suicide outcry from an acquaintance

[MacVittie]

I work the night shift at a motel on weekend, so on slow night I'm able to get a lot of computer time in. Anyway, tonight at work, I get an IM from my older brother's ex-girlfriend, who he dated for about 2 years in college, which would be about 5 years since they broke up. I met her a good number of times when they were dating and always liked her. She and my brother have remained friends since school, despite being on opposite coasts. He has told me that he and she communicate on a fairly regular basis. She and I had not spoken since their breakup. Out conversation starts out pretty normal, then it shifts to talking about mental health. I've had my own issues with depression; I was on medication for a few year, but am fairly stable right now. She informs me that she's seen a therapist in the past and is on medication. Then, she casually mentions that she wants to kill herself. Nothing imminent, but says that "I'm 99% sure that I'll kill myself someday" and "I've tried a few times in the past." I try to bring up all the reasons I can that this isn't a good idea, and try to steer things back in a more positive direction. She also told me that she drank and entire bottle of wine that night, and when I asked how often she does that, she said, "I don't know," so I'm guessing she's pretty dependent on alcohol. I realize that she's reaching out to me because my brother is on vacation out of the country, and their keeping in touch all these years may have a lot to do with her mental illness. Our conversation ended when my shift was over, but I gave her my cell number and told her to call me if she needed to talk.

I always thought that this girl had everything going for her. In every interaction I had with her, she seemed confident and well-adjusted. It breaks my heart to know that she's suffering so much. I clearly didn't know her as much as my brother did, and I really don't know how to address this situation, other than waiting until my brother gets back from Europe and turning the situation over to him.

[vagina envy]

I dont necessarily think that your brother and his ex keeping in touch is the cause of her depression. I would definitely talk it over with your brother to see what the relationship is and if she has confided this to him in the past. Her depression was probably enhanced by her alcohol consumption and discussing this with her while she is sober would be a good idea. If you want to try and help her my only advice would be to ask her questions about why she feels this way and let her vent her frustrations to you. It can be therapeutic to discuss problems to someone you can trust. Since you have dealt with depression in the past you may be able to offer some helpful insight. Good luck.

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If this is generation X's idea of suicide prevention, I'm opening up a funeral home.. :unsure:

[patsopinion]

HIT THAT SHIT


shes obviously very vulnerable
and drunk most of the time
+wine makes girls horney (i read it somewhere)

and getting laid is like the ichiban of suicide prevention
unless you suck at it
or you consider (insert abortion joke here)

if somethings in "thats life" does that mean that we gotta be all supportive
because im genuinely recommending this

[MacVittie]

HIT THAT SHIT

Alas, we're on opposite coasts, so that's out of the question.




I gotta get some sleep and try to wrap my head around this in the morning.

[SatCam]

just tell your brother. he probably already knows or has an idea. possibly one of the reasons he broke up (maybe she is clingy or a stalker). I wouldn't talk to her....... she really has no business dumping this on you after no communication for 5 years(!). dont lose sleep over it dude.

[CYYYFYYY]

Maybe he was the only one on line so that is why she chose to tlak to him. it was nice of you to chat with her but there is nothing you can really do. She needed a buddy that night and that is what you were. As for the future who knows. You do not know her well enough or live close enough to really do anything. I say if she contacts you again then talk otherwise don't spend your life worrying about this. Sadly most people consider suicide at one time or another. You were there, you did a good thing.

[commish13]

Man, this is crazy. It's like a reverse cyyyfyyy.

[RAAMONE]

Maybe he was the only one on line so that is why she chose to tlak to him. it was nice of you to chat with her but there is nothing you can really do. She needed a buddy that night and that is what you were. As for the future who knows. You do not know her well enough or live close enough to really do anything. I say if she contacts you again then talk otherwise don't spend your life worrying about this. Sadly most people consider suicide at one time or another. You were there, you did a good thing.

what?

[CYYYFYYY]

I said most people consider suicide... I stess just consider not that they take any pills or anything but they consider it at one time or another throughout there life.

[CYYYFYYY]

Wow thanks Commish.... You actually wrote the 3 Y's in CYYYFYYY... most people just do cyyfyy. I am moving on up!!!!!!

[commish13]

I came close to messing up, but then I noticed. I pay attention to details. That's what people say about me.

[Dougie Brootal]

Wow thanks Commish.... You actually wrote the 3 Y's in CYYYFYYY... most people just do cyyfyy. I am moving on up!!!!!!

:lol: and at least you have a sense of humor about it! bravo!!:clap:

[SP1!]

Attention whore, nobody attempts suicide more than twice, usually if they mean it they are successful on the second try.

[CYYYFYYY]

If I falied a suicide attempt (I have never tried) and failed that would just depress me more becuase it is another thing I failed at.

[commish13]

Geez. Way to be unbelievably cliche.

That's SO cyyyfyyy