Why am I the hot guy to fat and ugly chicks?

[commish13]

I guess the title comes off as mean, but oh well. It also applies to girls who are cute, but far too shy and not at all my type personality wise.

Both online and out in the cruel, cruel real world I've been told many times by girls I'm significantly not attracted to that I'm "hot" or at least darned good looking. Hell, once I got a ridiculously long confession of love email from a girl who I acted kind to when I went on a trip with my college to a Broadway show. I knew nobody else there, but I recognized her, so I decided that I may as well spend the day in the city with her and her friend. Then I needed a partner for a project in math class, and nobody else was going up to her, so I did. I guess the fact that I treated her like a person was indication enough for her to believe that I liked her or somesuch.

Maybe it's because the good looking girls like to play games or aren't desperate and thus prefer guys to go after them, but outside of two girls (both of whom I was too much of a nervous nelly to actually ask out years ago) who I found out after the fact that the feeling of attraction was mutual, I've never once had anything but unrequited feelings. Maybe there were a couple of them in college that I actually did gauge correctly, but I was just too much of a pussy to go for it, but that's all in the past, so whatever.

I dunno. I think I'm a pretty okay looking dude, and the way I'm going (40 pounds lost in 3 months, BOO YAH) I'm only gonna get sexier, but what is it about me that unattractive girls have been "after me" for my whole life? Is it just because I'm a warm person and treat everybody friendly and they get the wrong vibe from me? Could be.

Anyway, I'm not really complaining, because it's flattering to me and makes me feel good about myself no matter who tells me that they legitimately find me attractive, but it is kinda frustrating. I guess I just have to be less of a wimp (man, what a great word) when it comes to girls I like.

Alright then. Good talk.

[RAAMONE]

maybe you wouldnt be so depressed if you didnt come here constantly putting yourself down and posting in this forum...seriously

[KingGeno]

true dat.

and it is common knowledge that it is a hell of a lot easier to plow 10 weak to beat looking chicks than it is to find a really hot one. Most the "hot" chicks out there are assholes anyway. there's a lot of c's out there, get used to it. lower your standards.

[commish13]

I'm just getting out shit that I've kept in for a while. It's a cathartic thing. I was depressed 4-5 months ago and before. I'm good now, and that post from last week just just a weak moment I had.

And I'm not just looking for a quick fuck. If I was, then I wouldn't have a problem. I'm looking for, ya know, a relationship.

[KingGeno]

I'm looking for, ya know, a relationship.

Usually the harder you are looking the harder it is to achieve that goal. It's not like working harder at work to get a raise. It's women. We're all fucked up.

[~Katja~]

the definition of ugly is relative, what you may find hot another may find unattractive and vice versa. There are plenty of women out there, take the stick out of your ass and ask them out and most of all , don't get depressed when they reject ya, cause you may do the same to some that find you attractive and had the guts to speak up... and were rejected by you... it's life...

Just stop being a wuss and later complain about missed opportunities...

[KingGeno]

Yea, don't dwell. That's weak sauce. MILLIONS of girls out there, just chillax.

Maybe you are hangin out at the wrong places, or need a change of scenery.

[Aggie]

It takes time to find someone worth being in a relationship with. You have to weed through a lot of people who you won't be attracted to and people you are attracted to that are assholes.

When I was single I hated that I could hardly go out without getting hit on but I survived. :tongue:

[commish13]

Whoa... put the claws back in, could ya? My depression had nothing to do with women troubles. It did when I made that post last week, but my long bout with it had nothing to do with that. This post was more of an observation than bitching -- I've been rejected in the past and I've rejected others. I feel much worse when I'm the one doing the rejecting, because I feel like an ass about it most of the time because I'm trying to learn how to do it right and do my best to not hurt feelings.

And I'm not dwelling on it. It's just something that came to my mind today (since the situation happened a couple times over the past few days), so I decided to post it. As far as hanging at the wrong places or changing scenery, I'm doing my best. I've got big anxiety issues and I'm still trying to get over them. Once I do, I'll be gold. But as it stands right now, I'm kinda limited to trying to find something on the 'ol internet.

I'm sorry if I pissed anybody off.

[RAAMONE]

Usually the harder you are looking the harder it is to achieve that goal. It's not like working harder at work to get a raise. It's women. We're all fucked up.

^^^^ this

in college i came home from a party and there were some girls hangin out in the apt. i ended up having sex with the one later that night...we have been together for almost 4 years now



edit: oh...and i hate the phrase "chillax"

[Furtherman]

I'm looking for, ya know, a relationship.

Usually the harder you are looking the harder it is to achieve that goal. It's not like working harder at work to get a raise. It's women. We're all fucked up.

QFT.

Don't look for one. Aren't you in your early 20's? Go have fun! Forget about a relationship until... one day.... one will present itself to you. Until then don't even think about it.

[KingGeno]

edit: oh...and i hate the phrase "chillax"

Me too. I hate it but it lightens the mood. :p

[KingGeno]

My 30 year old sister. Model, gorgeous girl. Just couldn't meet a guy that wasn't an asshole. She did eharmony and other sites like that for years.

Goes to a local tavern of ours one night, she just felt like stopping for a drink. Met her current husband, married after three months of meeting. Great great great guy, state trooper. They have a kid due in February a few months after their one year anniversary.

She went from being desperate and searching to married and having a family within a year and a half. Crazy how it works.

[ahhdurr]

chillax :lol:

[drjoek]

Maybe if you weren't as judgemental as your thread title you might find someone to be in a relationship. You have stated in other threads that you are in the process of thinning down from a bigger size and I've seen pictures of the head of hair you mowed off and yet you judge others on their appearance. That may be part of the problem. I'm not trying to be a prick just trying to respond to your inquiry.

[~Katja~]

Whoa... put the claws back in, could ya? My depression had nothing to do with women troubles. It did when I made that post last week, but my long bout with it had nothing to do with that. This post was more of an observation than bitching -- I've been rejected in the past and I've rejected others. I feel much worse when I'm the one doing the rejecting, because I feel like an ass about it most of the time because I'm trying to learn how to do it right and do my best to not hurt feelings.

And I'm not dwelling on it. It's just something that came to my mind today (since the situation happened a couple times over the past few days), so I decided to post it. As far as hanging at the wrong places or changing scenery, I'm doing my best. I've got big anxiety issues and I'm still trying to get over them. Once I do, I'll be gold. But as it stands right now, I'm kinda limited to trying to find something on the 'ol internet.

I'm sorry if I pissed anybody off.

it's not claws as much as tough love.
like someone said above, you are trying too hard.
You should really just try to find a hobby you truly enjoy and get wrapped up in that instead... you may run into someone who enjoys the same things you do and have things to talk about and a relationship to develop... SLOWLY

You are young, being single is not the end of the world... embrace it!

[Whiskeyportal]

You're the hot guy to fat and ugly chicks because they find you approachable. They have lowered their standards low enough to deem you attainable. :tongue:

[boonanas]

Yeah, you have absolutely no right to complain about girl problems and how none like you and then complain about fat and ugly girls liking you. Sometimes you have to play with the cards you were dealt, and just go out with a fat/ugly girl. Maybe those are the girls that are your level and you've just been reaching too high.

[KingGeno]

I talk to chicks at bars standing like Whiskey's avvy. It ALWAYS works.

[Whiskeyportal]

i stand behind fat chicks at the bar and just piss on their leg. Great conversation starter. Fuck the fat chicks, they're just happy to see a dick. they'll do what ever you want them to, they're hungry for the cock!

[reillyluck]

i stand behind fat chicks at the bar and just piss on their leg. Great conversation starter. Fuck the fat chicks, they're just happy to see a dick. they'll do what ever you want them to, they're hungry for the cock!

Serious Posts only people.

[Whiskeyportal]

hey meow, but fat chicks need the mule too

[KingGeno]

The MAJORITY of women I've met that I have really cared about and enjoyed their presence have been a friend of a friend. It's tough meeting women at bars sometimes.

In addition, you have to have self-esteem and confidence and wear it on your sleeve. Women can tell how shy or how much of a pushover a guy is, just as much as how we can tell what women are sluts or big phony assholes. And get used to rejection. Rejection, while at first may feel bad, it does build you confidence in the end. You will start maturing mentally.

I've been single for 7 years now. Last relationship was an engagement that fell apart. Do I regret that falling apart, yes. Do I regret being single for that long? At a few points during that time, Yes. But I moved past it, and I have been happy about it. If I meet someone and have a relationship, then the cards fell where they should be. If not, no biggee.

[Don Stugots]

lets see what they look like and let us be the judge. Maybe your standards are too high? What is wrong with a chunky girl?

[CofyCrakCocaine]

I can't say I've ever been with a woman that I instantly thought was hot first time I saw her. Sexiness builds up with the person as you get to know 'em... and girls you think look like shit might actually be pretty tight underneath it all.

What Katja says about the ol' eye of the beholder shit is true. Hell, I look back at a couple chicks I was chasing in high school and think to myself "WHY!?!"

Your attitude also blinds you to alot of possibilities- whether it's depressed or observational, it still influences what you pick up and don't. In 9th grade, this cute girl came up to me while I was having some pizza and basically asked me out. I'm like "SORRY I LIKE SOMEONE ELSE" like a fucking Mo and didn't think twice about it. 20/20 hindsight... by 12th grade she's grown up to be a beautiful woman with a lovely cache of weed and I'm sitting on my ass sayin "Gee, she's kinda alot cuter than the other girl I liked" about 4 years too fucking late.

Part o' the problem in high school was the low self esteem and it sounds like thats your prob too- either get some modicum of confidence or learn to not give a shit. You don't like where you at? Then sit next to the girl you think is hot and talk to her. Keep the eye contact when you talk to her. All that shit.

Finally... being a guy means you have to expect there to be long periods of time where you aren't gonna find anybody you like who likes you back like that. Shit happens, goes with the cock 'n' balls. Doesn't mean anything about ya personal.

[commish13]

Yeah, seriously dudes, chillax.

It's not like I'm going all around the world searching tirelessly. Like I said, I'm trying to work through tough anxiety issues thus I barely ever leave the house for anything other than errands, pretty much.

I'm just frustrated and getting impatient. I've been pretty much cut off from the whole world outside of a few occasions for the past full year. So right now I'm just more venting about how I'm tired of not being around people. I was fine while I was still in school and out in society seeing people every day (all the while as my anxiety heightened to the point where I had to pretty much quit life for a while), but I'm the kind of person who loves being around people, whether in a big crowd or a small gathering, and I'm trying so hard to get back out into the world.

I understand everything you've all been saying. I'm not trying too hard. I'm not in the position to do so. As far as being judgmental, I'm really not. Like I said at the beginning, I know the title of this thread is mean, but I couldn't think of a better way to put it at the time. I talked about how I don't treat anybody like shit and how I don't act like I'm better than anybody. I'm willing to befriend anybody and everybody who is interested in being friends with me. I don't discriminate with looks when it comes to friendship.

I also honestly don't have high standards. I'm attracted to a lot of girls who plenty of guys would probably not give a second look to. That's not an insult to anybody, though I know it kind of comes off that way. When I say 'fat' and 'ugly', I mean real messes, at least for the most part. Like as in women who are heavier and shorter than I was at my worst.

My frustration comes from the fact that I don't have much right now. For whatever reason, I'm able to go out on a date yet I can't get over the anxiety of going to get a job or to follow my dream career paths. Which is the reason why I've been annoyed and impatient (and wrongly so -- I know how it works) about not being with somebody. I feel like if I hit it off with someone, it will help me get the confidence to go out and figure out the rest of the shit I'm in currently.

Once I finally get past my problems and actually go back to living a normal life, I'll go back to not giving a damn about whether I'm with somebody or not. That's how I was before this past year. Plus, I'll also come back with the confidence that I always showed on the outside but never had on the inside. I know I'll be fine, but I'm just mentally in a bad place. I've been trying to figure this shit out for a full year, and now that I've gotten so far and I've been so close for a month or two, I'm getting really antsy and frustrated with everything.

Again, I didn't intend to piss anybody off with this post. I'm really not a judgmental person when it comes to looks of people that I may interact with. I'm just trying to get past the last part of my recovery, as it were, and it's very mentally tasking on me because I can feel how close I am, yet I still feel so god damn far away.

[CofyCrakCocaine]

Maybe you could word it better then... such as "girls who like me are girls i'm not attracted to" instead of "fat, ugly messes"... I know there's people who'll be like 'Oh don't give in to pussyness by being politically correct you vagina' and those people likely are not getting laid anytime soon.

Anyway, that might help with communication amongst those who reacted to this thread title in a way you don't like.

[KC2OSO]

chillax :lol:

LAL Rechill? Lax out?

[reillyluck]

i agree that the wording you are using isnt exactly appealing to most of the posters, but then again it's just your opinion.

Lets face it, there are chicks on this board that have said "why am i only attracted to douchebags?" does it really mean that they are Walking Massengils? No. just bad choice of wording.

if the "unattractive" ladies like you, its probably because you are nice to them and they appeal to your sense of whatever. Maybe you just dont know how to approach the "good looking" female. you should try the same friendly approach.

[commish13]

And for a quick example, here's a woman that gave me quite a flattering compliment early this morning.

http://cdn.okcimg.com/php/load_okc_image.php/images/65535x65535/65535x65535/0/3835304051876099339.jpeg___150_500_150_600_08a9f2d b_.jpg

http://cdn.okcimg.com/php/load_okc_image.php/images/65535x65535/65535x65535/0/10527175502427180469.jpeg___150_500_150_600_08a9f2 db_.jpg

And I rated her a 4 out of 5 and I'm quite attracted to her. Granted, she does have a very pretty face. But I think it still makes my point, I guess. I don't know.

If you think I'm an ass, then I'm an ass. Whatever. I feel like an ass for coming off like a dick, because it's really not how I am.

[MisterSmith]

Never mind. Words hurt.

But I will say you are a douche for calling them "fat and ugly girls."

[MacVittie]

Seriously Commish, every time you post I feel like I'm reading my own mind from 4 years ago. It's eerie, yet comforting to know that other people are going through everything I went through and probably had long before me.

[NYHCmikeX]

And I rated her a 4 out of 5 and I'm quite attracted to her. Granted, she does have a very pretty face. But I think it still makes my point, I guess. I don't know.

Dude, if you are attracted to her thats all that matters. She's cute. Thick, but cute nonetheless, and if you two hit it off then go for it. Dont worry about what people think, just as long as you are happy with your lot in life.

[boonanas]

So you're quite attracted to her yet you think they're real messes? WTF?

[aramg83]

I'm with you, commish. It happens way too often that women I'm even mildly attracted to don't give me the time of day, and those that I'm not in to come and approach me . It seems like there's no happy median.

[commish13]

I'm not worried about what people think as far as who I hang out with. I really don't give a fuck.

And she's from way out in Michigan, quite far from me. If I ever end up out there (which I likely eventually will if my career plans pan out), I'll absolutely meet up with her, whether I'm with somebody or not by then. She seems cool.

Once again, I apologize for coming off like an asshole. I made a poor choice for a title, but I'm really not that way.

And no, boon, that's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about girls who look like this (and worse), on their best days.

http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/ABPub/2008/03/18/2004290069.jpg

[boonanas]

I'm not worried about what people think as far as who I hang out with. I really don't give a fuck.

And she's from way out in Michigan, quite far from me. If I ever end up out there (which I likely eventually will if my career plans pan out), I'll absolutely meet up with her, whether I'm with somebody or not by then. She seems cool.

Once again, I apologize for coming off like an asshole. I made a poor choice for a title, but I'm really not that way.

And no, boon, that's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about girls who look like this (and worse), on their best days.

http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/ABPub/2008/03/18/2004290069.jpg


But your title says ' why are you the hot guy to fat and ugly chicks?' Yet you posted an example of someone you're attracted to, negating the purpose of this thread.

[CofyCrakCocaine]

I'm sure the girls you're showing would really love to see their pictures being posted in this thread.

[reillyluck]

im sorry, but im calling bullshit.

[CofyCrakCocaine]

Maybe it's just a classic case of not being happy with whatever ya got, no matter what it is.

[commish13]

Well the second picture is just a random picture I took from Google. I'm pretty sure the reason her hands are behind her back is because she's handcuffs.

The first girl is someone I'm attracted to. I think she'll live. It's not like I'm the only person who has seen the pictures. She has them online for everybody to see. And boon, my point in posting her pictures was to show that I don't have some ridiculously high standards or something where I'm looking only to date unbelievable and unattainable models or something.

im sorry, but im calling bullshit.

On me? Why?

[boonanas]

But the fact that you say "I don't have high standards" regarding a girl that you say you're quite attracted to feels a little weird to me.

[commish13]

Oh, whatever. I'll just dig myself a bigger hole if I try to explain it.

[reillyluck]

On me? Why?

Just cuz.

[commish13]

Ok then. You're wrong, but ok.

[suggums]

ill try to keep this from being a personal attack, especially since thats life forum, but you start the most uncomfortable threads, and the barrage of close-up self portrait avatars really dont help your case. just from reading this thread title i had a good guess as to the author. that being said...

go out into the world and try a little harder if youre so unhappy with whats being offered. by that i mean be more discriminatory on where you focus your attention. any girl worth my time wasn't met over the internet (and you being such a shut-in won't help on that end). i dunno how to explain it but hot chicks ive really wanted to date, ive ended up dating. you just gotta go about it the right way, they definitely are less superficial than we are when it comes to looks. start by talking to them, don't be so intimidated by how they look, if your personalities don't mesh then it wont work regardless but that can only be discovered by conversation. and just dont be the slightest bit flirty with gals you have no interest in. at this point in your life you should be developing some sort of radar to gauge someone's interest-if your feelings arent on the same level then definitely don't encourage it.
hopefully some of this was helpful and not entirely assinine.
(and yes im doing something right when it comes to women, when me and my chick met ronnie he couldn't believe how i scored such a beauty)

[commish13]

Dude, pay attention. I have legitimate anxiety issues that kept me from even leaving my house for months. It caused me to drop out of school, society and whatnot, and there were some weeks where it was so bad with the combination of depression and anxiety where I'd spent 20 or more hours in bed.

I was fucked up, and it had nothing to do with women in any way. It was just something that had built up for a long time and finally caught up with me, and then I started fighting it.

And now that I've gotten so much better over the past couple months but still can't get out and re-start my life, I get frustrated as hell, and since people have generally been nice here, and since RF.net has been the place known to have cool people, I felt comfortable opening up to the people here.

I guess I was wrong about that. I'm feeling very positive about the future because of how good I've been feeling lately, but because of how long it's been, I'm just unhappy that I'm so close, but I don't know when I'm going to figure all this shit out.

I'm not trying to be an asshole or a whiner (even though I am coming off like that, I'm fully aware), but I don't really have anybody else to get all this shit that's on my mind out to, so I figured it would be okay to do it here.

Thanks.

[Mullenax]

I bet those chicks are either
A)confident you won't shoot them down and genuinely like you
B) are practicing flirting on you because they know it's "safe"; you won't try to get in their pants.
Don't worry about it. They'll give up when you don't reciprocate or get tired of practicing and go hit on someone for real.

[commish13]

I bet those chicks are either
A)confident you won't shoot them down and genuinely like you
B) are practicing flirting on you because they know it's "safe"; you won't try to get in their pants.
Don't worry about it. They'll give up when you don't reciprocate or get tired of practicing and go hit on someone for real.

See, yeah, I agree. Completely. It was just something that came up in my mind earlier so I decided to bring it up. I know appearance wise I'm on the lower part of the middle of the spectrum (maybe a bit higher now that I've lost so much weight), so it's not like I was asking "hey, why are all of these fatsos coming up to an adonis like me when they know I'm way out of their league?". I was kinda just bringing it up because it happened to me a couple times recently and brought back memories of it happening many times throughout my life.

[Death Metal Moe]

Sorry, but it's reality check time.

You're not perfect, neither are women. There's things about you women won't find attractive, and there's things you won't find attractive about them.

Whoever said something about attractivness being about personality and how you can become more attracted to someone the more you know about them is spot on.

I'm not calling you shallow at all, all we have at 1st is a physical attraction to a person. But there's a lot more to people. But I am saying if you don't do a little more work with someone you weren't 100% attracted to at 1st, you may miss something.

If you're just looking to bang, then none of this matters. But if you're looking for something longer lasting, the type of person is way more important than how they look. Plenty of "hot" women are fucking twats too ya know.

[Death Metal Moe]

And not to just push the "Dr. Ronald Bennington" idea that if you turn any woman down you're gay, but I can't think of any women I've met and spent at least a little time with that I haven't found SOMETHING attractive about. I'm not talking "fairytale wedding" stuff or even "Spank Rolodex" kinda stuff, but a mannerism, their voice, eyes, little freckles around their cheeks, hands, SOMETHING.

They're women for Christ's sake.

[KingGeno]

This thread is very confusing. Everyone offering their advice you turn down and are turning back on them saying they are wrong, then you go around and dig yourself in a whole cuz you are flip flopping.

[commish13]

Yes, I agree and understand, Moe. I realize I went about this the wrong way. I've been putting my foot in my mouth a lot lately. I don't have bad intentions, but it's been happening.

Not really, Geno. In fact if you look at the thread, I've agreed with plenty of what people said, and I've acknowledged the fact that I didn't go about putting this thread together in a smart way. But I was also pretty much just called a shallow asshole by a few people, when I'm not, even though I guess I came off that way.

And I've also been told that I should just go out and do whatever, even after explaining that I have a problem that is disallowing me from doing that, even though that's exactly what I want to do, and that if I didn't have my problem, I would be doing. That's what has me frustrated with the way people reacted to all this.

[EffMeBoobs]

my point in posting her pictures was to show that I don't have some ridiculously high standards or something where I'm looking only to date unbelievable and unattainable models or something.



On me? Why?

So why even start a post then? There she is, she likes you and you're attracted to her so there ya go, date her for crying out loud.

[commish13]

This post had nothing to do with her. This was about girls I'm not attracted to.

And if you would have read the thread instead of just grabbing a single post and yelling at me, you'd see that she's from Michigan and I'm from Jersey, and it's going to be a long time before I might end up anywhere near MI.

So thanks for that.

[barjockey]

I'm not worried about what people think as far as who I hang out with. I really don't give a fuck.

And she's from way out in Michigan, quite far from me. If I ever end up out there (which I likely eventually will if my career plans pan out), I'll absolutely meet up with her, whether I'm with somebody or not by then. She seems cool.

Once again, I apologize for coming off like an asshole. I made a poor choice for a title, but I'm really not that way.

And no, boon, that's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about girls who look like this (and worse), on their best days.

http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/ABPub/2008/03/18/2004290069.jpg


Does she have a sister?:wub:

[Foster]

lets see what they look like and let us be the judge. Maybe your standards are too high? What is wrong with a chunky girl?

yeah, its doesn't matter if you find the girl attractive or not, its what other people think that matters.

[disneyspy]

yeah, its doesn't matter if you find the girl attractive or not, its what other people think that matters.

well duh,why else would someone act completely retarded after startin a thread so uselessly and just tell themselves what they want to hear

[jennysmurf]

yeah, its doesn't matter if you find the girl attractive or not, its what other people think that matters.

You, sir, have hit the proverbial nail on the head. Thank you.

[Friday]

no matter how much weight you lose, if you feel you are entitled to a certain caliber of woman, you will fail miserably. it is one thing to be confident in yourself... and entirely another to feel it is your place to put others down because you feel you have 'improved yourself'.

when you can figure this out, maybe you will score the kind of girl you feel you deserve.
until then... deal with it. you receive the return on what you put out there.

[jennysmurf]

no matter how much weight you lose, if you feel you are entitled to a certain caliber of woman, you will fail miserably. it is one thing to be confident in yourself... and entirely another to feel it is your place to put others down because you feel you have 'improved yourself'.

when you can figure this out, maybe you will score the kind of girl you feel you deserve.
until then... deal with it. you receive the return on what you put out there.

Well said. I couldn't put it into words, but you and Foster said it perfectly.

[mikeyboy]

yeah, its doesn't matter if you find the girl attractive or not, its what other people think that matters.

You, sir, have hit the proverbial nail on the head. Thank you.

:blink:

[jennysmurf]

:blink:

He's saying that it seems as though Commish13 is more worried about what other people think is attractive rather than what he finds attractive. Like a fat, ugly girl won't impress his pals, so she isn't acceptable. Did that help?

[mikeyboy]

He's saying that it seems as though Commish13 is more worried about what other people think is attractive rather than what he finds attractive. Like a fat, ugly girl won't impress his pals, so she isn't acceptable. Did that help?

I got that. It's just that, using sarcasm, he was saying the opposite, so your agreement looked funny.

[Reynolds]

Because the "fat and ugly chicks" are usually polite.

[jennysmurf]

I got that. It's just that, using sarcasm, he was saying the opposite, so your agreement looked funny.

Oh, okay. You're right, that did look a little weird now that I re-read it. It looked like I was agreeing that it matters what others think--I was really agreeing with the implied sarcasm. My head hurts now.....:sad:

[RoseBlood]

Because the "fat and ugly chicks" are usually polite.

Tell that to the fat, ugly woman who was raising holy hell last week at CVS.

[CofyCrakCocaine]

Tell that to the fat, ugly woman who was raising holy hell last week at CVS.

TARNATION! THEY HAVE CVS WHERE YORE FROM!!??!/?!/

[RoseBlood]

TARNATION! THEY HAVE CVS WHERE YORE FROM!!??!/?!/

Of course silly!

[epo]

No matter your weight, no man is "entitled" to shit with women. How about building a friendship or getting over your anxieties and getting out in public? Treat all women well and you never know how far you might get.

This attitude of "uglies and fatties" will keep your bed cold & lonely for quite some time my friend.

[MacVittie]

I'm not going to pick apart what you posted and trash you, Commish13. I get the sentiment of what you're saying. Being lonely sucks. Living with your parents sucks. Being not-quite-an-adult/not-quite-a-child sucks. You're looking for someone you can connect with. Now, you might get lucky, and a great person might just find you and think you're spectacular and turn it all around for you, but I doubt that. You've gotta shake some sense into yourself. You're young, you're (supposedly) getting healthy, you seem like you have good taste in radio. For somebody, you're a catch. Get out of the house. Force yourself to do it, no matter how much it terrifies you. Confidence is like a snowball rolling down a hill, it'll compound itself as time goes, even if it's all artificial at first. If you feel like you've got nothing, then there's nothing to lose. I can't stress enough how important patience is, though. Don't expect anything to happen right away, in fact, tell yourself nothing is going to happen. Something fantastic will come your way when you least expect it.

[commish13]

Thank you Mac.

To everyone else, I'm very glad you decided to read everything I posted. I explained myself beyond what it originally seemed like I was saying. I don't know where you got the idea that I'm only looking to impress other people with who I have on my arm. I'm hoping to be happy and to be the person who makes somebody else happy. Period.

I wasn't expecting people to take so much offense and get so angry at me.

[Foster]

I got that. It's just that, using sarcasm, he was saying the opposite, so your agreement looked funny.

i like to think i was holding up a mirror to commish13's subconscience

[commish13]

Oh, by the way, sorry for being an ass. I've been a bit cranky lately and it's made me act like much more of a jerk than I really am. Not a good excuse, but it's all I got.

I pretty much deserved the claws that ripped into my back in this thread.