I miss you mom.....

[spankyfrank]

It occured to me tonight that sunday is mother's day and as it would be my mother passed away last thanksgiving of lung cancer..

So driving home tongiht from work I was listening to Let it Be...Naked and A sudden wave of emotion hit me like a ton of bricks.

Something about let it be always brings out the tears for me.

It really sucks not having her here anymore, especially when I still could use her suport in my own troubles.

Anyway i know this isn't much but it's a little venting time for me...

[Friday]

Dude I am right there with you.

Mom died just after Thanksgiving in 2006. My first Mothers day was not so bad... I think i was so burnt out by then with the estate and everything. But this year it's proving to be a much harder road. Especially with constant reminders by Hallmark.

We were insanely close, and our last mothers day was pretty special, thank god.
But it doesn't make the void smaller.
And from what I hear from experienced friends, nothing will.

Try not to go insane. Think of the good stuff. And cry. It's good for you.

[Grendel_Kahn]

It hit me pretty hard today as well. My mom died Oct 26, and I was the one who found her. More or less I have done ok and been able to deal with it allright, but like you........ all of a sudden........it hit me. I don't want to hijack your thread..... but I feel you man. I really do.


Rob

[Jughead]

It occured to me tonight that sunday is mother's day and as it would be my mother passed away last thanksgiving of lung cancer..

So driving home tongiht from work I was listening to Let it Be...Naked and A sudden wave of emotion hit me like a ton of bricks.

Something about let it be always brings out the tears for me.

It really sucks not having her here anymore, especially when I still could use her suport in my own troubles.

Anyway i know this isn't much but it's a little venting time for me...

My Mommy is doing great at 70..But your post made me really think more about well .........I dont see her near enough I don't want to regret my actions thanks for the post maybe I will change and im sorry about your mommy...:sad:

[keithy_19]

Spank, I'm sorry for your loss and for the pain and loss you're feeling right now. I agree about Let It Be being a song that is able to tug at that part of you that makes you break down.

But, there's a positive message behind that song. While 'letting it be' is easier said than done, just keep on living life. And I know that she'll always be there to listen and provide motivation for you.

Keep your chin up sir.

[Justice4all]

I am sorry for your loss and hope you keep your spirits up.
She is always with you, even if you cannot hear her voice.

[angrymissy]

I hate Mothers Day. I usually spend it shopping.

[Friday]

I hate Mothers Day. I usually spend it shopping.

my best friend and I celebrated our first 'i have no mother day' and went bowling with her dad. it was actually a lot of fun.

but yeah... all the hallmark being shoved down your throat for the weeks leading up to it doesn't help.

[DOHO@HOME]

As time goes on and we all get older it's hard to deal with the death of loved ones.
But when your mother is the one you lose I'm sure it would take alot out of you and any of these type days would bring back all the memories.
My mother is still alive and I can't even begin to think of losing her and how it will effect me.
I still have a real hard time with my older brother passing back in 2001.
Live as today is your last.

[CardiffGiant]

Another one in the club. My Mom died in February very unexpectedly. I'm pretty ok with everything now, my dad is going through phases of being ok and being a complete wreck, I think he's going to talk to a professional about though which sounds like a good idea.

[OGC]

It hit me pretty hard today as well. My mom died Oct 26, and I was the one who found her. More or less I have done ok and been able to deal with it allright, but like you........ all of a sudden........it hit me. I don't want to hijack your thread..... but I feel you man. I really do.
Rob

It is strange. My Dad died on October 25th last year. He had been battling cancer for a while and I pretty much had to make the call to "let him go" when his lungs weakened after an infection. I knew he was pretty much just tired of the fight and he didn't want to be kept alive on machines if it came to that. But it didn't make it easy.

Father's Day was never any more special than any other day for us. Since we both knew the end was coming, we really did spend the last few years as if everyday was his last one. I paid special attention to the little things he did and made note of things we did together so that I would remember them. Those things are a comfort but I still have though times pretty much everyday. I haven't had a really good cry yet. I know that once the tears start, they'll last a while and I will feel better after.

All that being said. I still expect Father's Day to be a tough one this year.

I know it sounds sappy but it really has been the best way to deal for me:

Remember the good times, they are all that really matter.

[Melissa the Accountant]

but yeah... all the hallmark being shoved down your throat for the weeks leading up to it doesn't help.

I am so with you on that. Early this year I finally had the huge falling out with my mother that we'd been constantly on the verge of since I was in high school, and she basically told me she never wanted to speak to me again. I never noticed before how incessant the stupid Mother's Day propaganda from the gift companies is - but it's completely unavoidable. And all of it is basically along the lines of "Because you OWE HER EVERYTHING GODDAMMIT...think of Zales this mother's day". It was weird how I felt halfway relieved at not doing anything with them on Mother's Day, but mostly just shitty to be reminded of how my very first interpersonal relationship is also my most profoundly failed relationship.

[Leticia]

my best friend and I celebrated our first 'i have no mother day' and went bowling with her dad. it was actually a lot of fun.

but yeah... all the hallmark being shoved down your throat for the weeks leading up to it doesn't help.

It's soo true.

My mom passed away in the summer and her birthday is on May 16. So it's her birthday, and then mother's day all at the same time.

It's so stupid. So many commercials all over the place too.

I feel ya and I hope everyone got through mother's day alright.

[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

Spanky,

I lost my mother when I was 10 so I know what you're going through.

I'm not very good at giving advice and I don't have words of wisdom but I will say that there is no "normal" grieving period (I think of my parents everyday) and each year that passes makes holidays a *little* easier to deal with.

I lost my my mom and dad when I was young (10 and 21, respectively) and as time goes on I still miss them but I miss them in a "different" way. I wish I had had the chance to know them as an adult.

Hang in there budday!

Petrina

[SHANEFROMGA]

i know exactly what you guys are saying, my mother pasted away from the big c on
09-07-06. i find myself missing her more each day. i have all this undealt with emotion that like to try to bubble out when i'm watching a movie or listening to a song thats "sad"
i never used to have that problem before.

[reillyluck]

sorry for the late response. but i understand where you're coming from. My mom is still alive, but my grandmother raised me. she will be gone 12 years in June. not a day goes by that i dont think about her and how much i miss her. the pain of the loss has slowly faded, but after all these years i still have the regret of not telling her things i wish i had when she was alive. all i can do now is reflect on the wonderful time i had when she was here and i look forward to seeing her once again....one day.