So then...what am I to do now?

[IamFogHat]

Ok, so, here's the story, I'm 23, almost two months after being left by my girlfriend of well over two years who I was going to marry, within the year, and so of course now I'm alone and clueless. I've of course been in this situaiton before, as all of us have been, unless you're 14, only now I'm an adult and it was seriously going to be my relationship of lifelong commitment, and now it's gone. I've been grieving this, obviously, since it disolved, and now I'm at a point where I'm not ready to move on emotionally, but I understand I will need to at some point, hopefully sooner than later for my own preservation.
I don't really know what my question is, because I have no idea where to go from here. I have two or three definite physical outlets of satisfaction, but beyond that I'm at a loss.
I don't know, I guess, I haven't been here in a while, as usually I leave the girl first, and this was a biggie, so I was wondering, without sounding emo or anything, what the fuck should I be doing now (as an adult mind you) at this point.
Any input would be greatly appreciated. Thanks buddays.

[Chigworthy]

Time is the only reliable medicine for you at this point.

[TheGameHHH]

Ok, so, here's the story, I'm 23, almost two months after being left by my girlfriend of well over two years who I was going to marry, within the year, and so of course now I'm alone and clueless. I've of course been in this situaiton before, as all of us have been, unless you're 14, only now I'm an adult and it was seriously going to be my relationship of lifelong commitment, and now it's gone. I've been grieving this, obviously, since it disolved, and now I'm at a point where I'm not ready to move on emotionally, but I understand I will need to at some point, hopefully sooner than later for my own preservation.
I don't really know what my question is, because I have no idea where to go from here. I have two or three definite physical outlets of satisfaction, but beyond that I'm at a loss.
I don't know, I guess, I haven't been here in a while, as usually I leave the girl first, and this was a biggie, so I was wondering, without sounding emo or anything, what the fuck should I be doing now (as an adult mind you) at this point.
Any input would be greatly appreciated. Thanks buddays.

you should find some friends, head out to a bar, get drunk and chase some tail. have fun with your friends, drink excessively and get some pussy. after that fun has ended i would start looking to move forward in terms of finding another girl. theyre out there man and theyre a dime a dozen (as are we).

[~Katja~]

really, just enjoy being single for a few more years. Take at least 5 to just have fun, date around and enjoy being able to party, drink and have more money to do it all... before you go in search of the chosen one.

you may not feel that, but you are young and have ways to go to get there.

[KC2OSO]

really, just enjoy being single for a few more years. Take at least 5 to just have fun, date around and enjoy being able to party, drink and have more money to do it all... before you go in search of the chosen one.

you may not feel that, but you are young and have ways to go to get there.

Yeah. Go patch your wounds for a few days and then forget about the beyond. Katja's right. Go about making yourself whole, as in,.. go out without any care about what the world will think of you. Stay social. Keep your friends and go out. Stay in the pond.

Meantime, enjoy your time away. Get a good book and read it. Take a class. So soon, our time is otherwise occupied.

Being single isn't so bad.

[Sinestro]

Sometimes time doesn't heal all wounds.:sad:

You never know if the next love is around the corner.:wub:

But you'll never find out if you don't try and move on.:glurps:

Yes you can. You deserve better than this. Do you want 2 more years of the same or do you want change. Hope is where it's at. Break down that glass ceiling and make a better tomorrow.:clap:*



*I am Sinestro and I approve this message.

[Melrapuo]

I'm in the same boat as you, FogHat. Girlfriend of almost two years (who I was completely in love with and devoted to) up and left me for another guy 2.5 months ago. She led me on for a month, and i kept freaking out and trying to fix things until I finally just gave up and told her goodbye.

Definitely go out and have fun with friends. Exercise more. Get some new hobbies. At this point its all about you. Enjoy your life man. The only difference now is that it consists of one less person. She may feel like more than that now, but after time she'll become less and less significant.

Life is too short to spend worrying about what the hell you're supposed to do now. Instead, live it up! Date, screw, drink, have fun.

I've done all except the screwing part. God...such a dry spell. : ( I'll get some tail soon enough though, soon enough.

[Drunky McBetidont]

everything happens for a reason brother.
shit, you might have gotten married and had kids and then wished (prayed) she would die of cancer before you were forced to poison her coffee or someother horrid shit.
truth is... if you can't find a mate by 38, then you can second guess your path. otherwise, enjoy the ride and wish her well.:wink:

[Tenbatsuzen]

You could always come out to big R&F event and find some single ladies there.

I'm not saying it always works, but if Jeff and I could end up married, there's hope for you...

[Don Stugots]

You could always come out to big R&F event and find some single ladies there.

I'm not saying it always works, but if Jeff and I could end up married, there's hope for you...

true, the women of RF.net are very charitable.

[Ritalin]

First, listen to some FogHat.

Seriously, the R & F party suggestion is pretty damn good. Get around a crowd, people you like. Have some fun. Time is the only thing that will take the edge off of it all, but don't sit around waiting for it either.

[midwestjeff]

I've been grieving this, obviously, since it disolved, and now I'm at a point where I'm not ready to move on emotionally, but I understand I will need to at some point, hopefully sooner than later for my own preservation.


I went through a similar thing when I was 23.
I am 29 now and haven't had a meaningful relationship since that ended.
Give it time, but don't shut off emotionally.
I did it as a defense mechanism
and now I see that it was not the best solution.
Denying yourself the ability to care about other people sucks ass.