Bye Bye Little Sister

[Midkiff]

A few years ago my younger sister started getting weird headaches. The doctors gave her full check-ups and all kinds of scans, and apparently found nothing. It got to a point where the doctors would just basically laugh at her when she would show up.

When she started getting spells during which she would lose physical control of her limbs, leaving her temporarily unable to walk, they finally started taking her seriously. She ended up being diagnosed with some rare form of MS. She had occasional spells like that, and then she started experiencing days in which she would lose mental capacity. Anyway, to make a long story short, the last few months she was basically bed-ridden, with almost no mental capacity, unable to walk, blind beyond a foot from her face, in and out of consciousness. She spent the last month or so in hospice as her organs slowly shut down and she lost her ability to eat solid food.

She went out a little after midnight this morning. She was 29, and left behind her husband, 9 year old daughter, and 4 year old son. I have known for a while that this was coming, so it's not really a surprise, but I still feel sort of shocked. Every family member that has passed before has been more distant, and elderly. I've never lost somebody so close as a sibling. I'm not sure it's truly hit me yet, as I can't really figure out what I am feeling at this point.

[Furtherman]

I can't imagine. I'm really sorry to hear this Midkiff. Stay strong and remember her spirit.

[A.J.]

That's awful. I'm very sorry for your loss.

[TheMojoPin]

That's really shocking and heartbreaking news, Midkiff. I hope your family and hers can be together as much as possible right now to remember her and share in the love that she no doubt had for all of you.

[weekapaugjz]

im very sorry to hear about your loss, midkiff. make sure you are there for your niece, nephew, and brother in law. they are going to need a lot of support through these tough times. it's always terrible to hear about children who lose a parent.

[Fezticle98]

Sorry, buddy.

[patsopinion]

Holey shit

i cant even pretend to know what your feeling






She went out a little after midnight this morning. She was 29, and left behind her husband, 9 year old daughter, and 4 year old son. I have known for a while that this was coming, so it's not really a surprise, but I still feel sort of shocked. Every family member that has passed before has been more distant, and elderly. I've never lost somebody so close as a sibling. I'm not sure it's truly hit me yet, as I can't really figure out what I am feeling at this point.

I dont think your quite there either

i have no idea what to say...

[Boom Boom]

I'm really sorry to hear that. My condolences to you and your family.

[DolaMight]

That's so sad dude. It was really hard to read. My condolences.

[EliSnow]

Sorry to hear about your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

[drjoek]

Very sorry for you loss

[Fallon]

Sorry man.

[midwestjeff]

Sorry bro.
Best wishes for you and your family.

[topless_mike]

ugh
sorry to hear, dood.
cant even imagine what you are going through.
just, if anything, stay strong for your neice/neph.

[mendyweiss]

Very Sorry To Hear About Your Sister

[JPMNICK]

i am so sorry for your loss.

[silks]

My sincerest condolences to you and to your family.

[Kevin]

Very sorry for your loss bro. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

[Jujubees2]

Man, I'm so sorry. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

[Tall_James]

I'm so sorry for your loss. My prayers go out to your family.

[ravn816]

My condolences to you and your family.

[JustJon]

Wow. That's a pretty harsh story. Almost tragic how the doctors just laughed it off at first. Sorry for your loss.

[spadanko]

very sorry for your loss. you and your family will be in my prayers. my sincerest condolences

[Badinia]

29 years old...my God, I'm so sorry. I hope that having this board to talk out to helps in some small way. I can't imagine what you must be feeling. You have my most sincere condolences.

[ChrisBrown]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. My brother a couple of years ago from a brain tumor and it was horrible. Losing an adult sibling is rough and it took me years to get over it. Actually, I'm not really over it now. Losing him was rough on everyone but I thought I would bounce back from his death faster than my parents, his wife, and his kids. I was wrong. Dealing with his death has been tough for all family and his friends.

Take care, man, I really feel for you. About a week after he died, my wife convinced me to go out to dinner with a friend of hers. I was miserable and it showed. I told my wife's friend that my brother died and she started to tear up. Her brother died when she was a teenager. She said that she still misses him even though he died decades earlier. She said that she still feels the grief. In some odd way, I found that comforting.

I know that there is nothing that anyone can say to really make it better but know that there are a lot of us out there who have lost adult siblings and understand what you are feeling.

[WhistlePig]

I'm so sorry, man. I can't even imagine what you must be feeling. Your post made me choke up. :down: My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

[nate1000]

Jesus, that's fucking brutal. I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you can find some comfort in your memories and the company of your family.

[jauble]

Godspeed

[Sarge]

I can't imagine that, or how to deal with it. I'm sorry for your loss.

[nevnut]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Stay strong and my thoughts and prayers are with you.

[smiler grogan]

I'm sorry for your loss.

[JerseyRich]

I'm really sorry. MS is a horrible disease.

All my thoughts you and your fam and hers.

[Chip196]

I'm so so sorry for your loss. No one should have to feel the pain that you are feeling right now.

[Friday]

i'm so sorry... :sad:

[PapaBear]

So sad. I'm very sorry for you and your family. Best wishes, budday.

[FUNKMAN]

so it's not really a surprise, but I still feel sort of shocked. Every family member that has passed before has been more distant, and elderly. I've never lost somebody so close as a sibling

Sorry for your loss!

one thing I learned with my Mom that even though you know eventually everyone, "even your parents will pass away" the day it happened i found out that I never convinced myself it would/could happen, and thought she would live forever

[Ritalin]

Sad sad news. Sorry for your loss.

[Hottub]

Damn, Bro. That's a tough one.
Condolences from the entire Tub Clan.

Stay strong.
Remember, we got your back.

[AngelAmy]

so sorry to hear, thats such an awful thing to lose anyone so young....i couldnt imagine what it would be like to lose a sibling like that.

[Crippler]

Terribly sorry for your loss...what a horrible situation you've been through. Condolences to you & your family.

[ADF]

That's terrible. My sincerest condolences.

[Drunky McBetidont]

horrible loss, brother. hang in there.

[keithy_19]

First, let me say that I am so sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

MS, even after all the advances, is a tough disease to diagnose. It masks itself as so many other things. It took two debilitating 'episodes' till I was diagnosed.

Still though, no doctor should ever dismiss someones claims. It takes courage to go to see what's wrong, and it takes courage to know when it's time. I am positive she was an incredibly courageous person. Take solace in knowing that she is in a better place an is finally free of any pain.

I don't want to sound like an ad, but if you can donate money to the National Multiple Scleroris Society it would be great help. We are so close to finding a cure for this devestating disease. Such strides have been made in the past 15 years. It is only ten or so away from being a non existant thing.

[StupidGirlllll]

Sorry for your lose, my thoughts go out to you & you family, especially your mom. Me being a mother I can not even imagine how tough it would be to watch my child go thru something like that. Losing my father last yr I learned that although you still miss them everyday it does not get better with time you just learn how to deal with your lose.

[MojoTeddybear]

Sorry to hear of your loss. Stay strong.

[Gvac]

My deepest condolences to you and your family, Midkiff. Cherish the memories you have of your sister, and I hope that helps you deal with all of this in some small way.

[LaBoob]

I am so sorry for your loss.

[sr71blackbird]

Oh man, I am really sorry for your loss. As you were describing her symptoms and the doctors reactions to her complaints, I started thinking about my friends sister who also has MS and its a shame that more doctors cant seem to spot the symptoms earlier. They reacted the same way as your sisters doctors did too. God bless and peace, at least shes not suffering if its any consolation.

[El Mudo]

Sorry for your loss my friend...you and your family will be in my prayers.

[Midkiff]

Thanks to everybody for your kind words and support. It's nice to know people care.

I suppose it's good that she's done suffering. It was pretty bad for a while.

Thanks again.

[KingGeno]

I am very sorry for your loss. It's most important to always let her children know how great of a person she was, and to take care of them. I wish your and yours the best.

[boobieman]

Sorry for your loss. No matter what anyone says the hurt will still be there. It will last a while. I lost my Big Bro In December of last year. It felt like it did not hit me until like March. It still bothers me and I break down every once in a while. Luckily my brother did not have any kids, which with your sister makes it 10 times worse. Just be their for the kids and support your entire family the best you can, but also make sure you support yourself. Birthdays, anniversary's, Christmas, the day she passed are going to be the worst. Only advice I can give really is don't try to stop the pain or look for a way to make it go away, just except it and make it a part of your life. Once you do that you will live a little better.

My Bro was 46 i'm 37 it is scary as hell, but I look at life a little different now and try to enjoy every second of it.

Best to you and your family.

SEE YAYA

MISS YOU JOHN

[Dude!]

so sorry man
life is so unfair
like others said, step up for the kids...they will need you

[Chigworthy]

Hang in there buddy, and I hope her immediate family is ok.