friend or girlfriend reaction to disagreement

[gmat]

I work with women and we go out about once a week. We decided that we will be just friends because we work together (and that is the only reason). There is an obvious attraction between us and there have been a few times when we shared intimate moments that could have lead to something more, but one or both of us have pulled back.
Anyway, last week we had a miscommunication, that lead to us being upset with one another, so we avoided each other and did not talk for the entire week, which made us both miserable.
A couple of my co-workers noticed that she was especially upset, not acting like herself and coming in looking as she just rolled out of bed, hair a mess with ratty clothes. She left early and came in late on a couple of days also.
I would like for us to be more than just friends and from her reaction last week I think she might also, which is something I suspected from the beginning, but go figure she sends mixed signals.
So my question is would a disagreement with a friend normally affect a woman like that? Or is this a good indication that she might want more?
BTW I know I need to talk to her if I want the true answer, but I just want some people’s opinion before I broach the subject.

In case anybody was wondering, we talked about our disagreement and are fine now.

[Foster]

I work with women and we go out about once a week. We decided that we will be just friends because we work together (and that is the only reason). There is an obvious attraction between us and there have been a few times when we shared intimate moments that could have lead to something more, but one or both of us have pulled back.
Anyway, last week we had a miscommunication, that lead to us being upset with one another, so we avoided each other and did not talk for the entire week, which made us both miserable.
A couple of my co-workers noticed that she was especially upset, not acting like herself and coming in looking as she just rolled out of bed, hair a mess with ratty clothes. She left early and came in late on a couple of days also.
I would like for us to be more than just friends and from her reaction last week I think she might also, which is something I suspected from the beginning, but go figure she sends mixed signals.
So my question is would a disagreement with a friend normally affect a woman like that? Or is this a good indication that she might want more?
BTW I know I need to talk to her if I want the true answer, but I just want some people’s opinion before I broach the subject.

In case anybody was wondering, we talked about our disagreement and are fine now.

but what is she wearing, and how does her hair look?

[IamPixie]

girlfriend reaction. Stop over analyzing and make a move.

[King Hippos Bandaid]

girlfriend reaction. Stop over analyzing and make a move.


agreed, you are mentally fucking, might was well psychically

[reillyluck]

depends. what was the miscommunication about?

[Sinestro]

He started singing to her:













Oh Baby YOU.....


You got what I need.....

You say I'm just a Friend

You say I'm just a Friend....





Oh Baby You......

[Sinestro]

How do you know she's not seeing anybody else those other 6 days you don't go out with her?

[JPMNICK]

imagine what happens when you break up. that means the whole office will know. she wears her emotions on her sleeve which is not a good thing. do not make the move.

[Sinestro]

depends. what was the miscommunication about?


He left the toilet seat up and she fell into the bowl.:flush:






Seriously dude, your giving us bits and pieces, what was the miscommunication about like Reilly said.

[Sinestro]

In case anybody was wondering, we talked about our disagreement and are fine now.



So you're in the "Friend" zone now?:drunk:



Or going to try and feel it out?:smile::wub:

[gmat]

depends. what was the miscommunication about?

Nothing really, I was waiting for her to call me to hang out and I sent her a text which she didn’t respond to because she thought I was being combative. It actually sounds like we are already dating, except I am not getting any sex, WTF am I waiting for

[Sinestro]

Nothing really, I was waiting for her to call me to hang out and I sent her a text which she didn’t respond to because she thought I was being combative. It actually sounds like we are already dating, except I am not getting any sex, WTF am I waiting for

Have you got at least some tongue or coped a feel?

[reillyluck]

Nothing really, I was waiting for her to call me to hang out and I sent her a text which she didn’t respond to because she thought I was being combative. It actually sounds like we are already dating, except I am not getting any sex, WTF am I waiting for

then it sounds like you guys think more of each other than "just a friend". if there is tension over not responding to a text, i think you guys should really talk about what is expected.

i kinda agree with JPMNICK about her acting emotional in the office, though. i guess my next question to you is how long have you been working together? if youre going to date someone that you work with, you better know that it can and/or will get ugly if it doesnt work out.

think long and hard before you make that move. seriously.

[smiler grogan]

make a move, you guys are already an item without any pleasure.

OUR STAR BLAZERS!!!!!!!!!

great avatar my man.:clap:

[gmat]

I know things at work can be difficult if it doesn't work out, which is why we are still just friends. The people that saw her reaction BTW are the two people that know we are frineds outside of work. No one else knows,not becuase we are hiding it, but we don't discuss our personal lives in detail with other people.

[FUNKMAN]

especially upset, not acting like herself and coming in looking as she just rolled out of bed, hair a mess with ratty clothes. She left early and came in late on a couple of days also

not a good sign, seems like deeper emotional/psychological issues going on... not that you shouldn't venture into a relationship with her. treat her well if you do!

[jonyrotn]

So you're in the "Friend zone" now?

If you reside here, you're fucked! Go get your batch towel and hunker down, it's gonna be a long summer..

[Sinestro]

she didn’t respond to because she thought I was being combative.

Being combative about what? That she wants to be your friend or that you want her to be much more than that.



Do you guys share the same office or work in the same room? Like others said, it can be uncomfortable if stuff comes to work. I remember my ex and I were in morning meeting with our other co-workers and we had an argument the day before (not at work) and I kinda snapped at her ("Oh she knows everything..") and she snapped at me back ("What was that......") and you could see the how uncomfortable or shocked our co-workers were with what transpired.

[gmat]

I can’t really explain but she got the impression that I was insinuating she was blowing me off. I was being sarcastic and it didn’t translate well in a text. It was just a misunderstanding that’s it.
We don’t work in the same physical office, she used to sit in one of my offices, which is how I met her but she has her own now that is on a different floor. I also have another office in one of our other buildings which I used to spend more time in until I met her. I am lucky enough that I can essentially choose where I work. So I have the ability to avoid her completely, if I want. Last week I worked in that building she’s in and we saw each other only a handful of times.

[Sinestro]

We don’t work in the same physical office, she used to sit in one of my offices, which is how I met her but she has her own now that is on a different floor. I also have another office in one of our other buildings which I used to spend more time in until I met her. I am lucky enough that I can essentially choose where I work. So I have the ability to avoid her completely, if I want. Last week I worked in that building she’s in and we saw each other only a handful of times.



I'm only going to say this once. Take a chance on love. Better to know than not know. Even though you "work" together, you don't really "work" together. Even though many a people say don't shit where you work or something like that, people do hook up with people that they work with. You could be that one. Good hunting.:thumbup:

[gmat]

How do you know she's not seeing anybody else those other 6 days you don't go out with her?

She told me she is not and I belive her. Which is irrelevant, because I am not asking if I should make a move, as I said in my original post the only way I will know for sure is to talk to her about it.
I just wanted to know if her reaction was normal for just a friend.

[jonyrotn]

Nothing really, I was waiting for her to call me to hang out and I sent her a text which she didn’t respond to because she thought I was being combative. It actually sounds like we are already dating, except I am not getting any sex, WTF am I waiting for
EDIT: If she said the same thing to you would you have thought she was being combative?

[reillyluck]

"thats life the forum".

serious posts only, guys. :bye:

[jonyrotn]

"thats life the forum".

serious posts only, guys. :bye:Fixed it! Sorry, I never know which forum I'm in..I need a GPS or some shit..

[Sinestro]

We decided that we will be just friends because we work together (and that is the only reason). There is an obvious attraction between us and there have been a few times when we shared intimate moments that could have lead to something more, but one or both of us have pulled back.



You're reading the pros and cons list all wrong. That one thing (the job part) doesn't outweigh all the positives (there are positives right?) if you have a relationship with her. I'll say it a second time, give love a chance. She could be the one.:wub:


What is exactly an intimate moment for you guys? Going out to dinner, holding hands, givng her a back rub, ordering lunch? I'm just saying we're only reading your view point on this thing.

[Doctor Z]

Tap that shit.

[gmat]

EDIT: If she said the same thing to you would you have thought she was being combative?


Yes I do see why she took it the way she did, as I said we worked it out and are good now.

[Melissa the Accountant]

I think that especially since you are not working in the same area, you should go for it. Just think, if you do hit off on a terrific relationship together, that has the potential to last far longer than either of your jobs anyway. Besides, a lot of the best relationships started out as friendships to begin with - you know you have common ground and can spend time together even if intimacy and romance weren't part of the equation. I don't think you should pass that up if you have any choice in the matter. Best of luck!

[gmat]

You're reading the pros and cons list all wrong. That one thing (the job part) doesn't outweigh all the positives (there are positives right?) if you have a relationship with her. I'll say it a second time, give love a chance. She could be the one.:wub:



What is exactly an intimate moment for you guys? Going out to dinner, holding hands, givng her a back rub, ordering lunch? I'm just saying we're only reading your view point on this thing.

There are many positives, you are correct I know I will take a chance. If it never happens I can live with that, however, I respect her a lot and do not want to ruin the friendship for the sake of jumping into bed with her.

Holding hands, touching each other, starring deeply into each others eyes. Really innocent 13 year shit that usually leads to sex.

[Ritalin]

imagine what happens when you break up. that means the whole office will know. she wears her emotions on her sleeve which is not a good thing. do not make the move.

This is great advice.....that will be ignored.

It's hard being smarter.

[Furtherman]

I don't know why anyone would want to mix their personal and work life. Just the fact that you're worried about an argument when she isn't even your girlfriend is a clear enough sign that this will effect your job. I think in order to stay happy you have to keep that stuff separate.

Besides, there are a billion other women out there who don't work with you. You'd be better off with one of them.

[topless_mike]

go for it.

[ralphbxny]

Like its already been said...becarful!! Make sure this is what you need or want. If not the break up will be really shitty especially working together. I have been through it and it sucks seeing that person everyday and having to put up with them!

Follow your heart but do it with your eyes open!