out of sight / out of mind????

[Dirtybird11]

my friend has a girlfriend.
but he cant get his ex girlfriend out of his head, and it's causing problems in the new relationship..
should he bring it up with the new gf???
or just wait it out and let time erase the past??
OR, say fuck em both and join a messege board and post 24/7?
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[Dirtybird11]

double post. sorry. im a fool,
i have rox in my head.

This message was edited by PERRYNOID on 12-17-01 @ 4:57 AM

[RF Godfather]

I'd choose the second parter.

But in reality he should be open with his new girlfriend and be able to say that he can not get his ex out of his head. Out of sight is definitely not out of mind. He needs to be open in conversation about certin things like this or his new relationship will not last that long. Been there done that.

Lying or putting it in the backburner does not erase it.

My two cents... take it for what it's worth.

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[TomPoo]

should he bring it up with the new gf???

no

it is his problem, and twlling her will only make her self-conscious and cause even more problems in the relationship.

telling her helps no one, she can't do anything to help him get over the x

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[fatty]

listen to tompoo, definetely do not bring it up with the new gf. he can talk about it with anyone but her, unless he doesn't want to go out with her anymore. the only way to get over a girl is with time, and that means time apart. no calling for happy birthday, no just wanting to say hi, no showing up where you know she is. it sucks but there is no other way. if you want to know how to get over a girl i would suggest watching the movie "Swingers", it's the best break up movie ever and it really helps

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it's damn true!

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[twanmoney]

fatty has it exactly right.
definetely do not bring it up with the new gf. but if she notices something wrong you have to be honest with her.
Honesty truly is the best policy.


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[HordeKing1]

PERRYNOID - Understood.

If he cannot get his ex girlfriend out of his mind he is not yet ready for a relationship with another woman.

Bringing up the ex that he can't get out of his mind to his new girlfriend is a sure fire way to ruin the relationship.

Your friend has to devote some time for introspection to determine where he is vis a vis his old/new gf.

If he's not ready, he certainly shouldn't continue with the new gf (except as a friend).

It's not fair to the current girlfriend if he stays with her knowing his heart is elsewhere.

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[Ixia Naar]

i couldn't have said it any better HK although there many things i can not say or type better than you :)
PS why the hell do i keep putting these F-ing smiley faces in my posts i'm not a happy person lol



This message was edited by Ixia Naar on 12-22-01 @ 4:02 PM

[Postal]

Can't wait all your life...there has to a reason she is an ex otherwise she wouldn't be an ex, right!...forget her go with the current girlfriend...can't wait forever.


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[TheGameHHH]

There's no reason for him to bring up his Ex in front of his new girlfriend, he's just gonna have to wait until these feelings pass.

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