Is this cheating and should I feel guilty?

[idolmind86]

So over the past few years I've gotten pretty close to a friend's chick. In fact I'd say I'm better friends with her now. We've got similar tastes in movies, literature and enjoy going out on the town together while her guy sits at home and does nothing, so we mesh pretty well.

Well, not too long ago she comes over to my place to watch some movies and we start drinking. Before you know it we've drank WAY too much and are both pretty darn drunk. I don't want her to drive home so she crashes at my place. I was going to take the couch but she said that we're both adults and should just sleep in the bed together. So, we sleep in the bed together, kind of close actually but I resist the urge and nothing else happens.

Now, it's a few days later and I feel really guilty for some reason and don't know how to face my friend. I know nothing serious happened but something probably could have if I tried.

What should I do. Did I do something wrong? I feel like if I were my friend, I'd shoot me.

[Dougie Brootal]

drop you r friend and take his chick. sounds like everyone would be better off.

[RhinoinMN]

Your friend may be a cuckold. Pursue it.

[Furtherman]

I don't think you're much of a friend to the guy. Who hangs out like that with another guy's girlfriend?

If you have feelings for her, tell her.

[RhinoinMN]

I don't think you're much of a friend to the guy. Who hangs out like that with another guy's girlfriend?

If you have feelings for her, tell her.

Rick Ocasek?

[Fallon]

Don't see anything wrong with that. You didn't take advantage of situation.

[idolmind86]

As much as I would like to pursue I don't want to do that to my friend. I was just more concerned if

1) I should feel guilty
2) I should formulate a good lie/keep it a secret we slept in the same bed
3) Buy a bullet proof vest

[Midkiff]

drop you r friend and take his chick. sounds like everyone would be better off.

QFT FTW!

[RAAMONE]

what kind of guy lets his girl hang out with you alone, watch movies together, sleep in bed

no way i would let my girl do all that with a guy...even if they were just friends...

[Furtherman]

As much as I would like to pursue I don't want to do that to my friend.

Well then don't hang out with his chick.

There's a billion other ones out there.

[SPeeDy_Freak]

I think you already answered your quesiton in your initial post.

your quote "As much as I would like to pursue I don't want to do that to my friend." is somewhat insincere since you already have gone pretty far.

[Chigworthy]

Some believe that the act of sleeping next to someone increases the chemical processes that accompany an intimate relationship. Basically, even if you don't fuck, your bodies start chemically adjusting to each other, and can lead to attraction. So, if you don't want cheat with your buddy's chick, stop sleeping next to her. And why bother sleeping next to a chick if you can't at least grab a handful of tit?

[topless_mike]

fuck that
hit that shit up raw.

[TheGameHHH]

if your buddy actually cared about his girl, he would want to be spending time with her rather than sitting on his ass while she goes out and does stuff. i say you take the bitch, stuff her like a thanksgiving turkey and call it a night with the whole situation.

[idolmind86]

I think you already answered your quesiton in your initial post.

your quote "As much as I would like to pursue I don't want to do that to my friend." is somewhat insincere since you already have gone pretty far.

Ugh. Yeah, I can see that I guess. Although up until recently I thought it was pretty harmless. The problem is we're like best friends. Can a guy not have a girl as a best friend (and vice versa)?

[RAAMONE]

Ugh. Yeah, I can see that I guess. Although up until recently I thought it was pretty harmless. The problem is we're like best friends. Can a guy not have a girl as a best friend (and vice versa)?

unless your gay...no

i mean look at your situation...your fighting yourself because you want to hook up with her so bad

[Jujubees2]

Ugh. Yeah, I can see that I guess. Although up until recently I thought it was pretty harmless. The problem is we're like best friends. Can a guy not have a girl as a best friend (and vice versa)?

No, the sex thing always gets in the way.

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[mdr55]

What should I do. Did I do something wrong? .

Yeah, you didn't do anything. What do you want her to do, spell it out?:wallbash:

[duderino]

Yes. How would you feel if the situation was reversed?

[Dougie Brootal]

seriously, it sounds like shes into you, i think you should just start ignoring your buddys calls and hook up with this chick. but be warned, i give you this advice because i am incapable of forming lasting friendships.

[idolmind86]

Yes. How would you feel if the situation was reversed?

That's why I started freaking out. I know if my chick was out gallivanting around with some guy I'd lose my mind. If I found out she spent the night with him and slept in his bed I'd probably want to kick his ass.

[LaBoob]

You should talk to her and see if she feels weird about it... if she shrugs it off as nothing at all, then you know she's not interested in taking things forward, if she is interested maybe she'll tell you. Having a conversation like that might help you read the situation better.

[commish13]

You obviously want to bang her. If you didn't, you would have done what anybody else would have done, and let her take the bed while you slept on the couch.

It seems like she may have wanted it too, though, but didn't want to be the one to really initiate it. Maybe she invited you to sleep in the bed hoping you would take the hint.

[Leticia]

You should talk to her and see if she feels weird about it... if she shrugs it off as nothing at all, then you know she's not interested in taking things forward, if she is interested maybe she'll tell you. Having a conversation like that might help you read the situation better.

True. It's amazing how many people take that for granted.

You obviously want to bang her. If you didn't, you would have done what anybody else would have done, and let her take the bed while you slept on the couch.

It seems like she may have wanted it too, though, but didn't want to be the one to really initiate it. Maybe she invited you to sleep in the bed hoping you would take the hint.


Also true, I think.

Any one of my guy friends that I've known at least 11 years would have slept on the couch and given me the bed.

Although when I was younger there were friends that had all night parties and I'd end up sleeping on a bed with 2 other passed out people.

That's not the same thing tho.

[commish13]

Exactly. If you had absolutely no intentions of being with her, you would have by no means agreed to sleep in the same bed. Although really, if you had no intentions of being with her, you REALLY wouldn't be alone in your apartment getting fucked up drunk with her.

I assume that you don't have a chick. In that case, maybe you and this girl are better for each other than her and her dude. If you won't feel bad about losing him as a friend, then have a talk with her and find out how the both of you really feel. If you don't want to lose that dude as a friend, then you're going to have to lose her as a friend, because eventually something WILL happen if you continue on this path.

There seem to be three possible outcomes:

1) You get with her and both of you cut ties with him
2) She stays with him and you severely limit your relationship with her
3) You keep up doing what you're doing now, and you may end up losing them both

[idolmind86]

By the way, I found out this past week that yeah, this might as well be cheating, if not the first step.

[Furtherman]

By the way, I found out this past week that yeah, this might as well be cheating, if not the first step.

We told you so.

[Dougie Brootal]

By the way, I found out this past week that yeah, this might as well be cheating, if not the first step.

what happened? do you still have all your teeth?

[KingGeno]

Tap that ass. Apparently it seems that this chick isn't too into her boring ass guy friend, specially if he is so boring that he lets his gal go out all the time with other guys, and lets her sleep over other guys places. Why not just ask her about what her deal is with him? Just be blunt, and if she says "Ya know.......I don't really like him, but I dig you"...then have pre-marital sex with her.

[~Katja~]

As much as I would like to pursue I don't want to do that to my friend. I was just more concerned if

1) I should feel guilty
2) I should formulate a good lie/keep it a secret we slept in the same bed
3) Buy a bullet proof vest

without reading the rest I can tell you that no matter what anybody will write here you already feel guilty.
Because subconciously this may be the chick you are meant to be with. You have feelings for her, even if just friendly... but the thought of what if has definitely crossed your mind.

I tell you this, I have slept in the same bed with people I had no interest in romantically and I did not feel one bit guilty for it afterward.
And I am very sensitive to cheating in general, so trust me, if you worry about it after then there is more involved.

How long and well do you know your friend? How long has he been with this chick?
If she is not happy with their relationship and seeks other companionship then the relationship can't be all that great to begin with.

[commish13]

By the way, I found out this past week that yeah, this might as well be cheating, if not the first step.

YOU'RE KIDDING!

[idolmind86]

How long and well do you know your friend? How long has he been with this chick?
If she is not happy with their relationship and seeks other companionship then the relationship can't be all that great to begin with.

I've probably known him five years or so. They've been dating that long but I've only recently become really good friends with the girl in the last year or two.

Anyway, they split so I feel slightly better about the situation (less guilty I mean).

[pittphantoms]

Home wrecker!

Just kidding... I hope things work out for you and the chick now... want to bet you dont talk to the guy any more?

[ahhdurr]

You're wondering if this is cheating? Or being a scumbag friend?

It's being a scumbag friend. I'd post her nude photoshoot, dump her and allow you the opportunity to go out drinking with me one night if I found out.

[cougarjake13]

So over the past few years I've gotten pretty close to a friend's chick. In fact I'd say I'm better friends with her now. We've got similar tastes in movies, literature and enjoy going out on the town together while her guy sits at home and does nothing, so we mesh pretty well.

Well, not too long ago she comes over to my place to watch some movies and we start drinking. Before you know it we've drank WAY too much and are both pretty darn drunk. I don't want her to drive home so she crashes at my place. I was going to take the couch but she said that we're both adults and should just sleep in the bed together. So, we sleep in the bed together, kind of close actually but I resist the urge and nothing else happens.

Now, it's a few days later and I feel really guilty for some reason and don't know how to face my friend. I know nothing serious happened but something probably could have if I tried.

What should I do. Did I do something wrong? I feel like if I were my friend, I'd shoot me.


well nothing happened but it might be a lil too close for comfort

since nothing happened i'd say nothing cause the friend will prob never believe it

[MobCounty]

Best thing I ever did was take my friends chick. You can always find new friends...

Since you are already jerking to her... right?

[keithy_19]

This reminds me of High Fidelity where Rob has an 'affair' with his friends gf. It's so much fun until they start dating. Then they break up shortly after, she gets back with her ex, and Rob's lonely.

Hope that's not what happens...

[Leticia]

I have a friend who has a habit of being in a relationship, but having really close guy friend. 65 percent of the time, she develops an intense friendship and falls in love with the other guy.

It doesn't usually work out for her tho, cause she just ends up cheating on her boyfriend. Don't be that guy, man.

[Foster]

I don't want to be an ass, but if you spent all this time with this girl, even got drunk together and slept in the same bed with nothing happening, then chances are nothing never will happen.