Its over....

(CHORUS)

SO some time has past
since we left our groom
on his knee, in a well lit room
With this ring, I thee wed
though i would be, better off dead.
Your Fiance
goes from Beyonce
to Aunt Jamimes
in recored time.
From MATRIMONY to ACRIMONY to TESTIMONY to ALIMONY!!!!
Its over.

[nate1000]

But in this case it seems as if there are underlying issues that need to be addressed or she will never be able to lose and keep the weight off.

I think you are reading a lot into the guy's letter. I don't see anything in what that guy wrote that indicates a deep seated underlying problem.

[nate1000]

As someone who was morbidly obese, I can tell you changing your lifestyle is a HUGE decision.

There was nothing in that guys letter that indicated that his wife was morbidly obese. Take a step back and try to view this discussion objectively- no one is bringing up or disparaging your past.

And if you bring up the Iraq War again, I'm gonna slap you with my ham sandwich. JK:laugh:

The original point I was making is that it was silly for this Doctor to fail to ascribe an appropriate amount of responsibility to the wife for transforming herself into Big Momma.

[Snacks]

You are a true gentleman Snacks. The world could use more like you.

sorry, not everything is one sided. if your wife got so fat that you werent attracted to her or she didnt want sex with you what would you do? would you never have sex again? is that ok for your wife to take that away from you and you arent allowed to get it elsewhere?

it happens in a lot of relationships if your not getting something you want eventually you go somewhere else to get it.

[Knowledged_one]

For someone who takes such a moral high ground on "ratting" someone out, your views on relationships and marriage sure are out of whack

[foodcourtdruide]

There was nothing in that guys letter that indicated that his wife was morbidly obese. Take a step back and try to view this discussion objectively- no one is bringing up or disparaging your past.

And if you bring up the Iraq War again, I'm gonna slap you with my ham sandwich. JK:laugh:

The original point I was making is that it was silly for this Doctor to fail to ascribe an appropriate amount of responsibility to the wife for transforming herself into Big Momma.

I'm talking about losing weight. I don't give a fuck what anyone thinks about my past. No one knows me here personally. Why would I care?

I'm talking to you objectively. Objectively it is difficult to lose weight and it goes beyond getting on a treadmill. Many important decisions have to be made.

The original point we were arguing about was that she was putting off losing weight because she was female.

[nate1000]

For someone who takes such a moral high ground on "ratting" someone out, your views on relationships and marriage sure are out of whack

Who?

[Jujubees2]

sorry, not everything is one sided. if your wife got so fat that you werent attracted to her or she didnt want sex with you what would you do? would you never have sex again? is that ok for your wife to take that away from you and you arent allowed to get it elsewhere?

it happens in a lot of relationships if your not getting something you want eventually you go somewhere else to get it.


Let's see where to start. Well first off, when we got married we took these things that are called vows (you know, sickness and health, good times and bad, etc.). Nowhere did it say that if you got too fat or physically unappealing the vows were no longer in effect.

Two, marriage isn't all about sex. 'Nuff ced.

Third, if my wife were to gain weight I would talk to her and see if we could go for some help to find out why she was overeating. I wouldn't immediately say "well you're fat so I'm going to go bang your sister" (who isn't that hot anyway).

[foodcourtdruide]

sorry, not everything is one sided. if your wife got so fat that you werent attracted to her or she didnt want sex with you what would you do? would you never have sex again? is that ok for your wife to take that away from you and you arent allowed to get it elsewhere?

it happens in a lot of relationships if your not getting something you want eventually you go somewhere else to get it.

Here's what I think could happen:

1. If it's a weak relationship, it would just fail.
2. If it was a strong relationship, the person withholding the sex would want the other person to be satisfie dand just let them screw around.

That's my opinion.

[Knowledged_one]

Who?

See post above mine, not you

[foodcourtdruide]

Let's see where to start. Well first off, when we got married we took these things that are called vows (you know, sickness and health, good times and bad, etc.). Nowhere did it say that if you got too fat or physically unappealing the vows were no longer in effect.

Two, marriage isn't all about sex. 'Nuff ced.

Third, if my wife were to gain weight I would talk to her and see if we could go for some help to find out why she was overeating. I wouldn't immediately say "well you're fat so I'm going to go bang your sister" (who isn't that hot anyway).

I agree with everything you said. Sometimes love requires suffering. If the person you love is withholding sex for a long period of time, you will have to suffer if you really have a strong relationship. I think that if that person really loved you, they'd let you screw around though.

[nate1000]

The original point we were arguing about was that she was putting off losing weight because she was female.

Nope- something got lost in translation. I commented that the Doctor's comments were typically female- i.e. lets discuss all about why you are putting on weight, rather than recommending getting on a treadmill. I don't think her failing to do anything about her weight has anything to so with her sex- I just think the Doctor's approach is typically female (and likely more than colored by her profession)

[nate1000]

Well, its quittin time and I gotta fly- good talk everyone. I'm gonna go home and beat my wife. See you all Monday.

[Jujubees2]

Well, its quittin time and I gotta fly- good talk everyone. I'm gonna go home and beat my wife. See you all Monday.

Just be sure to lock the refrigerator when you leave the house.

[Snacks]

For someone who takes such a moral high ground on "ratting" someone out, your views on relationships and marriage sure are out of whack

Fat boy what the fuck does ratting have to do with this? you need to lose some weight before you can even get a girl to talk to you. do me a favor go to the gym, eat a salad and drink a diet pepsi before you talk to me.


Let's see where to start. Well first off, when we got married we took these things that are called vows (you know, sickness and health, good times and bad, etc.). Nowhere did it say that if you got too fat or physically unappealing the vows were no longer in effect.

Two, marriage isn't all about sex. 'Nuff ced.

Third, if my wife were to gain weight I would talk to her and see if we could go for some help to find out why she was overeating. I wouldn't immediately say "well you're fat so I'm going to go bang your sister" (who isn't that hot anyway).

i agree with every point but you didnt answer the my question. what would you do if she didnt want to have sex at all and it continued for a year or so? would you still live up to your vows, does your desires go bye bye because shes doest want sex? see wouldnt be honoring her vows if she wont ever have sex?

sex is a huge part of marriage. its not the only part but it is a very important part.

[Jujubees2]

Fat boy what the fuck does ratting have to do with this? you need to lose some weight before you can even get a girl to talk to you. do me a favor go to the gym, eat a salad and drink a diet pepsi before you talk to me.




i agree with every point but you didnt answer the my question. what would you do if she didnt want to have sex at all and it continued for a year or so? would you still live up to your vows, does your desires go bye bye because shes doest want sex? see wouldnt be honoring her vows if she wont ever have sex?

sex is a huge part of marriage. its not the only part but it is a very important part.

YES, I would stay with her. Again, for good times and bad. I don't rememeber a vow that said if you stop putting out, I'm hitting someone else.

[Mark It Zero]

Let's see where to start. Well first off, when we got married we took these things that are called vows (you know, sickness and health, good times and bad, etc.). Nowhere did it say that if you got too fat or physically unappealing the vows were no longer in effect.

Two, marriage isn't all about sex. 'Nuff ced.

Third, if my wife were to gain weight I would talk to her and see if we could go for some help to find out why she was overeating. I wouldn't immediately say "well you're fat so I'm going to go bang your sister" (who isn't that hot anyway).

For the record, my wife's sister is super hot.

[Zorro]

My best Bud's wife walked into the kitchen one day and said "I don't want to be married to a fat man" Placed her wedding ring on the table and walked out of the room. During their 15 years of marriage he had gained lost gained lost and regained about 120 lbs.

[Snacks]

My best Bud's wife walked into the kitchen one day and said "I don't want to be married to a fat man" Placed her wedding ring on the table and walked out of the room. During their 15 years of marriage he had gained lost gained lost and regained about 120 lbs.

women are just as shallow as men but men hear all the shit about it. when all is said and done looks DO matter but arent everything. when you meet someone you usually ask someone out based on their physical appearance. after dating you realize the person is just looks or has more to offer. but dont kid yourself, looks are the first thing. unless your ugly, ugly people stick together.

[dino_electropolis]

unless your ugly, ugly people stick together.

as well it should be!

[K.C.]

Oddly enough, I once asked my friend's mom who is a divorce attorney the hypothetical of if you could put a fat clause in a pre-nup, therefore if a spouse gains too much weight, you can divorce them guilt free and keep all your shit.


After an awkward pause....and a stare that said 'you may be the worst person ever,' she told me you can pretty much put whatever you want in a pre-nup if both sides agree.

[scottinnj]

What do you do when your best friend and his wife approach a combined 500 pounds together, and their kids are starting to get fat as well?

[nate1000]

What do you do when your best friend and his wife approach a combined 500 pounds together, and their kids are starting to get fat as well?

Point and laugh.

[Knowledged_one]

See if they are like Weebles, wobble them to see if they fall down

[Zorro]

http://i109.photobucket.com/albums/n67/Chas4604/imgad.jpg


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[Furtherman]

What do you do when your best friend and his wife approach a combined 500 pounds together, and their kids are starting to get fat as well?

Hope they never ask to car pool.

[Zorro]

What do you do when your best friend and his wife approach a combined 500 pounds together, and their kids are starting to get fat as well?

Wait for the next elevator