Trust?

[keithy_19]

Why is it so damn difficult to get back, and how can you?

[RoseBlood]

What'd she do now?!?! :huh:

[keithy_19]

What'd she do now?!?! :huh:

I'm just having a hard time trusting people I love. It was always easy for me. Now I expect to be let down.

[jennysmurf]

I'm just having a hard time trusting people I love. It was always easy for me. Now I expect to be let down.

It's never been easy for me. I always think someone has an ulterior motive. I don't know why this is. I'm sorry you're having a tough time. It's not a good place to be.

[Death Metal Moe]

::whispers:: w,x,y,z::whispers::

Oh, sorry. Had a Prince flashback there.

Carry on.

[RoseBlood]

I really don't have any answers for you. The only thing I can say is that maybe you're at a point in your life (we all get there) when you're loosing your childhood innocence and normal life experiences have somewhat "jaded" you? You realize not everyone can be trusted and you are able to see underneath a persons surface, realize ulterior motives and basically you don't take every thing at face value as you once did. This is a good thing! Of course it has it's drawbacks. Hopefully as you experience life in the coming years you'll be able to make sense of your 'trust' issues or whatever.

I know the feeling you're describing. You're waiting for the rug to be pulled from underneath you? Makes it difficult to enjoy the good times.. but once you get over this you'll be able to enjoy things and not worry so much about when lifes going to take a turn for the worst.

I wish I could give you better and more concrete answers but I think this is just something you'll have to learn to work through for yourself.

[topless_mike]

keithy,
may i make a comment?


i've already read and partook (real word?) in your threads (most of them).

time to stop being a puss. stand up, and be a man.

perhaps you are having all these woman issues because the women you seek are looking for somebody stronger mentally and emotionally.

i dont mean to come across as an ass, nor am i personally attacking you, but seriously.

you are what, 20 now? take control brotha.

you are so f'n young. there are so many other chicks out there. if she isnt trust-worthy, then move on. seriously.

as you go along, you'll figure out who can and cant be trusted.

[Furtherman]

You have to stop expecting that the "people you love" feel the same way about you.

Unless it's Mom & Dad, they don't.

[biggestmexi]

http://www.gapingvoid.com/trustnoone321.jpg

[RoseBlood]

perhaps you are having all these woman issues because the women you seek are looking for somebody stronger mentally and emotionally...
you are so f'n young. there are so many other chicks out there. if she isnt trust-worthy, then move on. seriously.

You're assuming he's referring to a girl? Although he usually is. :unsure:

[El Mudo]

I'm just having a hard time trusting people I love. It was always easy for me. Now I expect to be let down.


We live in a very, very cynical world Keith...you have to expect that when you put your heart/self out there, sometimes its not going to end up the way you planned/thought it would. There are very, very few things in this world that are concrete (and even just saying there are a FEW things in that fashion requires an incredible amount of optimism)

Its just life bro....I don't really know what else I can say other than that you'll go through bad times and people you love/think you love will betray you and hurt you, but there's no way you will get through this life without at some point someone hurting your feelings...it happens to all of us

The best you can do is to learn as best you can from what experiences you have, and use them to better yourself and make wiser choices

[ahhdurr]

Trust no one - not even yourself. Trust only your blade.
- Conan's Dad (in a heart to heart around the forge)

[TripleSkeet]

With me trust is a weird thing.

I trust certain people with certain things. I have friends I know I can trust with money, I have friends I know I can trust around my girl, and I have a few that I can actually trust with both.

But the only people I can truely trust with everything is my wife and my parents. Anyone putting all their trust into more people then that are just asking for trouble.

[Farmer Dave]

Maybe I'm reading your post wrong, did you lose the trust of someone else? If so, only time and actions will rebuild that trust, and probably never completely. If someone loses my trust, they will never completely regain it. That doesn't mean I will completely close them out of my life, but I will be more guarded in my relationship to them.

[IamFogHat]

How old are you? It can never be regained.

[Sinestro]

What the hell??? Do you live in a bubble?

Some words to live by:

DTA- Don't Trust Anyone

WYB- Watch Your Back

LOFNU- Look out for numero uno

FTBTFU- Fuck them before they fuck you

STFUADYJ- Shut the fuck up and do your job

IJMTSU- I'm just making this stuff up

SBAP- Stop being a pussy.......and man the fuck up!



You're young man K-19, that's how the real world rolls. Stuff happens. And if this is all about a chick, move on, there's more out there.




But if you want to build up trust here's the formula:

Time + Testing = Trust

Testing as the other person will always test/challenge you in different situations and what not.

Good luck

[keithy_19]

I'm a trust worthy person. So I'm speaking about trusting someone else. It's partially my fault for trusting people as much as I do. That's a character flaw of mine.