Downhill spiral

[Duke]

So it all started a month or so ago now, when my girlfriend decided to take another kid to the prom, naturally i was very angry she chose the kid over her own boyfriend and then didnt even tell me in till i read it on her web journal. I stayed mad at her, then when i finally did apologized, she turned it back on me, saying our fights our too much and she can't handle this. She said she didn't know what she wanted left me hanging. She also said she was afraid she was going to cheat on me

The next day everything seemed fine and then later that night she seemed to be upset again, i was able to calm her down again, and we decided to hang out the next day.

The next day we hung out and it was extremely awkward, she once again seemed upset and when we got back to my house it remained awkward. Once again by the end I thought everything was fine again.

She then tells me she needs space from me and we shouldn't talk for the next few days and we need some space. Feeling guilty i said alright.

I then find out she starts talking to some of my friends (mind you these arent mutual friends) now being a little worried why she was talking to my own friends and not me started to get me annoyed, just because of the whole " i am afraid i am going to cheat on you" I tell her maybe we should break up and she says "no lets give it another shot"

Things seemed to cool down for the next week or so, in till once again i find her talking to my friends and then just ignoring me, so i ask her "do you really have to talk to my friends all the time?"

she proceeds to get extremely upset. the next day she seems fine again and everything seemed fine in till monday where she tells me she wants to break up. I tell her if thats what she wants go ahead. Of course she ends up saying " i don't know what i want" so now were in a semi relationship.

By this point i am extremely warn down and need some time to clear my head, plus with finals coming up i needed sometime to rest. I tell her i think we should just take a break in till finals are over (we go to different schools)

We don't talk for a week, i did text her once, to say sorry for being too controlling and that was it.

Fast forward to tonight, i read on facebook she went on a date with another kid on saturday and when i read her web journal she talks about "the butterflies in her stomach" when she looked "eye to eye" with this kid

now i spent my weekend with a cold, which didn't help.

So now i sit here, feeling like I was an awful boyfriend and this new kid has swept her off her feet. I feel like ive made every mistake in this relationship. Im not angry at her she went on a date cause I have been talking to other girls. But i still feel like :wallbash:

[Fallon]

Drop her.

"I'm afraid I might cheat". Fuck that. She's no good.

[Duke]

Drop her.

"I'm afraid I might cheat". Fuck that. She's no good.


thats one of my main reasons, she then later said "what i meant was, it happened to me and I just don't want it happening to you"

it still didn't make me feel that much better

[TheGameHHH]

boy, i wish i had a girlfriend that went on dates with other guys and told me she might cheat on me. come on man, you need to read the writing on the wall here. i know you're young and all, but this chick is taking you for a ride.

[Sue_Bender]

When someone says that they need to take a break, it's bad news. She wants to see other people...or IS seeing another guy. She may just be keeping you around in case this other thing doesn't work out.

Don't let her manipulate you. Find another girl. A RonFez.net girl.

[Duke]

When someone says that they need to take a break, it's bad news. She wants to see other people...or IS seeing another guy. She may just be keeping you around in case this other thing doesn't work out.

Don't let her manipulate you. Find another girl. A RonFez.net girl.



Well i told her we should take a break, but i agree with the second part

[jauble]

Duke sorry to hear about that, relationships are shit sometimes. Where you are I would ask you do you really want to still be with this chick? If you really do let her know, otherwise hook up with her friend/mom and then go study. Godspeed I know these things blow.

[LaBoob]

Clearly you need to let this relationship go. Be the strong one and just tell her its over. It's not healthy to go back and forth like that... and have a little self respect! Any girl who isn't 100% sure she wants to be with you is not worth your time.

[RAAMONE]

you need a new girl and new friends...if my girl was treating me like that, my friends wouldnt even even speak to her...even if they did like her

edit: and dont try to make things right and apologize for something when she is clearly in the wrong...that just makes you look weak, which shows that you dont have any confidence...which girls really hate

[topless_mike]

no offense, but sounds like she's done with you.

just cut ties. dont even break it off, just no more text / email / calls.

[JPMNICK]

get rid of her and find a new chick. she is not ready to be as serious as you are.

and a quick tip, the quickest way to lose a good girl is being jealous and controlling. I know sometimes it is the 1st and easiest reaction, but take a second and think about your words and actions and try to come of as rational and level headed. even if inside you are not feeling that way, try to project that to the girl

[KC2OSO]

Agree with all of the above. I don't dole out advice much but... Seeing as it's finals time you don't need this shithe anyway. Let her go and find a new girl(s). Cool thing is, now you can date a bunch of chicks all at once.

Hang with your friends and enjoy the summer. There are chicks all over the place. Nice ones....with big tits. Go get 'em! Seriously, don't let this chick dick around with you and above all, don't read her myspace and don't apologize. It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong.

[SatCam]

She is in high school she doesnt know what she wants. Once she has a boyfriend, other guys starts noticing her and she wants to try out new ppl...... especially if you two had been going out for a while.

Time to move on.................... im sure you know that already:smoke:

[dino_electropolis]

So it all started a month or so ago now, when my girlfriend decided to take another kid to the prom, naturally i was very angry she chose the kid over her own boyfriend and then didnt even tell me in till i read it on her web journal. I stayed mad at her, then when i finally did apologized, she turned it back on me, saying our fights our too much and she can't handle this. She said she didn't know what she wanted left me hanging. She also said she was afraid she was going to cheat on me

The next day everything seemed fine and then later that night she seemed to be upset again, i was able to calm her down again, and we decided to hang out the next day.

The next day we hung out and it was extremely awkward, she once again seemed upset and when we got back to my house it remained awkward. Once again by the end I thought everything was fine again.

She then tells me she needs space from me and we shouldn't talk for the next few days and we need some space. Feeling guilty i said alright.

I then find out she starts talking to some of my friends (mind you these arent mutual friends) now being a little worried why she was talking to my own friends and not me started to get me annoyed, just because of the whole " i am afraid i am going to cheat on you" I tell her maybe we should break up and she says "no lets give it another shot"

Things seemed to cool down for the next week or so, in till once again i find her talking to my friends and then just ignoring me, so i ask her "do you really have to talk to my friends all the time?"

she proceeds to get extremely upset. the next day she seems fine again and everything seemed fine in till monday where she tells me she wants to break up. I tell her if thats what she wants go ahead. Of course she ends up saying " i don't know what i want" so now were in a semi relationship.

By this point i am extremely warn down and need some time to clear my head, plus with finals coming up i needed sometime to rest. I tell her i think we should just take a break in till finals are over (we go to different schools)

We don't talk for a week, i did text her once, to say sorry for being too controlling and that was it.

Fast forward to tonight, i read on facebook she went on a date with another kid on saturday and when i read her web journal she talks about "the butterflies in her stomach" when she looked "eye to eye" with this kid

now i spent my weekend with a cold, which didn't help.

So now i sit here, feeling like I was an awful boyfriend and this new kid has swept her off her feet. I feel like ive made every mistake in this relationship. Im not angry at her she went on a date cause I have been talking to other girls. But i still feel like :wallbash:

Brotha, truth be told, i couldnt read your whole post....but i think i get the gist of it....from what you said (re Prom), i take it your a high school student.....and so my advice to you is this:

Get over the pig....you have tons and tons of ass comin your way (perhaps the best reason to go to college)

[Dougie Brootal]

Drop her.

"I'm afraid I might cheat". Fuck that. She's no good.

QFT. get rid of her, "I'm afraid I might cheat" is girl talk for "I'm actively looking to cheat." trust me. good luck and i hope you feel better soon budday.

[Sinestro]

Give her the space that she needs. And if she calls you and shit, just string her along for awhile then dump her ass..........after you tap it.

[Team_Ramrod]

Fuck it! You have finals rolling up on you soon, you're young and you don't really need to deal with shit. Just toss her aside, go through the regular shit that comes with a break up and clear your head for your finals.

Stop playing the break - breakup - together game and let her go.

And stop reading her web journals... cut all ties you have to this chick. That shit will make you go crazy, bro.

[Contra]

Sorry you are going through a shitty time buddy, but as the quote says....

"It's over Jonny"

[jonyrotn]

When someone says that they need to take a break, it's bad news. She wants to see other people...or IS seeing another guy. She may just be keeping you around in case this other thing doesn't work out.

Don't let her manipulate you. Find another girl. A RonFez.net girl.To late, Sheepy's got them all..

[Duke]

well, i broke up with her


i told her she was not the right type of girl for me, and i was sick of her never knowing what she wants.


she told me I was right, and I could do better then her

[Dougie Brootal]

well, i broke up with her


i told her she was not the right type of girl for me, and i was sick of her never knowing what she wants.


she told me I was right, and I could do better then her

case closed. soooooo your single now, right? what are you doin this weekend?:wub:

[Furtherman]

case closed. soooooo your single now, right? what are you doin this weekend?:wub:

Hahahahaha Doug you nut.

[Furtherman]

To late, Sheepy's got them all..

Seriously, Sheepy. Time to break up the harem.

[JPMNICK]

well, i broke up with her


i told her she was not the right type of girl for me, and i was sick of her never knowing what she wants.


she told me I was right, and I could do better then her

good for you. enjoy being single for a while until something better comes along

[MadMatt]

"Hey, Lane, I know this is a little strange with me being a cartoon and all, but I was wondering how you'd feel if I took out Beth? "

:laugh:

Seriously, I echo the sentiment that it is time to move on - and good for you for breaking it off. Your ex obviously was having issues with the relationship and was looking to move on or cheat, so there is no reason to keep it going.

And I'm not saying you can't eventually be friends again, but I would break all contract for the time being. Besides, it is almost summer (maybe it is already - I'm a damn working stiff), and there is nothing like "summer lovin'"

Good times...

[SatCam]

she told me I was right, and I could do better then her

I hate that shit. Never talk to this girl again. :furious::furious::furious:

You know you could do better than her, you dont need her to tell you that

[jonyrotn]

This is starting to sound a lot like a John Hughes movie, are you bangin' Molly Ringwald? :ohmy:
Okay, one question..Does the carpet match the drapes? That question has been wieghing on my mind since like "84..

[Duke]

This is starting to sound a lot like a John Hughes movie, are you bangin' Molly Ringwald? :ohmy:
Okay, one question..Does the carpet match the drapes? That question has been wieghing on my mind since like "84..


well she was a red head

and no :wink:

[Melrapuo]

Wow...is everyone breaking up with their gf's at once? lol

[Duke]

So shes already going after a new kid.

I almost feel like i was worth nothing to her. I still have a problem of reading her blogs, she talks about how she likes to pursue guys, not them pursuing her


I hope the kid ends up being a real asshole :annoyed:

[Phil_Nubbs]

Stop reading her blogs. Find a worthy lady!
We all get caught up in the girl-folk. Drop it and replace it.
Be prepared to do it all over again.

[jauble]

Duke sorry to hear about the shit but that all that it is "shit". It blows but dont read her blog, dont check her myspace/facebook (I still do that one a bit) and just focus on duke things.

[Yerdaddy]

So shes already going after a new kid.

I almost feel like i was worth nothing to her. I still have a problem of reading her blogs, she talks about how she likes to pursue guys, not them pursuing her


I hope the kid ends up being a real asshole :annoyed:

She's a player. Chicks get to be those too nowadays so get used to it. She wanted a boyfriend as back-up for in-between her other hook-ups. She didn't start looking around or taking you for granted because of anything you did. She did those things because she wanted both a boyfriend and to play around. Be flattered that she chose you to be a boyfriend for a while, but know that she's not interested in being anyone's faithful girlfriend right now. Unless you want to share her with other Dudes, get over her and move on. Go look for some good rebound sex, but wear two rubbers if you live in New York.

[Duke]

She's a player. Chicks get to be those too nowadays so get used to it. She wanted a boyfriend as back-up for in-between her other hook-ups. She didn't start looking around or taking you for granted because of anything you did. She did those things because she wanted both a boyfriend and to play around. Be flattered that she chose you to be a boyfriend for a while, but know that she's not interested in being anyone's faithful girlfriend right now. Unless you want to share her with other Dudes, get over her and move on. Go look for some good rebound sex, but wear two rubbers if you live in New York.


That makes a lot of sense, and your right. The good part is, human nature is that you want what you can't have. I know ive never wanted a girl that has liked me first or has "perused me" So most likely this kid will probably end up not liking her back. When this happens I am going to laugh in her face. :devil2:

[Sinestro]

That makes a lot of sense, and your right. The good part is, human nature is that you want what you can't have. I know ive never wanted a girl that has liked me first or has "perused me" So most likely this kid will probably end up not liking her back. When this happens I am going to laugh in her face. :devil2:

Why even give a fuck what happens between them.

[Duke]

Why even give a fuck what happens between them.


i guess i just want to see her fail, she put me through so much bullshit.

[El Mudo]

i guess i just want to see her fail, she put me through so much bullshit.

Youre better off just completely cutting off all ties...get rid of any links you have (myspace, facebook etc) because as someone said, that will drive you insane

Just forget about her bro....drive on

[keithy_19]

Duke, as a self proclaimed expert on teenage love found, lost, and rendered pointless, I have a few words.

First, I'm sorry for the bullshit. No matter what the age, rejection hurts. The fact she found someone else also makes it hurt more. I was in the same boat as you, kind of.

I know it's hard not to look at what they're doing with all of the means to see, but do your best not too. It'll be hard, but I'm sure you can do it.

You can do better. And you will. You're young and she sucks. Go find someone who knows what she wants. But don't expect it right away.




Wow I feel like a hypocrit...

[commish13]

I wish I was still 16.

Your problems seem like a day at the park.

And I haven't read enough of this thread to know more than the first post and that you broke up with her, but that should be the end. Stop keeping tabs on her.

[Enabler]

well she was a red head


Next time you see her just point and laugh and chant "diiiiff-rent, diiiiff-rent, diiiiff-rent"
And I def would stop checking her blogs or e-journals or whatever. I still carry a flame for my college ex, and whenever I even glance at her myspace/facebook picture it feels like a kick in the balls

[Kris10]

Do you think maybe she is posting these blogs hoping you'll read them and be jealous? She sounds childish posting about her life like that to everyone. I have blogs on my myspace but they are set to private so no one can read them, I type to vent my own frustration out. She's being a brat. I know its easier said than done but you need to move on, she's apparently moved on. :dry: