Dad wants to hang out with me...

[Coach]

Ok, short version..I moved home temporarily because I lost my job and have had trouble finding a new one in my field..My father, who has had 3 strokes and cancer, wants to spend alot of time with me, which I do not mind. BUT, I keep getting the sense that he is not being totally honest with me about stuff regarding his health...I am a little worried that the cancer has come back and he is terminal and not telling anyone, that or he is getting depressed and plans on eating a bullet (he has a .357 and a .45 loaded next to his bed).
He moved himself out of his room with mom about 5 years ago after his cancer surgery. I chalked it up to his need to be near a bathroom after his surgery, Mom's smoking was off the chart, and Mom would have nagged herself into sucking a bullet herself.
I dunno, but I get a sense of urgency about him wanting to spend time with me so much recently. Honestly, I'm a bit worried what will happen when I eventually leave.

[EDIT]: I am leaving alot out, I know.
I get the sense I am his only friend btw.

[Chigworthy]

The more time you spend with him, the more you will have a handle on what is going on in his head. Not to mention you get to spend time with him too.

[Coach]

The more time you spend with him, the more you will have a handle on what is going on in his head. Not to mention you get to spend time with him too.
I know that..and I appreciate that...we are going to a ball game tomorrow..
The guy comes out with more old fbi/cia info than the history channel..I freaking love it when he yells at the tv and corrects the history channel.
Big hurdle..he wants to parachute again.

[LaBoob]

If you really are his only friend and he doesn't really have anyone to talk to, maybe talking with you will help him figure some things out and put things into perspective?


Also, maybe being honest and open with him will help him be more honest and open with you. I'm not accusing you of lying or hiding things, just saying that you can lead by example and to do that you might have to open up to your father.

Hope everything works out!

[OGC]

About 20 years ago a co-worker of mine lost his father to a heart attack. After the funeral we were talking and he said that he wished he had spent more time with his father.

For some reason I was really hit hard when he said that. I promised myself that I would spend more time with my father. We had always been close but I made a point of doing more things with him and made it happen.

To make a long story short, Dad was diagnosed with colon cancer about 7 years ago, went through several surgeries and more chemotherapy that I want to think about. Through it all he kept active and we continued our activities together.

When he died last fall , of course I was sad, but I didn't have the regrets about missing out on things.

Spend time with him, you will be happy for it later.

[jonyrotn]

Your dad sounds like an awesome dude..If you need a break, I'll hang out with him, I'll even call him call him Coach sr. if he likes..

[topless_mike]

enjoy it while you can...

maybe he has gone terminal and has decided to just ride it out. my g-ma and uncle both had colon cancer and both died the same year and both did the same thing.

[Coach]

enjoy it while you can...

maybe he has gone terminal and has decided to just ride it out. my g-ma and uncle both had colon cancer and both died the same year and both did the same thing.That's exactly what he had and his mom..dad had like 3 feet removed from his colon. His Older brother died of male Breast Cancer.
We had a great time yesterday at the game! (it was hot as fuck though!)
Best line of the day goes to him after we both watched a girl walk past us wearing a really skimpy outfit: "If I were half may age, that girl would not be walking around alone..here's 20, go get 2 beers chug em, get two more, chug them, get two more and bring one to her. I'll see you at the car after the game."