K.C.
05-01-2008, 04:33 PM
I'm kind of on the outs with my girlfriend. From my perspective, she's overcritical, overbearing, too needy, and self-absorbed.
From hers, I'm basically a cocky, overconfident, douchebag who argues too much about everything and is also quite self-absorbed.
...it was quite lovely...
Anyway, we're kind of at the 'separation' point of this where we still talk pretty regularly...we're not quite done with each other and all the way broken up, but it's pretty much there.
Anyway, I'm telling her about my little nephew who's visiting, on the phone today, and she kind of jokingly says he's going to grow up to be a serial killer...so I play along with the joke...and then she kind of takes the joke into uncomfortability by deadpanning 'he has sociopathic tendencies' (Mind you, she's see this kid like twice and knows nothing about how he's been raised.)
So I'm uncomfortable with it, but I brush it off by saying that I don't think he was raised any differently than I was, so I think he'll be fine. And she comes back with something like I'm not sociopathic, but I'm socially awkward, at which point she launches into this whole laundry list of her friends who apparently hate me (which means she apparently has discussed this quite extensively), and for pretty absurd reasons.
And then she basically starts telling me exactly what my life is like, and who I am (or so she thinks).
So I'm sitting there listening to this, and getting pissed...I'm not sure what was pissing me off more...the fact that this broad acts like she has absolute knowledge and authority on every issue (including my life) because of how her friends are (this is the basis of her argument on EVERY FUCKING ISSUE..."My friends...."...it's so fucking asinine), or the fact that this girl went out with me for almost a year and has no goddamn clue or insight into anything about me.
So I called her back a little later and basically told her I don't want to talk to her anymore...she's an inherently negative influence in my life and I just don't want to deal with it. And she responds by defending it as not being negative but observational (keep in mind she equated the fact that her friends don't like me to some kind of social childhood misdevelopment) and we go back and forth, and basically the conversation is left unresolved.
I'm sure there's future conversations coming.
My point, in all this (besides venting) is that at what point am I suppose to just cut this thing off completely. I pride myself on handling things like an adult, and being able to divorce relationship issues from friendship issues and such, but EVERY time I talk to her, she finds something wrong with me to pick at (and 95% of it is bullshit like 'I think too much' or 'I ask too many questions about things.')
I do care about this person still, and there's a bunch of reasons why that is that I can't do justice in this thread (I could have wrote a fucking book on this relationship), but it's to the point where I need to think about myself and cut this thing clean.
From hers, I'm basically a cocky, overconfident, douchebag who argues too much about everything and is also quite self-absorbed.
...it was quite lovely...
Anyway, we're kind of at the 'separation' point of this where we still talk pretty regularly...we're not quite done with each other and all the way broken up, but it's pretty much there.
Anyway, I'm telling her about my little nephew who's visiting, on the phone today, and she kind of jokingly says he's going to grow up to be a serial killer...so I play along with the joke...and then she kind of takes the joke into uncomfortability by deadpanning 'he has sociopathic tendencies' (Mind you, she's see this kid like twice and knows nothing about how he's been raised.)
So I'm uncomfortable with it, but I brush it off by saying that I don't think he was raised any differently than I was, so I think he'll be fine. And she comes back with something like I'm not sociopathic, but I'm socially awkward, at which point she launches into this whole laundry list of her friends who apparently hate me (which means she apparently has discussed this quite extensively), and for pretty absurd reasons.
And then she basically starts telling me exactly what my life is like, and who I am (or so she thinks).
So I'm sitting there listening to this, and getting pissed...I'm not sure what was pissing me off more...the fact that this broad acts like she has absolute knowledge and authority on every issue (including my life) because of how her friends are (this is the basis of her argument on EVERY FUCKING ISSUE..."My friends...."...it's so fucking asinine), or the fact that this girl went out with me for almost a year and has no goddamn clue or insight into anything about me.
So I called her back a little later and basically told her I don't want to talk to her anymore...she's an inherently negative influence in my life and I just don't want to deal with it. And she responds by defending it as not being negative but observational (keep in mind she equated the fact that her friends don't like me to some kind of social childhood misdevelopment) and we go back and forth, and basically the conversation is left unresolved.
I'm sure there's future conversations coming.
My point, in all this (besides venting) is that at what point am I suppose to just cut this thing off completely. I pride myself on handling things like an adult, and being able to divorce relationship issues from friendship issues and such, but EVERY time I talk to her, she finds something wrong with me to pick at (and 95% of it is bullshit like 'I think too much' or 'I ask too many questions about things.')
I do care about this person still, and there's a bunch of reasons why that is that I can't do justice in this thread (I could have wrote a fucking book on this relationship), but it's to the point where I need to think about myself and cut this thing clean.