Dating someone from work...

[JerseyRich]

I'm just curious if anyone has dated someone they work/worked with.

Did it work? If so, what were some hurdles?

If it didn't work...was it awkward?

I went on a few dates with a chick that I worked with...but she was a Jesus freak and it didn't work out.

[Furtherman]

I always advise against this.... unless...

Both of you can keep work / life separate. That means no one gets upset if you can't have a lunch, or don't say hello if you walk by their office, or don't have the time to send little "i'm thinking of you pooky" notes... all that stuff that can throw a wrench in your day and effect your workload.

If you can, then you're golden. I know married couples at my work and you wouldn't even know they're married. Work is work, life is life.


Oh, and yea, I've done it. I shant be doing it again.

[ibanez23]

I met my girl at work she was the accountant.We have been together for 6 years now.I think it's probably better to meet someone at work than a bar.At least you get to know them first and not some pretencious drunken persona at a club.

[britneypablo]

my work relationship recently ended...it was for about six months....i was working as a data entry person and he was working as an accountant and somehow we were stationed about 2 feet from each other(which he listened to XM which is how i found out about the show)...he was really cute and slightly flirty, so one day after a lunch break we were in the elevator and i was very attracted to him so naturally, i just started kissing him.....i didnt realize it would turn into a long term thing....BUT luckily my position was a temp position...and unfortunatley after 6 months i found my lifestyle doesnt match up with his...so i had to be done before this got any deeper on both sides BUT i think ..i hope..we are still friends..im not really sure if we are or not..hahaha ARE YOU READING THIS?!?! ARE WE STILL FRIENDS OR NOT?!??!

he still works there....anyways
while we were at work we continued to do cutesy couple things but no one knew we were dating.....if i had become permanent there i doubt we would have remained in that "honeymoon phase" for much longer

[Tall_James]

Don't fish in the company pond.

The fish smell like toner.

[CofyCrakCocaine]

My experience has been that the love is always stronger in relationships where you see each other less. Like Further already said, seeing each other every day raises a lot of bars. It makes the prospect of seeing each other too easy and mundane.

It also seems to be better to date someone who's a friend of someone you work with rather than the workplace pal. My best friend got involved with a girl who he worked with and in less than a year things went nuclear and he had to quit his job because he couldn't take being around her anymore.

That said, if you're up for the risk go for it. Ya only live life once and it's not like you're fucked by default for dating a co-worker.

[Legit Bill]

I dated one girl from work, we broke up and I started dating my wife who also worked there (keep in mind this was all 8 yrs ago), but about 2 weeks in to dating the girl who is now my wife I went and got a new job.


I highly advise against it.

[~Katja~]

didn't work out well for me... while we were keeping it all private and separated he kept it so private that he was able to date two girls from work at the same time...for over a year...

was fun while it lasted... lol

[CofyCrakCocaine]

didn't work out well for me... while we were keeping it all private and separated he kept it so private that he was able to date two girls from work at the same time...for over a year...

was fun while it lasted... lol

Was this guy's name CJ or Nico by any chance? (Yes, I make alot of bad, unfunny, overly obscure, nerdy jokes)

[lleeder]

I'm just curious if anyone has dated someone they work/worked with.

Did it work? If so, what were some hurdles?

If it didn't work...was it awkward?

I went on a few dates with a chick that I worked with...but she was a Jesus freak and it didn't work out.

Did you vote here? (http://www.ronfez.net/forums/showthread.php?t=71205&highlight=religous+person)

[~Katja~]

Was this guy's name CJ or Nico by any chance?

no, but I have since realized that this kinda thing is pretty common and it has changed my view on relationships in general even more.

[JerseyRich]

Did you vote here? (http://www.ronfez.net/forums/showthread.php?t=71205&highlight=religous+person)

I just did.

[bigredd]

I "dated" someone I worked with years ago. The hurdle was that I was 19 and she...wasn't. She was a good egg though and more than willing to try new things. It worked out for me.

[PapaBear]

What's even worse than dating in the workplace is getting your boss to hire your wife. I did that 15 years ago. The day that started with an argument about her not wanting to go into work that day was the day she walked out on me. ANNND, my boss was pissed at me for vouching for her.

[Ritalin]

Anybody who's ever worked in a restaurant has dated someone from work.

[mildly amusing]

it was fun and exciting at first, trying not to let anybody know...but the excitement wore off and it ended poorly....which i'm sure would have made things awkward had i not quit (for totally unrelated reasons)...so i'm lucky in that regard, i didn't have to deal with post relationship bullshit....

[SP1!]

When I was 18 I was working at target and banging my boss who was 34, I was also dating a little 17 year old girl at the same time and she almost caught the boss going down on me in the stockroom. Luckily, she was too dumb to figure it out but yelled at me years later for it.

If you work in a small work environment then I don't recommend it but if its a large office then you may get away with it, just don't piss her off too bad I usually told a girl we "just weren't compatible", which was code word for "you're a crazy cunt"

[skyscraper]

My wife and I used to work together, that's how we met. it worked for us because we got to know each other as friends first. there were no rules about it in the office, and everyone was cool about it, so there were no real hurdles or taboos about it.
So this doesn't really help you, does it?

[MacVittie]

In high school I dated a girl at work, and it was really tough for her after we broke up. I didn't care so much, and she ended up quitting the job, even though she worked there much longer than I did. My parents met at work, dated, and have been married for nearly 30 years.

[A.J.]

Don't shit where you eat. It's awkward and uncomfortable when it goes well -- and worse when it doesn't work out.

[JerseyRich]

My wife and I used to work together, that's how we met. it worked for us because we got to know each other as friends first. there were no rules about it in the office, and everyone was cool about it, so there were no real hurdles or taboos about it.
So this doesn't really help you, does it?

I wasn't looking for help...Just putting the question out there. I had an experience with it in the past and I have no intentions of dating anyone I work with now.

[patsopinion]

ARE YOU READING THIS?!?! ARE WE STILL FRIENDS OR NOT?!??!


is sue bender your ex?

[Gmann]

I messed around with someone at work few years ago. We did a really good job keeping it a secret from everyone else. Then one day we both worked different shifts, as I was leaving she was coming in and I had a really shitty day at work and she just caught the wrath.....and that was it. Yeah Im a dick.


On a more recent note my 2 managers at the bar Im at are uber hot. I think the day manager tried to make out with me on Tues/Wed when we closed up. She walked with me up the block and as we went our seperate ways she leaned in to kiss me goodbye, obviously I gave her the cheek but she went for lips and got me on that area on the verrrrrrrrrrrry end of your mouth, because of my head turn in surprise. I was all "Ummmm ok night" and hurredly walked away.
Last night the night manager was ALL flirty with me. It was busy, but kinda slow at the same time and she was constantly hanging out on my side behind the bar with me. The physical contact signs were there too. Hand on my shoulder, little joking bumps with the elbow.
I can sue for sexual harrasment right ?? :thumbup:

[led37zep]

I'm freelance so if I date someone from work chances are pretty good I won't see them for some time.

Me and my girl met on a job but didn't start dating till after wards. I've brought her on to do some work here and there but that was after we moved in together and became pretty serious.

So really I have no advice other than "work freelance and stop working with chicks after you date them."

yeah.

[cougarjake13]

I'm just curious if anyone has dated someone they work/worked with.

Did it work? If so, what were some hurdles?

If it didn't work...was it awkward?

I went on a few dates with a chick that I worked with...but she was a Jesus freak and it didn't work out.



not only dated but she is currently my wife

for myself there were no hurdles or awkwardness, may have been if we broke up

[LaBoob]

I am a completely different person in my professional life than in my personal life. If a guy fell for me basing his opinions on my professional personality he would NOT be getting the real me... it IS the real me, but only to a certain extent... the true reality is just not something I could get away with in most professional environments, and I'd never show that side of myself to anybody I work with, soooo... I could probably never get involved with someone I work with.

[Sinestro]

I am a completely different person in my professional life than in my personal life. If a guy fell for me basing his opinions on my professional personality he would NOT be getting the real me... it IS the real me, but only to a certain extent... the true reality is just not something I could get away with in most professional environments, and I'd never show that side of myself to anybody I work with, soooo... I could probably never get involved with someone I work with.

You had me at "Hello":wink:

[ahhdurr]

i remember backing Julie up against the lockers at the Great Atlantic and Pacific Tea Company Store. I was 16 and in just two short weeks ... she would make me a man.

Since then... I've pretty much worked with guys. I don't even get being turned on at work unless there's video invovled.

[Kris10]

I don't date or mess with anyone I work with. That way I never have to see them again.

[TripleSkeet]

Depends on where you work.

I bartended at D & B in Philly for 10 years. The running joke there when they would bring in new employees in each week was "He puts the "cock" in cocktail waitress". But then again I wasnt looking for a girlfriend, just random friendship fucks.

Seriously, if your not a jerk off and just honest, even if it doesnt work out you should be able to work with that person amicably. I say do it.

[Thebazile78]

I'm just curious if anyone has dated someone they work/worked with.

Did it work? If so, what were some hurdles?

If it didn't work...was it awkward?

I went on a few dates with a chick that I worked with...but she was a Jesus freak and it didn't work out.

The expression "don't shit where you eat" comes to mind with my experience. (It would've been fun if we'd kept it casual ... you know, just a few dates and no physical stuff. And probably would've been a lot less awkward after we lost interest.)

We actually did keep our work life/home life separate ... but it didn't work out and the breakup was pretty bad.

The kicker is that we both still work for the company I'm in production; he's in IT) ... AND they just consolidated us from 3 floors to 1 floor, so it gets awkward when we're walking past each other, but, fortunately, it's really rare that we pass each other because there's very little work to do around the office with a hiring freeze on!

[Jennitalia]

i hooked up with one guy at work once. we went out one night and drank, and we went back to his place and he asked me to touch it with his mouth. i quickly sobered up and went home, and didnt talk to him after that.

i also dated a guy for 4 years and we met at work. we had different shifts, but would work about 2-3 hours together. it was cute, we used to toss little notes to each other over the cubicles. we dated for about 5 months before i quit the job. the only annoyance was that when we started dating, everybody used to be in our business...i felt like everyone was always watching us and stuff.

[Contra]

Relationship no, fuck buddy yes

[CofyCrakCocaine]

98% of the time workplace relations are as realistic as the romance angle in any of Adam Sandler's movies.

[Furtherman]

i hooked up with one guy at work once. we went out one night and drank, and we went back to his place and he asked me to touch it with his mouth..

Touch what with his mouth?