Trust. What does it mean to you?

[JerseyRich]

I think that many people have different definitions of the word TRUST.

We all battle with it. Some have an easier time with it than others. Is it something has must be built over time or is it something that you just automatically give someone until they prove you wrong?

I'd be interested to hear your definition of TRUST.

[Sinestro]

Is it something has must be built over time or is it something that you just automatically give someone until they prove you wrong?



A combination of both.

[patsopinion]

ive just decided not to give it
then it cant be misplaced

[GregoryJoseph]

I'm the kind of person who gives trust until you prove me wrong. Even then, I'll usually forgive and give it again.

Unfortunately most people see that as a sign of weakness and attempt to take advantage of you.

It's a shame, but I don't let it deter me. I couldn't live thinking that everyone was out to get me.

[mikeyboy]

I think there are levels of trust. Lower levels of trust, I'll give until proven wrong. The higher levels of trust are built up over time.

[Sinestro]

I think there are levels of trust. Lower levels of trust, I'll give until proven wrong. The higher levels of trust are built up over time.

And also depends on the situation for me.

[Stankfoot]

http://i14.photobucket.com/albums/a350/stankfoot/trust.jpg

[Gvac]

Trust, in a relationship, means believing with all your heart and soul that the person you believe in would never hurt you or lie to you in any way. I don't think there are different levels; you either trust someone or you don't.

Of course there are different types of trust, such as in a business sense when you trust that the people representing you are doing all they can for you. You can trust someone in that sense, but not in the same way as the relationship kind of trust.

[~Katja~]

I'm the kind of person who gives trust until you prove me wrong. Even then, I'll usually forgive and give it again.

Unfortunately most people see that as a sign of weakness and attempt to take advantage of you.

It's a shame, but I don't let it deter me. I couldn't live thinking that everyone was out to get me.

That's how I feel about it.


For a short period after my last "downfall" I started wondering if I should change my approach about giving people my trust and possibly setting myself up for another huge let down.
I was browsing quotes about trust and came across this one
“We're never so vulnerable than when we trust someone - but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy”

It confirmed my feelings about giving trust, and possibly to quickly forgiving people and giving them the opportunity to either take a second chance or walk away not feeling guilty.

[PanterA]

You cant be in a loving relationship unless there is trust. There's no question about that. You may think you love that person, but its not love without trust. It could be compassion or infatuation that you feel but it's NOT love. Love is all inclusive, no if, ands, or buts about it.

To trust someone with your heart is the hardest thing you can do, especially if you've been burned in the past. You CANT have an instant trust in someone, it needs to be built. BUT when you finally find someone you can truly trust, unconditionally...it's amazing and you KNOW it.

What is trust? Who knows? It's just a feeling, and a damn good one.

But trust can only be true if the 2 entities share the same amount of love and respect for that one thing. For example, if you dont love and respect your job, your boss cant trust you to do the right thing 100% of the time. If you dont love and respect your partner, you cant be trusted 100% of the time. So trust cant be given, it can only be earned.

[ToiletCrusher]

I agree with most of what I read here.

Romantic relationships - trust makes the loving relationship

business relationships - trust builds confidence with colleagues

friendships - trust determines the type of friend someone is.

I think trust is on a sliding scale. In a romantic relationship, you may not fully trust the person when you first enter the relationship. That takes time. Loving and truly fulfilling relationships need it. That's why not many 'one night stands' turn out to become 25 ear long marriages.

In the business sense - you aren't immediately trusted to handle the toughest assignments right away. This may not always be true but most often is. Take for instance, surgeons. They need much training before they get to do the complicated procedures. Not just because they need the training but because it takes great responsibility and trust from those around you.

In friendships - trust plays a big part. Everyone has very close friends who they could tell anything to because they "trust" that person's judgement and intent. You have less trust in telling an acquaintance because you know them less. There are things I would never air on this message board for instance. An issue of trust.

[JerseyRich]

What about the phrase:

In God We Trust


Is Faith a kind of trust? Is it a blind trust?

I appreciate everyone's view on this topic so far. There are many people from this message board that I have met and become friends with, that I trust very much. Trust and communication are what keeps this crazy world going...Without them we have nothing.

[Aggie]

I pretty much agree with everyone. I have always been the type to trust until I was proven wrong. Well, I was proven wrong quite a bit in college and got taken advantage of. I lost my faith in people for awhile and became very cautious but that's not my nature and I wasn't as happy being suspicious of everyone. So now I will trust someone at different levels depending on the situation and the person but in general I give my trust easily.

I can't imagine being married without 100% trust. If you can' TRULY be yourself and be vulnerable with the one you love, who can you do that with? I know with all my heart my husband would never leave me or hurt me and he knows the same about me. It's wonderful to have that.

As for "In God we trust" and faith, yes it's blind trust. That's what faith is all about.

[grlNIN]

I know i truly trust someone when i never have to second guess anything about or involving them.

I don't trust people until they prove me wrong because they could be abusing that without my knowledge. Trust is built over time and commitment, whether it be in a romantic relationship, a sibling or a co-worker.

[vjr97]

trust is: a friend that u leave alone with ur drugs and ur woman,will do the drugs 1st giving u enough time to get home b4 he fucks ur woman:sleep:

[vjr97]

trust: when ur wife fucks only ur good looking freinds when she's pissed at u instead of the ugly ones

[Aggie]

trust: when ur wife fucks only ur good looking freinds when she's pissed at u instead of the ugly ones

trust: taking my advice telling you to put your shirt back on.

[RoseBlood]

trust: taking my advice telling you to put your shirt back on.

I second this!!!

Put your God damn clothes back on!!! :nono::thumbdown:

[JerseyRich]

I second this!!!

Put your God damn clothes back on!!! :nono::thumbdown:

Atleast we can trust him when he says he shaves his chest.

[britneypablo]

Trust, in a relationship, means believing with all your heart and soul that the person you believe in would never hurt you or lie to you in any way. I don't think there are different levels; you either trust someone or you don't.

Of course there are different types of trust, such as in a business sense when you trust that the people representing you are doing all they can for you. You can trust someone in that sense, but not in the same way as the relationship kind of trust.

In a relationship, i agree trust encompasses those things fully, because many people dont realize how sick they can get when they dont trust their partner, trust is the most important thing of course...but i disagree on there not being different levels....you can trust that someone wont hurt or lie, but think about who could call u in the middle of the night and say empty your bank account and make it to mexico in 3 days at this address ....who would you trust? real trust means you would go and not ask a question about it.....


in business, you can not trust anyone person....you can trust the laws of economy and exchange but you cant possibly think people working care about anything but their paycheck....they will take the shortest least detailed route 9 times out of 10 and you can TRUST that no one cares about YOU, they only thing they care about is a means to an end which is money... and if they have to stay honest to get there, sure that makes sense, but dont make your payment on time then see how much u trust them

What about the phrase:

In God We Trust


Is Faith a kind of trust? Is it a blind trust?


of course faith is in a sense a blind trust...but if you can trust nature, (bc you cant question the trees or bird migration...) then you can trust human nature...and if it is human nature to organize then so be it. If you dont have religion or some form of God then what do u have when all those relationships you wanted to find trust in become a total bust...your friends and family all told you so a million times over....but if you have faith and trust in God then you might make it through hell a little faster then if you dont have that blind trust

[keithy_19]

Trust is the most important part of a relationship. Even more so than love. You can't fully love someone unless you trust them.

I trust to easily sometimes.

[spoon]

The levels of trust thing is perfectly stated. I usually place people on a friendly level of trust unless they come into my life with some prior history to push them down or up. Yet once my trust for someone falls, it's REAL tough to regain it. Also, if you give your full trust too quickly, especially in relationships, you're asking for trouble and to be taken advantage of. I actually think certain people convey this easy trust acquisition and it attracts the wrong kind of interest. I've seen it time and time again with some good friends, both women and men. As with any good relationship, trust grows from a starting point we all designate based on our own personalities/character, from there it will flow based on what is earned.

[Coach]

There are many levels, as has been said before.
I used to give it freely..but over the years, this has let me down greatly.
Business...I trust very few people..You have to earn it.
Love..again..you have to earn it...I've been burned too many times..
The only people I trust now is my family..and that is failing.
I wouldn't trust anyone to shave my face with a Straight razor..a bic, maybe.
Think on that

[CofyCrakCocaine]

I've been in situations where my trust has been broken by friends and lovers, and situations where I was the one who broke their trust. So I may not be the best judge to weigh in here... fuck it.

I think trust is something that is real easy to have and give when you are really young and really old. Conversely, it is very difficult to have a friend earn my full-fledged trust at this stage in my life.

It also has to do with initial expectations... in a friendship, you have zero expectations when you meet a future buddy- just some person you're talking to and all that jazz. As such you aren't really wanting to be sold on trusting the guy right away. You need concrete proof (whatever that is depends on you), then you can relax more and more into trusting 'em.

With a relationship, there's always some airy lil' hope that goes with any encounter with an attractive woman who might actually think your ugly ass is attractive back. As such you're more willing to buy that person's stories and trust them faster. Healthy relationships IMO are grown from the ground up over time and experience but that's not how most of 'em turn out these days. If anything, this culture we're in wants to accelerate that trust big time, where you skip really getting to know someone to get to the hedonism of sex... which would be all good healthy fun if people didn't have feelings that got hurt by it all, but that's for another topic. Point is, relationships I can gain trust alot faster than friendships, since you're already in the market looking to buy. I know that's not how it is for everybody, it's just what I've observed of my friends and myself.

Age and experience makes me wary 'cuz I don't want to look like an asshole if some guy I decide to trust turns out to be a back-talking scumbag or worse. And of course, I simply don't want to be disappointed and hurt. So I keep my distance more these days than I used to. More so than I ought to maybe, who knows. I don't even remember what I started posting this for in the first place, but I guess that happens to people at 3:12A.M.

[PapaBear]

As I've aged, I've come to realize that what I trust most, is my ability to assess who or what I can trust on an individual basis. I offer "unearned trust", but I first take into account what I'm willing to lose, if that trust is broken. I've been betrayed many times, but with each betrayal, I've learned how to recover. For instance... I may tell someone who I just met, something that I wouldn't tell most other people. But I first make a decision if I can deal with it, if it backfires.

If you aren't willing to suffer the consequences from trusting people who may eventually betray that trust, there is no way to enjoy life. You just have to decide how capable you are of recovering and moving on.

Did any of that make sense?

[Coach]

As I've aged, I've come to realize that what I trust most, is my ability to assess who or what I can trust on an individual basis. I offer "unearned trust", but I first take into account what I'm willing to lose, if that trust is broken. I've been betrayed many times, but with each betrayal, I've learned how to recover. For instance... I may tell someone who I just met, something that I wouldn't tell most other people. But I first make a decision if I can deal with it, if it backfires.

If you aren't willing to suffer the consequences from trusting people who may eventually betray that trust, there is no way to enjoy life. You just have to decide how capable you are of recovering and moving on.

Did any of that make sense?

No, that made sense...:unsure: