In Quiet Moments...

[Gvac]

...when you're alone with your thoughts, what do you reflect upon? Do you get introspective and think of ways to improve yourself or your life? Do you think of loved ones who are no longer a part of your life? Do you dwell on regrets or past mistakes? Maybe you think about the troubles in the world and how to attempt to remedy some of them.

I posted this in the "That's Life" forum because sometimes it's cool to share some deep and personal feelings and ideas on this board. It doesn't all have to be penis and fart jokes. I'd appreciate some serious replies.

Thanks.

[jauble]

Well I usually think about the things I hate about myself but am too scared to fix/things that have been fucked up because of that (good job and good luck on the quitting btw) but it usually boils down to can I make someone laugh at it or cry about it because I lack some personable skills so I play the clown a bit. With my younger friends I play makeshift daddy (not in the good/hot way) and I worry about what they are doing.

[Chigworthy]

What jauble said about introspection. Lately, I have been very worried about my relationship with my wife. There is a lot of self-serving pyschological shit that I pull, but I really try not to. On top of that I like to feel sorry for myself. Actually I hate to do it, but I do anyways. Deep down, I know that we will be fine, but it's not a given. We both have to do the right things, and sometimes, it seems like we aren't.

[Friday]

Lately, I try my best not to be alone with my thoughts.

If I do find myself face to face with them... I tend to think of my own mistakes, my mom, and ways to get back to being the whole person I used to be.
Sometimes it's a depressing place. But there is hope there too. Depending on the day.

Right now there are a lot of tears ...to be perfectly honest. Not stemming from any one thing in particular. But life will be better. Because I will make it so. No one else can do that for me.

Did I mention that I miss my therapist? heh...

[Snoogans]

Honestly, i usually think about shit Im never gonna do but would be cool, or just things Id want to do but cant. Thats why I post so much, I cant be just thinkin about my own shit, thats not good for potheads

[King Hippos Bandaid]

What jauble said about introspection. Lately, I have been very worried about my relationship with my wife. There is a lot of self-serving pyschological shit that I pull, but I really try not to. On top of that I like to feel sorry for myself. Actually I hate to do it, but I do anyways. Deep down, I know that we will be fine, but it's not a given. We both have to do the right things, and sometimes, it seems like we aren't.

pretty much what he said

but add fears off losing my cruise gig

[jauble]

Honestly, i usually think about shit Im never gonna do but would be cool, or just things Id want to do but cant. Thats why I post so much, I cant be just thinkin about my own shit, thats not good for potheads

I do post whore a lot in my head (and on the site) when I am lost in thought but the fact that someone responds to me and my stupid threads/posts makes me feel much less alone.

(also I have spoken with jugheads wife on the phone)

[Fallon]

I think about weight constantly and not meeting women.

[AngelAmy]

I think about ways I am going to improve my health and my weight and my appearance because I am not at all happy with the way I am right now.

I think about how free I will be when I finally move out but how terrifying it will be to be totally on my own.

I wonder if I will be able to afford living on my own but I also am looking forward to the challenge.

I think about when Reef and I finally move in together and how wonderful it will be to be able to say "good night" instead of "good bye"

I also worry about some things that are going on with my body and I worry if I will be able to have kids or not and if I will be able to lower my testosterone and just be a normal person.

I think about a lot because I am alone a lot.

[Fallon]

I think about how free I will be when I finally move out but how terrifying it will be to be totally on my own.

I wonder if I will be able to afford living on my own but I also am looking forward to the challenge.

I think about when Reef and I finally move in together and how wonderful it will be to be able to say "good night" instead of "good bye"

I've been on my own for three weeks now and I love that I moved out. I'm really enjoying doing stuff for my self.

[PapaBear]

I've been spending the last 8 years trying not to get lost in my thoughts. It's not working. I need to be somewhere else.

[outlawfrank]

I think a lot about leaving the family business. I love it but sometimes I am afraid I am not the right leader for our companies future.

I think about loneliness, I work seven days a week, and my days start at 530 am. (Need to be at work n less than two hours)

I think about being alone, this makes the rest of my life, no matter how great it is going, miserable.

[LaBoob]

I usually try to constantly distract myself from those moments and am actually finding it difficult to even write about it! I think there are so many things that I think about and worry about that I try very hard to avoid all of those worries or else I think I would be a miserable person. I guess to answer the question, in those alone moments I worry about everything... from not reaching my goals to will I ever truly be happy to what if there was a fire and my dog got trapped in the house? It's probably why I have such a hard time calming down and quieting my mind.

[Bob Impact]

No bullshit, I think about how great my life is. I have a wonderful family, an unbelievable job and a perfect woman to share it all with. I also think about what it took for me to get here, and appreciate myself for that much. The only negative thoughts I have are about how it could be better if I pushed myself harder earlier.

[Jughead]

I think how lucky I have been in my life..I married my high school sweetheart and the only women I have ever been in love with..We started going together in the 7th grade..Broke up only one time between 7th grade and high school graduation for about 2 months...We graduated in 1973 and set beside one another....We married 2 years out of school on my 20th birthday 1975...She stayed with me at home and worked while I traveled on the road in a band for 9 years...The only bad thought i have are thing's I can not change when i was on the road...We divorced on March 3 1980 and remarried on my birthday again in 1981..I left the band to have a family.. My first son was born in 1986 the second 1988....She is still with me and i wish i could support her better...But that is the great thing about her, she works hard and lives a clean life ..And stays with me no matter what...

[DonInNC]

Lately I've found myself looking into the past and trying to connect with memories, trying to do more than just remember things, but to actually live through it again. Not neccessarily good or bad memories, just random, normal things I still carry around. I feel like I start to approach it, but then it becomes real intense and my brain drops out. It's kind of like when you almost see the fish in those 3D pictures, but then you suddenly lose focus.

I also think about people who were once very important in my life, but now I go weeks, months, even years without thinking of them. I wonder who the people are in my everyday life that ten years from now, I'll say "who in the hell is that?" if their name comes up.

I wonder what me from 5 years ago would think if I could live for 30 seconds or so in my life at this very moment. I wonder what my life will be like five years from now.

Then I start thinking about death, at which point I usually find something else to do.

[Boom Boom]

I'm also alone quite often and tend to think a lot about things. Probably too much. I think about where I am in my life at this moment and about the paths that led me here. I think about my mortality a lot and the mortality of those close to me. I try and distract myself with fun things like Ron and Fez for instance, but they usually bring up the very things I'm trying to distract myself from. That's not always bad at all, because Ronnie usually has a way of putting things in perspective for me.

[TeeBone]

Wade-fishing in the grass flats. Its so calm and there is no noise. Usually if I go early enough and catch an incoming tide, its so easy to get lost in your thoughts. It is just the best thing anyone could do for themselves. Even if its not fishing that gets you there, try and find an out of the way place that is devoid of the normal trappings of life and just be. Its sounds a little on the cheesy side but honestly, I could care less if I catch a fish. Its all about the energy of being alone. Its such a great feeling to be in the water/woods and not think about anything 'important.' Isn't that really the most important thing there is?

Great thread...
I'm going fishing in the morning. Thanks, Gvac.

[Gvac]

Wade-fishing in the grass flats. Its so calm and there is no noise. Usually if I go early enough and catch an incoming tide, its so easy to get lost in your thoughts. It is just the best thing anyone could do for themselves. Even if its not fishing that gets you there, try and find an out of the way place that is devoid of the normal trappings of life and just be. Its sounds a little on the cheesy side but honestly, I could care less if I catch a fish. Its all about the energy of being alone. Its such a great feeling to be in the water/woods and not think about anything 'important.' Isn't that really the most important thing there is?

Great thread...
I'm going fishing in the morning. Thanks, Gvac.

Any time, TeeBone, and I couldn't agree more. I've always said that the only time my mind is truly blank is when I'm fishing and if I actually catch anything it's a bonus.

Just being on a peaceful lake and casting and reeling, casting and reeling...it puts you in a hypnotic state and you've never felt more tranquil in your entire life.

[RoseBlood]

I agree, being surrounded by water is one of the few places where you can really clear your mind and just enjoy the moment.. it sounds cliche but it really is the most tranquil and sometimes fun place to be.

[A.J.]

To be honest, I usually have ideas pop into my head -- like things I can do at work, or things I should buy, errands I should run...stuff like that. That why I always keep a pad and pen in my car or next to my bed.

[Dougie Brootal]

i think about guitars, music, how to play a song or make up a cool little riff in my head. i worry about relationship stuff and if i made the right decisions about things. i think about my health and my diabetes. i worry about my drinking and my control over it and my diabetes. i worry. i hope i don't go blind or make them chop my legs off.

[mildly amusing]

i think about the things that have gone wrong in my life and i think about the things i wish i could have changed, but oddly enough i usually end up thinking about how lucky i am....for some reason time spent alone leads me to take stock of all i have, not what i wish i had....

[grlNIN]

I think about my parents, how hot and cold their relationship is, still after their divorce. I think about my brother in rehab trying to get his body and mind to match his heart of gold.I think about my other brother who i have not talked to in over a year and his son whom i've never met and why he wont atone for the things he's done to my other brother and myself. How much i miss him and how desperately i want him to reach out and make the first step for reconciliation.

I don't think about these things every single time i have a quiet moment but today i have and i feel totally heartbroken and shattered.

[Coach]

I go all James Thurber..and imagine myself in other places, doing great and amazing things.
That or compose short stories in my head about the people around me.

[DiabloSammich]

What are these quite moments you speak of?


Seriously, I mostly think about work. Jobs I have coming up, jobs that are underway, who hasn't paid me, am I gonna make payroll, such and such.

If it sounds bad, it's because my only quiet moments are at work, driving between jobs. When I'm home I rarely think about work.

I really wish I was more philospohical, and I used to be. But there's too much going on now.

[TeeBone]

Any time, TeeBone, and I couldn't agree more. I've always said that the only time my mind is truly blank is when I'm fishing and if I actually catch anything it's a bonus.

What a day------Thanks again for the push, Gvac.
I had a great, quiet time on/in the water and managed to get a fat Red.

[Leticia]

I think about so many things.

I think about my mother and how I wished I could have been a better daughter to her before she passed away.

I think about whether I can stop being intimidated by people and start being more myself around them, instead of it only coming out when I'm drunk.

I think about getting a real job, so that Chris can stop supporting me while I finish school.

I think about how stupid it is that I am so bad at school and how it's taken me an annoying amount of time to finish Community fucking college.

I think about whether my dad is going to get better.

I think about whether or not Chris and I will ever be able to afford a house somewhere we actually want to live.\


Ugh, yea. That felt good to write...

[Sue_Bender]

My alcoholism.

[RoseBlood]

I think about getting a real job, so that Chris can stop supporting me while I finish school.

I think about how stupid it is that I am so bad at school and how it's taken me an annoying amount of time to finish Community fucking college.

I know in the real world, where money is actually an issue, this might not be the thing to say but Fuck finishing school on time.. worry about finding a career that you will actually like or even love. Sounds unrealistic but maybe if we all didn't feel this pressure to finish so quickly we'd all actually be able to figure out what it is we want to do for the next oh 30-40 years of our lives.

[sailor]

i mourn the loss of gregory and am thankful for connor. it's a delicate balance. it's been two years and the pain is still fresh. the timing makes this week an emotional roller-coaster. there are no words that will do any good, so i'll just stop.

[Bellyfullasnot]

I often think if working nights and weekends while my family is home is the right idea. We made a complete lifestyle change to keep health benefits and keep my wife in school, but it has taken a toll on the quality time the four of us shared. I don't want to look back ten years from now and say "where did the time go?"

[citymedic27]

...when you're alone with your thoughts, what do you reflect upon? Do you get introspective and think of ways to improve yourself or your life? Do you think of loved ones who are no longer a part of your life? Do you dwell on regrets or past mistakes? Maybe you think about the troubles in the world and how to attempt to remedy some of them.

I posted this in the "That's Life" forum because sometimes it's cool to share some deep and personal feelings and ideas on this board. It doesn't all have to be penis and fart jokes. I'd appreciate some serious replies.

Thanks.

what a great question to ask.

I dont even know if anyone will read this....but here it goes...

When I am alone (which is alot more often these days b/c of my mov to philly) I think of all the mistakes that I have made in life both professionally and personally. I think of the people that I have hurt b/c of poor decisions in my personal life. I hurt alot b/c of it. I know that I will move on and become more mature. Life if full of ups and downs and navagating through them too.

I worry SOOOO much about getting a nasty disease from work and keeping myself safe and sound around sharp needles and body fluids. I think about that alot. I try to quell these thoughts with lots of Ps2 and movies and talking with my friends about life. I never thought that I had a good friends until my buddy called me the other just to see how things were going, and wanted to talk. it wasnt a chic, it was my buddy brian and we chatted for a while about our lives and other stuff. I know that I hide my feelings, thoughts and fears behind "walls"

when I am all alone. I cry.

[Sinestro]

Same here, when I look at old pictures I think about the various relationships I fucked up on. What a fucking jerk I was back in those days. No I'm all alone and getting older. Life just sucks sometimes.:sad:

[ahhdurr]

Being open to the spirit. Completely.

I feel like if I completely naturally relax my body, my mind and soul will follow and all doors will open to me. I've been obsessed with looking for the divine challenge in all situations too. I'd like to reach a state where I'm grateful for "hardships as a pathway to peace" and seeing that obstacles are for me to grow, not to complain. And I'll just sit down and say "ahhh, all doors are open... sweet, I think I'll just sit down now." And then I'd like to just stay there like Siddartha. Or maybe show people through the doors then.

Being open comes first though it seems. Everything else is a layup.

All you can offer another is your own being. No more, no less. - Ram Dass (though I'm sure he lifted that from someone else... not that he'd deny that, I just don't think it's his)

I'm glad this question was asked. I'm fucking obsessed with this.

[ahhdurr]

I've decided that all may be a diversion for how awful the majority of my life's been.

[ahhdurr]

And how if it all falls apart again - I won't be getting back up. There, finally got to the bottom of that one - took about 20 minutes ... fuck.

[MobCounty]

I spend a great deal of my time thinking about choices I made and how it put me on this path. I always try to balance those thoughts by making sure I take some time to enjoy the path while I am still on it...

The first is easier to do than the latter.

I also spend a lot of time trying to improve my craft. Coming to terms with the fact I will not be the best has been the hardest thing to do in life.