When's the appropriate time to kill off your online life?

[K.C.]

The irony of asking this on a message board is not lost on me, and here, of all places.


Nevertheless...

A week or so ago, I decided to delete my Facebook account.

I did this for a few reasons.

First, I got to looking at some of the people on there, and realized that now that I'm out of college, I probably won't see most of those people ever again. It felt kind of hollow to cling on to it.

Second, it made me a little uncomfortable that people I didn't really know that well to begin with had access to constant updates on my life, and literally could keep tabs on me. I'm not sure I want that.

Now, I was pretty private with mine, relatively speaking. Except for a few of the .Netters here, who I friended, I knew pretty much everyone I had on my account which was probably about 60-70 people.

There's people I know with like 500-600, even more, 'friends' on theirs. They can't possibly know all those people, yet they give the most intimate details of their lives, post the most intimate pictures, for any and all to see.

This chick I used to date would post very personal pictures from her childhood and I'd say to her 'why would would put that up there for any deadbeat off the street to be able to peer into that private aspect of your life?'

And she'd respond 'they're my friends.'

And I'd respond 'you have 768 friends?'

And she with total assertion would say 'yes.'


Now, I understand there's an attention aspect of it, which is why I understand the phenomenon of myspace and Facebook in an overall sense.

But I just think that once you kind of get to the point where you're out of your teens and college years, and transitioning to real life, people should kind of be past to point of taking pictures of themselves passed out on a couch next to a pyramid of Pabst Blue Ribbon cans.

I'm not saying people should totally give up on online networking or anything like that. But at some point, shouldn't you kill off the 'I'm posting drunk pics to 800 of my closest friends' gimmick?

I'm just saying people should be a little more thoughtful about how they put themselves out there and exactly WHO they're putting themselves out to.


...does this make me crazy, or at least a Blowhard Jr. or sorts?

[KingGeno]

Doesn't make you crazy in the slightest. I am considering killing my myspace account. I hate having my name out there, there are people from grade school that are on my friends list that I can care less about, and a few stalker gals.

Actually, think I'm gonna do it now.

[Dougie Brootal]

i was thinking about blowing up ronfez.net so know one could trace my online gimmick to me, but i havent decided on it yet.

[K.C.]

i was thinking about blowing up ronfez.net so know one could trace my online gimmick to me, but i havent decided on it yet.

Shhhh!!

El Presidente may institute martial law.

Or as he calls it, 'Freedom Security.'

[Sue_Bender]

You live forever in cyberspace.





Don't compromise.

[DolaMight]

everyone around here is trying kill themselves. Buy yourself some cotton candy. You will feel better.

[K.C.]

You live forever in cyberspace.


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[BoondockSaint]

Am I weird for never having a MySpace page and never even been to facebook?

[Sue_Bender]

Am I weird for never having a MySpace page and never even been to facebook?

Nyes?

[mikeyboy]

Am I weird for never having a MySpace page and never even been to facebook?

I'm in the same boat.

[PanterA]

When you need to develope a character in order to be the douche you are, on a message board... That's when I think you need to hang it up and maybe focus inward on what your problems might be.

Not that there are people like that... I'm just sayin...

[Sue_Bender]

When you need to develope a character in order to be the douche you are, on a message board... That's when I think you need to hang it up and maybe focus inward on what your problems might be.

Not that there are people like that... I'm just sayin...



I couldn't agree more, "Pantera".

[ibanez23]

Am I weird for never having a MySpace page and never even been to facebook?What is facebook?As far as myspace I have logged on a couple of times to hear a song or something and it just crashes my browser.
I can't concieve how people can call someone a friend if they never met them.

[K.C.]

What is facebook?As far as myspace I have logged on a couple of times to hear a song or something and it just crashes my browser.
I can't concieve how people can call someone a friend if they never met them.

Facebook started out as a network for college kids and alumni. You used to have to have a University e-mail address to signup.

Then I think they opened it up to anyone over 18 a couple years ago.

Then they finally opened it up to anyone, period, over the last year and a half or so.

It's basically myspace, but with less clutter, and annoying shit.

[jonyrotn]

I had a my space account for 12 hours..
I put it up at like 9:00 at night the next day I when I logged in to it there was a message that said.."Hi Kris,I love the pic..My name is Karan, my mother Kari thinks she dated you in highschool..Is it you?".. :ohmy:

Yes it was me..That's why I deleted that shit immediately and never went back to that crazy "help you find the guy(s) mommy thinks might be my daddy site"..

[Furtherman]

I've never had one of those accounts either because I'm an adult.

[TeeBone]

I plan on killing off my online life by the end of the year.
Its enough already.

[reillyluck]

i started with myspace with my personal friends, then when i joined the board i added people to my myspace page. then people started requesting me left and right. people would put jokes from O&A, R&F that my personal life was confused over. I had little cousins and my nieces for that matter on my page and cum and cunt jokes really shouldnt be there for them to see. so i created a new page for my "online" friends and slowly started getting rid of everyone on my "personal" page. some may think cuz i had two pages i was hiding stuff, but honestly i was. I was hiding bullshit that i'd rather not have my family see.

I eventually just kept my personal page for people to send me messages, but ultimately got rid of the Online friends page cuz it got too weird. some people still request me on my old page, but i choose not to accept them, because before you know it, one person will get mad that their not my myspace friends, then you get the "im not on your top list" uggh....so sick of it.

:wallbash:

[reillyluck]

I had a my space account for 12 hours..
I put it up at like 9:00 at night the next day I when I logged in to it there was a message that said.."Hi Kris,I love the pic..My name is Karan, my mother Kari thinks she dated you in highschool..Is it you?".. :ohmy:

Yes it was me..That's why I deleted that shit immediately and never went back to that crazy "help you find the guy(s) mommy thinks might be my daddy site"..

so you abandoned your bastard child?? awesome!!!!


:clap:

[Fallon]

I just deleted my facebook and myspace pages.

Haven't used them in ages.

[K.C.]

Another thing that bothered me about it, is that in your 20s-30s is probably when you first start to notice some of the kids you went to grade school or high school with are dead now.

There were a couple incidents of people I went to high school with who died some time during college, that had friended me on Facebook, that just had empty Facebook pages sitting there like eeire memorials.

The concept of the MyDeathSpace thing always used to REALLY bother me.

I guess when it showed up a couple times on my doorstep, that was another indicator that it was time to push off.

[Hottub]

I could die tomorrow. My contributions here will be part of my legacy.

Myspace, not so much.

[K.C.]

I could die tomorrow. My contributions here will be part of my legacy.


Fixed it.

[TheGameHHH]

I actually just started building a Facebook page the other day, and I'm 26. I choose what goes up on my page, so its not like i put anything too crazy up there. I don't think there's an appropriate time to kill off your online life. you're the one that's ultimately in control of it, so do what you want.

[SouthSideJohnny]

I say you cutoff facebook / my space two years after you finish college.

MySpace could be the worst site on the internet! Half the pages I've been to are so poorly designed that you can't read anything. Even worse, seeing grown men write "Thanks for the add" makes me cringe every time.

Each day, I'm feeling more like the Blowhard!

[Sue_Bender]

I actually just started building a Facebook page the other day, and I'm 26. I choose what goes up on my page, so its not like i put anything too crazy up there. I don't think there's an appropriate time to kill off your online life. you're the one that's ultimately in control of it, so do what you want.


I'm control of my "online life"...





My real life is more complicated.

[K.C.]

I actually just started building a Facebook page the other day, and I'm 26. I choose what goes up on my page, so its not like i put anything too crazy up there. I don't think there's an appropriate time to kill off your online life. you're the one that's ultimately in control of it, so do what you want.

That's fair enough.

And I'm not saying people shouldn't do it anymore, or anything like that. I'm just wondering at what point, if any, it's appropriate for people to stop certain aspects of it. The way Reilly pointed it out seems like a pretty smart way of doing it.


What I'm getting at is that if you're a chick, or a guy, in your late 30s/early 40s with a couple kids who are at the age where they start using myspace, should you be putting up pictures of yourself getting smashed, or half naked for your 600 friends, 500 of which you've never met, and another 50 of which you've barely talked to?


(Note: Damn, I sound so fucking old, I'm starting to despise myself).


There's a lot of people like that, though.

Maybe it's just me, but it just seems weird.

[Sinestro]

What ever happened to Friendster? Is it still around?

[jonyrotn]

so you abandoned your bastard child?? awesome!!!!


:clap:Aaaa-Oooo, easy.. I gave her the $500..I even offered to take her there..
I should have given her a fuckin' cashier's check and followed up on the issue.
I may be bad but i'm NOT a dad...

[Hottub]

75 bucks and a ride to the Free Clinic. Doesn't sound free to me.

[DiabloSammich]

i was thinking about blowing ronfez.net , but i havent decided on it yet.



Quit hemming and hawing and get over here, sexy lips!

[AngelAmy]

I have family, friends, and online friends (from here, o&a sites, and grey's anatomy sites.) on both myspace and facebook and on both of those I am who I am. I don't hide anything from anyone. I don't accept friend requests from people I don't know or that dont seem to have anything in common from me...I also look for common friends. I don't make my profile private though I could. I dont have it that you need to know my last name or my email address to even friend request me but I could.

If you want to keep a myspace page to keep in touch with friends and family there are ways to keep the rest of the world out if you want to do so.

You control what you write and you control what pictures you put on there and what others put on their sites I really don't care about.

I don't take it seriously but I use the pages as an outlet when I need it and whoever pays attention pays attention and who ever doesn't doesnt.

I do like having somewhere to go to just be myself and to show others who I am. I probably never will "kill" my online life because it has been such a big part of who I am and who I have become.....plus I am a social retard anywhere else.

[Thebazile78]

What ever happened to Friendster? Is it still around?

Yes, Friendster is still around.

They're trying really hard to be MySpace and Facebook.

[sr71blackbird]

I do not even know how to get into my Myspace account anymore.

[KingGeno]

I just deleted my Myspace account. Takes 48 hours to process. I don't see a need for it really. Another pain in the ass way of contact to check. Plus....the people I actually really care about I see all the time, or talk to in other ways. I can't remember the last time I spoke with someone outside of my myspace friends on myspace.

But if ya like it, ya like it.

[Stankfoot]

I can't concieve how people can call someone a friend if they never met them.

http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a350/stankfoot/friends.jpg

ahem ......

[nukinfuts]

Am I weird for never having a MySpace page and never even been to facebook?

Nope, I don't see the sense in either of those at this point in my life. I honestly think that it's more for the high school and college kids. I really don't see the point other than maybe keeping in touch with friends that you may not see but these people have my e-mail address so if they really really want to get ahold of me they can call me or e-mail me. If I had one I would never maintain it and I would not want to put personal info up there so what's the point? I like the message boards because it's not personal unless you want it to be and it's sharing among people with a common interest.