Biological Clock: Myth?

[Skellington]

Is the want for a 2nd dog seriously a precusor for next wanting children? Is there even a biological clock?

I don't like kids. I have no interest in kids. I'd love to have 5 dogs, but the thought of one kid mildly disgusts me. Seriously, does the big 3-0 mean secretly stopping your birthcontrol and humping like a bunny to reproduce? I hate women that lie and pull the kid card to corner a guy, I seriously have no interest in raising a kid (my friends have cute kids, i don't mind them, i toss them in the pool and bring birthday presents...), but what is this biological clock that people are threatening me with? is it real? or is just a product of the 'nuclear family' age, which is dying off now with the invention of the Career Woman?

My Mister is seriously convinced that my desire to add to our furry family is a precusor to wanting crotch droplings.

All, please discuss. Need feedback before I rip out my ovaries to prevent mental clockie retardedness.:blink:

[Furtherman]

crotch droplings.

This is now my new favorite term and most likely band name.

You're only 30... you've got plenty o'time. From the women I've known who didn't care about kids when they were 30... it's the 35-40 range in which they'll settle for a man who could be a good dad.

[PD]

People are having kids older and older, so its no biggie till you get about 40 - and even then its possible.

Having said that, by now you probably know if you want kids ever.
just get the other dog and be happy.

[Skellington]

This is now my new favorite term and most likely band name.

You're only 30... you've got plenty o'time. From the women I've known who didn't care about kids when they were 30... it's the 35-40 range in which they'll settle for a man who could be a good dad.


Yeah, I still don't see it happening. 35, 40, 45, nope. I just never heard that the want to have another dog as a hidden meaning of wanting to create mini-me's.

Oh, and crotch droplings came off this board at some point. It stuck rather well with me and even offended a few people i've come across as being derogatory. Derogatory after I was referred to as a good lil' whop that cooked for my mate, by the same offended person......

[Freakshow]

I think it may be the opposite of what your fella thinks. I think the dog thing works with one--sometimes it's a dry run. But I know people that get one dog, and then they start with the kids. If you're want to get a second it becomes "I like dogs more than most people."

But I could be way off...

[drjoek]

I think you may need to get beyond calling them crotch dropplings before your'e ready for kids.


:clap:crotch droplings:clap:

[Badinia]

On the one hand, I have never had a drive to reproduce. When I do a special dance, I think I can hear my last dry egg rattling around in there.

On the other hand, I am glad as hell we have Dino-Baby on the front page!

[earthbrown]

had my first 6 months ago at 27, wish I had started sooner, by the time we have 2 or 3 I will be in my 30's and then 50's by the time they are grown up.

K

[midwestjeff]

I had an ex that lost her shit when our dog got ran over (I was smoking a j at the time, imagine the blame placed on me) and then she almost immediately replaced it with another. I thought she was doing the kid-replacement thing with the dogs. Shortly after that she ruined good concert-trip-hotel-sex by saying "let's make a baby" right in the middle of it. Less than a year after we broke up she had a kid with some meth-head that quickly left her and the baby. But, she got what she wanted. So yes, in my experience, chics replace the baby desire with dogs.

On a side note, I still have the second dog and he rules. Way better than a stupid baby.
Seriously, he's 6 now and only has to go out like once or twice a day. Let's see a fucking kid with bladder and bowel control like that. :flush:

[topless_mike]

its perfectly ok to not want kids. my wife and i didnt want kids when we first got married. we wanted to be free and travel and do whatever.

then one day it hit us and we decided we wanted. best decision we ever made.

sure its hard, and its a lifetime commitment (somewhat), but to be honest, looking back now, i cant imagine not having my son.

i guess the "clock" they are referring to is the womans body's ability to bear children. lots of people are having kids at a later age these days, which i think is awesome. only thing i worked with somebody who had a child at a later age and regretted it terribly that she waited so long to do so.

but, not everybody wants or has to be a parent. i think that is perfectly ok, too.

[FUNKMAN]

personal choice... but I believe i can say with certainty that if you ever had a child you can never imagine life without them... plus you seem like a cool, caring person

my eldest brother Gorgeous George was in his early 40's, single, never married, almost had a nervous breakdown the one time he was engaged - LOL

well anyway he gets a woman in her 40's pregnant. i think both their biological clocks were ticking because they got married but he sleeps in a seperate bedroom. he's a great dad and she's a great mom but he doesn't love her

[smiler grogan]

Who knows about the bio-clock thing. One thing I applaud you for is knowing you do not want kids and not having any. i know some women that were hesitant about kids but had one for whatever reason and are a little resentful.

[nukinfuts]

had my first 6 months ago at 27, wish I had started sooner, by the time we have 2 or 3 I will be in my 30's and then 50's by the time they are grown up.

K

I started way way too early, my son is 17..my daughter is 13 and I am 34. Now everyone my age is having babies and all I can think is that they will be in their 50's (or some even pushing 60) when their kids graduate high school. My biological clock says that in 5 years I will be almost 40 and both of my kids will be in college so why the hell would I want another screaming poop machine...I totally plan on living my irresponsible 20's when I am 40, it will probably be better anyway because I will have more $$$ to do it with.

I love my children...but I think it's perfectly alright for a woman to not want to have a child..I hate it when people are snotty about that as if it's our job to pop out the "crotch droplings"

Biological clock...I think it's going the way of the appendix...we don't have such a need any more to reproduce to keep our species alive...we have the 300 billion people in China to do that for us :wink:

[Mike Teacher]

You're right, you should not reproduce.

[Ritalin]

I don't think you even have to think about kids right now. It's only 30. If you don't want them, don't have them, but you don't have to decide right now. You have a good 10 years if you ever decide that you do.

[SatCam]

My mom waited until she was 30 before she had any kids...... but she didnt stop til she was 43

[watson]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chronobiology explains it all

[LaBoob]

You wanting a second dog looks to me like you're a nurturer... I am too. Some people nurture dogs (right here), some people nurture babies... some people nurture plants (zzzz - bring a book!). For now, I'm happy treating my dog like she's my child... but then again, I'm not married.


If you are meant to have kids, you'll be ready when you're ready. Meanwhile you have my permission to punch the next friend/relative/coworker who uses the phrase "biological clock" right in the vagina.

[Skellington]

My point of the post is, I don't get how wanting a 2nd dog can be taken as a precusor for wanting children, esp. knowing how I feel about children.

[Badinia]

My point of the post is, I don't get how wanting a 2nd dog can be taken as a precusor for wanting children, esp. knowing how I feel about children.


Oh man. If I could get pregnant and have puppies, I would so do it.

[Thebazile78]

My point of the post is, I don't get how wanting a 2nd dog can be taken as a precusor for wanting children, esp. knowing how I feel about children.

I understand perfectly where you're coming from ... despite the fact that I actually do want children myself.

Firstly, in response to your original post, no, wanting a 2nd dog is in NO WAY a veiled hint that you desire children. Sometimes, a dog is just a dog!

Secondly, although there IS a "biological clock" when it comes to your reproductive life, there's nothing that says that every woman who hits a certain age instantly wants to have a baby ... or that she will regret not having a baby when she had the chance.

I think many of our relatives and friends aren't really prepared for the consequences of raising bright, independent and self-sufficient daughters who see their lives as their own, with many more choices than our mothers and grandmothers had, and those questions are less a reflection on you (and how you "should" feel) and more a reflection on them and how THEY feel.

Whenever I get hints from my parents (and, fortunately, they are few and far between) about whether or not I'll be announcing a bundle of joy any time soon, I take it as more of a "when do I get to spoil my grandbabies?" thing than it is a "what's wrong with you and your marriage that you're not expecting?" thing.

BTW, I'm 30 too. I don't feel my biological clock "ticking" although I am concerned about the extra tests I will have to face, in light of some family history on my mom's side.

[jonyrotn]

People are having kids older and older
QFT..I was 12 when I was born..

[Skellington]

Oh man. If I could get pregnant and have puppies, I would so do it.

Puppies make everything better.

[topless_mike]

QFT..I was 12 when I was born..

best post of the thread.

[cougarjake13]

its all mental

[Freakshow]

Not quite puppies, but I love this picture.

http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3047/2585992776_8700793a7e_o.jpg

My dog is on the left, my current foster is in the middle, and my former foster is on the right. It's a bit of family reunion, and possibly the only time this will happen (assuming I continue to foster). Teriyaki, the one in the middle, isn't 3 yet, she almost is a puppy. :)

[Thebazile78]

Not quite puppies, but I love this picture.

http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3047/2585992776_8700793a7e_o.jpg

My dog is on the left, my current foster is in the middle, and my former foster is on the right. It's a bit of family reunion, and possibly the only time this will happen (assuming I continue to foster). Teriyaki, the one in the middle, isn't 3 yet, she almost is a puppy. :)

You rescue greyhounds?

Neat. How did you get into it?

[JPMNICK]

You rescue greyhounds?

Neat. How did you get into it?

he lost a lot of money at the track and they just started to give them to him

[Freakshow]

I was looking to get a dog and I was watching the dog show about 2 years ago. I was always fascinated by greyhounds growing up, and I went to the computer the next day and the first thing that popped up in a search was greyhound adoption. A couple of months later I adopted Zuni (the grey on the left) from a local adoption group. Slowly i've been volunteering more and more, first helping pick up dogs at the haul. A couple of months ago we got an email from the group looking for more foster homes so I decided to give it a try.

[Darkstar77]

I think some of it is societal pressure to have babies. But, if the thought is disguting to have a child, then...perhaps...children aren't for you.
30 is certainly not too old, and yes women are having children later and later. I'm 27 and getting to that point where I may want to have kids soon. There is something appealing about the kids being out of the house by the time you're 50.
From my experience with my mother...she was 43 when she had me and is now 70. Growing up, there was such a generation gap between us and she hardly understood what is was like to be a teenager in the 90s. She was a teenager in the 50s.
Aside from that, there are certainly an increasing amount of risks in having children the older you get. Past the age of 35, the risks go up significantly. In the medical community, you are basically a 'senior' in the sense of child bearing age. When my mom had me at 43 the both of us almost died. I won't go into the gory details of it. Had she had me 20 years earlier, that might not have happened. Her previous 2 children had no problems during birth whatsoever. Also, the risk of genetic and/or congentical disorders gets higher after 35. Basically women are born with all the eggs we will ever have. 35...40...45 year old eggs aren't quite so perfect. Many women in this age range will see problems with their children from a developmental or anatomical point of view. These are things to think about.