Not Talkative

[sr71blackbird]

Why do some people feel the need to always have to be talkative? Sometimes you want to enjoy someones company and not really have a conversation, right? I hate it when the other person assumes something is wrong because you aren't talking. I was with my friend and she was talking a mile a minute all night and I was silent. After a long day at work, sometimes I need quiet time. She assumed I was upset about something. It ended up in an argument because of my desire for silence! Wtf?

[boosterp]

I understand not wanting to really interact for a while after work. My position in research was mentally taxing, more so at certain times. After one of the more mentally taxing days I wanted to just sit in my recliner like a vegetable and not think. I was in brain synapses meltdown, how could I interact? Usually the next morning I was back to normal.

[topless_mike]

question.
if you wanted peace and quiet, why were you out with your friend?

[sr71blackbird]

Sometimes you make plans and some days are not as bad as others. And when you have the plans and are together and suddenly feel like you want silence and the other person wants to talk up a storm, it becomes a conflict. Its like a lose-lose situation if you are the person needing some quiet time.

[boosterp]

Sometimes you make plans and some days are not as bad as others. And when you have the plans and are together and suddenly feel like you want silence and the other person wants to talk up a storm, it becomes a conflict. Its like a lose-lose situation if you are the person needing some quiet time.

I know, and I feel worse when I cancel than I do for not talking. I just try to explain it the best I can, one more thing my ex never understood.

[Furtherman]

People who talk to much usually have a lack of self confidence. They feel they have to contribute to every conversation, even if it's not true. Their need to fit in is so overwhelming that it just pours out of their mouth and everyone else's contribution to a conversation gets drowned out. They spend their moments waiting for their turn to talk rather than listening.

These people end up being hated. Even if they mean well, there is only so much you can take before labeling them an asshole.

[A.J.]

People who talk to much usually have a lack of self confidence. They feel they have to contribute to every conversation, even if it's not true. Their need to fit in is so overwhelming that it just pours out of their mouth and everyone else's contribution to a conversation gets drowned out. They spend their moments waiting for their turn to talk rather than listening.

These people end up being hated. Even if they mean well, there is only so much you can take before labeling them an asshole.

"They talk when they should listen."

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[meanmrbill]

Why do some people feel the need to always have to be talkative? Sometimes you want to enjoy someones company and not really have a conversation, right? I hate it when the other person assumes something is wrong because you aren't talking. I was with my friend and she was talking a mile a minute all night and I was silent. After a long day at work, sometimes I need quiet time. She assumed I was upset about something. It ended up in an argument because of my desire for silence! Wtf?

When I've had a long day and don't want to talk I find it best to tell the person, up front, that I'm not in a talkative mood and probably won't make good company. Averts conflict every time.

[sr71blackbird]

Well, my friend tends to think she can talk me out of it or that's healthier and more "adult" to talk than to sit in silence. I think it is one of the differences between men and women. Women are verbal and men are visual or something like that.

[sr71blackbird]

Another part of the problem is that I usually do not realise I am feeling like this until I am with her and she's yacking up a storm and by that point, if I were to try and excuse myself, it becomes a conflict. And when a conflict happens and I am feeling like that, I get nasty as hell.

[Furtherman]

And why is this girl your friend?

[CofyCrakCocaine]

And why is this girl your friend?

Oh nevermind. This is the that's life forum.

[boosterp]

Oh nevermind. This is the that's life forum.

Damn, I had a penis size joke ready.

[sr71blackbird]

She is a great friend otherwise. It's my problem, really. I am venting about the differences between the sexes and how frustrating it can be.

[drusilla]

the guy i work with seems to get annoyed after he asks me how my day is going so far (when i first get in to work) of i don't say much. what the hell does he want me to say? i woke up, ate breakfast, showered, got ready & drove to work. how great of a story am i supposed to have?

[boosterp]

the guy i work with seems to get annoyed after he asks me how my day is going so far (when i first get in to work) of i don't say much. what the hell does he want me to say? i woke up, ate breakfast, showered, got ready & drove to work. how great of a story am i supposed to have?

No shit, I hated when my nurse manager would ask that at 9 am when I had only been in the office for 2.5 hours.

[ecobag2]

showered,

yep.

[Furtherman]

i woke up, ate breakfast, showered, got ready & drove to work. how great of a story am i supposed to have?

And THAT is exactly what you say each time he asks. He'll get the hint and stop asking.