It's finally happened

[epo]

My family has known for quite some time that my grandmother has cancer. They found it in her breast about a year ago and she's undergone all of the treatments...but she's 83 and that's a hard road despite her being a tough person. .

Tonight I got the email: Grandma's cancer is bad. It has spread to her brain, spine and liver. Now I just pray she lives to see Christmas.

I'm going to bed before I cry too much.

[drjoek]

Sorry bro

[weekapaugjz]

im very sorry to hear about it, epo.

[Friday]

i'm so sorry, sweetheart.
go see your grammy soon, ok?

*hugs*

[GreatAmericanZero]

good luck

coming from an "FBA environment" i couldnt imagine sharing such personal tragedy with a messageboard

but regardless

good luck

[jennysmurf]

I'm so sorry. My Grandma is 91, but I still can't even think about her not being here. Use what time you have with her, and don't forget to take care of yourself, okay?

[ChrisTheCop]

Boo to cancer. Awful news budday.
My thoughts are with her, you and your fam during this tough time.

[JPMNICK]

that sucks pal. i hope she makes it to christmas too, enjoy whatever time you have left

[CofyCrakCocaine]

So sorry for your Grandma epo... Nothing to say here that is worth anything. I'll keep her in my prayers.

[ScottFromGA]

My family has known for quite some time that my grandmother has cancer. They found it in her breast about a year ago and she's undergone all of the treatments...but she's 83 and that's a hard road despite her being a tough person. .

Tonight I got the email: Grandma's cancer is bad. It has spread to her brain, spine and liver. Now I just pray she lives to see Christmas.

I'm going to bed before I cry too much.

sorry to hear this, epo.....times like this the family can pull together and make things feel at least a little better.....time heals all wounds, you'll see. :sad:

[Knowledged_one]

My family has known for quite some time that my grandmother has cancer. They found it in her breast about a year ago and she's undergone all of the treatments...but she's 83 and that's a hard road despite her being a tough person. .

Tonight I got the email: Grandma's cancer is bad. It has spread to her brain, spine and liver. Now I just pray she lives to see Christmas.

I'm going to bed before I cry too much.

i know you and I dont see eye-to-eye on a bunch of things but that all goes by the wayside in something like this.

I am very sorry to hear this news and having a family member going through cancer is a horrible thing.

Please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time and i hope for the best for both you and your family as well

[Jujubees2]

Sorry to hear it. Hang in there EPO.

Think of the good times you had with your grandmother and let those memories get you through these trying times.

[~Katja~]

I am sorry Epo!
I hope she will live past X-mas. Make it special for all of you, but most of all for her!

[Hottub]

Very sorry to hear it, epo. Stay strong and never forget the good times.
You and your family are in my thoughts.

[Misteriosa]

im so sorry to hear about your grandmother, epo. i think the only thing you can do right now is stick close to your family.

[Don Stugots]

Sorry to hear bro. You and yours are in my prayers. Take care.

[KingGeno]

Sorry to hear that. Thoughts and prayers to you and yours. :sad:

[WampusCrandle]

i'm really sorry to hear, Epo. My prayers go out to you and your family.

[Thebazile78]

Cancer sucks.

I lost my grandfather to lung cancer and my Great-Aunt Betty to leukemia. I feel gypped that they weren't around to see me graduate from high school, college or get married.

You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

(Is your family looking into hospice or palliative care for your grandma? It might make her remaining days more comfortable and allow her to pass surrounded by her family.)

[Caseyelan]

Thinking of you epo.

[Ritalin]

Be strong Epo.

[TjM]

That's horrible man. Same thing got my mother. Just keep seeing her and be strong. I know I wish I handled things differently with mom

[high fly]

Terrible news, I feel for you.
When confronted with the mortality of loved ones, all the cliches seem even more hollow.
Hang in there, epo...

[EliSnow]

My thoughts are with you and your family Epo. That's tough news to hear.

[epo]

Thanks for the kind thoughts everyone. It's amazing how much a night's sleep can help. Now it's my responsibility to enjoy the time we have.

Thanks.

[Jennitalia]

i'm really sorry, epo. you're in my thoughts. i hope she makes it to christmas. if it starts to look bad, maybe you guys can have one last christmas for her earlier. hang in there.

[ahhdurr]

it's all about Grandma now... be there for her pal.

We're with you.

[Jughead]

My family has known for quite some time that my grandmother has cancer. They found it in her breast about a year ago and she's undergone all of the treatments...but she's 83 and that's a hard road despite her being a tough person. .

Tonight I got the email: Grandma's cancer is bad. It has spread to her brain, spine and liver. Now I just pray she lives to see Christmas.

I'm going to bed before I cry too much.

I have been away from the board because of business reasons....Its things like this that make me appreciate what I have. And make me realize things could be a lot worse ..I'm so sorry for you friend ...May you find strength...And I pray for the best..Jug

[TjM]

One other thing. Don't be afraid to seek counceling (SP?) if need be. I know it helped me

[epo]

I was at grandma's house last night for 4 hours...as her doctor has given her 2 weeks.

Luckily she is in great spirits and funny as hell. I can only hope I learn from the experience myself as I grow in years.

[~Katja~]

I was at grandma's house last night for 4 hours...as her doctor has given her 2 weeks.

Luckily she is in great spirits and funny as hell. I can only hope I learn from the experience myself as I grow in years.

it's good to hear that she is in great spirits.
She will go when she is ready to go, and with great spirits that may still be past the 2 weeks the doc gave her.

[Bossanova]

I have lost three grand parents to cancer. It sucks watching the process. All i can say is be there for her and let her do what she wants. This is her time, make it as easy for her as possible.

[Don Stugots]

wow, she is a tough lady to be in good spirits. stay strong epo.

[epo]

it's good to hear that she is in great spirits.
She will go when she is ready to go, and with great spirits that may still be past the 2 weeks the doc gave her.

I have lost three grand parents to cancer. It sucks watching the process. All i can say is be there for her and let her do what she wants. This is her time, make it as easy for her as possible.

It was interesting tonight to be the guy to tell my very immediate family to get their asses to grandma's house for their final visit.

Being on this side of the process is definitely weird.

[Bossanova]

It was interesting tonight to be the guy to tell my very immediate family to get their asses to grandma's house for their final visit.

Being on this side of the process is definitely weird.

It certainly is. When my grandmother passed, it happened rapidly. Unfortunately I was very usy with work and didnt get to be with her alot. When I finally got to her house to see her, I could barely recognize her. She passed away the next day on my birthday. I so regret not seeing her more

[epo]

It certainly is. When my grandmother passed, it happened rapidly. Unfortunately I was very usy with work and didnt get to be with her alot. When I finally got to her house to see her, I could barely recognize her. She passed away the next day on my birthday. I so regret not seeing her more

Its definitely weird bitching at your parents directly and then through your siblings to your point....as the rumors are true.

I must admit this process has never made my grandma seem more human and funny as she has lately.

[Alice S. Fuzzybutt]

Stay strong Epo!!! I know how it is. My dad died of cancer.

Be by her side as much as you can and keep her spirits up (although she sounds like a VERY resilient lady!!!).

You and your G'ma will be in my thoughts and prayers.

[~Katja~]

It was interesting tonight to be the guy to tell my very immediate family to get their asses to grandma's house for their final visit.

Being on this side of the process is definitely weird.

I have done that when my grandma was passing.
My sister was pregnant at the time and did not want to visit her because she thought it would be too hard, so I lied to her... because I did want her to see her one more time while alive... and for my niece to meet her even when not yet born.
It was a strange time, for some reason I was strong throughout it but very upset and sad after she passed.

[~Katja~]

I must admit this process has never made my grandma seem more human and funny as she has lately.

that is good though, because this is the way you will remember her forever!

[epo]

that is good though, because this is the way you will remember her forever!

I understand that point completely. I'm the oldest grandson of 9 children....so I've always seen the "proper grandma" until this last couple of weeks. Who knew she'd be this hilarious?

[Friday]

good for you being so strong with your family... and I am sure grams is so happy for the time with you.
just hang in there and enjoy as much of her as you can... every single moment is a gift.

[Ritalin]

Epo,

You're doing it the right way. Hang in there and enjoy the time you have. At some point, stop worrying about other people and spend that time with your grandmother.

You're a good man.

[Gvac]

Its definitely weird bitching at your parents directly and then through your siblings to your point....as the rumors are true.

I must admit this process has never made my grandma seem more human and funny as she has lately.

Your grandmother must have lived a full and satisfying life if she's accepting its end with such good spirits. When you really think about it, who could ask for anything more?

All the best to you and your family in dealing with this, bro. It sounds like grandma is dealing with it just fine, though, so that should be a tremendous relief to you all.

[jonyrotn]

EPO you never cease to impress me..
Wether it be your insightful analasys on the "pit bull" politics involved with running the free world or the delicately precise politics involved with navigating matters of a deeply personal nature..
And all of your lessons seem to be conveyed with artful discimination..
It has to be hard emotionally and otherwise to orchestrate what amounts to a "call to arms", for a somber death bed family reunion..


Well as I see it man, this is a job well done..I can only hope her other eight grandchildren were not offended because some of them needed to be reminded of how important it is to spend REAL quality time with a loved one who is not only suffering in tremendous and unbearable pain but they are certainly headed for the "here after"..:innocent:

Stay strong brother, it seems obvious that you are a rock in your family..Death is a very permanate state usually marked by very temporary mourning, it's sad but we must all move on at some point..
It seems quite possible that there will will nine more people in the universe who no longer have four grandparents and that is enough to sadden anyone with a soul but if you can all leann on one another for love and support you will all pull through and you will all be stronger and more united for it..

I'll be praying for your family dude and I genuinely hope you get at least Xmas card with at least one more $15 check in it.. :smile:

EDIT: Count your blessings..At least grandma DIDN'T get run over by a reindeer..

[WampusCrandle]

epo - you're great to be with your family at this time. it just shows how great and awesome you are.

[reillyluck]

I was at grandma's house last night for 4 hours...as her doctor has given her 2 weeks.

Luckily she is in great spirits and funny as hell. I can only hope I learn from the experience myself as I grow in years.

i can completely relate, epo. and i dont want to get mushy....but I miss my grandmother more than words can say. Cherish her memory and these moments. we are here for you.

we love ya, budday!

[Puggle_kicker]

I lost my grandmother this year to cancer as well, its a bitch bro. Sorry to hear that. As soon as it starts to spread to vital organs its not going to be good.

[Lady Resin]

My mom passed away from cancer two years ago on 12/13. I was sick as was my brother and my sister who was 6 months pregnant. I got the call from the doctor that she wasn't going last long. My sister was mid way to the hospital and my brother from work. I was the closest to the hospital. I was walking out the door as the the doctor gave me the bad news. My mom tried so hard to make me laugh the day before. I'm going to the cemetery next Saturday to lay down here favorite flowers. Hang in there epo.

[MacVittie]

It's a really shitty thing to have on your mind during the Christmas season. I hope for you, your family, and your grandmother's sake that she goes peacefully and when she is ready.

[epo]

This morning grandma passed away in her bed...the same bed that my grandpa passed away in nearly 4 years ago. I'm glad the family was supportive enough to make sure that she passed there and not in a hospital or a home.

I don't know what to say other than even though I expected this...I'm pretty numb and have been all day. Thanks to everyone for your kind words along the way.

[drjoek]

This morning grandma passed away in her bed...the same bed that my grandpa passed away in nearly 4 years ago. I'm glad the family was supportive enough to make sure that she passed there and not in a hospital or a home.

I don't know what to say other than even though I expected this...I'm pretty numb and have been all day. Thanks to everyone for your kind words along the way.

Sorry pal tough time of year for such a sad thing
thoughts and prayers to you and your family

[epo]

I'm writing the eulogy that I'm supposed to deliver tomorrow night. This might be the weirdest thing I've ever done and I've done some wacky shit.................

[west milly Tom]

I'm writing the eulogy that I'm supposed to deliver tomorrow night. This might be the weirdest thing I've ever done and I've done some wacky shit.................



Sorry for your loss bro, just convey your genuine love and it will go well.

[RoseBlood]

I'm very sorry for your loss epo, wmt gave good advice.
There are no words, just know you're in our thoughts.
:down:

[tele7]

Sorry for your loss as well, Epo. My condolences go out to you and your family.

[Gvac]

I just spotted this and I'm very sorry for your loss, epo; especially right before Christmas. All the best to you and your family.

[ToiletCrusher]

It's in these hardest of times we rely on those around us for support. I am sorry to hear of your loss.

[Friday]

i'm so very sorry, schmoop.

you will do just fine tonight...i am certain of it.

they are always watching over us...

[Furtherman]

Sorry for your loss. It's nice to hear they're home with family when it happens.

[hammersavage]

Life is fleeting. Remember the good times you had and speak from the heart and you will have no problem. Sorry for the pain brother.

[WampusCrandle]

im really sorry to hear this. i hope you can find something out of all of this. I hope everything goes as well as it can.

[earthbrown]

sorry to hear bro, my grandmother died of pancreatic cancer after a 1yr fight. And my great grandmother died of natrual causes at 104, she had her mind till the end, it sucks to see the old ones go.

My STB-X wife, is losing her grandfather, he is a GREAT man, WWII vet, served on the front lines of Europe, will be sad to see him go, especially cause the current situation makes me not welcome to visit him. He is possible the funniest man I know, his laugh is so deep and bellowing it is erie, he will be missed when he goes.


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