Myspace Reconnection

[Tenbatsuzen]

Would you attempt to reconnect with an elementary school friend if you discovered them while searching myspace?

Recently, my brother and I were discussing some friends we had when he was in High school and I was in junior high. They were mormons and the family left to do missionary work, so the last time I saw this friend was seventh grade.

We had a weird kinship; we were the tallest kids in the class, we both had a lot of similar interests, and we were very competitive with each other.

For the hell of it, I popped this friend's name into Myspace and I got a hit. When I discovered her page, I realize that she rebelled against her faith bigtime. She's currently a lesbian photographer on the West Coast.

Now, I'm not sure if I should reach out to her or not. I mean, seventh grade was a long, long time ago and I'm not sure if she would recall me. Even then, it would be slightly awkward. But I'm impressed by her photography and I'd like to compliment her on it.

Thoughts?

[Chigworthy]

I despise everyone from my past. I have no time for anyone from back then. Fuckin' idiots.

[Kevin]

I despise everyone from my past. I have no time for anyone from back then. Fuckin' idiots.

Pretty much..

[thejives]

myspace, no.
facebook, maybe.
linkedin, yes. especially if they're rich now.

[Chimee]

I tried to reconnect with someone on Myspace after not talking to them for a few months and it was very awkard.

[Chigworthy]

I tried to reconnect with someone on Myspace after not talking to them for a few months and it was very awkard.

A few months? You gotta get in the game and make some serious "fuck-off time" commitments. All of mine are a minimum of 75 years.

[TheGameHHH]

id say a good 20% of my facebook friends are random ass people from the past. i love seeing what people are up to.

[IamPixie]

Why the hell not? This kid that pulled a scissor on me when we got in a fight in 6th grade recently tried to contact me. I ignored him because he's an insane son of a bitch. If getting ignored is the worst case scenario, what do you have to lose?

[TheGameHHH]

Why the hell not? This kid that pulled a scissor on me when we got in a fight in 6th grade recently tried to contact me. I ignored him because he's an insane son of a bitch. If getting ignored is the worst case scenario, what do you have to lose?

u totally should have accepted his friend request......then called him an asshole. ive never had somebody reject my friend request, i think if somebody did i'd be crushed.

[IamPixie]

u totally should have accepted his friend request......then called him an asshole. ive never had somebody reject my friend request, i think if somebody did i'd be crushed.

I accepted his friend request but then he hit on me...which was weird considering he tried to stab me with scissors.

[TheGameHHH]

I accepted his friend request but then he hit on me...which was weird considering he tried to stab me with scissors.

well..........clearly he's a winner

[~Katja~]

But I'm impressed by her photography and I'd like to compliment her on it.




yes, send her a message, say you were talking with your brother about people from your past and you came across her and saw what awesome works she does... I can't see her hating you for that.
You may not find a good new friend in her but I always welcome people from my past, even if its just for a quick hello and to know how they have done for themselves.

I just had an old school mate send me an e-mail (don't even know where he had the address from) and he never even signed his name, his mail address just had Thomas in it...so I had to figure out which of the hundreds of Thomas' I had met in my past was mailing me. With myspace you at least know who the other person is...

[Hosp]

I have a good number of people who were from my grade school on my friend's list. What harm can it do? I doubt you'll be trying to hook up with the Californian Lesbian Photogropher, and if you're going to just look back at the good old days and get pointers on taking pictures why would it be a bad thing?

[CruelCircus]

We had a weird kinship; we were the tallest kids in the class,

We get it, you're tall.

[sr71blackbird]

I would not do it if I were you. My sister was contacted on myspace by an old high school friend of mine who was attempting to contact me though it. Like many stupid people, she sees no harm in using her real name on the internet. When she told me, I told her I have no interest in rekindling a long lost friendship and I smelled a rat.
She started chating with him, and within a week, he was asking her for money. Don't do it!
It always amazes me how many people have their real name as their email address too. What are people thinking??

[sr71blackbird]

Also, most people I know who were into myspace a few years ago during its height of popularity have since moved beyond it by now. It is officially "old school" now.

[~Katja~]

I would not do it if I were you. My sister was contacted on myspace by an old high school friend of mine who was attempting to contact me though it. Like many stupid people, she sees no harm in using her real name on the internet. When she told me, I told her I have no interest in rekindling a long lost friendship and I smelled a rat.
She started chating with him, and within a week, he was asking her for money. Don't do it!
It always amazes me how many people have their real name as their email address too. What are people thinking??

that's silly, to say hello and see how someone has been does not imply you giving them money... if thats what they ask you kindly say no thank you and ignore the request.

[sr71blackbird]

I know hat you are saying, but I made a decision in my life years ago to not look back on people that I used to know from high school, because the past is done and gone and whenever I did try and reconnect, the people would just want to try and do what we used to do and get drunk or high or whatever we used to do, and that was not my present place in life and so I felt the reconnection was pointless. I always try and move forward.

[~Katja~]

well, we all have different lives and come from different backgrounds. I can understand someone not wanting to look back on a bad past or a lifestyle they would no longer appreciate... some of these people may have moved into a better place much like you and it can be pretty uplifting to see how far people have come.
That does not mean you are going to be their best buddy again, just that you get a brief insight in who they are today and that they are alive and well.

If they are unwell, quietly back out of the room, close the door and then run... fast... ;)

[sr71blackbird]

Its cool, I get your point and completely understand it. :smile:

[Friday]

Why the hell not? This kid that pulled a scissor on me when we got in a fight in 6th grade recently tried to contact me. I ignored him because he's an insane son of a bitch. If getting ignored is the worst case scenario, what do you have to lose?

i can't believe you had a scissor pulled on you! lol
of course i am picturing those little scissors with the green handle.... which is probably why it seems hilarious and not so skeery.

[Chigworthy]

This bitch pulled a pencil on me when she tried to cut in front of me in the line after recess. I did what anyone would have done and tried to kick it out of her hand. The lead lodged in my lower shin. I think it may still be there 20+ years later.

[LaBoob]

It's always nice to be remembered fondly and to be reached out to. It's never too late or too weird to drop a line. Just don't be a creep about it and all should be fine!

[King Hippos Bandaid]

If they request me, i wont be an ass and Deny them

but I have post whoring and fantasy sports to worry about



but I wont request anyone who I have lost contact with for over 15 years, no hate, just no care

[IamPixie]

i can't believe you had a scissor pulled on you! lol
of course i am picturing those little scissors with the green handle.... which is probably why it seems hilarious and not so skeery.

they were little but the blade was sharp not rounded

[bobrobot]

I just recently reconnected w/ 2 girls whom I hung out w/ in High School thru Myspace. It's been a lotta fun, even after all these years...

& they STILL make really yummy waffles!!!


http://www.old-picture.com/american-adventure/pictures/Waffle-House.jpg

[SatCam]

they were little but the blade was sharp not rounded

fiskars strike again

[Tenbatsuzen]

OK, here's a new question:

I'm not exactly sure it's her.

It's the same name, and she looks like what I think she'd look like if she was a thirtyflurf version of the girl I remember back in seventh grade, but the question is, how do I ease my way in to a non-awkward conversation?

I'm thinking about saying...

"Hi there - forgive the intrusion, but I was curious - are you the same [name] who is [brother's name] sister, who went to school in [district]?"

If she responds yes, then I'll introduce myself with my real name. If she doesn't respond or it's not her, then I don't feel like a creep.

Yes, or no?

[TheGameHHH]

OK, here's a new question:

I'm not exactly sure it's her.

It's the same name, and she looks like what I think she'd look like if she was a thirtyflurf version of the girl I remember back in seventh grade, but the question is, how do I ease my way in to a non-awkward conversation?

I'm thinking about saying...

"Hi there - forgive the intrusion, but I was curious - are you the same [name] who is [brother's name] sister, who went to school in [district]?"

If she responds yes, then I'll introduce myself with my real name. If she doesn't respond or it's not her, then I don't feel like a creep.

Yes, or no?

honestly, i would just assume its her. the chances that it isn't her are like 1%, just play the odds.

[bobrobot]

OK, here's a new question:

I'm not exactly sure it's her.

It's the same name, and she looks like what I think she'd look like if she was a thirtyflurf version of the girl I remember back in seventh grade, but the question is, how do I ease my way in to a non-awkward conversation?

I'm thinking about saying...

"Hi there - forgive the intrusion, but I was curious - are you the same [name] who is [brother's name] sister, who went to school in [district]?"

If she responds yes, then I'll introduce myself with my real name. If she doesn't respond or it's not her, then I don't feel like a creep.

Yes, or no?

Give her a Rohypnol!!!

http://img.metro.co.uk/i/pix/2007/11/rohypnolREX_175x125.jpg

Hell, give her 10!!!

[Thomas Merton]

a big yes

This thread motivated me to open a facebook, something I've mocked others for doing

Crossing paths and reconnecting with people from the past makes life interesting